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Adventure Down Chemo Lane

My boyfriend is diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. Everyday we encounter new details on this life changing nightmare. The road is not easy.

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Adventure down chemo lane tells about our trip today for his fourth chemotherapy session. Shortly after we wake up the snow begins falling. We make the drive on an old country U.S. Highway to Foster Boyd Cancer Center in Wilmington Ohio. I'm not allowed in today due to an increase of Covid-19. I wait outside in the truck while he goes inside for treatment. We communicate texting with our cells phones.

Our visit today hits a snag. Chemotherapy for today is canceled.

"Jason Mraz - I Won't Give Up"

Foster Boyd Cancer Center


Another Round of Chemotherapy

Today Ron drives us on snow covered roads for his journey to The Foster Boyd Cancer Center to start another round of chemotherapy.

This is his fourth session of intravenous drugs to help destroy his lung cancer.

He has a port on the right side of his chest so it’s easy to access. He doesn’t have to worry about the nurses finding a vein in his arm. That can be painful if it doesn’t work on the first attempt. Soon your arm becomes a pincushion and you are left with bruises.

Snow Covered Ground


It's Snowing

It just started snowing before we left this morning. It is a wet snow. The kind one needs to build a snowman.

This is our first real snowfall and it is falling at a pretty good rate. The ground is already covered and it’s only been snowing for one and half hours.

U.S. Highway 22


U.S. Highway

We travel on a U.S. Highway which has two lanes, one in each direction. It is basically an old country road with two lanes.

The road has a little bit of slush on it, but it is not too bad yet. It takes him about forty five minutes to drive here from where we live.

We pass through one little town on our drive here.

It is usually quite a scenic drive since it is mostly a farming community, but today not so much. The animals are all taking shelter from the snowfall. No cows, horses, or donkeys seen today.

Just the cold brisk wind with snow flakes falling down. Yet somehow it seems magical. I guess it's that feeling one gets when he sees the first snowfall of the season.

Right Before Today's Chemotherapy


Stuck Outside Waiting

Once again I am stuck outside in the truck since the coronavirus numbers have spiked in our area.

We are communicating by texting with our cell phones. Guess technology does have a few advantages.

It’s 32 degrees but I am toasty warm. I hope sitting out here watching the snowfall gives me some inspiration.



Hit A Fork In The Road

Well today we hit another fork in the road. His chemotherapy is canceled. The doctor wants to do a CT scan of his chest since he has been having cramps in his ribcage area.

His white blood count is just a little high too. A prescription for an antibiotic has been called in for him to take for the next five days.

He is told it may be a complication with the chemotherapy medication or he may have an infection in his lungs. Either way is not good since we are prolonging his treatment, but they say everything happens for a reason.

We had previously postponed a treatment the day before Thanksgiving so he could enjoy the day with family, but that hit a snag when the coronavirus numbers went up in our area forcing us to spend Thanksgiving by ourselves.

It turned out to be a nice day. We fixed a turkey and most of the trimmings, including dessert. Even though he is a diabetic, he said Thanksgiving just wouldn't be the same.

All the food turned out good. No disasters in the kitchen and his numbers for diabetes didn't go too high.

It was definitely different from Thanksgiving's of the past, but it was relaxing and comfortable sitting at home.



Waiting For The Phone To Ring

So now we are back home waiting for the all too familiar phone to ring. Waiting seems like one of the hardest parts because we have absolutely no control over it.

They must first contact the insurance company to get the procedure for his CT scan approved. Then I am certain the hospital will make him do another Covid-19 test before we arrive at theur doorstep.

The plan is for this to go quickly. We have his next chemotherapy treatment set up for next Tuesday, so we have a short window of time to get it done.

In the meanwhile while we wait, we will be decorating the house for Christmas. We went out last night and he purchased a prelit 7'5" frosted Amelia pine artificial Christmas tree, a prelit Christmas wreath and garland for the mantel.

It looked absolutely beautiful in the store. We cannot wait to get started. We are hoping for the best since we have kitty cats roaming inside. We have never tried putting up a tree before because of our furry friends, but this year we making an exception.

This is going to be a year to remember.



"Kenny Chesney - Me and You"



BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 02, 2020:


Thank you so much for the prayers.

The reason the chemo was canceled is because he is having cramping pains in ribcage area and the doctor is afraid he might be having a reaction from chemotherapy medications.

We took a CT scan today to see if there is any problems.

If not, chemo continues next week.

We have never put up a Christmas tree around the babies (kittys) before...I an sure it will be quite an experience.

I definitely will take pictures and try to write about this upcoming adventure.

Take care of yourself and have a Merry Christmas season.

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on December 02, 2020:

Brenda, my prayers are with you and Ron. You both seem to be keeping your spirits up, despite the setbacks. Why didn't the doctor call you to let you know chemo was cancelled?

I'm glad to hear you're decorating for Christmas. It will be an adventure with your kitties. I have three indoor cats and gave up putting up a tree years ago. If they weren't climbing it, they were batting the ornaments off and scooting them all over the house!

Perhaps you can write a story about your kitties' first Christmas. It'll be a hoot!

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you so much!

Have a wonderful Christmas season.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on December 01, 2020:

Sending lots of prayers your way, take care.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you for your prayers.

Please let your neighbors know I will be praying for their journey to be successful.

It is hard especially in these days of Covid-19.

Take care.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on December 01, 2020:

Thanks for sharing your journey with us. We have neighbors who are going today for their COVID test, then on Wednesday, cancer prep, and on Thursday of this week, a cystoscopy and scraping of his bladder to see if there is more cancer. He is on a test trial, and they are hoping that he will be able to continue with that treatment. The ups and downs of cancer treatment is a hard journey for everyone involved. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you so much!

Your kindness is greatly appreciated.

I believe staying positive with no negative thoughts is the best way to handle our situation.

I just read your mailbag...although I had to go to your profile to do so, so I emailed you a message.

Thanks for your advice on my dilemma. I am definitely taking your advice.

Have a great day and enjoy this Christmas.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on December 01, 2020:

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I think articles like this one help others going through it. May my blessings provide some comfort for you as you continue on with your journey.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you.

I do tend to be upbeat.

I wake up every morning and feel alive. After my shower I am full of spunk and energy...I think it drives him crazy sometimes that I am full of energy but it makes him smile.

I have had to face alot of health problems and currently deal with a menogioma brain tumor.

It is not cancerous and is on the outer shell of brain and not inside.

I know its complicated to absorb..but basically if you are gonna have a brain tumor then mine is the one to have...yet it still causes problems as it grows.

I've had it since 2006 and gamma knife surgery (radiation volts) in October of 2018.

I have found it easier to deal with each passing day if you are happy and have a good outlook.

I guess this helps me to deal with his situation since I won't worry about having a bad outcome.

I kinda follow a rule of No Negative Thoughts.

Christmas I am lookkmg forward to but we have not put up the tree yet.

Thanks & have a great day.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thanks for the prays.

This is a challenging time for us. It shows us both our strengths and weaknesses as well as learning who you can really depend upon.

We are doing great with a good outlook on each day.

We know this life is not ours to decide and we are making each day the best we can.

Basically we are going about our lives just like we would have before...with just a few minor changes for when we need to have extra rest.

We haven't started the decorating much yet...but in our defense we want to be home that first day since we have kitty cats.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:



We do share about everything together.

I know it is easier with someone beside you rather than being alone to face each struggle.

Plus...we enjoy and want to do things together. We can make one another smile...even if we don't want too.

I hope we will be able to ho shopping one day for Christmas instead of ordering online.

There is just something magical about shopping for Christmas for one another together.

We have done it every year together...spend the days shopping and picking out the perfect gifts for family and friends.

I don't want to miss out on that magic this year.

Thanks again & enjoy the day.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you.

We had our first real snowfall yesterday and the ground is covered this morning also.

A few schools that were open are now closed for weather instead of Covid-19...that's a switch.

The roads are quite icy here with our little country back roads...luckily I live in town, but still cold & icy.

They say everything has a reason, so I am certain we were not supposed to do his chemo yesterday.

The reason...time will let us know.

We are surprisingly handling this all with a smile instead of tears as we look forward to each new day.

Thanksgiving without family was disappointing but maybe it brought us that much closer.

Have a great day.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


Thank you for your good wishes.

It has been a different path in life, but so far we are doing great handling it all.

Have a great day.

BRENDA ARLEDGE (author) from Washington Court House on December 01, 2020:


We adjust...this is so true.

One can adjust to whatever he needs too.

Thank you & have a good day.

Ann Carr from SW England on December 01, 2020:

What a roller-coaster you have to go through. I like how upbeat you are - that takes courage I think. It also makes you feel better, doesn't it? Glad you managed Thanksgiving and were determined to enjoy it and it's great that you're putting up a Christmas tree.

I hope it all gets sorted out and that the treatment is ongoing and successful. Thinking of you both.


Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on December 01, 2020:

It is nice that you had a nice Thanksgiving and theat you bought a Christmas tree. I know this is a tough time for you both. Thanks for sharing this with all of us. I will pray for you both.

Rosina S Khan on December 01, 2020:

It's really good to see how much you share with your boyfriend as you both go through his journey. I feel happy that you had a peaceful thanksgiving and are even getting ready for Christmas as you go through this journey. God bless!

Liz Westwood from UK on November 30, 2020:

Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. Chemotherapy is a long road to follow. There's a balance here between the literal journey on the road with weather complications and the difficult treatment journey. It's good to hear that you had a relaxing Thanksgiving, but sad that you were unable to celebrate as planned. I hope that the treatment gets sorted and chemo can start again.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on November 30, 2020:

Chemotherapy is a long struggle and ordeal. I have seen it happening in my close relation. It requires a lot of patience. Wish you good luck.

manatita44 from london on November 30, 2020:

A very sweet and intimate blog. Some insights into how life can map out in practical situations. Not always straightforward, but we adjust ... we adjust. Best wishes to the both of you and much Love.

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