Cap's Celebration of Life

Updated on July 24, 2018
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Linda (Kaywood) Bilyeu is a self-published author. Her books are available on Amazon. She writes from the heart—there is no other way.

I salute YOU, Cap!
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Bidding farewell to a loved one doesn't have to be sad, gloomy, dreary and heartbreaking. At least that is the way my husband and I discussed we did not want our farewell to be like. We had both attended enough funerals during our life to know what we wanted and what we didn't want.

We did not want our loved ones shedding tears after we departed. We wanted smiles and laughter. We wanted a celebration of our life, not a mourning of our death. We wanted to be remembered for all the good we did during our life, not for the mistakes we made.

My husband, Dave, passed away on July 6, 2015 from prostate cancer. The cancer that men think is curable and are shocked when they learn that a man died from it. Well, I am here to tell you that even if caught in the early stages prostate cancer is sneaky and mean, so get checked! A PSA and DRE is mandatory for all men over 40 or younger with a family history.

My husband knew my love of writing letters. He knew I would be writing him a letter for his Celebration of Life service once he departed. I made sure and told him what I would include in the letter so that he wouldn't miss out on his tribute.

"Our family"
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Celebrate Your Loved Ones

For Dave's Celebration of Life, he wanted it private, with our kids and grandchildren only. We had a festive celebration in his honor. Dave was a meat cutter for Winn Dixie, the company catered a large tray of sandwiches to feed the family, which was very thoughtful.

We wrote messages on the sidewalk using chalk. We all dressed in red, white and blue, the colors of Captain America, Dave's favorite comic book character. We blew bubbles to Cap (Dave). We wrote messages on balloons and sent them to Cap. My daughter facepainted our faces with Captain America shields and symbols.

We had a collage of photos from Dave's life that was shown continuously on the TV. We had cake and ice cream. We shared stories, we laughed, we cried. I read my letter to Dave.

A Celebration of Life doesn't have to cost a fortune when it comes from the heart. Our family granted Cap's wishes and bid him a farewell that also helped to lift our sad hearts.

A Celebration of Life is however you want it to be. There are no rules. How your loved one lived, should be how they are bid a farewell. Dave was a kid at heart, so his celebration was perfect for him. I am sure Dave was waving from above as we were waving from below. I will continue to wave daily.

Dave and Linda - Florida Hospital Video

This letter was written before and after Dave had passed away. Some contents are tongue in cheek, some are humor that only him and I or the family understands. By watching our video above you will understand more about Team Cap.

I share this letter with you to show that when you lose a loved one, it is OK to smile again. It is OK to laugh again. This might not happen easily, but your loved one would want you to keep living while remembering them...this is a promise I made to Dave. I am trying my best to keep my promise.

Letter To My Husband

Hey, Mr. Ligler;

Even though I thanked you quite often while you were in my presence, I will once again show my gratitude via this letter, written from the heart. I cannot thank you enough for how much you enriched my life during our 18 years together. Thank you for all that you have taught me. Most importantly, thank you for creating Sunshine. I was a single mom of two young girls, along with my mother who was recently diagnosed with colon cancer. My mom, my best friend was battling the beast. You had been there with your dad, so you understood. It was a rough time in my life, but you became my rock. You stood by me and held me up when I was falling. I am so glad that I thanked you often for becoming my best friend when I needed a friend the most.

When we first met, you were such a grouch, but I kept telling myself surely this man has a cheery side too. I was correct, you just took your job way too seriously. I am still in shock that you never hit on me! You later told me that you had too much respect for me. You also told me that you thought I was Spanish. Hmmm? Made me wonder if you were disappointed that I wasn't...which I later found out that you were just as happy with this Arab chick.

We never did anything in the traditional way. Tradition was boring. We took chances, not foolish ones, sensible ones. One thing we both shared was an abundance of common sense. Maybe a bit too much according to the opinions of others. Another thing we had in common is that we did not give a crap what others thought - we didn't wait for shit to get done, we got shit done!

Sending balloons to Gramps, Dad, Dave, Cap...
Sending balloons to Gramps, Dad, Dave, Cap... | Source

Cap Is Gone But Never Forgotten

Our favorite story to share is when we got married. Once again we didn't go the traditional route. You needed a tax deduction, I needed health insurance, so we said “I do.” Oh, how I love sharing our hook up story. We took our weekend honeymoon before we got married on the following Monday evening.

We then had our celebration with friends and family the following Sunday. A Tim McGraw concert followed shortly, which we made sure we got seats up close and personal. Our finale was taking the girls to the beach for the weekend. A two week celebration, we knew how to ring in a marriage! Once again, thank you so much for the health insurance and you are welcome for the tax deduction.

There is a similarity between our wedding celebration and your celebration of life. Both events occurred on a Monday and the Celebration was on a Sunday. Coincidence, I am sure, but nonetheless well worth a mention.

Here I am, 12 years after we wed, this time I am traveling solo. We married in our home, it is where you were the happiest, our home is also where I made sure that you peacefully passed away. Today, July 12, 2015 I will celebrate your life with our children and grandchildren. Our home holds many wonderful memories. We shared many fun-filled gatherings with friends and family here. We welcomed grandkids and our children's spouses into our growing family. All of these memorable events in the same zip code!


Two Obit Words: Cap Nap

I believe we come into each other's lives for a reason. No matter how trivial or how crucial the reason is, we meet for a reason. I am so grateful I was part of your life and that you were part of mine. I am thankful that I am able to be part of Erin and Mike's life. I am so thankful for all the little chickies and for the little guy, Nathan (choo-choo) that became part of our family.

Sure, Erin and Jeremy did surprise us all with having 4 chickies in 4 years, they went from JEMEL to CLEM. One day Mich and David will reproduce (I did try to get them to hurry) … our grandchildren brought us so much joy. Faith, our firstborn grandchild did prepare us well for the rest of the grandkids.

Cancer tried to consume the past 7 years of our lives, but cancer did not define who we were. We found laughter even in the darkest moments. Humor was part of our daily regimen. Upon rising and resting, we found a reason to laugh.

We made so many friends along our journey which made the bumps along the way a bit easier to handle. You inspired so many people with your brave fight that your memory will remain in the hearts and minds of others for a long time. Cap lives on is an understatement. Cap is a hero to so many.

Team Cap is indestructible. No barrier of any type could stop me from making sure you had the best care and treatment. Together the two of us fought the war and I believe we won. We won, because even though we were told twice that you had just a short time to live, you beat the odds. We also won because of the way you took control of the situation when you passed. We were never patient people. You never liked to wait, you knew I did not like to wait, so you took back the reigns and said “FU cancer, I am not waiting for you, I am going now!”

Even though you were unresponsive during your last couple of days, your hearing was supposedly still intact...I am sure you were as proud of our offspring as I was, OK, I was probably more proud because I witnessed their actions. I am so thankful for all the help that Carissa gave us. I put her through heck. Bless that woman. I am thankful that David was able to get a ticket for Mich to fly home from Italy the following day to be here us. Bless her too. I am thankful that Mike helped to shave your face and I trimmed your hair before your departure. I am thankful that Jon helped to get you outside once a day to see the sunshine. I am thankful that Mich and Erin were there with me for your exit from this journey into your next one. Sure, our offspring might be a bit damaged now, but hey, good thing they weren't perfect to begin with. As we know, perfection is boring. As you said yourself, “Even Sunshine needs help sometimes” and she sure got it! You were blessed, Cap. I am blessed.

During your final hour on earth, which took us all by surprise, I was so unbelievably proud of you. My heart was so sad, yet it was exploding with pride and anticipation for what Team Cap had in store for next. Your angelic face and aura of peace and tranquility told me that you were OK. Thank you for that thoughtful and irreplaceable gift. You rarely put yourself first, you always thought of others, except with the TV remote, now it is all mine. Oh well.

As we now embark on our separate journeys of helping others, I believe we will cross paths again. How could we not? We are Team Cap and Team Cap lives on. I think of you every single day. I wasn't ready to stop fighting, but I was ready for Cap to rest. Sunshine still has so much fight left in her. You know I could never sit still.

I am thankful beyond words that I was chosen as the one to care for you. I have absolutely no regrets. I learned so many lessons along the way that I will make sure to remind cancer that it does indeed suck.

Rest well, Warrior. Stop by and say hello, but not by flying by and pooping on my head! :)

For your two obit words, I present you with ...”Cap Nap”

Blowing bubbles to Gramps
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© 2015 Linda Bilyeu

Which two words would you use in your Obit? Mine would be "Sunshine Out!"

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    • Sunshine625 profile imageAUTHOR

      Linda Bilyeu 

      3 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Happy Birthday Cap!

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      Daisy Mariposa 

      3 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)


      I revisited your Hub to honor Dave / Captain America on his December 15th birthday.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you, Daisy.

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      Daisy Mariposa 

      4 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)


      I'm remembering Dave / Captain America on July 6, 2016 ... one year after his passing.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I'm sorry for your loss, moonlake. Our husbands many be gone, but they will never be forgotten. Not a day goes by that I do not think of Dave.

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      4 years ago from America

      Beautiful tribute to your husband. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

      I lost my husband to cancer December of 2014.

      He soon couldn't walk. That was so hard on him when he couldn't get around without falling down.

      It has been hard living without him.

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      4 years ago


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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you, Dianna.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      4 years ago

      At first I was sad to read of Cap's tribute but as I continued to read my heart was encouraged by your words. You were truly blessed through your union with him. Your advice on smiling again is beautiful. The poem by DJ is such a beautiful tribute to his life. Thank you for sharing with readers so that we can have hope.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you, Glimmer. Dave is always with me...always :)

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      Claudia Mitchell 

      4 years ago

      It's always difficult for me to read tributes to people who have passed away, but I'm glad I read this. What a wonderful way to add to your celebration of Dave's life. A special relationship indeed.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi PS, I am so sorry for your loss. You have been such an amazing advocate to many cancer fighters by sharing your family's story. I, thank you. I am sending you positive, healthy vibes! XO

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi MM, If it wasnt for Cap nudging me I might never have signed up with HP. Just another gift he gave me. Thank you for thinking of me and for the wonderful years of friendship. XO

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you for the vote, Faith Reaper!

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      Patricia Scott 

      4 years ago from North Central Florida

      Hi I read this a few weeks back but could not respond as we were celebrating the life of a precious family member and the newness of it was so fresh I just could not.

      But this is as it should be...rejoicing, loving, celebrating after someone we treasure so much leaves us is truly what most is such a way to let go without feeling the overwhelming darkness that can settle least it has been for us.

      Hoping that each new day brings you joy.

      And congrats on your hubbie award!!! Angels are on the way this mornin g ps

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      Maria Jordan 

      4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Hi Sunshine,

      I cannot think of a better hub to come back to visit to congratulate you on your Hubbie award.

      I believe the Cap is even prouder of you, if possible.

      Love you, MM

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      Faith Reaper 

      4 years ago from southern USA

      Congratulations on winning your well-deserved Hubbie this year! My vote counted : )

      Happy dance for you! I know your hubby is smiling down on you always.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I heart you, Effer.

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      4 years ago from Carson City

      Damn girl.....I sobbed harder this time than I did the first. I'll not be reading this again for a while. Oh, but I couldn't resist reading it when it passed me by.......I've thought of the Captain often.

      I know you're OK and I know you also have your moments. That's just the way it is and always will be GF. The good part is that you are ready for anything and everything. You are the Queen from Team Cap....and you shine on like the stars on a clear summer night.

      Always at your side......Effer

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you all for your kind words, prayers, positive thoughts and for your support.

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      Christy Kirwan 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man, and your tribute is such a loving one. I love that you let him read your letter so that he could be part of the family's celebration of his life. Beautiful.

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      Demas W Jasper 

      5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Your family will treasure this Hub for years and generations to come. Well done. Cheers for a partnership that endures.

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      Nell Rose 

      5 years ago from England

      Hi Linda, sorry somehow I missed this. What a beautiful tribute to your Cap, he would be so proud of you! your celebration of life is awesome and wonderful, I hope you are doing okay, and your family too, nell

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      Ann Carr 

      5 years ago from SW England

      Wow, Linda! Up & everything and shared.

      How lovely to have such a celebration! Your letter is wonderful. You were obviously a great couple and my heart goes out to you. Condolences for your loss but huge respect for the way you're dealing with it.

      I believe it's important to celebrate a life rather than dwell in the grief, though that of course remains.

      I hope you are coping as you move on and I'm sure you are; you have a family around you and you have such a great approach to life. You are indeed aptly named Sunshine; it shines all around you.

      Best wishes and hugs to you.


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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Three words are acceptable, Peg...yours are great! Yes, there are many lonely moments, but I do learn to adjust...we do not have much of a choice. Cap is resting now, he fought quite a battle. XO

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      Peg Cole 

      5 years ago from Northeast of Dallas, Texas

      Dear Linda,

      Your strength and positive approach to all things serves as an example to everyone. The way you cherish each day and the time you spent with Cap is inspiring and meaningful. I am so very sorry for your loss and know that despite your sweet tribute and celebration of life that the nights and times alone are difficult for you. My heart goes out to you. I can't imagine my life without my dearly beloved husband. Thankfully, you two shared much joy and happiness during your time together.

      Love and hugs to you. Two words? So long (friend), well, three.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you, Jeannie.

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      Jeannie Marie 

      5 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. I did not realize your husband had passed away until today. I am afraid I have been out of the loop lately. I am so sorry! What a beautiful hub you wrote in his memory.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Padmajah, I think husbands and wives realize our strengths before we do.

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      Padmajah Badri 

      5 years ago from India

      This is really a must read Hub.Your thoughts enlighten how strong you are. Thanks for Writing.It is really important to recoup our life in spite of shock.Your hub must be read at that time.Voted up.Happy Writing! To be honest even I was encouraged by my husband to start writing in Hubpages.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      My husband gave me that final push to publish on HubPages, I am so thankful he did or else I might never have had the courage to do so. Thank you all for stopping by to celebrate Dave's life with me.

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      Randi Benlulu 

      5 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Linda, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. This was a beautiful, heartfelt tribute. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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      By O'Reilly 

      5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing. This will help lots of people going through what you have. Voted up

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      vasantha T k 

      5 years ago from Bangalore

      Touching story! appreciate the way you took this pain in a celebrating way! It's a lovely tribute to the loved one. May God bless you and your family with peace and happiness.

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      5 years ago from USA

      My condolences. dear Linda, on the loss of Dave. You Celebrex him as you should have and gave him a beautiful send off. I think my two words would be either "flourished anyway" or "loved cats."

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      Bill De Giulio 

      5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi Linda. So sorry to hear about your Hubby, Dave. Your letter really struck a cord with me and I am a firm believer in celebrating life instead of mourning a life that passes. None of us is getting out of this life alive! When my time comes I want people to laugh, cry, eat, drink, tell stories, have fun, look at pictures, watch video and remember and celebrate my life. I will do the same for my wife. I applaud you for your courageous outlook on life and for choosing to celebrate Dave's life.

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      DJ Anderson 

      5 years ago

      Thanks, Ruby.


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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Your story of love, life and loss is so very beautiful. DJ wrote a wonderful poem. I am typing through tears. Bless you...

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      Rebecca Mealey 

      5 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      A very good way to say "so long for now". I think it is wonderful that you celebrated Dave's life in this way. Blessings!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      This is too beautiful and heart touching and your husband must be feeling proud of you, wherever he is now!

      Don't have words to appreciate this emotional tribute.

      My last two words might be, 'Loved, Lived!'

      Thanks for sharing and may God bless you and your family with lots of happiness and Peace.

      Sharing this on HubPages!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      B. Leekley ... Prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and Digital Rectal Exam (DRE) both tests are used to detect prostate cancer.

      To all...each time I come back to read your comments, I have tears in my eyes, your comments hit home for me. I do appreciate each and every one of you. Thank you.

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      Brian Leekley 

      5 years ago from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA

      Linda, I have loved-ones with cancer. No deaths are imminent, but that time will come eventually for each. I will both mourn the loss and celebrate the life. I don't know if I will weep or smile more.

      What do the initials PSA and DRE stand for?

      The celebration of your husband's life, as you have described it, was beautiful, including your letter.

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      Sue pron 

      5 years ago

      the two of you, have always been my heros, RIP My dear friend Dave, God is watching over all your loved ones

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      5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      You are very inspiring Sunshine! I simply love your way of regarding life and death. My condolences to you and your family. I cried reading this but smiling at the same time. Hooray for your fighting spirit! I'm sure your loving Cap is watching over you. So, don't ever frown!

      Love from the sky. ~

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      Mary Hyatt 

      5 years ago from Florida

      It is hard to type for all the tears! I did not loose my husband to cancer, his was a sudden death and caused a big hole in our family that can never be filled. We had a celebration of life for him, too.

      You and your lovely family put up a good fight, I will give you credit for that.

      Sending you a big, big hug, friend.

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      5 years ago

      There are simply no words in my keyboard Linda . - I read this and watched the video and am amazed as well as overwhelmed by this witnessing of something that we all seek , True Love ! Dave . Rest in eternal peace and Linda , you are amazingly blessed ! Walk together forever !...........:-}

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      Faith Reaper 

      5 years ago from southern USA

      Oh, Dear Linda, what a beautiful life celebration indeed! I am one for celebrating life too. I want to have a celebration too when I am "Glory Bound" ...

      Thank you for sharing your beautiful love story. Your letter is the best of the best.

      Peace and blessings always

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      Martie Coetser 

      5 years ago from South Africa

      Dear Linda, this is the most awesome letter I have ever read. You are a role model wife and widow. No wonder Dave was such a warrior. Just being with you and your offspring inspired him to fight (FU) Cancer for so many years. You and Dave are stars that will never stop shining.

      RIP, Dave! You will live forever in the hearts of many people all over the world :)

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      5 years ago from australia

      This is such a wonderful tribute to you husband and I admire the way you farewelled him. It is inspiring and sad of course but filled with memories of true love and compassion and happy times. My condolences and thank you for sharing.

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      5 years ago

      My deepest sympathies. At a loss for words ...

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      5 years ago

      What a beautiful tribute to your husband! You have a love that is rare. How wonderful that you two people found each other. I love the celebration of life you had for Dave. I am sure he is smiling down on all of you. Take care and carry on-your family is fortunate to have you!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and love! #FUCancer

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      Audrey Howitt 

      5 years ago from California

      Linda, this is so inspiring! What a beautiful way to celebrate a person and their gifts to you. Hugs!

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      5 years ago from FL.

      Sunshine, My deepest sympathy go out to you & your family. Beautiful and sad tribute. May Cap Rest in Peace. xoxox

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      5 years ago from the beautiful south

      My condolences Linda. May God bless you and let you always remember your husband with smiles and not tears.

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      Deborah Neyens 

      5 years ago from Iowa

      Linda, your letter to Dave is a beautiful and touching tribute. You did him good. I'm sorry I never got to meet him; Team Cap has been an inspiration to me and my family. Rest in peace, Cap. F.U. Cancer!

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      5 years ago from Virginia

      Avengers Assemble! This is a wonderful wonderful tribute to Dave. I am sure Dave is having a wonderful time on his newest journey. Loved watching the attached video. I had a hard time remembering my HubPages password. Truly sorry for you and your family's loss. Well done Grasshopper....that goes to you Sunshine and Cap.

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      5 years ago from Carson City

      SFAM.....My eyes are blurred by tears of many emotions, but my heart is smiling for you, Dave and your precious family.

      Since first knowing you, I have stood beside you in awe of your strength and courage...both of you. I have been sad during hard times and applauded your victories. I always wanted you to know it was my privilege to lend my heart, shoulder and my hand.....Thank you for letting me into your life.

      I know, Linda....please believe that I know and I feel what you hold so deeply within. The love and wisdom you pass on to others who go through these toughest times in life....are the gifts that return to you now. Every person in your life...all those who have had the pleasure to know you & Dave and walk your journey with you, will be a part of your lives always.....whether here or beyond.

      I bid, "Farewell to Cap...the man, husband, Dad, grandfather, friend and Brave Warrior." Our love goes with you to hold close...until we meet again.........Peace & Comfort, Paula/ "The Effer"

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      Shauna L Bowling 

      5 years ago from Central Florida

      Linda, you and Cap had a wonderful life together. It's only befitting that it be celebrated. It's okay to be sad, but as you said, remember the good, not the painful. I love the way your family celebrated Cap's life after he passed. I'm sure he was smiling from above.

      You've both been so brave during Cap's battle. You're an inspiration for all of us.

      May you and Cap now rest in peace knowing he chose when it was time to go.

      Cancer sucks!

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      Peggy Woods 

      5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Dear Linda,

      I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Cap but I can tell from reading this that you believe in a life after this mortal one. It sounds as though you are surrounded by loved ones who also shared wonderful times with Dave. This was a beautiful tribute to not only your beloved husband, but also the way in which you lived your lives together and intend to carry on going forward. This is very touching and serves as a lesson to many of us as to how to live each day. Definitely sharing this with others! Bless you Linda!

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      John Hansen 

      5 years ago from Queensland Australia

      What a beautiful and touching tribute Sunshine. I am sure Cap would have been so proud. Well done.

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      JR Krishna 

      5 years ago from India

      Very touching letter. You both had a beautiful life. You were grateful and happy. This reminds me that I am not thanking my husband enough. I should count my blessings more often.

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      5 years ago from South Carolina

      Dear Sunshine,

      My obit words (though I never thought of them before) are "Eternal Love".

      Your Celebration of Life for Cap, so movingly described in this hub, is beautiful and indicative of the way you lived your lives together. Cap is, and always will be, an inspiration to so many, as are you.

      Your deep love for him was most palpable in this sentence: "I wasn't ready to stop fighting but I was ready for Cap to rest." Letting go is the ultimate measure of love and you did it with grace, humor and dignity, once again leading the way for others who will eventually face this tough path.

      May God bless you and your whole family as you face life without your beloved Cap. As you said, I'm sure he is proud of all of you and wants your lives filled with the love, laughter and gratitude that you all shared while he was still with you.

      Sending Love and Hugs,


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      Stephanie Henkel 

      5 years ago from USA

      Dear Linda,

      Thank you so much for sharing your Celebration of Life letter to Dave. It is so touching and inspiring, and an example of the best kind of memorial to someone who is deeply loved.

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      DJ Anderson 

      5 years ago

      Linda, your letter is beautiful and touching. I cried all the way through it. You and Dave packed a lifetime into only 12 years of marriage. You both had more challenges and outrageous fun than most couples can claim in many decades of being together. I admire your courage and

      positive outlook to find and focus on the beauty of the rose rather than their thorny touch. May your heart grow lighter each day and may peace continue to reside within you.

      Thank you for including the poem.

      With love,


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      Maria Jordan 

      5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Oh Sunshine,

      I will be back time and time again to absorb your words...this is my favorite letter ever- learning the love story of Sunshine and her Cap.

      I am blown away by the power of the love of Team Cap. I re-watched your video with totally new vision.

      I'll be e-mailing you when I dry my tears - I have some thoughts.

      You are amazing. Love you and hugs, MM

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      5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      I applaud your courage. R.I.P Dave.

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      That's the way to do it. Bravo! I love celebrations of life. Bravo! Of course you have my sympathies, Linda, but I am thrilled by the way you are handling this. We are only here for a very short time...we share with people...we love people...and we should be so grateful for the time we had with them. This is just a beautiful message, here, and I'm proud to call you a friend.

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      Barbara Purvis Hunter 

      5 years ago from Florida


      What a beautiful tribute to Dave. When I met you both in Orlando you looked so very happy---like newly weds. I am overjoyed I met you both because this hub of 'Celebration of Life' is how it should be done.

      I know you wanted all smiles and I did smile through my tears---so maybe that was o.k..

      I hope you and your family will enjoy life and keep celebrating it.

      Your friend,

      Bobbi Purvis

      I am sharing this with Twitter and Pinterest.

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      Kiss andTales 

      5 years ago

      Thank you for sharing your love and experience , death has always been a human enemy taking away the people we love from the heart. What has helped me when I lost someone close in that time

      Is to ask the heavenly Father to get me through it with his help, I did get through it and how he help me

      Was by reminding me that death can be reversed by him in his designated time.

      Like our birth that came about with out our control , we can return to the earth again , under his control.

      But under good and cleaned conditions that no sickness will take life again. Notice what he promises

      Re 21:4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”

      Isa 33:24 And no resident will say: “I am sick.” The people dwelling in the land will be pardoned for their error

      remember people that God love also has experienced sleeping in death , like Job who was very faithful , but Job Knew this very thing

      Notice ! Job 14:14 If a man dies, can he live again? I will wait all the days of my compulsory service Until my relief comes.

      Yes he knew that the heavenly Father would return his life and he would waite.

      Jesus paid for that provision for all humans to enter a clean and wonderful earth under his administration , May this bring you and your family great comfort in your time of sadness .

      Joh 5:28 Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice: 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, and those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.

      these words are faithful and true!

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      Country Sunshine 

      5 years ago from Texas

      My two words? Perhaps "Gone fishing".

      Reading your story brings back the memory of my husband's Celebration of Life / Memorial Service. It is such a great way to honor the life of your loved one, in the way you know THEY would appreciate.

      Thanks so much for sharing the story of the love between you & your Cap. Best wishes for your next adventure here on earth, until you meet again.


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