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Fights as a Teenager

Mark is from Utah. He is married with 3 children. He survived the tumultuous teenage years.


Growing up, I wouldn’t say that I was a violent kid. I avoided trouble. I kept to myself mostly. But my mom would say that I had a chip on my shoulder. Occasionally, I would even get in fights.

Fights are often prevalent among adolescents, especially boys, at least when I was young. I believe at times, because I wouldn’t fight, I would get picked on a little. I even got an award called the “Valiant Knight” award in sixth grade for being a good student and not causing problems (but I got in my first real fight shortly after).

When I did get in fights, it was usually for stupid reasons. And when I really should have fought and stand up for myself, I didn’t. I even got in fights with a few kids my age at church, who lived in my neighborhood. One of those kids was my best friend. We made up, but things were never the same.

Fights had affected me a lot. I learned to avoid them. But what I realized, even from winning fights, was that I didn’t like them. I didn’t feel good about engaging in fighting. Looking back, I would have stood up for myself more, yet still avoid fighting and violence. Fights were some of my biggest trials growing up. I also realize that I will want my future children to stand up for and defend themselves yet not fight unless they need to defend themselves.

I think fights are pretty stupid. A lot of times they happen for stupid reasons. People should learn how to control their anger better. I agree with what Jesus said in the Bible in Matthew 26:52: “…for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.” In other words, if we are violent or in a gang for example, eventually we may get killed or seriously hurt.

© 2019 Mark Richardson