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In the Post Middle of Your Life…Musings

Faith, Art, writing and learning are Tim’s passions. Tim loves working in education. He has a BS in Psychology from Albright College.


It’s hard to flip the switch from a life of raising your children to the so called carefree life of having an empty nest.

One important thing to remember is when the house is empty you and your spouse must refocus your energy into living a life together without children. ie. It is time to start dating your spouse again.

It may take some work and time but don’t worry if you did it once, before children, you can do it now, post children

Still it is hard to pack away all the memories in a nice little box. To look into rooms once bustling with noise now quiet and collecting dust.

If it’s any consolation your kids may leave the nest but you have not gotten completely rid of them. Believe it or not they will call you…all the time.

It’s funny how your kids spend their teen age years waving off your help with lines like, “I can do it myself!” or “You‘re to old to understand what’s going on.” but when they move out they call seeking your olderly wisdom.

Children aside as you grow older you quickly discover the older you get the more your life does not settle down. There are still plenty of twists and turns left in life to come.

Some of the twists and turns you’re prepared for but others hit you out of the blue. Like all the tests and doctors visits you need to get done once you hit 50. How about them Colonoscopies.

Another truth about living In the post midlife is you always hope for the many planned things in life to come but soon discover life happens as it happens. What you want may not be what you get

Instead you have to learn to make adjustments as you go along. In fact there are times you may have to adjust your adjustments.

You also must learn as you get older your body will tell you what you can and cannot do. The short version is your mind will tell you, “You can do it.” but your body will tell you, “I don’t think so.”

Another thing you learn is retirement is always an option. However when you retire it’s doesn't mean you can stop being active. You must find a hobby to occupy your time to keep your mind and body in reasonably good shape.

You also find as you get older the more proficient you become at the art of procrastination. Why? There is a certain nagging feeling which tells you if you finish everything you want to do then the end might be truly around the corner.

© 2022 Timothy Whitt

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