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A Day in the Life of an Introverted Child

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Lisha was an introvert, is an introvert and will always be an introvert.

Reading is a common hobby for introverts.

Reading is a common hobby for introverts.

I lived in a two-storied house with my parents, brother and grandparents. My grandparents lived on the ground floor, which also had a garden full of several plants and flowers. The area surrounding our house had grown to be commercial, so we didn't have many neighbors. This meant that having the commonly depicted childhood playtime with the various neighbor children was not possible. But, fortunately for me, this was actually quite good news.

A Quiet Time at Home

When I got home after school at around three in the afternoon, I had more or less a fixed routine. Since both my parents worked, they weren't around when I got back. A meal was usually kept out for me—kind of like a second lunch. I would excitedly turn on the TV and watch my favorite cartoons for an hour while eating my food.

However much I loved watching cartoons, I loved reading books even more. I read a couple of books a week, and often re-read several of my favorites. Sitting with a book after school was by far the best-loved part of my day.

I usually took my book downstairs to read. After quickly greeting my grandparents, I would settle down on the sofa and get engrossed in it. Thankfully, my grandparents never minded my lack of interaction with them. They could see that I was tired after a long day and wanted to relax with my book. However, I was happy to know that they were around. My grandfather usually watched the news at this time and my grandmother always found various things to do around the house. Occasionally, when my brother was around, my grandmother would teach us a few games and play with us to keep us entertained—not that I needed to be entertained, but, in this case, I actually did enjoy it.

Introverted Children Have Imaginative Minds

Another thing I liked to do was to ride my bicycle. But since we lived on a busy street, I had to manage with the space inside our property. I soon learned to be happy with cycling along the narrow path which ran in between the house and the property wall. There wasn't even a complete path around the house, but it was still something that I found enjoyable. I guess some of you might be thinking, "Well, that sounds boring. How many times can one cycle alone along the same short path and around the same old house?" This might be a valid perception—yet, somehow, to me, it was far from boring.

I guess this is where my imagination came into play. I used to think of each round as a new adventure or an obstacle course. It all kept me quite entertained—cycling in-between the lines of plants, avoiding the rocks that jutted out at the corner, turning the cycle around in the small space at the end without stopping. I often thought of several new ways to keep things enjoyable.

I also loved to roam about in the garden, inspecting various flowers, plants, butterflies, and even insects. Since I was alone and I liked being alone, I learned to find happiness in very small things. This also made me more observant and inquisitive.

"Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere."

— Albert Einstein

A Few Close Friends Were Enough

As much as I loved my alone time, it's not like I was always alone. It was just that I had already had my fair share of interactions at school, and that was quite enough for the day.

I had my best friend at school, but, unfortunately, she was not always around. This was one of the worst parts of my early school life—my best friend was never in my class. Our school had the silly (according to me) practice of shuffling the students in every class each year. I guess it was supposed to help us be more social and to make new friends. This was, however, every introvert's worst nightmare.

Building Relationships Takes Time and Effort

It takes effort for an introvert to find someone who shares their interests and to become comfortable with them. This, in itself, is quite a big task. To later learn that your new friend would be in a different class the next year and you'd have to repeat the process with someone else—that is just quite distressing.

For some reason, I had very bad luck with this. Whoever I tried to become friends with each year would eventually end up in another class the next year, and then I would hardly see them. The only friendship that really stuck was the one with my best friend. We continued to be very close even though we met each other only during our snack and lunch breaks. In order to get through my time in class, I sometimes tried to find a classmate whose company I liked; I did occasionally succeed in this. The time I felt lonely was when my couple of friends took the day off. This was because I would hardly ever strike up conversations with anyone else.

After successfully completing the task of becoming comfortable with my best friend, I was always very happy in her company. There were even times when we went home from school and had conversations for hours over the phone. I can't remember what these important discussions were about, but it seemed like we often didn't get enough time to talk during the school breaks!

Happiness is being in the company of a best friend.

Happiness is being in the company of a best friend.

A Perfect Way to End the Day

Every evening at six, I would rush back upstairs to meet my parents, who would have then got back from work. There were no long conversations as I had never got into the habit of narrating my daily events, but I was happy to see them. Later, I would do my homework quietly in the kitchen while my mother made dinner.
Before going to bed each night, I always went back to reading my book for a while. Looking back, I can't imagine what I would have done without my books. Apart from my prized little collection, I was always so grateful for the weekly trip to the library. Luckily for me, my father also loved to read, and so these precious little trips were never missed.

Other Hobbies That Introverted Children Enjoy

Most introverted children have hobbies or enjoy activities that can be done alone, or at most, with one or two others. Other than reading, these include things like:

  • drawing or painting,
  • arts and crafts,
  • writing,
  • listening to music,
  • playing a musical instrument,
  • playing video games,
  • biking,
  • skating or skateboarding,
  • doing puzzles,
  • singing, and
  • dancing.

Everyone Has Their Own Version of Fun

Did this typical day sound too boring? Sometimes, when I look at it from an extrovert's point of view, it does seem a bit dull—to go through this routine every day with hardly any company. But then again, it always comes down to the individual. Everyone has different preferences, and their idea of fun can vary widely.

That being said, coming from someone who was an introverted child—I know that this was quite the perfect, fun-filled day.

© 2020 Lisha C

Comments

Lisha C (author) on July 08, 2020:

I'm sorry to hear that, Bill. It must be hard. But it looks like you have two wonderful four-legged friends to keep you company!

I'm happy that you could relate to this article. Thank you for your comment.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 08, 2020:

You may as well say you are writing about me. You pretty much described my life here.

A few good friends is enough...until they die, which recently happened to me . . . not it's a bit lonely, and at seventy-one it seems like a lot of work to form another great friendship. Sigh!

Anyway, I get it. I've lived it. I will live it. :)

Lisha C (author) on July 03, 2020:

Thank you for the comment, Uriel. I am happy that you enjoyed the read and found it relatable to your childhood.

Uriel Eliane from Toronto on July 03, 2020:

Well written Lisha! Such an insightful description in which I identified a lot of my childhood experience.

Lisha C (author) on July 02, 2020:

Thanks for sharing a bit of your experience, Anupam.

I somehow don't feel that all introverts never share anything with anyone. In my experience, they can usually have one or two people with whom they are close and can share things—however, it will take time to build the relationship. As a child, I had this with my one best friend. And even though she was the talker and I the listener, our friendship was very strong. As you have rightly said, we can share with the people who can respect it—she was one such person and I was just lucky to have found her. My conversations with everyone else always comprised of only one or two sentences at the most!

Till today, I too feel lonely and awkward in crowds and don't interact with others much. By just thinking of how uncomfortable I get, I know that I am definitely an introvert! I am much better at communicating in writing.

Thank you for reading and commenting in so much detail, I appreciate it very much.

Anupam Mitu from MUMBAI on July 02, 2020:

Well expressed! Lisha, you shared your whole story here, it's not the character of introvert. Even I have lived such secluded childhood. Though I was in a girls hostel, I didn't have any such friend with whom I could have interacted whole heartedly. Even now, I feel lonely even in huge crowds as my taste is very different from the majority of the people.

Introvert people are the ones who never share anything with anyone and they keep on dwelling in the same comfortable area forever which includes just the self.

So my dear, artist like you cannot be an introvert. We do share the things that's in our heart but not with everyone, only with the ones who can respect it.

Lots of love

Lisha C (author) on July 01, 2020:

Eight siblings—it must have been hard to get some quiet time! Yes, we always need some time alone each day to enjoy our own company. Thanks for commenting, Liza.

Liza from USA on July 01, 2020:

I grew up with eight other siblings, however, we shared a few similar experiences. When I was a kid, I had a few best friends from school and the neighborhood. As much as I enjoy having my friends around, I like to spend some time by myself, especially when I have to read. Thanks for sharing this enjoyable article, Lisha.

Lisha C (author) on June 29, 2020:

I'm glad that it is relatable, Liz. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Liz Westwood from UK on June 28, 2020:

A lot of what you write resonates with memories that I have of childhood.

Lisha C (author) on June 26, 2020:

Thank you for reading, and for the comment, Linda. I think many of us would have had a similar childhood, and also thoroughly enjoyed it. I hope this article brought back some good memories.

Lisha C (author) on June 26, 2020:

I'm glad that you enjoyed the read, Eric. Yes, I'm sure your son must be quite happy at home now. It's good that he is also in some extra school activities—a great way to find like-minded friends and expand his interests. Thank you for commenting and sharing.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on June 26, 2020:

Your article is interesting and enjoyable, Lisha. I can relate to much of what you say. Though I did have a good friend, I spent much of my childhood reading, writing, and listening to music. I loved my trips to the library, too.

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on June 26, 2020:

I smiled through it. My son (10) is an introvert. During this stay home stuff he is loving it. His mom and I are his sounding boards so he has two very different "friends".

We have him in extra school activities so he does not get way out there, like his dad. We strongly urge him to take an hour or so a day to play alone.

Lisha C (author) on June 26, 2020:

Yes, Mary, I guess many of us would have had a childhood somewhere along these lines. I appreciate your comment very much, thanks for reading.

Lisha C (author) on June 26, 2020:

Reading as a child always gave a wonderful sense of satisfaction and excitement. I'm glad you liked the article, Pamela. Thank you for the read and the comment.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on June 26, 2020:

I can easily relate to your description of your day as it was not very different from my days when I was growing up. I like my own company, and I do many things, so I am not bored at all. I love reading your style of writing.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on June 26, 2020:

This is an interesting article. I am not really an introvert but I loved to read when I was a child, so I would spend time reading rather than socialize quite often. My younger sister was an introvert and all these years later, she still is one. This was a very enjoyable article.

Lisha C (author) on June 26, 2020:

I am delighted that you enjoyed this article and could relate to it, Lorna. Yes, when spending time alone, we sometimes find several ways to expand our imagination. I was recollecting my days as a child and thought I would share a bit. I really appreciate your lovely comments.

Lorna Lamon on June 26, 2020:

This was such an enjoyable read Lisha and I can relate as my sister is an introvert and had two very close friend whose company she still enjoys today. I also believe that introvert children tend to use their imagination in order to entertain themselves. A fertile imagination makes for a great writer. Thank you for sharing this article and giving us a glimpse into your childhood.

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