Crystal is a Christian, Wife, Mother, Novelist, and former Behavior Specialist with an education in History and Religious Studies.
We all have our gifts...
I don‘t understand people who play favorites with their children, and I‘ll tell you why; It‘s because each child is an individual person with qualities of his or her own. One cannot be compared to another, because each has good qualities as well as negative, just like anyone else. The positives of one do not outweigh the positives of another, and vice versa. Am I the only one who's noticed this?
Here's the thing... I have five sons. They are each amazing and wonderful in their own way. They each are in possession of good and bad personality traits. They have each made good and bad decisions. They have all had successes and failures. Why? Because they are each human, just like the rest of the human population. One cannot be compared to the other.
Recently, in our family, we all kind of made a big fuss about one of the boys with his chosen career, and for good reason. He graduated Police Academy with top marks, and was hired by a good police department prior even to graduating. We are very proud of him. When I say "we", I mean the whole family. His four brothers too, not just mom & dad are all truly happy for him, and how well he is doing. But here's the thing; we are no less proud of or happy for any of the other boys for their accomplishments. They are all truly gifted, talented, hard-working individuals who always strive to do well.
My eldest son, is making a wonderful career as a butcher for a major food chain, and he loves his work. Probably because he gets to play with knives all day, but that's just a perk of the job. He's also really good with people, so for him, being in the public eye, performing a needed service is a great thing. He's worked hard and has come a very long way from the lost boy teenager he once was. I always knew he would be great at whatever he set his mind to one day and he is.
My second son is an excellent salesman, loves rock and roll, and enjoys working with the public, joking around and helping people, so he's in music sales, and does a mighty fine job. People like his personality, and he has an incredibly vast knowledge base of music and bands. He likes what he does and he's good at it.
My third son is into fitness and how the mind works, so he works for a health chain while going to college to study psychology. I have no doubt his intelligence and intellectual mind will do very well in his future career as a counsellor.
Fourth son, (mentioned earlier) joined the army at 17, served while still in high school and beyond and is now a police officer. In fact, he's the youngest to be sworn in to that city's police department history. Pretty cool.
My youngest son is a constantly evolving person. He is autistic, and has gone from being non-verbal at 5 years old, to being just as talkative as any other 19 year old, and graduated on the honor roll. He loves computer programming and is currently searching for the just right job for him. He will find it soon, I'm sure.
All of their jobs aside - as if those things weren't enough to make a mother proud - they are all also incredibly intelligent, caring, compassionate, dedicated, devoted, loyal and kind human beings who generally go out of their way to make sure the family is taken care of and help others who are less fortunate than themselves.
I always wanted sons just like them, and I am blessed to say they are exactly who I hoped they would be and I wouldn't change a thing about any of them. They are each and all my favorite son, and I wouldn't trade any of them for another if he were dipped in gold.
So why am I telling you all this? Because for those parents out there who show favoritism toward one child or another, please... stop it! A plant only grows if you water it and give it sunshine. Children - even adult children - are the same. If you want them to be healthy and thrive in the life you have given them, you need to nurture all of them. Otherwise, why did you have them in the first place? We don't have children until we get to the "just right one" and then nurture that child only. That's not fair to anyone. Not even to you, the parent, because you're missing out on seeing what wonderful people all of your children can become and having great relationships with them.
© 2017 C A Bennett