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12 Reasons Why I Love My Husband

Karen Hellier is a freelance writer and eBay entrepreneur. She lives happily in the mountains of North Georgia with her husband and her dog.

Karen and Chuck Hellier ( my husband)

Karen and Chuck Hellier ( my husband)


Maybe it's because it's February and Valentine's Day is still in the air, but I am feeling quite romantic and wanted to share that with the rest of the world. In an age where so many are cynical about marriage, I want to lift marriage up as a place, where two people can find the place where they can truly be themselves...to love, bloom and grow into the person they were meant to be.

Here are the top twelve reasons I love my husband (there are more, but seriously, how much time do you really have to read an article?) These are not in any particular order because they all combine to make him who he is, and I appreciate every last one of them!

1) He gives me unconditional love...

Although many people have used the Bible verse from first Corinthians for their weddings, I wanted to make sure it was read in ours because Chuck really does embody all of these characteristics of love. I have never met anyone like him before, and am constantly amazed by how well this verse fits him, and how he loves me unconditionally and accepts me for who I am without trying to change me, even when I do things that annoy him:

"Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

2) He is thoughtful...

And not just to me. He is thoughtful in that he thinks ahead and does things that will make my life easier. It always surprises me too because I am so not used to this. When he sees articles in a magazine or in the newspaper that he thinks I will be interested in, he saves them or rips them out to show to me later. It makes me feel good that he is thinking of me even when we are apart for work, travel, etc. He makes the coffee every morning and doesn't mind that I sleep till 8:15 a.m. even though he gets up an hour earlier every morning. He is nice to my relatives, in a genuine way, not in the obligatory way that some husbands are. He is even thoughtful toward my parents and calls them on his own sometimes just to talk and check in with them, see if they need anything, etc. He treats me to my favorite things when I am not expecting them...a gift card to my favorite coffee spot just because he knows I love their coffee, a subscription to a magazine he knows I like, etc.

3) He makes me laugh...

Since I met him, this man has made me laugh in a way no one else can. He is a great storyteller, and he tells everyone that I laugh at all of his jokes, no matter how many times I hear them. But it's just that he is THAT GOOD when telling them, and I love to hear them every time. He has a quick wit as well and can use a play on words in such a way that I am still laughing about something he said the day before. Last night he said something that was so funny it made my stomach hurt, in a very good way!

4) He is affectionate...

I love to touch and be touched. I love feeling that connection to my man, and it doesn't bother me if we are in public or at home. It doesn't bother him either, and we do have our share of PDA. I just enjoy being with him, and feeling his presence through all of my senses...sight ( he's handsome), sound ( I love the sound of his voice, especially when he whispers sweet nothings in my ear!), touch ( it makes me feel good to be connected to him even just holding hands), smell ( I love his natural scent, but he also wears Polo which sends me through the roof!) and taste ( kissing that is).

5) He is a Christian...

I have been in an unequally yoked marriage, and it just didn't work because we were not coming from the same place regarding our beliefs and values. Chuck and I have the same belief system and enjoy going to church together and talking about our faith, which is an important part of our lives as individuals, and therefore a very important shared part of our marriage.

6) He is honest...

When I was a teenager, a good friend and I had this pact that when we said to each other,'You have to be honest" we would tell each other the truth...about how our hair looked, our newest sweater, etc. Chuck can do that with me too, and it is such a relief to know when we are discussing something serious, and we need to be honest with each other, that we can pull out that phrase and get the truth, even if it is a bit painful to hear. But it clears the way for honesty and helps us make better decisions in our marriage.

7) He is protective of me...

Recently, the movie, "The Bodyguard" has been on TV due to the untimely death of Whitney Houston, the star of that movie. I remember when I first saw that movie, it made me sad. I wished that I had someone who loved me that much...enough that he would take a bullet for me. And he would protect me at all costs. I have found that in Chuck. Of course, I don't want him ever to have to, but he does watch out for me and is concerned that I am safe. And I know if it came right down to it, he does love me enough to take a bullet for me. (And I would do the same for him.)

8) He is handsome...

Okay, so of course I need to put this in here because let's face it, chemistry is very important in a relationship. But he has the most beautiful blue eyes that can look into my eyes and see into my soul. And when he smiles, my heart lights up. When other women tell me he's handsome, I smile inside, because I know it as well.

9) He is passionate...

Okay, this hub is not x rated so let me just say that yes, he is passionate in that area, and that's all I am going to say about that. But he is passionate about other areas of his life as well. He is passionate about his work, his boat, wine, traveling, good food, family. Whatever he is interested in, he brings a passion to it that is exciting to watch. And makes me excited to be with him and sharing his passions.

10) He just "is that into me..."

I'm sure you've heard of the book and the movie, 'He's Just Not That Into You." Well, in my case, I am very fortunate because I have found a man who just IS that into me! I can tell by the way he treats me, and acts around me, and says to me, that he is "into me," and more importantly, he "gets" me. I have dated some people who just didn't understand me, my true essence. They haven't understood, and have never wanted to put in the energy to try. I am not the typical woman, or so I have been told, and that's fine with me. But Chuck understands that and lets me be who I am without trying to change my idiosyncrasies and dreams. What freedom there is in that!

11) He encourages my dreams...

I am a huge goal setter and if I set a goal and don't quite make it, I just adjust my goal somewhat or come up with a new one. Some people in my life have doubted me. They tell me that I "never" reach my goals, (not true) or that I move on to new things quickly. I do move on to a new goal if something I tried has not worked out. Chuck encourages that in me and doesn't try to make fun of my goals...including to become a writer. I could not ask for a better supporter in this area.

12) He is a true gentleman...

When I was younger, it didn't matter to me if someone I was dating held the door for me, or helped me put my coat on in a restaurant, or opened the car door for me. I was of the belief that women were equal to men and that we didn't need to have doors held open for us or help with our coats, have help carrying the heaviest bags after shopping, etc.. We could do these things for ourselves...we aren't invalids. Now that I am older, I still believe women don't NEED these things done for them, but it sure makes me feel special when they are done. I have had a lot of life experience now, and I'm a little wearier than I was then. I have been through heartbreaks in love, miscarriage, birthing three children, a divorce, a heart attack, and I recently discovered I have asthma. So, sure, I can still open doors for myself, but when a man does it for me, it makes me feel special, especially when it's my own husband, who could just leave me to fend for these things on my own because I am his partner and we are together for life. But he still goes that extra mile to treat me like a lady, and it makes me feel special...every single time he does it. It's so nice to know that in my marriage, chivalry is not dead.

Well, that's it...in a nutshell...the 12 most important reasons why I love my husband. As I said there are more, but this gives you the general idea. If you are a single woman out there reading this, keep your optimism about finding a special man to love and accept you. They are out there, and it's a blessing to find one. I am happy to say I know this for a fact!!


Having a traditional Dutch dinner together in Amsterdam.

Having a traditional Dutch dinner together in Amsterdam.

Spouse Poll

Chuck being affectionate even during our wedding photo session!

Chuck being affectionate even during our wedding photo session!

Always the romantic, he often holds my hand at dinner.

Always the romantic, he often holds my hand at dinner.

We love to travel together. Here's a picture of us in New York City.

We love to travel together. Here's a picture of us in New York City.

Here we are at Waimea Canyon on a cruise to Hawaii.

Here we are at Waimea Canyon on a cruise to Hawaii.

© 2012 Karen Hellier

Comments

McKenna Meyers on August 19, 2019:

Karen, this is so beautiful and life-affirming. When I was a newlywed, I made a conscious decision to stay away from neighbors and co-workers who always complained about their husbands. I knew if I got in with them I'd be expected to do the same. My husband has always been great and I didn't want to disrespect him in that way. Appreciating what I have in a husband as well as other areas of my life has been the key to my happiness and emotional well-being. You've demonstrated this practice perfectly here!

Lisa Kroulik from Minnesota on January 10, 2015:

This is beautiful, Karen. I know that you two are so happy together. I could say nearly everyone of those things about my husband too. It's so sweet to be cherished in this way when we're not used to it!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on September 16, 2014:

Melinda,

Well, thanks so much for the sweet comments. I will check out your stuff too. Have a happy day!

Melinda Longoria MSM from Garland, Texas on September 16, 2014:

This is a BEAUTIFUL hub! I love all of the points you shared about why you love your husband and the pictures that you provided. ;-) I can't wait to read the bucket list for couples next. I'm DEFINITELY subscribing to follow you. ;-) Sincerely, Mel

Glenn Stok from Long Island, NY on July 06, 2013:

This is so awesome and beautiful. And you wrote about it so well, too. I think it's wonderful that you found such a man. I once had a girlfriend who treated me similar to the way you describe your husband. But I was too immature at the time to recognize the good qualities she had. It's great that you know in your heart that you have someone special in your life. Your hub is very inspiring.

One other thing I'd like to add -- as much as you discuss how wonderful your husband is, I am sure he recognizes the same about you. The way you express your thoughts and feelings about him, I am sure makes him feel special. That is a gift you are giving to him.

Asim Mushtaq from United Kingdom on June 26, 2013:

I want my wife to have such thoughts for me so thanks for the tip :).

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on June 11, 2013:

LadyLLD,

And I hope God also blesses both you and your husband with a meaningful and loving marriage. Just remember why you fell in love with him and build from there. The 7 year mark is a tough one.

LadyLLD on June 11, 2013:

This is a lovely and inspiring post Karen. I've been married for 7 years and I am trying to make the most out of out of it. I hope God will continue to bless both you and your husband. Stay in love.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 23, 2013:

rumanasaiyed,

Thanks so much for your kind comments. I appreciate the vote and share very much.

Rumana from Sharjah, UAE on May 23, 2013:

Hi Karen Hellier,

You both make a very beautiful couple.. Congratulations...

And also your hub was very interesting.

Voted up interesting and Shared!!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 21, 2013:

weightlossgossips,

I hope you someday find the same too. Thanks for stopping by.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 21, 2013:

KenDeanAgudo,

Thanks. Love can do amazing things for a person's life!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 21, 2013:

azrestoexp,

What a nice thing for you to say. And I agree, marriage is wonderful...but the right spouse makes it that way!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 21, 2013:

vibesites,

Haha, when other women tell me y husband is handsome, it reminds me how fortunate I am! I am excited for you to find that man and then write a hub about him. I will definitely be reading it and cheering you on!!!

vibesites from United States on May 20, 2013:

I'm glad you're not jealous when other women say that your husband is handsome. :)

You are quite lucky indeed. One day I will have a husband that has the same qualities like your husband has, hehehehe. And eventually write a hub about him why I love him so. Thanks for posting. :)

Arizona's Restoration Experts, LLC on May 20, 2013:

What a nice hub. Marriage is a WONDERFUL thing. So glad you found happiness. Voted up.

Kenneth C Agudo from Tiwi, Philippines on May 20, 2013:

Very sweet and nice couple. ;-)

Lisa Joshua from Singapore on May 19, 2013:

It is so cute to see both of you are loving with each other till this age... I hope to have the same.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 19, 2013:

khairat1,

Thanks for your kind comment.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 19, 2013:

HappyMikeWritter,

Thanks so much for your comment. We have both had struggles getting to each other, and we now treasure our time together, for as long as God allows.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 19, 2013:

Silkekarina,

I'm so sorry for your loss. As you can tell, there's an age difference between my husband and I, and we are grabbing on to whatever time God gives us together. I can't imagine being with anyone else, ever, so I am enjoying every second of this for as long as I can. I have been in a bad marriage and this is the total opposite, so I feel blessed beyond compare. Thanks for commenting.

Jean Valerie Kotzur nee Stoneman from Germany on May 19, 2013:

Hang on to the love. Unconditional, pure love is rare nowadays. I lost mine over twenty years ago, there's been nothing like it since.

HappyMikeWritter on May 18, 2013:

This hub is soo amazing. Full of pure love showing that is really possible for marriage to have a value. Thank you so much for sharing it and showing us How it should be done.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 18, 2013:

bredies,

Yes we are both blessed and happy that we know it! Thanks for commenting.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 18, 2013:

poetforlife,

Never give up hope. And please don't settle for someone less than you deserve. It will only bring you unhappiness and will stand in the way of your meeting someone who will love you like my husband loves me. Prayer works wonders. Here's a tip...is there anyone in your past that you cared for once and it didn't work out? Maybe the timing wasn't right? It might be worth looking him up again. Chuck and I had known each other 28 years before, and when we reconnected, we realized we had feelings for each other.

Marie Williams from Dallas, Texas. on May 18, 2013:

Thank you Karen for writing this informative piece. Now I have new items to add to my check list. I am praying for someone wonderful like that. I am so happy that you have someone that is so kind and loving to you. It gives the rest of us hope.

Lawrence Bredenkamp from New Zealand on May 18, 2013:

Nice to hear and sounds like you are both very lucky to have each other.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 18, 2013:

lesliebyars,

You're welcome for sharing and thanks for the vote.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 18, 2013:

annitakison,

You're welcome. I wish everyone could experience this kind of married love. My husband teases me for being romantic, but he likes it. he says I am the most romantic person he has ever met. Life's too short to not have romance in it. And if you find the right person, it's pretty easy to do. Thanks for commenting.

Anni Takison from california, USA on May 18, 2013:

hello Karen Hellier,

Your hub really very romantic.. you write down your feeling very romantic way. I like the way you make you married life so romantic. God bless you both. Thanks to share and inspiring those people who missed this kind of love in their marriage life.

lesliebyars on May 17, 2013:

What a beautiful hub. Thanks for sharing and I'll share it also. Voted up.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 16, 2013:

SusieQ42,

I agree with you. It is out there though. I think people give up too soon and don't believe they can find it. As far as God blessing me, He already has! And I appreciate His blessings beyond words.

SusieQ42 on May 14, 2013:

In regards to the above comment, you ARE very fortunate! That kind of love is hard to find! God bless, Susieq42

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 03, 2013:

rose-the-planner,

Thanks. I am glad you liked it. We are very fortunate. I don't think all wives feel that way. I wish they did. The world would be a happier place! Thanks for dropping by.

rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on May 03, 2013:

How lovely! It's so nice to see couples genuinely in love. My husband is also a pretty special guy. I guess we are lucky ladies. Thanks for posting.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on May 02, 2013:

writermarrion,

I intend to do just that! Thanks for dropping by.

writermarion on May 02, 2013:

A quite inspiring hub for married couples. keep the love alive.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 30, 2013:

livingsta,

Thanks so much. I really enjoyed writing it because is all true and comes from my heart. My husband actually enjoyed reading it, and the comments that came in afterward as well. Thanks for the vote and sharing!

livingsta from United Kingdom on April 30, 2013:

This is so beautiful and you both are a wonderful couple. God bless.

Voted up and sharing!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 30, 2013:

Sneha Sunny,

Thanks so much. Yes, I do know am fortunate to have him for my husband. We waited a long time to find each other, and I treasure him every day! Thanks for the votes and for stopping by!

Sneha Sunny from India on April 30, 2013:

Awww....so romantic! You are so lucky to have such a nice husband. Beautiful pictures!

Beautiful and voted up!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 27, 2013:

moronkee,

Thanks much for reading and commenting. Every day I pray the same thing! The right person is out there for you. Just don't settle for one of the wrong ones.

Moronke Oluwatoyin on April 27, 2013:

Law of admiration. I'm very happy for you. Thanks for encouraging me. I hope I meet someone that fits the above qualities.

I pray that no man or woman will put your marriage asunder.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 26, 2013:

Kevin Peter,

That was a very wonderful comment and I appreciate your leaving it. I like that...never thought that it would inspire the younger generation. Thanks for stopping by.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 26, 2013:

rajan jolly,

Oh thanks so much for your kind comment. I do believe he does love me as much. We are truly blessed.

Kevin Peter from Global Citizen on April 26, 2013:

Your love for your husband is a great inspiration for the present generation. The photos you have included in the hub are wonderful. Best wishes for your future and may God bless you both always.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 25, 2013:

This is beautiful and the pictures say your husband loves you as much. This is a very refreshing read and it's so good to see people in love even long into marriage.

Voted up and beautiful.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on April 25, 2013:

Cianeko,

Thanks so much for reading and leaving such a nice comment. It's been almost 3 years now and we are still happy. We just got back from a cruise where we spent 14 days together every day and now that we are back to the real world, and I am back working daily, I miss the chance to spend each day with him. I am very blessed!

Nik Abueva from Manila on April 25, 2013:

Your smile tells all! It's so heartwarming reading a hub like this.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on March 28, 2013:

khmazz,

Awww, thank you so much for saying that. It's been almost 3 years and I love him even more. Thanks for reading and commenting.

Kristen Mazzola from South Florida on March 28, 2013:

Absolutely amazing, heartfelt and beautiful! You and your husband are a gorgeous couple! :)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on March 16, 2013:

Well, I am part of that divorce rate. This is my second marriage and is very different from my first. I learned a lot of lessons in my first marriage which have helped a lot in this one. I am determined that this marriage will be my last, and will be happy...so far, so good! Thanks for reading and commenting.

Jami Johnson from Somewhere amongst the trees in Vermont. on March 15, 2013:

You are truly blessed. I am so happy that you have found a man you are so passionate to spend your life with.

I love #10 and #11! All 12 reasons are equally important but I truly believe 10 and 11 should be highlighted (my personal opinion). This is a great hub. With the divorce rate so high, I truly believe people should tell more stories of happy and fulfilling marriages.

Thanks!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 30, 2013:

jainismus,

I am a blessed woman! Thanks for reading and leaving a comment. I greatly appreciate it.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 30, 2013:

Samith Jhon,

Thanks so much for your comment. God already has blessed me. I am a very fortunate woman and I am smart enough to realize it! Thanks for stopping by.

Samith Jhon from Los Angeles, California on January 30, 2013:

Your hub is awesome Karen! God bless you

Mahaveer Sanglikar from Pune, India on January 30, 2013:

Good reasoning. You are a lucky woman.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 27, 2013:

Neinahpets,

Aw, thank you so much. I appreciate the vote and your comment.

Stephanie from Canada on January 26, 2013:

This is so precious. Definitely gets a vote up from me.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 26, 2013:

Sharonjoe,

Thanks so much. We both feel blessed to have found each other.

sharonjoe on January 25, 2013:

Praise the Lord for such a beautiful relationship that you share with the man you love !! It is so inspiring. May both of you always find magic in each other.. !

Blessings

Sharonjoe

MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on January 24, 2013:

Yeah, I'm in it for both I guess. I mean I just love writing, the money is a bonus:)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 24, 2013:

MissJamieD,

I don't know if you are writing on Hub Pages for fun, to earn money, or both. But you can break down your hub into a few different ones...you know...share the love on different hubs and it won't seem so involved. When I was first writing on here, I would go on and on in a hub. Then I realized I could break it into a few shorter, more interesting hubs, and each time I published one, make Chuck feel good all over again! I am hoping to earn money with Hub Pages so for me, that was another way of diversifying and having more hubs published.

MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on January 24, 2013:

Thanks Karen:) I did write a little bit about my Prince today but I didn't really get into detail yet. I have a lot to say so I'm trying to outline exactly how I want the hub to look/feel when I do tell the world about my love for him. And of course I will show him what I write about him. I'm proud of him AND my writing so that is something we'll be able to share more now that I'm back on HubPages again. It's been a very long time since I've had time to write but I spent a lot of time here awhile back. I'm glad i met you here, hope we have time to chat more:)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 24, 2013:

Oh yes MissJamieD,

You should definitely write that hub about your Prince and should show it to him because Chuck loves it when I write nice things about him and share it with the rest of the world. I think he appreciates not only how much I love him, but that I am not afraid to show it, and tell others too! I'm following you so I will be looking for a hub like that in the near future!

MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on January 24, 2013:

I haven't written much about my Prince yet, I've been going through a lot of drama with my kids' father and other issues lately so I've been in "bitch" mode a lot. But he's my love and my angel so I'll be writing about him ASAP:)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on January 23, 2013:

MissJamieD,

Thanks you and congratulations to you too. It's wonderful time find lour own Prince Charming isn't it? I feel bad for those who don't believe he exists. Sounds like both of our relationships are like a fairy tale. We are blessed. I am going to hop over to your hubs to see if you have written anything about your Prince?! Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

MissJamieD from Minnes-O-ta on January 23, 2013:

I'm so excited for you! Many people do not find this kind of love in life, but I think mostly because they don't know themselves and they try too hard. I have also found my Prince Charming and I know it sounds cliché but it's true. That doesn't mean he rode in on a horse and he's always perfect and I wear high heels.....that just means that we are perfect for each other, we found each other when neither of us were looking, and we got to know each other nearly two months before we allowed ourselves to be intimate together. We actually got to know each other first, which doesn't happen enough anymore. Good luck to you and your husband I wish you the best:)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on December 06, 2012:

The Idea Gal,

Thanks for your good wishes. We are really happy. If there was a way we could bottle up what we have found with each other, we would gladly give it away to everyone who wants it...never sell it because it's to precious and we would rather share it. Thanks for stopping by.

The_Idea_Gal on December 06, 2012:

This is so lovely and I think what everyone wants to have in life - a true love they can share their life with. Good for the two of you to have found each other and God Bless!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on November 20, 2012:

shemiahl,

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. I have been away and this says you wrote this 12 days ago. Are you getting married on Thanksgiving??? I would say our best tip is to communicate well. If something that one of you does bothers the other one, it's best to discuss it and come clean so resentment doesn't get bottled up and explode at some time in the future. Also, appreciate each other, and let the other person know. We sent emails to each other all the time, even though we live in the same house. Sometimes I will find an old email that I saved because it was so special...could be one I sent or one he sent to me. Resending it takes us back to that time and place and reminds us of how much we cared, and still care for each other. Good luck to you. I hope you have a blessed life together.

shemiahl from Arkansas on November 07, 2012:

Very sweet! I'm very happy for you! Do you have any tips? I'm getting married in two weeks! How do yall stay so happy?

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on October 04, 2012:

Dear researchpapers,

Thank you for your comment. I am glad you liked the hub about why I love my husband. I am so sorry it made you sad, and brought back painful memories of your wife. I hope that maybe some of it was good memories though? Thanks for reading.

Jimmy from USA on October 04, 2012:

God bless you and your couple and that was so nice to read your hub and it makes me cry to some point and made me remember of my wife.

Tyesha Sewer- Matthews from MOSS POINT, MS on September 24, 2012:

will do

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on September 24, 2012:

TyeshaMattews,

I would say that keeping the lines of communication open is one of the most important things you can do. If something bothers you, it's important to share it with your spouse because if you don't, and you keep it all bottled up, it can destroy a marriage. If a couple is concerned about nagging their partner all the time, pick one time per week that you have a couples meetings...just the 2 of you, and air out anything that's bothering you. That allows you to enjoy each other the rest of the week without harboring resentment. In my first marriage, my then husband would not open up and talk to me. If I tried to talk to him about what was bothering me, he told me to quit nagging him. He refused to talk to me or to see a therapist together, so after 17 years, all that was left was animosity and contempt between us. It was sad. I am trying to do it right this time, and so far, I am amazed at the love we have for each other. It continues to grow and is the bright spot in my life. May God bless your marriage.

Tyesha Sewer- Matthews from MOSS POINT, MS on September 24, 2012:

This is my 1st marriage and I just want it to last forever. I love my husband, yet how do we work out our issues without offending one another? I can see you are very happy and have many answers for a rookie like me;)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on September 21, 2012:

TyeshaMatthews,

Thank you so much for your comment. I feel we are blessed as well. Some days I have to pinch myself to believe that the fairy tale has come true for us. I am happy to hear you are 80% of the way there. Most people aren't even close!

Tyesha Sewer- Matthews from MOSS POINT, MS on September 17, 2012:

I would love to have that kind of love. I can say I am 80% there. You two are beautiful and blessed.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on September 04, 2012:

Thank you butterflystar. He really is a wonderful guy. And he supports my writing more than anyone else, which makes me even happier!

butterflystar on September 04, 2012:

This is sweet and beautiful.:)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on August 23, 2012:

Trish303,

You are most welcome. You might want to try writing a hub about him. When I wrote this, my husband was very touched, and he loves to read the comments about it as well! Thanks for stopping by and commenting. Congratulations on 5 years, and happy anniversary a bit early!

Brenda from Springfield, MO on August 23, 2012:

This is so sweet. Thank you it reminded me why I love my husband so much. our 5 year anniversary is coming up next month . we got married in very hard times. He haw been a wonderful husband and father. Thank you for the reminder.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on August 22, 2012:

KellyMediaBest,

I totally agree. What's wrong with making a woman feel like she is special and cherished? The guys reap the benefits in the end too because we women appreciate it so much. Too bad some of the selfish ones can't see that! Thanks for commenting!

KellyMediaBest from Tampa, Florida on August 22, 2012:

After having a boyfriend that would say "so you want everything else in life equal, but you want me to do "such-and-such" for you, how come you never open the door for me?!" It really made me kind of mad. Now I'm with a guy that does do the little things like carry the heaviest bags, open my car door before getting in, and always has be enter before him. I love it and its one of my favorite qualities in him. Men should be chivalrous!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on August 17, 2012:

Thanks Marsprofane8, and yes, I believe he does love me a lot. But we belong to a mutual admiration society! Thanks for your comment.

Marsprofane8 from Abuja on August 15, 2012:

Your hub is beautiful Karen! Wow, your husband must love you a lot.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 29, 2012:

Aw sltey49, don't be jealous. Maybe if he reads it he will improve in at least SOME of the 6 areas? Thanks for reading and commenting.

Sandra Gonzalez from Miami, FL on February 29, 2012:

I'm going to have a serious talk with my husband; he only meets six of these and has a long way to get to the other six qualities you mentioned. I'm jealous!! LOL

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 27, 2012:

Thanks roxanne459. We both agree!

Roxanne Lewis from Washington on February 26, 2012:

You are both very blessed! ;)

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 22, 2012:

teaches12345,

Yes, we are both blessed, and the great thing about it is that we BOTH realize it. Our marriage, so far, has been an absolutely wonderful one, and we have some adventures coming up in the future so I can't wait to see how they turn out. I am sure I will write a hub about it! Thanks for your comment.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 22, 2012:

grinnin1,

I agree...what a guy! Thanks for the compliment. It comes easy when I am writing about something (one) I love!

Dianna Mendez on February 22, 2012:

What a beautiful hub and such a testimony of your life and love. Your husband sounds like a very caring and sensitive person and one who adores you. It is good to hear how you two complete each other. You are blessed indeed.

grinnin1 from st louis,mo on February 22, 2012:

What a guy! I think, because of all of the things you mentiones, a lot of times it is the man in the marriage that makes it a good one. Kind, selfless men are hard to come by. Its wonderful that your husband is able to show you he appreciates who "you" are in kindhearted ways. Great hub!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 21, 2012:

alexadry,

Yes, he read it a few hours after I wrote it. he has always appreciated and encouraged my writing, but LOL, a lot of it is about him and all the positives he has brought into my life, so it's no wonder he likes it! Not only did he like the hub, but he's enjoying the comments as well.

Adrienne Farricelli on February 21, 2012:

This is a great hub, did you husband get to read it? I am sure he would be happy to hear your so appreciative, if all women would be like you there would be less divorces!

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 21, 2012:

FordeAhern,

Thanks so much for your kind comment. We both feel blessed. I wish this kind of love for everyone.

Karen Hellier (author) from Georgia on February 21, 2012:

donnaisabella,

I will do my best to keep the love and romance. I wish everyone could be as happy as he and I are. Thanks for the comment.

FordeAhern from Broadford, Co. Limerick. ireland on February 21, 2012:

O my god, your hub is beautiful. I will be bookmarking it so that I can go back and read it again and again. He is a lucky man and you are a lucky woman. just a beautiful read. voted up and beautiful