Bully-Free Zone

Updated on February 27, 2018
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My name is Catrina. I am a stay at home wife/one day mom and am 25 years old. My faith is very important to me. Dog and cat momma.

When is Enough, Enough?

The Bullying Problem

I vividly remember sitting in the cafeteria my freshman year of High School, alone. Waiting to see if anyone would come sit with me, if anyone would make the effort to talk with me. It didn't happen and I ended up eating in the bathroom stall. That was ten years ago and I have never felt as alone as I did that day. I get that you do not make friends right away in school but it was something I dealt with too many times that I guess my assumptions got the better of me. I was spit on my senior year over a boy (what else?), and threatened to be pushed down the steps by an anonymous person who never revealed themselves.

Social Media Craze

The rise of Social Media only made the existing issues worsen. I was ridiculed on Facebook, with statuses directed at me and nasty, hurtful comments written beneath them. I knew the group of girls who were doing it and even took it to the principal, who of course did nothing. He did not question the list of girls I had, he let it go. Only for it to happen again, sadly. Looking back, I do see that I was an easy target. I let it happen. I did not say anything to defend myself and when I did, people would say how mean I was being. They could dish it out but could not take it I guess, eh?

Future Tense

Fast forwarding to my 20's and it hasn't exactly lightened up. A recent cyber-bullying spell is what prompted me to write this article. The two girls were making fun of my dream to be a stay at home mom, saying I have no talents and no career, amongst other awful words. I saw it and instantly got mad and hit the comment button on the post to write something back but then I stopped and paused. Deep breathing has been beneficial in calming me down. Breathe, breathe and keep breathing. In the past, I would have retorted back with something clever and witty. But that was then and this is now.

Taking the High Road

It is not always easy to swallow your pride and let people bash you online. I literally had to turn my phone off and go pray. Praying and connecting with God is always crucial but even more so when I feel lost and alone, with a sad, heavy heart. I have to remember that I am who God says I am. I am a Daughter of the King and still have to love these people regardless. Jesus taught us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us. Enemies keep stacking up against me, leaving my back against the wall. If God is for me, then who can stand against me?

Where Do We Go From Here?

How can we stop this problem? What can we do so more children/teens can stay alive and have hope. We have to be the voice and have to stand together. We have to lean on God and trust that He will avenge our enemies. We have to leave it for Him because He does it best. Then we have to step back before reacting. We of course cannot let people walk all over us but must choose our words wisely, to not stoop to their level of mediocrity.

Were you bullied in High School or as an adult?

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