My Beautiful Lost Grand Daughter
I Fell in Love With A beautiful Little Girl
The first time I met this beautiful girl, she was two years old. We enjoyed each others company and we bonded instantly. Blood was of no factor with us, it was just a magical meeting of a 2 year old and a Grandmother.
When tragedy struck, it took our relationship away from her heart and arms as well as from me, her Grandmother.
Suddenly she was lost to us, and despite a large effort on my part, we have never saw each other again.
Memories we will never forget
My connection with this precious little girl came so naturally. It was extremely easy and the love on both of our sides came effortlessly. I never once looked at her and pondered a blood line. She also looked enough like my son to be his own biological daughter. Pictured below they looked like a happy and beautiful family, and that they certainly were. Never in our wildest dreams did we ever feel that fate would intervene so intrusively and violently that it would have everyone reeling with grief and disbelieve.
Mr. and Mrs. Richard L Jacobs Jr, and daughter Riley Ann LaBier
The Hardship Begins
July 30, 2013, seemed to be an ordinary day, or so it seemed. My Grand Daughters biological father who had not had a presence in her life, moved to his home state of Massachuttes. My daughter in-law got a phone call telling her that the biological father of her daughter was dead. It is unclear to this day whether he shot himself or died from an over dose of drugs. Little did any of us realize that this would set off a chain of effects that would be only one of three tragedy.
Our Family Tragedy Began as Our Lives Changed Forever
August 5, 2013 started out as many other days. My daughter in-law was somewhat upset over the death of her daughter's father. My daughter in-aw had also been diagnosed with liver malfunctions. Her liver enzymes were extremely out of normal range, and my son was taking her to John Hopkins for treatment.
My son left for work at 1pm, on August 5, 2013, as he usually did. He arrived back home at 10:45 that evening from work. When he walked into the house he called out Mandy's name and no one answered. He noticed her car was in the garage, but he got no verbal response from his wife.
He searched the house feverishly and finally when he got to the hallway by the bathroom he screamed her name. Here Mandy was lying on the floor, her one hand with the TV remote in it, her hand outstretched upward and it was stiff. She was dead and already in rigor. He called the paramedics as he cradled her in his arms.
A Sneak Attack
The only father my Grand Daughter ever knew was my son. After the coroner took my daughter in-law away, we took my son to his in-laws house. They promised my son he could move in there with them with his step-daughter Riley, But that couldn't have been further from the truth.
There was another plan in effect by Mandy's family, that would rock everyone's world and would end everyone up in family court.
While my son was saying goodbye to his wife at the funeral home, his sister in-law went back to her parents house where Riley was. She took Riley from her parents house and bolted with her to her house, although she knew it was Mandy's wishes for her to remain with her step-father. This was planned and she had no intention of ever returning her to her step-father. This became quite evident when my son contacted her and she hung up on him and called the police.
Eventually, my son found he had rights as a step-father, and in fact he was the only one that could apply for custody. Her Aunt could only apply for guardianship. So my son applied for custody in December of 2014, and I applied for visitation at the same time.
Tragedy at it's Worse
Between December 2014 and March 2015, my son and I attended court hearings, for our petitions for custody and visitations. Then on March 27,2015, the worst possible tragedy struck my husband and I.
Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think this could possibly happen to us. We are still reeling from the loss, and the grief, and it still today is difficult to comprehend that this really happened to our family.
A loss times three, leaves you standing in denial, that you don't really know if you can ever fully face.
Richard L Jacobs Jr and His Princess Riley Ann
The Horrible Tragedy that Left our Lives in Limbo
After my daughter in-laws death, my son moved home with us. Trying to work through his grief, and now fighting for his step daughter. My son was working at an Italian restaurant and every night he came home on time. The night of March 27,2015, he was late. My husband became very worried as he sat up and waited for him. Then a faint knock on our front door, and five Delaware State Policeman stood on our front porch. My husband instantly asked "Where is my son?" The officer responded, "I am sorry to inform you, that your son Richard L Jacobs Jr. was shot multiple times while sitting in his car, and he is dead."
My husband called for me, and all I could do is scream "NO, NO, NO!!!!!!!!! The past almost five years has been ups and downs of grief, and disbelief.
Our Lives Changed Forever
This tragedy in itself changed our lives forever. With my son gone now, I could not function and withdrew my petition for visitation. We still are grieving, and we have never saw our Grand Daughter again. Now all we can do is pray for her, that she has a happy life. One so young, yet one who has experience so much loss.
My husband and I lost our daughter in-law first, and then the little girl, that I knew as my Grand Daughter. I always called her "Baby Girl", and then the ultimate loss of loosing our beautiful son. Rick and I were always so very close. I lost part of my own heart and soul when he was taken brutally from this world.
A Love of a Little Girl Richard L Jacobs Never Forgot. His Tears for her are on His Grave Stone
Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on January 10, 2020:
Wow! Sorry for your loss after loss, after loss. I pray for your strength to move forward. Though the loss cannot be undone, may you find some inspiration here and there to guide you through the difficulties.
Liz Westwood from UK on January 07, 2020:
I am so sorry to read about all that you have gone through. Thanks for having the courage to write about it. I can not begin to imagine what you and your family have endured.
Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on January 05, 2020:
Susan, this is a heart-breaking story and I am so sorry to hear you have been through so much horrible loss. I know the loss will stay with you forever but I do hope the pain eases over some more time. My heart goes you to you and your husband also.
MG Singh emge from Singapore on January 04, 2020:
Thank you so much. Very touching and I was overwhelmed.
Susan (author) from Dover Delaware on January 04, 2020:
Thank you so much. So sorry for the loss of your son Jackie from Cancer. Loosing our children is a grief like no other, and a club none of us want to or ever thought we would be a member of. The grief can often be unbearable. Thank you for your comment and you will be in my prayers also.
Ruby Jean Richert from Southern Illinois on January 04, 2020:
I am so very sorry for your losses. Losing a child is the hardest hurt I have ever known. I lost my son Jackie last Jan. to cancer. I pray the healing process is soon and please know that we feel for you and wish you and family the best.
FlourishAnyway from USA on January 03, 2020:
I am so sorry about your tragic losses. I wish words could bring you comfort but sometimes they fall dreadfully short.
Dominique Cantin-Meaney from Montreal, Canada on January 03, 2020:
Words cannot even begin to describe how sorry I am. Such a sad and horrible thing to have happened. My heart goes out to you and your husband.