Do We "Fall in Love" or Just Lose Our Balance?

Updated on January 2, 2020
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Donna is a writer & poet of things that matter, and things that don't! As the years progress we learn to paint a picture and learn even more


Just a Thought to Ponder

Love is kind and giving, it's accepting one's self, first, before having the ability or the capability to love another human being. It's not hard to do. But, sometimes it may seem kind of difficult, depending on the nature of it all! There's a big difference between the two kinds of love that we experience and some of us have felt these emotions a time or two in our lives.

We Fall and Crash Sometimes

We all have lived and loved and we have been "in love" and have "fallen" out of it. We can convince ourselves that we are in this thing called "in love" But what comes after it all when it's gone? Where did it go and how do we get it back? Is it lost forever and when you do give your heart and soul to that special someone, what happens if all of it is gets lost along the way?

Is there anything left to give even of ourselves to feel the love that we once gave away and yet we want it back? Where does it go? What is one to do?

Love in itself is an intirety of just the feelings and emotions, you feel like you can't ever lose it, can't forget it and can't live without it when in fact you can...

There is no love greater than the love shared between a mother and her child.

Love is Born
Love is Born | Source

True Love is in the Eyes of a New Born Baby

When we were born, our mother's fell in love with us... When I gave birth to my kids, It was instant LOVE. Let me tell you that it's a love that has no comparison to any other kind of love than by God. Never to know anything stronger than that kind of love. It's unconditional and forthright. I never had the need to do more than just love and nurture my kids. There is no love greater than the love shared between a mother and her child.

Does Society Define Love?

If only people could remember the first time they truly felt love. Eventually, time is not on your side and somehow It gets lost in relationships, life's struggles and confuses one of the ability to "actually" "fall in love"!

No one can actually "fall in love". It's not something you can fall into. It's not supposed to be based on actions or non-actions. It's not even based on conditions or on what you do or say or what you don't...It's not based on what you get back. It's all about what you give.

It's not based on what you get back. It's all about what you give.

You Have to Love Me - We Only Tripped!

You see, my friends, We can't control the actions of others and we certainly can't control what life does to us! We, however, can control what we do to our own lives. We can't fall out of any emotion. The degree in which we feel those emotions may and can change...

Emotions Born

Any emotional capabilities we are born with and don't you think that It's up to us to discover what it is that we can accomplish. No one can "give" us what we have been looking's not possible. It's up to the individual! We are in control of our own lives and what we do with it. We can and are in control of the essence of our Love!


Procession of Life

So, don't try to make someone love you or be "in love" with you. It happens naturally and if it's not on the same wavelength as you are, then embrace what you are given...embrace what you do have and not what you don't. Then walk away if neither one of you will benefit by "loving each other" and just let it be...

Happiness Starts with YOU

Be happy with yourself first and the rest will "fall" (if-you-will) into the place and at the end of the day... LOVE never subsided and it didn't go just might have changed, taken on a different level of emotion. It's still there, may not be what you want....but it's there... and embrace it!

Love never ceases it like how seasons change and it can change without warning but that's ok too because tomorrow is a new day where love can and will grow or be kept as a hidden treasure to be discovered by another buried treasure and know the love can also be a beautiful disaster, it's still love and love is such a beautiful feeling to be embraced by the beauty that twinkles in your eyes from the most beautiful sunset waiting for another day to be born and then instant love awaits its destiny!

© 2020 Donna Rayne


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    • Donna-Rayne profile imageAUTHOR

      Donna Rayne 

      7 months ago from Greenwood, In

      Thank you, my friend. Just my thoughts from the past and then I updated it a bit. Have a lovely evening!

      All my best,

      Donna Rayne

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      Dora Weithers 

      7 months ago from The Caribbean

      Your title makes we wonder if the term "falling" in love is meant to warn us that there is hurt involved. Your article offers some interesting insights.

    • Donna-Rayne profile imageAUTHOR

      Donna Rayne 

      7 months ago from Greenwood, In

      Pavika, Flourish, and Ms.Ruby thank you for all your kind words, I appreciate every single one! You all are special ladies and I appreciate all of you!

      Blessings to all,

      Donna Rayne

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 months ago from Southern Illinois

      For me, I had to respect first, then love just naturally happened. I might add that I've lost my balance a couple of times. lol Great write!

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      7 months ago from USA

      I enjoyed your thoughts of self-acceptance before seeking fulfillment through others.

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      Devika Primić 

      7 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I found love 28 years ago and it is something that requires continuous appreciation and to work at it. Respect, honesty and communication.

    • Donna-Rayne profile imageAUTHOR

      Donna Rayne 

      7 months ago from Greenwood, In

      Thank you very much, Paul!

      Have a wonderful day!

      Donna Rayne

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 

      7 months ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      I have been trying to find love with others besides my mother for all of my life. You are correct in saying that you have to love yourself before you are capable of loving others. True love is giving such as a mother's unconditional love and it is not conditional on a quid pro quo basis as most people expect. Thanks for sharing a great article.

    • Donna-Rayne profile imageAUTHOR

      Donna Rayne 

      7 months ago from Greenwood, In

      Thank you for your feedback. I wrote this years ago when my life was turned upside down and also added and edited it.

      Thank you for reading it.

      Donna Rayne

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      7 months ago from Washington DC

      Donna, From the general perspective, our analysis of "falling in love" I agree with but that is only for those of us who are incomplete within ourselves. Until we have experienced the metamorphosis that turns human (Hued from man) and woman (woven from man per Genesis 2:23) into a whole man We can not attain it. That is what Jesus called "the straight way with the narrow gate" that the Buddha say is "the middle path" is the joining point of love and hate that I recognize as "indifference." It is that place where one accepts without attachment nor reject.

      My finding concerning love is is expressed in my poems under "Love Is And Isn't" under "letterpile" as "natureboy-0". Now that I realize love is an over "emotional desire for some thing, person or place that," when applied, appears as "hate" upon close examination. Hate the an "utter disapproval for some thing, person or place".

      Thanks for sharing.


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