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Do We "Fall in Love" or Just Lose Our Balance?

Donna is a writer & poet of things that matter, and things that don't! As the years progress, we learn to paint a picture and learn even mor

Just a Thought to Ponder

Love is kind and giving, it's accepting oneself, first, before having the ability or the capability to love another human being. It's not hard to do. But sometimes it may seem difficult, depending on the nature of it all!

There's a substantial difference between the two kinds of love that we experience and some of us have felt these emotions a time or two in our lives.

We Fall and Crash Sometimes

We all have lived and loved, and we have been "in love" and have "fallen" out of it. We can convince ourselves that we are in this thing called "in love"

But what comes after it all when it's gone? Where did it go and how do we get it back?

Is it lost forever and when you do give your heart and soul to that special someone, what happens if all of it is gets lost along the way?

Is there anything left to give even of ourselves to feel the love that we once gave away and yet we want it back?

Where does it go? What is one to do?

Love is an entirety of just the feelings and emotions, you feel like you can't ever lose it, can't forget it and can't live without it when in fact you can

True Love is in the Eyes of a Newborn Baby

When we were born, our mother's fell in love with us When I gave birth to my kids, it was instant LOVE. Let me tell you that it's a love that has no comparison to any other kind of love than by God.

Never to know anything stronger than that kind of love. It's unconditional and forthright. I never had the need to do more than just love and nurture my kids.

There is no love greater than the love shared between a mother and her child.

Does Society Define Love?

If only people could remember the first time, they truly felt love. Eventually, time is not on your side and somehow It gets lost in relationships, life's struggles and confuses one of the abilities to "actually" "fall in love"!

No one can actually "fall in love". It's not something you can fall into. It's not supposed to be based on actions or non-actions.

It's not even based on conditions or on what you do or say or what you don't...It's not based on what you get back. It's all about what you give.

You Have to Love Me - We Only Tripped!

You see, my friends, we can't control the actions of others and we certainly can't control what life does to us!

We, however, can control what we do to our own lives. We can't fall out of any emotion. The degree in which we feel those emotions may and can change

Emotions Born

Any emotional capabilities we are born with, and don't you think that It's up to us to discover what it is that we can accomplish. No one can "give" us what we have been looking for...it's not possible.

It's up to the individual! We are in control of our own lives and what we do with it. We can and are in control of the essence of our Love!

Procession of Life

So, don't try to make someone love you or be "in love" with you. It happens naturally and if it's not in harmony as you feel that you are, then embrace what you're given!

Embrace what you do have and not what you don't!

Then walk away if neither one of you benefit by "loving each other" then just let it be

Happiness Starts with YOU

Be happy with yourself first and the rest will "fall" (if-you-will) into the place and at the end of the day

LOVE never subsided and it didn't go away, it just might have changed, taken on a different level of emotion. It's still there! May not be what you wanted but it's there and you should embrace it!

Love never ceases it's like how seasons change, and it changes without warning but that's ok too!

Because tomorrow is a new day where love can and will grow or be kept as a hidden treasure to be discovered by another buried treasure and know the love can also be a beautiful disaster!

It's still love, and love is such a beautiful feeling to be embraced by the beauty that twinkles in one's eyes from the most beautiful sunset waiting for another day to begin and then instant love awaits its destiny!

© 2020 Donna Rayne


Donna Rayne (author) from Greenwood, Indiana on January 12, 2020:

Thank you, my friend. Just my thoughts from the past and then I updated it a bit. Have a lovely evening!

All my best,

Donna Rayne

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 12, 2020:

Your title makes we wonder if the term "falling" in love is meant to warn us that there is hurt involved. Your article offers some interesting insights.

Donna Rayne (author) from Greenwood, Indiana on January 04, 2020:

Pavika, Flourish, and Ms.Ruby thank you for all your kind words, I appreciate every single one! You all are special ladies and I appreciate all of you!

Blessings to all,

Donna Rayne

Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on January 04, 2020:

For me, I had to respect first, then love just naturally happened. I might add that I've lost my balance a couple of times. lol Great write!

FlourishAnyway from USA on January 04, 2020:

I enjoyed your thoughts of self-acceptance before seeking fulfillment through others.

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on January 04, 2020:

I found love 28 years ago and it is something that requires continuous appreciation and to work at it. Respect, honesty and communication.

Donna Rayne (author) from Greenwood, Indiana on January 03, 2020:

Thank you very much, Paul!

Have a wonderful day!

Donna Rayne

Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on January 03, 2020:

I have been trying to find love with others besides my mother for all of my life. You are correct in saying that you have to love yourself before you are capable of loving others. True love is giving such as a mother's unconditional love and it is not conditional on a quid pro quo basis as most people expect. Thanks for sharing a great article.

Donna Rayne (author) from Greenwood, Indiana on January 03, 2020:

Thank you for your feedback. I wrote this years ago when my life was turned upside down and also added and edited it.

Thank you for reading it.

Donna Rayne

Elijah A Alexander Jr from Washington DC on January 03, 2020:

Donna, From the general perspective, our analysis of "falling in love" I agree with but that is only for those of us who are incomplete within ourselves. Until we have experienced the metamorphosis that turns human (Hued from man) and woman (woven from man per Genesis 2:23) into a whole man We can not attain it. That is what Jesus called "the straight way with the narrow gate" that the Buddha say is "the middle path" is the joining point of love and hate that I recognize as "indifference." It is that place where one accepts without attachment nor reject.

My finding concerning love is is expressed in my poems under "Love Is And Isn't" under "letterpile" as "natureboy-0". Now that I realize love is an over "emotional desire for some thing, person or place that," when applied, appears as "hate" upon close examination. Hate the an "utter disapproval for some thing, person or place".

Thanks for sharing.

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