Finding Intimacy With The Holy Spirit

Updated on October 19, 2019
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Cheryl is a freelance writer, newspaper columnist, poet, licensed/ordained minister and founder of two outreach ministries.

Spiritual Intercourse is a hard saying

I was sitting in a church sevice around 1999 or 2000 when the pastor said something quite profound. He stated that to truly have intimacy with the Lord we needed to have spiritual intercourse. I am sure that shocked a lot of congregants, but for me, it was as if a light bulb went off in my being. I got it right away and understood that he was talking about being as close and intimate with the Savior as a man and woman are during intercourse. Genesis 2:24 tells us: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and the two shall become one flesh."

When a man and woman's bodies join together in the act of making love, they are essentially one. The pastor was saying that we should love the Lord and seek Him to the point where we are joined with Him in an intimate way. I thought of this recently when I read an article in Reformation Charlotte, criticizing singer Kari Jobe for sexualizing the love of God. I understood the author's point of view because Jobe's lyrics often sound like she is talking to a lover. This may sound distasteful and even blasphemous to some, but because of the experiences, I have had in the church and the way I feel His presence on Kari Jobe's worship I understand where she is coming from. Spiritual intercourse is a hard saying for many, but for lack of another term, I believe it is appropriate.

Melting in His peace is real

In her song The more I seek you, Jobe sings,

The more I seek you,
The more I find you
The more I find you, the more I love you

I wanna sit at your feet
Drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breathe, feel your heart beat
This love is so deep, it’s more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it’s overwhelming

I attended a church where His presence was so strong during worship songs that parishioners fell on their knees, laid prostrate on the floor, lifted their hands in worship and or cried. This is not anything I can put into words, but it can only be experienced. Because sex is the emotion that humans experience with the greatest level of pleasure, it is the only word I can think of to describe the feeling as if you will melt in His peace. Kari Jobe is obviously a true worshipper and has experienced His presence and love in a mighty way.

People who say they have had near-death experiences often talk about the overwhelming feeling of love the felt before they returned to their bodies. When certain worship songs are being sung and the people's hearts are open to their Creator, His love permeates the heart in a way that is indescribable. I have witnessed grown men fall to the floor on their knees crying like babies when there is a heavy anointing during a church service. I personally have felt peaceful, loved, joy and ecstasy that there simply is no way to put into words. It is as if time stands still, and you are floating although you are still in your seat. His presence saturates your entire being from head to toe and it is exhilarating.

Kari Jobe is singing from a personal experience, the same way John wrote about encounters with the Holy Spirit. She is not being sacrilegious or blasphemous but sharing her encounters. Yes it does sound like she is talking about a lover, but she is not disrespecting Agape love, she has simply sought and found Him on a deeper level than most.

True worship is the key

2 Chronicles 5:13-14 King James Version (KJV)

13 It came even to pass, as the trumpeters and singers were as one, to make one sound to be heard in praising and thanking the Lord; and when they lifted up their voice with the trumpets and cymbals and instruments of musick, and praised the Lord, saying, For he is good; for his mercy endureth for ever: that then the house was filled with a cloud, even the house of the Lord. 14. So that the priests could not stand to minister by reason of the cloud: for the glory of the Lord had filled the house of God.

I have been in church services where there is a haze when His presence is strong. In one church in particular, whenever songs abut the blood of Jesus were sung during communion, His presence was strong. I have heard preachers refer to this as the glory cloud. (Revelation 15:8 And the temple was filled with smoke from the glory of God, and from his power; and no man was able to enter into the temple, till the seven plagues of the seven angels were fulfilled.)

I noticed that His glory was stronger when there were fewer people in the building. When for lack of a better word the spectators, and those simply sitting in the building made their exit, the true worshippers remained and were rewarded. (John 4:23-24). Sometimes after a song was finished, people would simply sit in their seats, soaking up His presence. At other times we would leave the service in silence because we were too overwhelmed to speak.

Oh how I love Jesus because He first loved me, is a beautiful hymn, but there is another level and Kari Jobe has found it.

I wanna sit at your feet
Drink from the cup in your hand.
Lay back against you and breathe, feel your heart beat
This love is so deep, it’s more than I can stand.
I melt in your peace, it’s overwhelming.

If you find that traditional services don't move you and you long to be able to melt in His peace and be overwhelmed, you have entered the realm of true worship, spiritual intercourse and intimacy on a deeper level with your Creator. If you have doubts, just ask the Holy Spirit to show you His truth.

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    © 2019 Cheryl E Preston


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      • Cheryl E Preston profile imageAUTHOR

        Cheryl E Preston 

        6 weeks ago from Roanoke

        Thank you for reading.

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        Dora Weithers 

        7 weeks ago from The Caribbean

        This article about intimacy with God, with His Spirit, is unique but it makes sense for believers who desire such intimacy. Thanks for sharing your insight on the topic.

      • Cheryl E Preston profile imageAUTHOR

        Cheryl E Preston 

        7 weeks ago from Roanoke

        Thank you for all your support and encouragement.

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        Margaret Minnicks 

        7 weeks ago from Richmond, VA

        Good article, Cheryl, with many profound details. Keep up the good work!


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