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50 Years Of Marriage. When We Were Young.

Our first car

Our first car

 When We Were Young

When We Were Young

When We Were Young.

We would take anything anyone would give us to set up our home. We had absolutely nothing. Our families were not rich. My family was military. I was only 17 and he was 20. He was getting out of the military and we were heading to his home in Wisconsin from El Paso, Texas.

Married 50 years now. We received premarital advice from a chaplain on a military base, we took a test etc. We only knew each other three months. Our wedding was on Saturday. On Wednesday he told us we weren't ready for marriage, to young and different religions. He decided he wouldn’t marry us. We had to find a different chaplain. We married on Saturday as planned. We had a small military wedding in a small chapel on base.

We were also married just before the Cuban Missile Crisis. It was a scary time. My Dad and my husband were both on alert because of Fidel Castro and Nikita Khrushchev. My husband's unit was getting ready to ship out to Florida. I was a military wife for a short time. This was one of the scariest times in history. Though we were never attacked, as everyone knows it came very close.

We were lucky it ended and everyone was as safe as they could be in those times. The cold war continued.

We stayed in El Paso until December then we hit the road. It was just the two of us and our little puppy, Lindy. We adopted her from the animal shelter. The picture is of Lindy in her little pink bonnet.

His mom was so kind to put up with a new puppy in her house. He brought home a new wife and a little puppy. A wife who got homesick for the warmth of Texas. They didn't know me at all and had no idea what kind of person I was.

When we were young. Missiles in Cuba

When we were young. Missiles in Cuba

Lindy Our First Dog

Lindy Our First Dog

Our Stop In Arkansas.

Our first stop on our way to Wisconsin was at my grandmother’s home in Arkansas. She loaded me up with whatever items she could give us and gave me some family pictures too. The morning we left her home she made fried chicken for us to take along so we wouldn't have to spend money on food.

There were not lots of fast food places around then. If we stopped it would have to be in a restaurant and spend money we didn't have.

We even picked up a hitchhiker on the way, a soldier who was going not too far up the highway. We would never pick up a hitchhiker now. Everyone always helped soldiers in those days. My husband often hitchhiked home when he was on leave and in the military.



Our Arrival In Wisconsin

We arrived at my husband’s hometown a few days later. First we stopped in St. Louis to see an aunt and uncle. He was also a military man.

I was welcomed into his big family with big bear hugs. I still think about how they all tried to welcome me by making fried chicken because I was from the south. It was good, but they fried it and then cooked it in the oven for a while.

We tried to stay, but as a few months went on we knew there was not enough work. We decided to head for California. My husband's brother said he could get him work as a carpet layer in California. We took out a small loan of $100.00. The loan got us to California with money left over. I think gas was .25 cents a gallon.

My mother-in-law gave me extra linen or anything she could find to add to our home goods. As each mother and grandmother said good-bye to us you could see the worry in their faces.

His Family

His Family

Our Drive To California.

It was a fun trip. We did run into snow in the mountains, south of Amarillo, Texas in New Mexico. There was a semi in front of us and we stayed close to him so we could get through safely. Finally, we had to stop and we could only stay at a cheap motel. The place was creepy; I thought for sure any minute someone was going to come through the door. It was like the Psycho motel. Thank goodness, I had not seen Psycho. Don't even know when the movie came out. We came out of the little motel alive and laughed about it later.

We stopped in Texas to see my parents. My mother added to our goods. We went down route 66 heading for California driving a pink 1957 Ford Fairlane. My photo may not be exactly right, but it gives you an idea of what we were driving. The roads were wide open with no traffic. We came up on a couple guys in a convertible and they wanted to race. Of course, my husband being a little on the wild side raced them. We pulled into Mesa, Arizona and the cops were waiting and pulled over the guys. We drove on passed and waved as we drove by.

The Ford We owned

The Ford We owned

Arrived in California,

We arrived to stay with my husband's brother and his family. My sister-in-law also gave what she could. I'm sure hoping all along we wouldn't be staying with them long. She also showed me what I needed to buy in food and how to set up my household. We also hit rummage sales. She was a big help to me. I will always remember her for that.

My Grandparents Were There.

My grandparents lived in California and we went to visit them at least once a month. They were my grandparents on my dad's side. Grandma also gave me whatever she could and they had very little to give. I still have the little teapot she gave me. I never ask for anything, but they just handed over to us. They all seem to think we needed the help. I was thankful for everything I got. She made real fried chicken every time we would visit. When the chicken would puff up in the pan, she would tell me it had been killed on a full moon. They were also Arkansas grandparents but had moved to California in the 1940s for the jobs.

I never forgot how she swatted black widows with her hand. She wasn't afraid of those little monsters. Grandpa sat in the garden under a tree and told my husband about the old days. Sometimes my cousins would be there. It was always fun to visit.

Grandpa and Grandma

Grandpa and Grandma

My Old Cookbook.

My husband’s aunt and uncle also lived in California. They added a new cookbook to our stash. I still use the cookbook to this day. My husband says I didn't know how to boil water when we got married. I did, really I did.

With all the items, we set up our apartment. It wasn't that I didn't want new, I did. In the early days,we were grateful for all the items we got which were free

I remember how we would dig through the cushions looking for a dime to buy an ice cream cone when we heard the ice cream truck coming. Do they have ice cream trucks anymore?

My First Cookbook

My First Cookbook

Back to Wisconsin.

These are our stripe photos, remember those? I think they're still around and often at weddings.

We ended up moving back to Wisconsin three years later and this is where we stayed.

My husband learned a trade while in California and we raised our family with this trade for many years. It wasn't a wasted trip for us. We also brought home a cute little baby boy.

Young adults nowadays do not want anything old. Offer to give them something and see how fast they turn it down. At least, this is what I have found out in our family. They want to start out with everything new, including new cars. We made our mistakes to buying a new car when we shouldn’t have. Better to start out with old then add new as you can, at least for a while in a new marriage. I think the economy is going to be hard on the kids nowadays they are all so used to getting everything new. They want so much so fast and maybe this is what our parents said about us. We weren't perfect and sure didn't always handle money well.

Our First Son

Our First Son

50 Years of a Happy Marriage.

I guess after fifty years I can give some advice, but you sure don't have to listen to me. I'm not a good advice giver. I have believed all my life bragging brings bad luck. It's a superstition of mine. I'm not bragging just telling you how we did things in our marriage.

Like they say marriage is never easy. We were young and dumb about many things but loved each other. I was a spoiled brat with a temper. I wonder often how he put up with me. There were also times I had trouble putting up with him. I remember the many speeding tickets he got. I once ask him when he was going to grow up and stop getting tickets we couldn't afford.

I also didn't make a big deal out of gifts. I liked anything I got even if it was something for the house. He was good to buy a piece of jeweler here and there when we could afford it. What he did do for me was pick me up a soda in town and still does or comes home with a sundae from Diary Queen. He once brought home a pure white fluffy kitten. It's the small things you do for each other which mean so much.

We always kiss goodbye or hello. We kiss before bed. We kiss when we wake up in the morning.

Be open to saying I'm sorry when you need to but don't say I'm sorry over every little thing.

When you want something or want something done ask for it. Don't make her/him guess.

Our plans when we got married, to stay together the rest of our lives. We always worked at our marriage. There were things we would not put up with, cheating or abuse of any kind. If he did either one I would have walked out of our house with our children and never looked back. I'm a night owl. I never let him control when I went to bed. I know women who do let their husbands control that.

I never looked in his wallet. We didn't have cell phones to check. I just trusted him and he trusted me. He came home from work most of the time which I didn't make a big deal if he stopped for a beer here and there. If he started to do it too much I let him know I wasn't putting up with a drinker. We had a few tiffs over this.

One thing we always did was stick together when it came to our kids or family members. I may not have liked the way he punished the kids, grounded for a month is a little excessive!! I would wait and then tell him later I thought he was wrong. He would then talk to the child and change the punishment. I also made my mistakes with the kids and he would let me know. We didn't argue about the kids in front of the kids or let them hear us.

We always did things with our kids. He would take the boys ice fishing and hunting. Daughter and I would go to lunch and shopping or visit friends when the boys were gone. She was like me hated ice fishing.

We always did things together as a couple bowling, snowmobiling, traveling, and fishing. We would get away from the kids to go fishing on Lake Superior or some kind of small trip. I loved my kids, but every married couple needs a break.

The most important thing we did was doing things without each other. He bowled, played cards, snowmobiling with the guys, hunting or fishing. I bowled, played cards, went to ceramic class and many other classes with friends, went to the movies with girlfriends. You always need time away from each other. I think it recharges a person.

Another thing he did for me. He would take care of the kids so I could go and do the things I enjoyed. He changed diapers or whatever had to be done.

My husband always had three jobs. When he would plow snow in the winter I would get a babysitter and go with him. It was a good time to visit while the kids weren't around.

It's always good to have fun and do things with other couples whether it's going on trips or just to another town for shopping. Try to keep couple friends through your marriage. You find out very fast you lose friends either from death, divorce or moving away. I think having friends is important in a marriage so your life doesn't get dull.

We had many hardships in our marriage. They seem to just make it stronger for us. Life wasn't perfect.

This is all I can tell you about our marriage. So after all these years I know very little. I often see wives passing out advice on how great their marriage is and telling people what they should do when they have only been married ten years. Ten years is nice but not long enough for a person to be giving out advice.

One thing I do know back in the 60s many of us married young or right out of high school. We have many friends who have hit the 50 mark. I think being married 50 years will be a thing of the past.

Money And Staying Home.

I have seen so many problems with money in young couples. They don't share. They each have his or her money and one is always selfish about their money.

Our money went into one account and one of us took care of the bills. We shared with each other what was going on with the money.

We decided as soon as our first baby was born I would stay home with him. We had less money, but we just couldn't stand the thought of leaving him with someone else. My husband never accused me of sitting around watching soaps on tv. He also never believed the money he made was just his it was ours.

I have seen so many young men believe their money is theirs when they have a wife that stays home instead of working, accusing her of being lazy.

Our Many Hardships

Our youngest son was a very sick baby. Our own doctor said he didn't expect him to make it to two, but he did.

December 2001 our son had a traumatic brain injury and was not expected to live. He was in the hospital two months. He made it.

December of 1983 I had two heart attacks and was not expected to live. My husband I know wondered how he was going to take care of two children left at home. I was 38 at the time. I was in the hospital a month. The day I got home he started taking care of my medication. I took at least 30 pills a day so my pill case had to be filled weekly. He took care of this from the beginning.

It was December of 2013 he had a cough he couldn’t get rid of. He also started to have dizzy spells. It was lung cancer. One day in 2014 I noticed he was have trouble doing my pills. I ask him if he wanted me to take over and do my case. He was happy to have me do it. The lung cancer had spread to his brain. This was our last hardship together.

There were many small hardships between all the big ones to many to mention. We got through all of them. Now we have another hardship to face. Many couples face much worse than we have, some have lost their children the worst kind of loss for a married couple to go through.

We stayed together and did not give up. I think nowadays couples give up to fast on such small problems. Maybe upset with hubby because he forgets a birthday or hubby says she is too busy with a baby and doesn't give him enough attention.

I believe in divorce, many times it is necessary. It didn't happen to be something we ever thought about.

52 Years of Marriage.

On Dec.16, 2014 my wonderful husband passed away. I miss him everyday. I think God for the years we had together. He always made me feel safe.

When I now have medical problems he’s no longer waiting for me.

© 2011 moonlake


Holly from Boise, ID on February 17, 2019:

What a beautiful love story. This left me in tears, but has so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing.

moonlake (author) from America on April 03, 2016:

Lowell, Thankyou for stopping by. We don't see as many celebrating their 50th anniversary. I appreciate your comment.

Lowell Trotter on April 03, 2016:

I enjoyed reading this. These are great life lessons. My wife and I will celebrate our 50th in August of this year. We are turning 70. We have decided that it isn't yet the beginning of the end but is likely the end of the beginning to quote W. Churchill.

moonlake (author) from America on May 19, 2015:

TIMETRAVELER2, Thank you today was a had day. I will make it through and it is getting easier each day. I you stopping by.

Sondra Rochelle from USA on May 19, 2015:

Your story is proof positive that life passes us by in a heartbeat. We all go through terrible times and are able to overcome many of them. However, sooner or later, one of them gets us. At least you were able to have a loving marriage for many years. Many never get that. Stay strong. He is watching over you and will help you get through this. I know, because I was widowed 28 years ago when I was just 43. Now, at 72, I pray every day that my wonderful current marriage will continue on forever.

Country Sunshine from Texas on December 22, 2014:

This is such a beautiful story of your marriage, and of your love for each other. Times have changed so much; it seems that many of the younger generation give up on their relationships without trying to make them better. Most things can be worked out.

Blessings to you this holiday season. Thank you so much for sharing!

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on December 22, 2014:

What a journey you began as you traveled from Texas to Wisconsin. How lovely that you were given things along the way including that fried chicken to fill your tummies.

So glad you survived the "Bates" motel!!!

Congrats on 50 years together.

Angels are on the way and Merry Christmas to you ps

Mary Hyatt from Florida on December 22, 2014:

I cannot begin to tell you how much I loved reading about your 50 year marriage! It reminded me so much of my own marriage. Like you, we depended on family and friends to help us out. I loved all your old photos, too.

I still have my cookbook just like yours that was a wedding gift. It is coming apart, but I still use it all the time.

I hope and pray your hubby will be just fine.

Voted UP, and shared.

LongTimeMother from Australia on December 22, 2014:

Today moonlake quietly mentioned her husband passed away on Tuesday (in a forum thread https://hubpages.com/forum/topic/127528 .) Thank you for recording the story of your marriage, moonlake, so we could share a little of your magnificent love.

This hub will always be one of the most beautiful tributes I have ever read. You, your husband, and your marriage are an inspiration. What a wonderful 50 years you shared. I am so sorry there will be no more anniversaries ... only memories.

Love to you and your family.

moonlake (author) from America on September 14, 2014:

JayeWisdom, thank you we sure hoping we will enjoy more anniversaries together. When young and in love you never think of the hardships your family may have to go through. Every family has them.

Thanks for the vote.

moonlake (author) from America on September 14, 2014:

DealForALiving, your welcome and thank you so much for visiting my hub.

moonlake (author) from America on September 14, 2014:

vandynegl, that is true and thank you so much for stopping by. I appreciate it.

moonlake (author) from America on September 14, 2014:

PegCole17, thanks so much I and thank you for stopping by.

Jaye Denman from Deep South, USA on September 14, 2014:

Moonlake - I enjoyed reading your reminiscences of a young marriage and growing older together. You've certainly earned bragging rights should you want to use them! It's obvious that both you and your husband shared similar values and were equally committed to your marriage, each other and your family. I hope his health improves and that the two of you enjoy more anniversaries together.

Voted Up++++


Nick Deal from Earth on September 14, 2014:

Congratulations! And thank you for sharing some of the story with us as readers.

vandynegl from Ohio Valley on September 14, 2014:

Great advice and so true! I have been married 9 years, but we were together quite some time before that. It is amazing how the marriage evolves over the years and the lessons you learn together. I think the most important part of a marriage is communication. If you don't have that, you can't get through anything.

Thank you for sharing!

Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on September 14, 2014:

This story of your early life and marriage is tender and warm hearted. You have lots of great advice to share with this generation about steadfastness, thrift, perseverance and love. Beautiful.

moonlake (author) from America on September 14, 2014:

Au fait, thank you for stopping by. He's not doing real well. It's long days and lots of doctor visits. He has to use a walker now. His legs just give out on him, he's so thin. There's so much he wants to do but just can't. I apprecate all the prayers from HP he can use them all.

C E Clark from North Texas on September 13, 2014:

Had to come back because I realized I forgot to vote this up, awesome, beautiful, useful, interesting, and to share it on HP and post it on FB. Now it is!

C E Clark from North Texas on September 13, 2014:

I think you have more wisdom here than you think. After all, you have made it through and beyond 50 years, and not many people do that anymore. Really enjoyed reading this.

I think second hand can be worthwhile with a good many things, not just saving money. Especially furniture, which I believe has more character when it has been refinished. You have a really excellent article about decorating with garage sale finds. I like the old cookbooks too. Seems like people are forgetting how to do a lot of things, even the basic ones.

There is a Hispanic man who appears to be middle aged from what I can see of him under his large straw hat or sombrero (he usually wears one or the other) who pushes a little freezer wagon full of ice cream treats all around this part of our city. He comes to this apartment complex everyday starting as soon as it warms up very much in the spring. There is another large apartment complex right next door. There is also an ice cream truck that comes here once in a while and it plays music so that everyone will know it is here.

I hope your husband will be as well as possible. I often think about you and wonder how things are going. I know there are many people here at HP who are praying for you and your family for the best possible outcome. Best wishes to you always . . .

moonlake (author) from America on June 25, 2013:

Thelma Alberts, Thank you for stopping by. It is hard to try and make it when your so far from family. I remember having the first baby without my family being around. I appreciate you kind comments.

moonlake (author) from America on June 25, 2013:

pinto2011, Thank you so much I appreciate your comment it's very kind.

moonlake (author) from America on June 24, 2013:

rajan jolly, I guess most young people start out this way. We had a strong work ethic and I think that helped us make it through. Thanks so much for stopping by and for leaving a comment vote and share.

Thelma Alberts from Germany on June 24, 2013:

Moonlake, this is a wonderful story. I´m married for 32 years now. Reading your story brought me back to my own memory lane where I was very far away from my parents, relatives and friends for the first time in a foreign country with a foreign man whom I love. Life was difficult then with all the adjustment that my husband and I did. His family handed us things we needed in the first years of our marriage and I was thankful about that.

Thanks for sharing your lovely story. Take care;-)

Subhas from New Delhi, India on June 24, 2013:

Hi moonlake! You have experienced the relationship, togetherness, fighting, loving each other, getting habituated to each other, habits, food, fondness, longing that you are no more two but one. You are a perfect example like a pillar to our society from whom every youngster should learn to enjoy life.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on June 23, 2013:

An interesting read and it brought to memories the time we started our married life with next to nothing and being given things by our parents and relatives, when we set up separate home.

Interesting how these early memories stay with us all our life.

Voted up and interesting. Shared.

moonlake (author) from America on May 15, 2013:

Deborah-Diane, Congratulations on 42 years not many couples make it that long. Thanks for stopping by and for the vote.

Deborah-Diane from Orange County, California on May 14, 2013:

Thank you so much for sharing your story. My husband and I have been married 42 years. We lived in Texas for 25 years and in California for the other years. I loved your story. It seems as though there are so few people who have been married very long! Voted up!

moonlake (author) from America on April 06, 2013:

Doodlehead, Thank you. I saw your name and thought of my nephew we always called him Doodles from the time he was a baby. Thanks so much for stopping by.

moonlake (author) from America on April 06, 2013:

Careermommy, Thank you and thanks so much for stopping by. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

moonlake (author) from America on April 06, 2013:

Paul Kuehn, It is give and take and a lot of it at times. We all love our children but when they leave home all we have is each other. Thanks so much for stopping by and for the vote, pin and share.

Doodlehead from Northern California on April 06, 2013:

This hub was really fun to read. It gives a very "homey" feeling as one reads it. Thanks for writing it.

Tirralan Watkins from Los Angeles, CA on April 05, 2013:

That was such a nice recap of your marital life, moonlake. I love hearing about happy marriages. Congratulations on 50, plus, years! I also love the photos you shared. This is such a special piece.

Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on April 05, 2013:


This is an awesome hub and I thank you for sharing your 50 years of marriage. Unfortunately, I haven't been as lucky as you. My parents had been marrried almost 61 years when my dad passed away. A marriage that lasts is give and take, and in some situations a person has to really sacrifice something and almost be a martyr to keep a marriage together for a long time. Your story is extremely interesting. Voted up and sharing. Also Pinning.

moonlake (author) from America on March 26, 2013:

vespawoolf, Thank you so glad you enjoy my hubs I also enjoy yours.

Vespa Woolf from Peru, South America on March 25, 2013:

I agree, kissing and other affectionate gestures are very important in a marriage. What a sweet story about your uncle, although I'm sorry he had Alzheimers. I always enjoy your wise Hubs!

moonlake (author) from America on March 25, 2013:

vespawoolf, My aunt and uncle were married many years past us and when he was in the hospital recently, no matter what he would always put his lips up for my aunt to kiss him when she came in the room. He never made it out of the hospital and passed away. Though he had Alzheimer he never forgot the kiss. Thanks so much for stopping by and the share.

Vespa Woolf from Peru, South America on March 24, 2013:

This is a beautiful Hub. Old-fashioned values are being a thing of the past, which is sad because much can be learned from those who have marriages that last a lifetime. I especially like your advice of kissing often, sharing activities but also doing things apart and having couple friends. Also, not to be afraid to accept used items instead of always wanting something new. Voted up and shared!

moonlake (author) from America on November 05, 2012:

Eiddwen, Thanks for stopping by glad you like it.

Eiddwen from Wales on November 05, 2012:

This is so very beautiful and thanks for sharing.


moonlake (author) from America on November 04, 2012:

duffsmom, I could write a book with being a military brat and a long marriage I have enough to fill a book but I think it would be boring to most people. I enjoyed your visit thanks so much for stopping by.

P. Thorpe Christiansen from Pacific Northwest, USA on November 04, 2012:

What a wonderful trip down memory lane. Would love to see a book about your experiences. Very enjoyable. I have been married 42 years and like you have noticed, kids today want NEW everything. Your advice is sound and this hub was just great.

moonlake (author) from America on November 04, 2012:

Peggy thank you. My mom and dad were married on the same day as my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle made it to their golden but my Dad passed away before their golden. Thanks so much for stopping by.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 04, 2012:

Congratulations on your Golden Wedding Anniversary! My dad did not live long enough for my parents to celebrate theirs but my aunt and uncle did...and the 4 of them shared a double wedding.

moonlake (author) from America on November 04, 2012:

Just Ask Susan, Congrats on 25 years. So glad to have you stop by. Thanks for the vote and sharing.

moonlake (author) from America on November 04, 2012:

Peggy W, Actually we just had our 50th. When I first put this hub up on 10/01/11. I didn't have anything about how long we were married but it's a hub that keeps getting Zzz so I added the 50 marriage to it. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment I always enjoy having you visit.

Susan Zutautas from Ontario, Canada on November 04, 2012:

It's so nice to read about your life and learn more about you. I like reading stories about successful marriages. Enjoyed seeing your pictures as well. We married older than what you were and our 25th is at the end of this month.

Voted +++ and sharing.

moonlake (author) from America on November 04, 2012:

Denise Handlon, Thank you for stopping by and leaving such a nice comment. I appreciate it.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 04, 2012:

Came back to read this lovely story again and this time share it. We just celebrated our 42nd anny so you must have had your 51st. As you say, there seem to be fewer long time marriages around these days. There are good times and bad, but the history that develops over a long time marriage is priceless. Enjoyed reading about yours the second time every bit as much as the first time that I ran across this hub. Hope you have many happy and healthy years ahead of you! :)

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on November 03, 2012:

Moonlake-what a beautiful recount of your early marriage and how it has lasted. Wonderful for you. I love stories like this. When I first married at age 20 my husband and I didn't have a pot to ps in either and were grateful for all that the relatives offered. Our marriage did not last, but we ended up with two beautiful daughters from it. Rated up/I/A

moonlake (author) from America on November 08, 2011:


That is true they are visual I guess it comes from so much tv. Watching what celebrities do.

We also raised our kids the way our parents did except for more hugs and kisses.

They sure do follow their peers. No matter how hard you try and all that you do for your kids they can still do their own thing and get into trouble.

Susan Holland from Southwest Missouri on November 07, 2011:

I raised my kids the same way. I guess I should clarify and say a generalized "we," as in what I see allowed by other parents. I raised my kids the way I was raised (all of the things you listed above), but society interferes and our kids do follow peers and their behavior sometimes. They are a visual group. We were the group to be happy with what we got. :-)

moonlake (author) from America on November 07, 2011:


Thanks for leaving comment.

The thing is our kids weren't allowed to talk back and they had to watch their language. They were grounded if they were late. We ate dinner together every night. We ran what kids would call a prison now days. Our kids were happy and they had their share of freedom.

I think it's from them wanting everything to look a certain way. I guess my album didn't fit into that look.

Susan Holland from Southwest Missouri on November 07, 2011:

HA - I still don't have matching furniture. My mother made albums for all of us, too. I wouldn't dream of touching her hard work. It is a new generation, though. I guess we allowed them to back-talk and to "make their own choices" and now we are paying for it. Gotta love 'em. :-)

moonlake (author) from America on November 06, 2011:


Thanks so much for leaving a comment and a votes on my hub.

I know how you feel about the table we have also gave our kids things we thought they would cherish but they didn't.

I spent one winter putting all the old photos together for each of the kids and a granddaughter in their own album. Our daughter took hers apart and redid the whole thing in her own album. I have to say I was a little hurt.

Our granddaughter said to me yesterday she wants everything in her house to matchy match.

Susan Holland from Southwest Missouri on November 06, 2011:


This is a wonderful story of your first years of marriage, and I relate to it so vividly. I may be 20 years behind you in marriage, but like you and your husband, we were very young and appreciated any little thing someone in the family was willing to share. His parents gave us an old pea green vinyl couch and chair and my mother earned points at the grocery store to get a set of dishes for me - and these things made us feel like we really had a lot. There are so many other treasures we received, too. I still have some of those things. I am glad we were poor and earned our way in the world by saving for years for the things we got. Maybe our parents thought we were an "entitled" generation too, but I think it is worse today. I gave my son a two year old oak table and chairs for their new house. A month later, his wife, whom I do adore, sold it in a yard sale and bought a brand new table and chairs. My feelings were hurt, but I didn't say anything. I thought the table and chairs we gave them was a lovely gift for a first home even if it was used, but it wasn't their style. Oh well... Thanks for the story! Voted up, beautiful, awesome, interesting, and useful for the lesson within it. :-)

moonlake (author) from America on November 02, 2011:

Peggy W,

Congratulations on 41 years. We still also have items we were given years ago.

Thanks so much for stopping by and for the vote.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 02, 2011:

Congratulations on your 49 years of marriage. We just celebrated our 41st but got married when we were a little older than you. We were also given things from our families and still have some of them today. Never bought anything on credit except for financing our homes and cars. Good old fashioned values never go out of style! Voted up and useful!

moonlake (author) from America on October 11, 2011:

Phoebe Pike, Thank you and thanks for stopping by.

Phoebe Pike on October 11, 2011:

Beautiful memories and writing.

moonlake (author) from America on October 07, 2011:

marcoujor, Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. Thanks for the up vote.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on October 07, 2011:


This is a beautiful reminder of traditional values and I love hearing about your life. Thank you for sharing this uplifting message and voted UP & ABI. All my best, mar.

moonlake (author) from America on October 03, 2011:

Rosie2010, Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving comment. Didn't we all go ballistic with credit cards at one time or another?

Rosie Rose from Toronto, Canada on October 03, 2011:

Hiya Moonlake, thanks so much for sharing your sweet memories and priceless family photos. We still have those strip photo booths, but I think they are now in colour. I also have some black and white strip photos.. very nostalgic. I also started with second-hand stuffs, but went ballistic with new stuffs a couple of years after using credit cards. lol Great job! Voted up and beautiful. Cheers!

Have a nice day,


moonlake (author) from America on October 03, 2011:

Thank you, and thanks for stopping by. 50 years next year.

Uwant the TRUTH on October 03, 2011:

Such a young start and still married. congratulations. a beaufiful memory

moonlake (author) from America on October 03, 2011:

Gypsy Rose Lee, Thanks for stopping by. Glad you enjoyed the hub.

Gypsy Rose Lee from Daytona Beach, Florida on October 03, 2011:

Thanks for sharing! Sigh.........Memories you made me nostalgic.

moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2011:

Thank you,Cloverleaf and thanks for stopping by my hub and leaving a comment.

Cloverleaf from Calgary, AB, Canada on October 02, 2011:

A beautiful story, moonlake. What a wonderful trip down memory lane!

moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2011:

thoughforce, Thanks for stopping by. I also love old things.

I hate the clean house shows where they make people give away their treasures.

Thank you, for the up vote.

Christina Lornemark from Sweden on October 02, 2011:

I also got some things from my family and relatives when I started a new home. Since I love old things I have many of the things still with me even if I don't need them anymore. Things from special givers is and should be of great value. Thanks for sharing your story that became so vivid with the wonderful photos. Voted up,


moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2011:

Movie Master,

Thanks for stopping by and for the vote.

I know just what you mean about no money. I can remember my first set of dishes were melamine. I got them on sale and I thought they were so pretty. Now their very expensive to buy. Rachael Ray uses the big bowl on her show to toss her scraps in.

moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2011:

Seeker7, thank you for stopping by and for the vote.

Our oldest granddaughter stopped by today and she said when they remodeled their bathroom she got the cabinet for the bathroom from the paper. Someone was selling it cheap then she painted it to make it have that modern look. I was so proud of her.

I guess it shows she is growing up.

Movie Master from United Kingdom on October 02, 2011:

Hi moonlake, thank you for sharing this part of your life with us, it's simply lovely.

I remember when I was first married we had no money and everything we had was second hand, we never expected anything different.

thank you for sharing and voting up.

Helen Murphy Howell from Fife, Scotland on October 02, 2011:

This is a beautiful hub and beautiful memories of a time that may have passed forever. And yes some of the kids nowadays want it all new, expensive and yesterday! It's sad how many of them end up with so much debt before the marriage has even had a chance to start, and adds another stressor onto their relationship. And I have seen kids making all sorts of excuses not to take something because it is used!

Having said all that, there are the kids who seem to realise that building up from borrowed and given is not such a bad idea. There are a few furniture sales around here from time to time - with very good pieces of second hand furniture - and it's interesting to see that there are a few kids who browse around these places to buy things to set up home with, while alas, the not so bright ones, walk on by to the nearest big store to add more HP onto their monthly payments.

I loved this wonderful hub of yours! Here's hoping a few kids will read it and take excellent advice. Voted up + awesome!

moonlake (author) from America on October 02, 2011:

thejeffriestube, Thanks for stopping by and leaving comment. I agree with you not all young people are the way I describe. I said "At least that is what I have found out in our family." I actually don't know why their that way their Dad worked 3 jobs most of their growing up years. They had nice things but not everything they wanted. When their friends had their own snowmobiles our kids didn't have that.

Our oldest son tells everyone he had nothing but hand-me- downs which is completely not true. He never wore a hand-me-down in his life.

Our granddaughters and their friends wear $100.00 shoes. I hope the day never comes when they aren't going to get those $100.00 shoes. I worry about how they will handle it.

Dave from United States on October 01, 2011:

BTW, I'm 34 years old. Cannot come close to claiming I came from money, served 10 years in the military, starting at the very bottom, and made my own way. Just in case anyone wants to question my agenda.

Dave from United States on October 01, 2011:

I think it's funny how people say "They never had to live this way." Times change. Cost of living changes, People making 60K per year and spending 55K of that for essential necessities today are no different from the days when people made 25K per year and spent 20K or more for things that needed. Young people today are NO different than young people decades ago; they are all just trying to make a living. Unless they have a trust fund. :-)

moonlake (author) from America on October 01, 2011:

Cardisa, Your right they never had to live that way. They seem to always have parents who take care of them. Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving comment.

Carolee Samuda from Jamaica on October 01, 2011:

Thes young people don't know what it's like to live on little or nothing. They wouldn't last a day the way the way you did in those days.

moonlake (author) from America on October 01, 2011:

diogenes (Bob) Thanks for stopping by and leaving comment. I still also buy in charity shops and flea markets but not so much now we are starting to try and get rid of things. Our refrigerator and our washer and dryer are 20 years old. I love the look of the new front load washers but I will not go to one until our washer and dryer are without hope.

diogenes on October 01, 2011:

So true, and then they throw it away if it gets scratched and buy another new one. A little bit of hardship did people good back in the mid 1900's. They are much less happy today with all the materialism, junk food and alcohol. I still buy things in charity shops and flea markets and get much more pleasure from this than wasting money on the cheap rubbish they make today. May you have many more moons! Bob

moonlake (author) from America on October 01, 2011:

writer20, thanks for stopping by. I still have my 45 Elvis records. Thanks for the vote.

Joyce Haragsim from Southern Nevada on October 01, 2011:

I love this great read. My Mom bought me an Elvis Presley double record because I pleaded with her.


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