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A Life Not Yet Lived

This bench is easy to construct and is portable. It is an excellent spot to enjoy some cool breezes and hear the sounds of nature.

Sometimes I don't think it's possible that precious George is not on the planet. I often want to Skype him for help with some huge computer glitch I have that he would consider minor and would have taken care of in an instant.

Few walk this earth who are as unique and wonderful as George was. He had a way of making us feel special and important whenever we were with him. He focused his full attention on whatever it was we were doing or sharing with him.

I for one am so very blessed to have had the moments that I did with this most amazing young man.

We miss you every single day, George.

Harley and Ace ...his precious pups

WHAT A BOND...THEY LOVED EACH OTHER SO MUCH

WHAT A BOND...THEY LOVED EACH OTHER SO MUCH

What we have done for ourselves alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.

— Albert Pike

Ace and Harley Today....Snuggled up on Their Momma's Bed

My nephew's pups love their Momma (my nephew's Mother) who they have lived with since his death.  They are sufficiently spoiled...Momma puts a bit of dry food on the bed in their dishes for a snack.

My nephew's pups love their Momma (my nephew's Mother) who they have lived with since his death. They are sufficiently spoiled...Momma puts a bit of dry food on the bed in their dishes for a snack.

Death comes. It comes to each family each person and is a part of the cycle. Isn’t it?

We expect it when our family members are old and infirm and have lived many decades.

We expect it when our loved one has been ill for a long time.

We know that one day our time will come.

From the day we come into the world kicking and screaming or quiet and unassuming, we are one step closer to the end. Some try to defy the end by having cryogenics performed and who knows what else. But the fact of the matter is when the bell tolls, it may be for us. It will inevitably be for us.

It takes much soul searching to accept it when death comes totally unexpectedly.

This memorial is written to celebrate a life not yet lived.


This is an amazing rendition of this song most of us know so well

Ace loved his Daddy

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Harley is a Fluffy Love Bucket

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Stole away my heart

A nephew who has been such an important part of my life since he was born died suddenly one weekend

. He was the son of my sister with whom I have had a close connection since I was old enough to hug and squeeze her. (I do love and adore my elder sister but we never really got to know each other till I was an adult as she was much older.)

I changed the diapers of this nephew . kissed his boo boos as a young child and wiped away his tears.

When he and my other nieces and nephews came to visit, we spent time playing and learning and discovering along the waters of Broad Creek in Deltaville, Virgina where my first eighteen years were spent.

He stole my heart away when he was first born and as the years passed he became more and more a part of my heart.

He was always unique and marched to that drum that only a very few can hear. Too soon he was gone, his life not yet lived.

A Montage of Photos of My Precious Nephew in Life

About the Video

The sound from the video is no longer present due to copyright issues.

The photos do allow anyone who views them to have a bit of a glance into the life of this most remarkable loving soul who walked among us for few too many years.

....Over the rainbow

And now this part is just to you sweet sweet nephew....

At last, sweet and gentle soul

you have flown over the rainbow and

your dreams are now coming true......all of your troubles have now melted away....

you are forever in our hearts

.....'On the Far Side of the Sky....Will Spread My Wings and Fly...'

Unanswered questions

Death is a topic that makes many of us uncomfortable. It brings us face to face with our own mortality. It causes us to stop and think about our views on what happens after death . It causes us to consider if we do in fact believe that when life leaves the body if that is all there is...The end. Finito.

Does the spirit live on after the body has ceased to give life??

Will we be reunited with my loved ones after death?

Will we in fact be able to communicate with them after my our body dies??

These are questions that have plagued mankind down through the ages.

And each of us addresses these questions and answers them according to our own beliefs.

Lives changed....forever

It is especially troubling when a loved one who is in the prime of ife dies suddenly no warning. Here in our arms, talking with us and holding us, joking with us, comforting us. And then without explanation they are gone.

And our lives are forever changed.

A whole series of events unfolds.

That is where I am right now. And while I have faced the death of loved ones before, `the death that I am grappling with this week has caused not only me but all of those who loved this young man to come to terms with this loss and to begin the grief process.

Death is no more than passing from one room into another. But there's a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see.

— Helen Keller

Recycling King

My recycling efforts had been fair I thought. However they did not even come close to those of my precious nephew. He recycled everything he possibly could. He would even cut boxes down to fit in the recycling bin so that they could be reused.

Plastic bottles and containers, bags, metal, whatever could be collected and recycled was done so by him. So now I cannot look at trash in the same way thinking that 'O, this is just a small piece of paper.'

I know he will be watching and reminding me to find a way to keep as many things out of the huge mountains of trash that are already trying to choke our planet.

Brilliant mind

My nephew had a way of seeing outside of the box long before that became a commonly used expression.

He would consider and formulate and come up with a plan, an idea, a viewpoint, or an explanation that would lead to a solution the rest of us may have come to at some point.... but probably not.

He was a brilliant mind.

Plain and simple. He had learned to access the far reaches of his brain that most of us leave untapped.

That did not make him in accessible however. He was perfectly able to communicate with us on our level but I do believe he was most comfortable lost in his thoughts considering and pondering the thoughts as the great thinkers who were on the planet before him had done.

This life not yet lived extinguished but ascended to a higher level of existence.

That's what heaven is. You get to make sense of your yesterdays

— Mitch Album

Computer issues anyone???

If any of us in the family (and many who were not) ever had an issue with our computers or had some mundane question about using the computer, he would stop and answer.

He would often use logmein to see what was awry in cyberland.

He worked from home to take care of whatever need those in the business world may have.

I do not use the following term in a cavalier manner. He was a genius....in some many ways on so many levels. And can I just say once again:

With his passing is a life not yet lived.

But he packed a whole lot of living into the years that he was among mortals.

Unselfishly giving

When I describe his nature some may think that I have enlarged him beyond reality after his death. Such is not the case.

He was a gentle spirit. A gentle soul who loved passionately and gave unselfishly of his time and himself (and in monetary ways when he was able).

He would go out of his way to help in any way he could…Even if it meant putting himself out for our needs. He would put our issues our needs before his.

He eagerly listened to our ramblings on any topic and made observations that let us know he had really been listening not just hearing our words.

He was a one-in-a-million kind of a young man...and he will be missed every minute of every day.


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© 2013 Patricia Scott

Comments

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on April 13, 2015:

Yes ladyguitarpicker

time has soothed our wounds...and we remember the best of him while he was on the planet. We still miss him acutely but know his struggle is over.

Angels are on the way to you today ps

stella vadakin from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619 on April 12, 2015:

Sorry for your loss and I hope you are healing from this pain. I try and remember the good things about the person. Bless you, Stella

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 13, 2013:

Thank you, Moonlake, for your kind words.

My sister, his Momma, is here with me now and we talk of him and share our fondest memories of this most remarkable person who walked among us for far too long

Our lives were forever enlarged because he did. and while we miss him every day, we know he is no longer in pain.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on December 13, 2013:

Thank you, Moonlake, for your kind words.

My sister, his Momma, is here with me now and we talk of him and share our fondest memories of this most remarkable person who walked among us for far too long

Our lives were forever enlarged because he did. and while we miss him every day, we know he is no longer in pain.

Angels are on the way to you this morning. ps

moonlake from America on December 11, 2013:

So sorry for your loss. It's so hard to face the death of a loved one. So glad you shared the story of your nephew. It must have been a very nice man. Thanks for sharing your story.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on July 11, 2013:

Thank you, Peggy. It has been two months ago tomorrow that he left us . And we are all recovering and remembering the joy he brought us. We still cry when something triggers it but they are cleansing tears and we are resting well knowing he is no longer in pain.

Of all the hubs I have written this one was the most meaningful. I had to write it to share this glorious human being with others. Angels are on the way to you....ps

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on July 11, 2013:

Thank you for sharing a part of what made your nephew so very special with the rest of us. May you find comfort during your period of mourning and know that others care. Sending prayers your way.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 24, 2013:

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement, timetraveler...It has been six weeks since he left the party too soon and we are in recovery. Each of us is trying to find a way to put our lives together without him in the center of things He was such an important part of the day for each of us that his passing has left a huge void.

However so much good has come from it too. Family who did not know each other and family who has not been close for years have reconnected or connected for the first time. So he left us that legacy and for that we are blessed.

Angels in abundance are on the way to you...I know you understand this loss as you spoke of losing your husband.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on June 24, 2013:

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement, timetraveler...It has been six weeks since he left the party too soon and we are in recovery. Each of us is trying to find a way to put our lives together without him in the center of things He was such an important part of the day for each of us that his passing has left a huge void.

However so much good has come from it too. Family who did not know each other and family who has not been close for years have reconnected or connected for the first time. So he left us that legacy and for that we are blessed.

Angels in abundance are on the way to you...I know you understand this loss as you spoke of losing your husband.

Sondra Rochelle from USA on June 24, 2013:

I am so sorry for your loss, but please be comforted with this: He is at peace. He does not have to worry about facing the fear and pain of old age, he does not have to face what you now face...the horrible feeling you get when someone you love passes away. I lost a husband who died at age 47, and these were the thoughts that got me through it. I hope they will help you now. Blessings to you and yours.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 25, 2013:

thank you lastheart for visiting and for sharing your thoughts.

We are beginning to come out of the numbness and to feel the real world again. The good news is that we have been so embraced in love and caring that our journey away from sadness is not one that we are having to make alone.

Sending Angels to you this morning ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 25, 2013:

thank you lastheart for visiting and for sharing your thoughts.

We are beginning to come out of the numbness and to feel the real world again. The good news is that we have been so embraced in love and caring that our journey away from sadness is not one that we are having to make alone.

Sending Angels to you this morning ps

Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord on May 24, 2013:

pstraubie48 I came to your page because I saw a comment in one of my hubs (old one) about your plans to come to PR. I thought I would find something written about our Island.

Your words are written with much sadness, but at the same time you have given me with them comfort (I cannot explain why, though I do know). Your nephew must be happy to know how you felt about him and God must be proud of His creation. How wonderful for you to have lovely memories.

We are born and we die for sure. How we live is what matters and as I see he did live wise and with love. Thanks for sharing your spirit, may God bless you and your family.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you dgh,

My sister is on her way back to Texas. Angels are in the moving vehicle with them as she returns to live with her daughter again.

Each day we get stronger and move forth...

Your kind words help more than you know Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you dgh,

My sister is on her way back to Texas. Angels are in the moving vehicle with them as she returns to live with her daughter again.

Each day we get stronger and move forth...

Your kind words help more than you know Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

O, Randi

The good news is that we had all of the funfilled years with my sweet nephew, you know?

he was simply one of the most amazing, if not THE most amazing young man I have ever known and I am a better person because he walked this planet.

Saddened almost beyond words at his passing, we will not cling to the sorrow but move every day closer to the joy that new days offer.

thank you so very much for stopping by Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

O, Randi

The good news is that we had all of the funfilled years with my sweet nephew, you know?

he was simply one of the most amazing, if not THE most amazing young man I have ever known and I am a better person because he walked this planet.

Saddened almost beyond words at his passing, we will not cling to the sorrow but move every day closer to the joy that new days offer.

thank you so very much for stopping by Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

O, Randi

The good news is that we had all of the funfilled years with my sweet nephew, you know?

he was simply one of the most amazing, if not THE most amazing young man I have ever known and I am a better person because he walked this planet.

Saddened almost beyond words at his passing, we will not cling to the sorrow but move every day closer to the joy that new days offer.

thank you so very much for stopping by Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you so much Vicki

Just to know that others are thinking of us helps us to carry our sadness. And it helps us to begin to heal.

Once again we have been reminded that each day is a gift. and that moving forth we will honor my sweet sweet nephew's life by rejoicing in the goodness and love he brought to our lives. Thank you again for visiting. Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you so much Vicki

Just to know that others are thinking of us helps us to carry our sadness. And it helps us to begin to heal.

Once again we have been reminded that each day is a gift. and that moving forth we will honor my sweet sweet nephew's life by rejoicing in the goodness and love he brought to our lives. Thank you again for visiting. Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you, Thomas, for your kind words. Faith and I have communicated several times over the past few days. It is so cathartic to me to be able to reach out to others and have them respond. Just someone to listen offers a way to rid ourselves of the pain and to move forth.

We are so beyond words at the outpouring of love we are feeling.

Each day brings a promise of a new tomorrow and a reminder that life is so very fragile and that we should never ever take it for granted.

Again thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me....I share these thoughts that I receive here with my family.

Angels are on the way.ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 18, 2013:

Thank you, Thomas, for your kind words. Faith and I have communicated several times over the past few days. It is so cathartic to me to be able to reach out to others and have them respond. Just someone to listen offers a way to rid ourselves of the pain and to move forth.

We are so beyond words at the outpouring of love we are feeling.

Each day brings a promise of a new tomorrow and a reminder that life is so very fragile and that we should never ever take it for granted.

Again thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts with me....I share these thoughts that I receive here with my family.

Angels are on the way.ps

Thomas Silvia from Massachusetts on May 17, 2013:

Sending you my sympathy and condolences to you and your family for the loss of your dear nephew. Will keep you and your family in my prayers and thoughts. Found this hub by the way of our friend Faith.

May you find peace and healing soon .

deergha from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!! on May 17, 2013:

Well... my prayers and support during this difficult time....may God bless the departed soul ...dear friend.

Shared and votes way up.

dergha

Randi Benlulu from Mesa, AZ on May 17, 2013:

Oh Patricia, I am so very sorry to hear of your family's loss. I read this beautiful tribute with tears in my eyes. Angels, warm thoughts and prayers are making their way to you and your family.

Vickiw on May 16, 2013:

Dear pstraubie48, so sorry to read of your loss. I will pray that you and your broken heart and those other loved ones will manage to walk through this dark tunnel and come out comforted by those who care so much for you. It will take time. Please let me know if I can be of help.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Hi Jackie

Thank you so much for stopping by. I am blessed to have had this precious child who grew to be a most remarkable man in my life. Our lives have been forever changed because we have had the privilege to share our lives with him. He is indeed with the celestial Angels and is one of them for sure.

Angels are on the way. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Hi Jackie

Thank you so much for stopping by. I am blessed to have had this precious child who grew to be a most remarkable man in my life. Our lives have been forever changed because we have had the privilege to share our lives with him. He is indeed with the celestial Angels and is one of them for sure.

Angels are on the way. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a lovely message. Today was the day we sent him off to be with the Angels.

It has been a difficult week ...but we are so blessed to have so many reaching out to us to help lessen our pain.

Tomorrow is a new day and a new day to celebrate life and all that awaits us.

Sending Angels to you this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a lovely message. Today was the day we sent him off to be with the Angels.

It has been a difficult week ...but we are so blessed to have so many reaching out to us to help lessen our pain.

Tomorrow is a new day and a new day to celebrate life and all that awaits us.

Sending Angels to you this evening ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a lovely message. Today was the day we sent him off to be with the Angels.

It has been a difficult week ...but we are so blessed to have so many reaching out to us to help lessen our pain.

Tomorrow is a new day and a new day to celebrate life and all that awaits us.

Sending Angels to you this evening ps

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on May 16, 2013:

I know just how much you can love a nephew having one I diapered and helped raise too so I know your pain would be bad. Writing about it and sharing with friends is the best medicine as I learned after losing my mother and there is not a better place than here. God bless you and I hope your sorrow is short lived for there is a spirit world and to be absent from this world is to be present with the Lord.

Deborah Brooks Langford from Brownsville,TX on May 16, 2013:

Oh My dear soul.. I am so sorry for your loss.. I understand your pain but it doesn't make it any better does it? .. Like Faith said let's send Angels your way.. you deserve them.. so I have said a prayer dear Lord our wonderful Savior please send Angels to this kind soul that loves you so..

Sweet legacies of love for our sweet loved ones that are walking the golden shore.. dancing on golden paths and listening to Our Lord Jesus sitting as His feet.. Singing of His glory.. No more hurt or pain will they ever feel. so Heartfelt laughter and glorious love for ever and ever ..will be..

Jesus Lives forever I can hear them singing.. And He is here today.

God bless you always

Debbie

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

Hi suzette

thank you, now the healing can begin...we had the service for him today and now we have sent him on to be with the Angels...we will miss our earthly Angel.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

wetnosedog...

Thank you so much for stopping by. Yes, he was a one in a million. We are so blessed to know him....he enlarged our lives so much!!!!

I am so glad that we had these last fresh moments to share with him

Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 16, 2013:

thank you Maria

Yes, she is an Angel.

You are so appreciated for stopping by and for sharing these kind words. He was amazing and today we sent him off to glory. It was a lovely tribute. Now our healing can begin

Angels are on the way ps

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on May 16, 2013:

You have my sympathy and condolences in the loss of your beloved nephew. This is a beautiful tribute to him and may he rest in peace. Sending angels to you today.

wetnosedogs from Alabama on May 16, 2013:

You are blessed in having known your nephew and your memories will always be special. Heal well in your loss.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on May 16, 2013:

I was sent here by an angel, whose name is Faith.

You have done a beautiful job sharing your nephew's legacy. My thoughts and prayers are sent to you and your family...hoping it won't be too much longer before you can JUST BREATHE.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2013:

Thank you, Kathi for your kind words. It is difficult to say the least but

refuse to be mired down in the sorrow and sadness. A new day brings the promise of goodness and renewal.

Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2013:

Thank you, Kathi for your kind words. It is difficult to say the least but

refuse to be mired down in the sorrow and sadness. A new day brings the promise of goodness and renewal.

Angels are on the way ps

Kathi from Saugatuck Michigan on May 15, 2013:

So terribly sorry for you loss . . . you wrote a beautiful tribute to honor this deserving man and I feel I know a big part of him through you!

I pray that your grief be intensely realized, yet move through you with soothing swiftness! We're all here ultimately for one purpose and that is to know who we are as the love of God. Our souls chose when its time to return home whether we're conscious of our true souls or walking this earth in the shadows. Doesn't matter either way.

You're so right about his recycling, he will be watching, lol. I love that you shared that!

My Sincerest Blessings, Kathi

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2013:

Thank you, Martin. I am deeply touched. Yes, I love those words...live with the joy of a life well lived...

Having the love and concern and compassion of others at this time helps us so much.

Angels are on the way to you today ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 15, 2013:

Thank you, Martin. I am deeply touched. Yes, I love those words...live with the joy of a life well lived...

Having the love and concern and compassion of others at this time helps us so much.

Angels are on the way to you today ps

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on May 14, 2013:

Live with the Joy of a life well lived. Thank you for sharing your feelings. It is important. I have lost Arlene, but have enjoyed the remarkable.

The Lord's blessings

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

Thank you. Faiith. Today was a better day. We are just so blessed to have had such an Angel in our lives. And we are so thankful he is now among the celestial angels. Thank you. For taking a moment to send your good wishes. Just know Angels are on the way

Faith Reaper from southern USA on May 14, 2013:

Oh, my precious friend,

I am so very sorry for your loss. This is such a beautiful tribute here. Sudden losses are just that, sudden, and catch us by surprise, as when there is a prolonged illness one has time to prepare oneself, but either way, it is still hard no matter what.

I am praying for you and your family during this difficult time of loss.

Sending Angels to you sweetie. Hugs, Faith Reaper

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts with me. Our family is so very sad but thankfully our precious loved one is no longer suffering and we are so thankful for that. We miss him every minute of every day.

Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts with me. Our family is so very sad but thankfully our precious loved one is no longer suffering and we are so thankful for that. We miss him every minute of every day.

Angels are on the way ps

toknowinfo on May 14, 2013:

I was on Billybuc's page and I saw your comment and I had to visit you to send my sympathies to you and your family. I am sorry for your loss. As you heal, I hope your memories of him bring you smiles, your thoughts bring your comfort, and your efforts inspire his spirit to live on. Take care of yourself and your sister in this very difficult time.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

thank you Jill...

It was just totally unexpected as death sometimes is and we are totally just knocked off our groove. Our hearts are shattered. We have to grieve and moving through the stages of grief will be healing. Once the service has been held we will be able to "JUST BREATHE."

thank you so much for your kind words. Support is truly needed Angels are on the way ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

thank you Jill...

It was just totally unexpected as death sometimes is and we are totally just knocked off our groove. Our hearts are shattered. We have to grieve and moving through the stages of grief will be healing. Once the service has been held we will be able to "JUST BREATHE."

thank you so much for your kind words. Support is truly needed Angels are on the way ps

Jill Spencer from United States on May 14, 2013:

So sorry for your loss, Patricia.

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

hi TheKatsMeow

He was beyond special ...he made our lives so full of wonder and joy. Thank you so much for stopping by...Angels are on the way to you and yours. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

hi TheKatsMeow

He was beyond special ...he made our lives so full of wonder and joy. Thank you so much for stopping by...Angels are on the way to you and yours. ps

Patricia Scott (author) from North Central Florida on May 14, 2013:

Thank you Billy

my heart aches today but joy is hidden just over the rainbow...thank your for your prayers and blessings

You know that Angels are on the way ps

Katee Shew from Canada on May 14, 2013:

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your nephew's story with me and with others on hubpages, it sounds like he was a very special person.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on May 14, 2013:

I have no words, PS, just as no one had words when I suffered sudden loss of loved ones. May you find peace, my friend.

prayers and blessings, today and always

bill