Minimalism... And Why I'm Failing at it
After moving 3 times after 2 years, I've accumulated a lot of things. Clothes, shoes, furniture, dishes and miscellaneous items. I've also accumulated some debt in the process, but I'll leave that for a later time.
As humans, we keep wanting more and more items to fill certain voids. It may be the gaining of power in a high position or the diminishing of a relationship. I'm guilty of both. When I'm happy, I buy. When I'm sad, I buy. And when I'm angry, sad, or anxious; I buy, buy, buy.
Just a few days ago I had a bit of an episode. I was absolutely livid and jealous over an insignificant situation. I talked it out. I acknowledged it. And I even worked it out. And still, the feeling was there. Then I opened Amazon and everything changed. I saw the Micro-Pop Popcorn Popper and some popcorn kernels, some quest bars, and even a hair steamer. Once I pressed that buy button and knew my order was on its way, my feeling completely changed.
Yesterday, I did something very similar soon after. I went to an Ultra without any idea or clue of what I was looking for. I was looking to spend the little money I had, for no particular reason. I bought some samples to try, although I didn't need them. But the satisfaction of leaving the store with a bag of goodies made me happy. Filling a void of loneliness.
I made a goal for myself when I moved to England for six months that I would focus more on a minimal amount of items. But that was short lived.
Why am I telling you about my failure of living minimal? Because in order to succeed, I need to accept my failures and mistakes. And in the process, I need to figure out what I actually need and don't need in my daily life.
What I've learned so far for in my process is that I have a lot of stuff. Clothes and shoes in particular. But among all those items, I can distinguish my necessities. I know what I like to wear for work and for leisure. I know what cosmetics I wear on a daily basis. And the hair products that compliment my hair. Therefore, I’ve been using up all the consumer products to prevent myself from buying things I don’t need.
Since moving to Florida, I’ve donated and given away a few things. Like creams, gels and clothing. I’ve also taken up selling clothes and shoes on apps like Ebay and Mercari to earn a quick buck on the items I’ve never worn. Recently, I sold a brand new pair of G by Guess boots for $22.
The moral of the story is that we should only live by the necessities. Because all these extra things cloud our judgement. They add extra weight. Mobility is hindered, in the sense of moving on and moving from place to place. In life, we only need the necessary items to survive. So it's always a great idea to evaluate and think about those items that are weighing us down. And why they weigh us down.
When I go to the store, I ask myself do I really need this? Is this going to help me progress? And then I ask, do I have the money to buy this? (Other than credit?)
As a society, we need to stop with the excessiveness and learn to live and appreciate what we have. Living with the necessities doesn't make us any more or any less valuable in our lives. What I love about living with necessities is appreciating everything else outside of the material. Like happiness, love, and the experience of it all. That's intangible. It's it's more precious than the number of shoes in our closet. Although, a girl does need options ;)
Quality, Not Quantity