My Lost Grand Daughter
My Beautiful Step Grand Daughter
Love at first sight
I met this beautiful little girl,when my son Rick, married her mother Mandy. It seems I feel in love with her when I first laid eyes on her. Her eyes sparkled, and her smile could melt an ice berg. We bonded instantly. Although she was my son's step-daughter, blood did not seem to be a factor. With her and I , it was just a magical meeting of a 2 year old, and a Grandmother. It was almost in so many ways, almost magical.
When tragedy struck, it took our relationship away from her heart and arms, as well as from me, her Grand mother. She was lost to us. She was a lost Grand Daughter and we never saw her again.
Memories we will never forget
My connection with this precious little little girl came so naturally. It was extremely easy and the love on both our sides came effortlessly.
I never once looked at her and pondered a blood line. She also looked enough like my own son to be his own biological daughter. Pictured below they looked like the most happy and beautiful family. And that they were. Never in our wildest dreams did we ever feel that fate would intervene so intrusively and violently that it would have everyone reeling with grief and disbelieve.
Mr. and Mrs. Richard L Jacobs Jr. and daughter Riley
The Hardship Begins
On July 30,2013, it seemed to be a ordinary day, or so it seemed. My Grand Daughter's biological father who had not been a presence in her life, had moved to his home state of Massachusetts. My daughter in-law got a phone call telling her that the biological father of her daughter was dead. It is unclear to to this day, whether he shot himself,or died from an over dose of drugs.
Little did any of us know that this would be only one of the three tragedies that would end up tearing our lives apart.
Why did we loose Mandy?
On August 5, 2013, the day started out as most other day. My daughter in-law was somewhat upset over the death of there daughters father. My daughter in-law had also been diagnosed with liver malfunction. Her liver enzymes were extremely out of the normal range, and my son was taking her to Joh Hopkins for treatment.
My son left for work at 1 pm on August 5, 2013. He arrived back home at 10:45pm from work. He called out Mandy's name, but no one answered. Her car was in the garage, but he got no verbal response from his wife. He searched the house feverishly, and finally when he got to the hallway by the bathroom he screamed her name. Mandy was laying on the floor, her one hand with the TV remote in it, in the air, She was dead and already in rigor. He called the medics as he cradled her in his arms, tears streaming down his face.
The Hardship Began
On July 30, 2013 it seemed to ba an ordinary day, or so it seemed. My Grand Daughter's biological father who had not had a presence in her life moved to his home state of Massachusetts. My daughter in-law got a phone call telling her that the biological father of her daughter was dead.
It is unclear to this day, whether he shot himself or died from an overdose of drugs. Little did any of us, realize this would be only one of three tragedies of human life.
August 5,2013, started out the way most every day did. My daughter in-law was somewhat upset however over the death of her daughters biological father. My daughter in-law had also been diagnosed with liver malfunction. Her liver enzymes were extremely out of normal range, and my son was taking her to John Hopkins for treatment..
My son left for work at 1pm, on August 5, 2013. He arrived back home at 10:45 pm, from his work. He called out Mandy's name and no one answered. Her car was in the garage, but he go no verbal response from his wife. He searched the house feverishly and finally when he got to the hallway, by the bathroom, he screamed her name. He found Mandy lying on the floor, her one hand with the TV remote in it, already stiff from rigor. Mandy lied on the floor dead, as my son cradle her in his arms, and called the paramedics. She could not be revived.
A Sneak Attack
The only father my Grand Daughter ever knew was my son. After the coroner took my daughter in-law away, we took my son to his in-laws house. They promised my son he could move in their home with Riley. But that couldn't have been further from the truth. There was another plan in place by Mandy's family, that would rock everyone's world and end up in the court system.
While my son was saying goodbye to his wife at the funeral home, his sister in-law went back to her mother's house where Riley was and took Riley to her own home. When my son arrived there his daughter was gone. This was planned and she had no intention of ever returning Riley to her step-father, although that was her sister's wishes.
Eventually my son found out he had rights as a step-father. In fact he was the only one who could apply for custody. Her Aunt could only apply for guardianship. So my son applied for custody in December of 2014, and I applied for visitation at the same time.
My son and his little princess Riley
Tragedy at it's worse
Between December 2014, and March 2015, my son and I attended court hearings for our petitions for custody and visitations. Then on March 27, 2015, the worst possible tragedy struck my husband and I. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think this could possibly happen to us.
My son was working at an Italian restaurant and every night he came home on time. The night of March 27, 2015,he was late. My husband became very worried as he sat up and waited for him. Then a faint knock on our front door, and five Delaware State Policeman stood at our door. My husband instantly asked, "Where is my son?" The officer responded, "I am sorry to inform you your son was shot multiple times while sitting in his car, and he is dead."
The tragedy changed our lives forever. With my son gone now, I could not function and withdrew my petition for visitation. We are still grieving and we have never seen our Grand Daughter again. Now all we can do is pray for her, that she has a happy life. One so young, yet one who experienced so much loss.
This article is dedicated to our beloved son Richard L. Jacobs Jr, and his little princess Riley, whom he loved with all his heart and felt she was the best that life could offer.