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12 Reasons Why I Love My Husband

Karen Hellier is a freelance writer and eBay entrepreneur. She lives happily in the mountains of North Georgia with her husband and her dog.

Karen and Chuck Hellier ( my husband)

Karen and Chuck Hellier ( my husband)

Maybe it's because it's February and Valentine's Day is still in the air, but I am feeling quite romantic and wanted to share that with the rest of the world. In an age where so many are cynical about marriage, I want to lift marriage up as a place, where two people can find the place where they can truly be love, bloom and grow into the person they were meant to be.

Here are the top twelve reasons I love my husband (there are more, but seriously, how much time do you really have to read an article?) These are not in any particular order because they all combine to make him who he is, and I appreciate every last one of them!

1) He gives me unconditional love...

Although many people have used the Bible verse from first Corinthians for their weddings, I wanted to make sure it was read in ours because Chuck really does embody all of these characteristics of love. I have never met anyone like him before, and am constantly amazed by how well this verse fits him, and how he loves me unconditionally and accepts me for who I am without trying to change me, even when I do things that annoy him:

"Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

2) He is thoughtful...

And not just to me. He is thoughtful in that he thinks ahead and does things that will make my life easier. It always surprises me too because I am so not used to this. When he sees articles in a magazine or in the newspaper that he thinks I will be interested in, he saves them or rips them out to show to me later. It makes me feel good that he is thinking of me even when we are apart for work, travel, etc. He makes the coffee every morning and doesn't mind that I sleep till 8:15 a.m. even though he gets up an hour earlier every morning. He is nice to my relatives, in a genuine way, not in the obligatory way that some husbands are. He is even thoughtful toward my parents and calls them on his own sometimes just to talk and check in with them, see if they need anything, etc. He treats me to my favorite things when I am not expecting them...a gift card to my favorite coffee spot just because he knows I love their coffee, a subscription to a magazine he knows I like, etc.

3) He makes me laugh...

Since I met him, this man has made me laugh in a way no one else can. He is a great storyteller, and he tells everyone that I laugh at all of his jokes, no matter how many times I hear them. But it's just that he is THAT GOOD when telling them, and I love to hear them every time. He has a quick wit as well and can use a play on words in such a way that I am still laughing about something he said the day before. Last night he said something that was so funny it made my stomach hurt, in a very good way!

4) He is affectionate...

I love to touch and be touched. I love feeling that connection to my man, and it doesn't bother me if we are in public or at home. It doesn't bother him either, and we do have our share of PDA. I just enjoy being with him, and feeling his presence through all of my senses...sight ( he's handsome), sound ( I love the sound of his voice, especially when he whispers sweet nothings in my ear!), touch ( it makes me feel good to be connected to him even just holding hands), smell ( I love his natural scent, but he also wears Polo which sends me through the roof!) and taste ( kissing that is).

5) He is a Christian...

I have been in an unequally yoked marriage, and it just didn't work because we were not coming from the same place regarding our beliefs and values. Chuck and I have the same belief system and enjoy going to church together and talking about our faith, which is an important part of our lives as individuals, and therefore a very important shared part of our marriage.

6) He is honest...

When I was a teenager, a good friend and I had this pact that when we said to each other,'You have to be honest" we would tell each other the truth...about how our hair looked, our newest sweater, etc. Chuck can do that with me too, and it is such a relief to know when we are discussing something serious, and we need to be honest with each other, that we can pull out that phrase and get the truth, even if it is a bit painful to hear. But it clears the way for honesty and helps us make better decisions in our marriage.

7) He is protective of me...

Recently, the movie, "The Bodyguard" has been on TV due to the untimely death of Whitney Houston, the star of that movie. I remember when I first saw that movie, it made me sad. I wished that I had someone who loved me that much...enough that he would take a bullet for me. And he would protect me at all costs. I have found that in Chuck. Of course, I don't want him ever to have to, but he does watch out for me and is concerned that I am safe. And I know if it came right down to it, he does love me enough to take a bullet for me. (And I would do the same for him.)

8) He is handsome...

Okay, so of course I need to put this in here because let's face it, chemistry is very important in a relationship. But he has the most beautiful blue eyes that can look into my eyes and see into my soul. And when he smiles, my heart lights up. When other women tell me he's handsome, I smile inside, because I know it as well.

9) He is passionate...

Okay, this hub is not x rated so let me just say that yes, he is passionate in that area, and that's all I am going to say about that. But he is passionate about other areas of his life as well. He is passionate about his work, his boat, wine, traveling, good food, family. Whatever he is interested in, he brings a passion to it that is exciting to watch. And makes me excited to be with him and sharing his passions.

10) He just "is that into me..."

I'm sure you've heard of the book and the movie, 'He's Just Not That Into You." Well, in my case, I am very fortunate because I have found a man who just IS that into me! I can tell by the way he treats me, and acts around me, and says to me, that he is "into me," and more importantly, he "gets" me. I have dated some people who just didn't understand me, my true essence. They haven't understood, and have never wanted to put in the energy to try. I am not the typical woman, or so I have been told, and that's fine with me. But Chuck understands that and lets me be who I am without trying to change my idiosyncrasies and dreams. What freedom there is in that!

11) He encourages my dreams...

I am a huge goal setter and if I set a goal and don't quite make it, I just adjust my goal somewhat or come up with a new one. Some people in my life have doubted me. They tell me that I "never" reach my goals, (not true) or that I move on to new things quickly. I do move on to a new goal if something I tried has not worked out. Chuck encourages that in me and doesn't try to make fun of my goals...including to become a writer. I could not ask for a better supporter in this area.

12) He is a true gentleman...

When I was younger, it didn't matter to me if someone I was dating held the door for me, or helped me put my coat on in a restaurant, or opened the car door for me. I was of the belief that women were equal to men and that we didn't need to have doors held open for us or help with our coats, have help carrying the heaviest bags after shopping, etc.. We could do these things for ourselves...we aren't invalids. Now that I am older, I still believe women don't NEED these things done for them, but it sure makes me feel special when they are done. I have had a lot of life experience now, and I'm a little wearier than I was then. I have been through heartbreaks in love, miscarriage, birthing three children, a divorce, a heart attack, and I recently discovered I have asthma. So, sure, I can still open doors for myself, but when a man does it for me, it makes me feel special, especially when it's my own husband, who could just leave me to fend for these things on my own because I am his partner and we are together for life. But he still goes that extra mile to treat me like a lady, and it makes me feel special...every single time he does it. It's so nice to know that in my marriage, chivalry is not dead.

Well, that's a nutshell...the 12 most important reasons why I love my husband. As I said there are more, but this gives you the general idea. If you are a single woman out there reading this, keep your optimism about finding a special man to love and accept you. They are out there, and it's a blessing to find one. I am happy to say I know this for a fact!!

Having a traditional Dutch dinner together in Amsterdam.

Having a traditional Dutch dinner together in Amsterdam.

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Chuck being affectionate even during our wedding photo session!

Chuck being affectionate even during our wedding photo session!

Always the romantic, he often holds my hand at dinner.

Always the romantic, he often holds my hand at dinner.

We love to travel together. Here's a picture of us in New York City.

We love to travel together. Here's a picture of us in New York City.

Here we are at Waimea Canyon on a cruise to Hawaii.

Here we are at Waimea Canyon on a cruise to Hawaii.

© 2012 Karen Hellier

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