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Fights as a Teenager

Mark is from Utah. He is married with 3 children. He survived the tumultuous teenage years.


Growing up, I wouldn’t say that I was a violent kid. I avoided trouble. I kept to myself mostly. But my mom would say that I had a chip on my shoulder. Occasionally, I would even get in fights.

Fights are often prevalent among adolescents, especially boys, at least when I was young. I believe at times, because I wouldn’t fight, I would get picked on a little. I even got an award called the “Valiant Knight” award in sixth grade for being a good student and not causing problems (but I got in my first real fight shortly after).

When I did get in fights, it was usually for stupid reasons. And when I really should have fought and stand up for myself, I didn’t. I even got in fights with a few kids my age at church, who lived in my neighborhood. One of those kids was my best friend. We made up, but things were never the same.

Fights had affected me a lot. I learned to avoid them. But what I realized, even from winning fights, was that I didn’t like them. I didn’t feel good about engaging in fighting. Looking back, I would have stood up for myself more, yet still avoid fighting and violence. Fights were some of my biggest trials growing up. I also realize that I will want my future children to stand up for and defend themselves yet not fight unless they need to defend themselves.

I think fights are pretty stupid. A lot of times they happen for stupid reasons. People should learn how to control their anger better. I agree with what Jesus said in the Bible in Matthew 26:52: “…for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.” In other words, if we are violent or in a gang for example, eventually we may get killed or seriously hurt.

© 2019 Mark Richardson


Mark Richardson (author) from Utah on October 11, 2019:

Yes, it was one of my greatest challenges growing up. I think schools do a lot more to fight bullying.

Rodric Anthony Johnson from Surprise, Arizona on October 10, 2019:

I ended up in so many fights that I cannot imagine what life is like for my kids who have never fought. Of my seven, only one has gotten into an altercation that he calls a fight. I am in awe of how they do it. I didn't stop fighting until I started going to Church. One of the promises I received before accepting Christ was that I would not have to fight anymore. When I was baptized, I remember saying to the congregation that I now don't have to worry about fighting anymore. I was 15. I have not had to fight since that day March 29, 1992.

Mark Richardson (author) from Utah on October 05, 2019:

FT=Delta MV, yo! (Or ask Simon)

Fred on October 03, 2019:


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