If You Died Today, Would You Be Prepared?

Updated on October 14, 2019
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Death is something no one wants to face, yet it is something we all should prepare for ending our journey. Death never takes a wise man by surprise, he's always ready. For this reason, I ask you, “If your last day was today, are you prepared?” What if you learned today was your last day? Why not prepare for a good end of life and treat your last day like it's a gift you treasure?

Our time here on Earth is limited and we must not waste our life because one day all of us will die. While we cannot control the course of time, we can get the most out of it. There's power in acceptance. We have to accept that we won't live forever. Although we won't live forever, we have to learn how to live and appreciate each day.

If you had only a day to live, what would you do? Would you spend time wondering and pondering, “Did you live a full and satisfying life?" Or would you have a lot of regret at your final moment? Maybe you don't understand what you've lived through, or feel you didn't have enough time. Perhaps you'll have much gratitude for a life well-lived.

Some of us act as if we'll never die. And give very little thought to the question, if my last day was today, am I prepared?” You don't consider what will happen if you died unprepared.

If you were told today is your last day how would you spend it is an intriguing question. Some might answer by saying they would want family and friends around them. Others may respond by saying they desire to be left alone.

When a man knows he's going to die, he feels the need to prepare to ensure his last end time is planned right. He might even feel the need to right the wrong he has done. And some people might want to get some things off their chest or just do things differently. Various people might even want to spend their last precious moment attempting to freeze time so they will have more time left to enjoy their loved ones.

The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.

Mark Twain

Only, there is no way a man can stop time, but he can take full advantage of the time he has left with his loved ones. But there is no denying that life is full of surprises, so why not treasure and enjoy every precious moment. Death is never the thing desired by anyone, but life would be so much easier after a man dies, if he would have a plan for the end of life, to make his wishes known.

Is there anything you want to be known? Possibly you want to talk about how you feel or make your last request known. Maybe you will find room in your heart to forgive the person who wrongs you for many years. Forgive and begin living because you'll never know for certain the time your life will tick down to the end.

A man should never fear death, but he should take the time to process the concept, and accept the inevitability of it. Moreover, no matter how prepared you think you are for death, you can never be fully prepared to die. Plus none of us will know-how, or when, we’re going to leave this earth or how our life will end.

There is a quote by Mark Twain that says, "The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time." He doesn't have to live in fear of dying, he can make peace with knowing that someday he will die. He made peace by simultaneously taking control of his lives. Moreover, he prepared for the day he will die.

The number one question is why not enjoy the time you have left here on Earth? And why fear death when you can never avoid it? Your assumption that death will be difficult is incorrect, death is something very simple, humans have just complexified it.

No matter how prepared you think you are for the death of a loved one, it still comes as a shock, and it still hurts very deeply. Billy Graham

There is no easy way to prepare for the passing of a loved one, especially one that you lean on for support. I lost two peoples that I lean on for support, three years apart; my mother and husband much unexpected and I was so unprepared. The initial shock made me feel as if I lost a part of myself. I can remember standing at the head of the grave watching the coffin lowered in the ground, and feeling as if a part of me was buried as well.

My mother was the one person who could see my faults, even when I tried to hide them and she would call me out on them in the most effective way. She made me feel as if there is always room for improvement, even when I felt I was at my best.

After losing my mother, I reflect on how blessed I was to be born to a wise, rare woman with so many great qualities. Different unique characteristics that she would share with me and they had a way of making everything in my life so much better. Furthermore, I will miss her being around to ensure I never make excuses for my shortcomings or settle in life.

She taught me what it means to grow up to be a woman with integrity. Not every girl gets so blessed to have a mother to raise them to understand a person’s word is their bond and have morals and values in life. Coping with losing my mother contributed to me losing so much in life. It was hard to recover but after almost a year of anxiety and stress of trying to figure out how to continue without her. I finally was able to focus on learning to live fully again.

My husband was that one person who was available and there to assist me to recover after my mother’s death. He was a realist and the one who knew how to smile even in the worst of times. When things went wrong as they sometimes did, he would flash that big beautiful smile and go search for a solution to find the best one.

He was a man with a big smile that had an even larger heart. There is no doubt that he was one of the most loving and forgiving people anyone can meet. He spread love where ever he went. To a certain extent, he felt the need to love and help whoever he came in contact with. In many cases, he was the type of man that felt helping others is the secret to living a life that is not only happier but brighter. And he would never let anyone come to him without leaving feeling so much better and a happier person.

To lose him was one of my biggest challenges, I ever had to overcome. Only knowing he wanted me to maintain without him and raising the beautiful baby girl we shared assist me to pull it all together. Furthermore, it gave me the strength to continue living.

No one knows when they will leave this world, there are unexpected deaths every day of the week. Death is a surprise, no one expects to leave home and the end. Thus, you need to prepare before you die. After death, the body returns to dust and the earth. The spirit will return to God.

“Live every day as if it were going to be your last; for one day you’re sure to be right.”

– Harry Morant

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When a person is diagnosed with a terminal illness and realizes that the end of life may be approaching; it's hard to keep hope alive. If you were diagnosed with a terminal illness, what would you do? Would it be in your nature to hold on for better times? Perhaps you will make an apology to the people you wrong. Will you experience anger, resentment, and sadness, knowing you are facing death?

Three things that changed and prepared me after losing loved ones

1. After losing a mother and a husband within three years apart, I learned it helps me to discover how to stand on my own two feet. Sometimes a person can get too comfortable leaning and depending on people that they think will always be available for them. It's good to have people to lean on, but it's even more convenient to be able to experience life during the worst of times.

2. Even when a loved one dies with no warning, it's still possible to have a chance to say goodbye. The day my husband was pronounced dead, I sob and spend additional time in his room with his body. As I sob heavily, I stood there, lost not knowing what to do. I had to wait at least fifteen minutes before I could share my final words.

The feeling I experience in being able to hear his voice speaking to me in the most dignified way is something hard to explain, but it happens. I did not wonder was my mind playing tricks on me, nor did I question whether or not I heard his voice speaking to me. I shared my final words and said goodbye to him and he replied to me.

3. Life is full of uncertainties. It is an unavoidable part of life. It took losing two loved ones for me to face the inevitable truth: the only certain thing in life is how uncertain it is. The world is full of uncertainty. The uncertainties of life will hit you hard when you least expect it. You'll never know what will happen the next minute, hour or day. Therefore, it is best to take life as it comes. Moreover, you should look for the goodness in every situation to better life's misfortunes.

One day, you’re going to die. Here's how to prepare for it.

Dying is not something no one wants to do, but we have to face the reality that we're all going to die someday. And while it's not something a lot of people want to focus on, it makes things a lot easier for our family if we start to prepare now. Here is how you need to prepare.

  • First, you want to accept the reality that you're going to die one day. Then you want to decide what happens after your death. Just in case the question; "What if I die tomorrow?" comes across your mind, it’s best to plan. Begin by writing your last will and testament. It's a big release on the family to have your final destination planned out. There is no way to ease the pain, but you can make it as simple as possible.

  • After writing and place your last will in a safe place, tell a trustworthy person the location. When a loved one dies the family fight and makes decisions that are not in agreement with the person who died. The last will can bring peace and the final wish of the deceased.

  • Plan the Funeral and Memorial Service. Some people have last wishes after they died, if you want something specific to happen at your funeral and memorial service, it's best to put it in writing so your family can honor your wishes.

  • Set up a master file. Just in case you wonder what is a master file. It is a record of everything you own and a file that includes everything about your life. What you are doing is setting everything in order and preparing to make life easier for your loved one when you are gone. It is best to keep this file in a safe place like a safe deposit box.

  • Lastly and most importantly, you need to prepare your heart to seek God. Preparing the heart to seek God is a lot like preparing the soil for planting. Before you plant in an all-natural way, you remove a lot of grass from the area. You get rid of the bush. Also, you wet the soil and plant the seed. Seeking God is similar. You get rid of all the sinful things in your life by removing yourself from all the worldly cares. Getting rid of toxic peoples, confess all sins, and read the word on a daily. Plus, you keep God's laws. To start your Bible study off in the right direction begins reading, Mark 4:19 KJV, Ezra 7: 10 KJV and Hosea 10: 12 KJV.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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        Pam Morris 

        4 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

        Hello Carolyn, thank you so much for your reply. I am sorry to read about the loss of your husband. I can understand how you viewing life differently after losing him. As I viewed life differently after losing my husband. Moreover, I am so happy to read you live each day with gratitude. Most importantly, it brought me great joy to read you are prepared in every way.

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        Carolyn Fields 

        4 months ago from South Dakota, USA

        You ask some very important questions.

        I, too, lost my husband. He died suddenly of a heart attack when he was only 49 years old. Since then, I must admit that I view life differently.

        I am prepared with a will, master files, etc.

        I have made my heart ready for God.

        Now I live each day with gratitude.

        Thanks for writing such a thought-provoking article.

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        Patricia Scott 

        4 months ago from North Central Florida

        You shared some points that we all should consider. Recentl y. Two of my sisters died...and it was and still is difficult. Too much to elaborate on here but it caused me to think about death but also more importantly to think about life and all of its wonder. Tha k you for sharing. Angels are on the way to you this afternoon

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