Mom of 2, Rosa has worked with non-profits to provide educational and health programs for local children, and improve the local workforce.
Father's Day is coming up and I want to share something important I learned from my dad: Don't Skimp on the Meat.
"Don't skimp on the meat."
I remember the conversation between my parents when my dad said those words. I thought it was a silly argument at the time. My dad was a miner. He worked long, hard hours in a dangerous situation to keep a roof over our head, food on our table, and the bills paid. One of the few things he asked for in return was that my mother not skimp on the meat in his sandwiches. I remember him saying:
“I don’t want to be filled up with bread. I want a lunch I can enjoy and will keep me going until the end of my shift.”
That's how my dad lives his life. He busts his butt to get a job done. Any job. Every job. He doesn't slack. He doesn't skimp on what he gives others. In return he wants lunch meat piled high on his sandwich. He wants dinner to include a decent-size hunk of meat.
As an adult, I look back and see that he takes that philosophy into other aspects of his life as well. He doesn't skimp on meat of his life, so to speak. He enjoys his recreational time. He makes sure there's something to enjoy on his vacation, during his family time, and in his home. He doesn't skimp, but he's smart about it. He doesn't go overboard or put himself in debt to enjoy life. He simply refuses to skimp. Those are things I equate to being wealthy – in all aspects of life.
I picked up that habit to a certain degree. I like my sandwiches with a lot of meat and when I make sandwiches for other people I don't skimp on the meat. But unlike my dad, I have not made that philosophy a concrete part of the other aspects of my life. Particularly now that I have children. I skimp on my “Me Time”. I skimp on time with the kids.
I'm a single parent trying to earn an income as a writer so I can stay home to raise them. That's a big responsibility I take seriously and I bust my butt every day working towards that goal. It's easy to skimp on the "meat" in this situation. And that's not fair to myself or my children.
... First, I'm going to make a sandwich. A big one with lots of meat. Then, I'm going to plop down on the sofa and spend time with my kids. I'll tackle the rest one thing a time ♥
Originally Published Jun 12, 2017
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