Why are You Trying to "Fit In"?...When you were Born to "Stand Out"!!

Updated on July 22, 2019
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We are living in an unpredictable world where a surprising number of people fear being alone, so they are always trying to “fit in.”
We are living in an unpredictable world where a surprising number of people fear being alone, so they are always trying to “fit in.”

Why are You Trying to "Fit In"?...When you were Born to "Stand Out

Although some people go along on this journey called life, they have no idea where they are going and how to fit in. Some people look for ways to make a difference in life while others go through twisting and turning trying to fit in.

Are you among the crowd who are busy trying to fit in or are you one of the most peculiar people who was born to make a difference and stand out?

While a surprising number of people fear to be alone, maybe to some extent a large number of us are trying to “fit in.” If you fear to be without a relationship, or friends and family, you need to “fit in.”

Maybe you are among the people who fear traveling alone to unfamiliar places, feeling lost without anyone being near if so, you desire to “fit in.” These types of fear are in need of fitting in with others.

Although we are governed by the requirements that make us human, which is to be loved, to love and be accepted almost everybody wears this mask. There isn't one person who does not, and I can say I used to, but it is better to "stand out" and be yourself.

Questions: Are you one of the individuals busy trying to fit in or are you a peculiar person that focuses on making a difference and stand out? Do you focus on being accepted and spend much time as well as energy in life trying to fit in?

If you a peculiar person how will you make a difference in the lives of others? How will you make a positive difference and stand out positively today?

Moreover, if you are one that focuses on being accepted, did you know focusing on fitting in and being accepted will lead to lost identity as well as being a puppet controlled by strings?

President Abraham Lincoln said in one of my favorite quotes, “I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live by the light that I have. I must stand with anybody that stands right, and stand with him while he is right, and part with him when he goes wrong.”

Now it is up to us, how we choose to interpret what President Lincoln means in this quote. However, I do not think he meant to focus on trying to “fit in” or be accepted with our physical appearance or by going all out to be extra kind and compassionate toward others.

However, I do believe he meant we should stand out through our character by focusing on how to make a positive difference in the world. We should also stand for what is right and live a life of integrity.

My question, why try to “fit in” a world full of constant change when we were born to stand out? Did you know when something does not blend in, people cannot help but notice it?

When you are a peculiar person you simply just cannot “fit in,” and it is impossible to go completely unnoticed. It is much easier to blend in when you know how to “fit in” but when something stands out it cannot help but draw attention. Sylvia Marina said, "Stop trying to fit in - you were born to stand out.”

The problems one may face with trying to stand out in the world is lonely and criticism. A person who desires to ‘fit in’ may feel like He or She are forlorn, and peers may distance themselves from you because you live your lives against the in-crowd.

This can lead to loneliness until you find your own path free from conformity, you will crave to “fit in.” When you do not desire to fit in with the world, but “stand out,” you will be met with criticism.

However, don’t allow others condemnation to make you believe you are wrong, nor allow them to instill fear in you, don’t be afraid to “stand out.”

We all should stop trying to “fit in” and follow the in-crowd; especially when you were born to stand out as a peculiar person. Peculiar people stand out from most people in the world because they are “different.”

Moreover, in today’s world, those potentials will undoubtedly make you stand out. Nonetheless, we are all born with our own DNA, but just because someone stands out from the rest does not mean he or she should be looked at with a frown.

There is an expression familiar to our society that states never judge a book by its cover, meaning just because something appears different on the outside does not mean it is any less ordinary on the inside.

Peculiar people will experience less heartache if they stop worrying about fitting in and hold a higher standard to start standing out!

God created everybody equally and gave them a choice and free will. We all have an option – We can choose to stand out, or we can make a decision to focus on following the crowd to try to fit in.

We have the opportunity to stand out and be exceptional or make the mistakes most make along the way and spend too much time and energy trying to fit in trying to be seen as “normal.”

However, consider this, if God meant for us all to be the same, he would have created us to look exactly alike, but he gave us different looks, hair, height, color, and beliefs.

Fitting in means to follow the crowd, to be under surveillance, easily influenced by the social media and worldviews, a limitation with a desperate desire to have recognized approval. While peculiar people mean independence, to make a difference, not easily influenced and to stand out for what is right.

Unique people stand out because they go beyond the average, they are amazing, and they are worthy to stand out and be exceptional. They show confident to stand up for what is right and never be swayed to lower their standards to fit in with the crowd.

Peculiar people are known for leading by examples, and that is what makes others around them want to raise their standards to start aiming to "stand out."

People who seek to “fit in” are like puppets that are controlled by strings. They lose their identity in a desperate desire to follow the in-crowd. When a person has a desire to “fit in” they crave acceptance.

Nonetheless, if you want to "stand out" as peculiar people, you must leave behind the obsession of fitting in to be accepted. If you do not want to be a puppet restrained by a string and left wondering who is pulling your strings, you have to leave behind the obsession of fitting in.

Believe it or not, it is easy to desire to imitate others around us to be doing what everyone else is exploring. But if you are longing to see a change in the world today than it must begin within you.

Do you agree with the statement, "Why try to fit in, when you were born to stand out?"

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Why are you trying to “fit in”?...When you were born to “stand out”?

You're different: Why to stop trying to fit in
What happens if you try to fit in?
What Happen if you stand out
Stop trying to fit in when you were clearly created to stand out.
You being different is going to make you stand out, regardless of what you do.
Your behavior or trait is identified.
Stop trying to fit in;you don't have to prove yourself to anyone, so stop trying
This places you in harm's way because the people who see your intelligence will view you as a threat
You are the person God created you to be; you will be known to everyone that way to stand out more successfully
Stop trying to fit in; sure, it feels great to fit in and be accepted, but in order to do so, you must become a slave to the culture of whatever group you are attempting to fit into.
In trying to fit in, you will have to denounce many of the mindsets and traits that GOD has given you, and that will put on the common mindsets and traits of the culture you desire to fit into. However, know you will never fit in
You are the person who are born to be likable and looked up to which mean making the Difference.
Stop trying to fit it because in trying to be like everyone else is an insult to GOD because HE created you to be who you are, and HE created you in love
In trying to fit in, when you look into your closet, you wear what another want you to wear and try to be what they want you to be. However, When you look into your heart, you should be whom you want to be.
When you stand out, you are self-confidence, have a Professional Attitude and Positive attitude and knows how to approach life being who you are
Get it. Accept it. Embrace it. Now be it.
In trying to fit in, you reject Christ. Don't deny CHRIST trying to fit in. Your purpose is your name badge, and your name is your purpose. Find out whom GOD created you to be and be that person
When you stand out, you are open, flexible, adaptable, looked up to, focus, good communicator, a good listener and live life to the fullest!

Albert Einstein — “The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no o

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        9 months ago

        Nearly everyone who has ever been in my life has been extremely jealous of me, my personality, my character and my looks, my physical appearance not everyone but a helluva lot of them are all throughout my life people have said to me "its not about you", "its not always about you", "stop talking about yourself and start asking other people questions about them, take an interest in other people, get to know other people" this happened every single time I talked about myself to these other people. Well, it goes to show that these people are jealous, envious, insecure, angry, immature, infantile, not confident, inadequate people who have low self-esteem and low self-worth. They feel threatened and intimidated by my strong personality and strong character because my personality and character is intimidating, they feel threatened and intimidated by my relevance, importance, significance. They feel intimidated and threatened by me because I have lots and lots of charisma and charm, I have a strong white colour in my aura, auric energy field, I am a light in the world through Jesus Christ, I am one of the 144,000 witnesses as written in the holy bible, I am one of His children one of His daughters, He chose me when He planned creation, He chose me before the foundation of the earth were laid, He chose me out of this world, the world hates me because the world hated Him first, I am in this world but I'm not of this world, I came down from the kingdom of Heaven, the sermon on the mount that Jesus said also applies to me also too. The light that's inside me is so strong and bright that other people can feel it, sense it, I am glowing, I have a strong physical presence, I outshine and upstage other people without even trying to and so other people feel overwhelmed when they are in my presence, I have this effect on them. I'm never ever going to dim my light for anyone or for everyone at all!!! Instead, I'm going to turn my light all the way up to the maximum which is 200% starting from now on and always forever and everyone else will just have to put on and wear really very strong sunglasses and shades because my light the light that's within me is like a glaring spotlight, etc..., I've also noticed that these people are fiercely competitive they view me as competition as rivals and they are in competition with me when I have talked about myself to these other people they compare themselves to me, they copycat and imitate me, they are trying to score points against me, they are score keeping of point scoring, they also try to take the focus off of me and put the focus onto themselves, they want the topic of conversation to be about themselves but not about me, they do oneupmanship and also onedownmanship in conversation with me too, they are trying to make out that they have things in common with me, etc..., they desperately want and desire to be me, they try to upstage and outshine me but that will NEVER EVER happen because there's only one of me and they can NEVER EVER be me, they ARE the GREAT PRETENDERS!!! pretending to be me, THEY ARE IMPOSTORS, IMPOSTERS!!!. They also try to take the topic of conversation off of me and they put that focus onto everyone else, they say "that happens to everyone else ", "it's the same for everyone", etc...,. They hate me, bear a grudge against me, they hold it against me, they resent me, they marginalize me, etc..., because I am unique, original, true, real, genuine, authentic and I am an individual, I am likable, lovable, quirky, eccentric, polite, friendly, kind, helpful, thoughtful, mindful, caring, nice, courteous, considerate, passionate, deep, intense, profound, multi-dimensional, loving, fun-loving, happy-go-lucky, funny, comical, cute, sweet, etc..., I am also a joyous, joyful, merry, happy person and try as they might they will NEVER EVER steal my joy or happiness!!. They have also said to me that "I've got to put other people first before myself, that another person should be No. 1 top priority on the priority list first before me and that I shouldn't be No. 1 top priority on the priority list first before everyone else or anyone else". These other people have reacted in very angry and very negative ways towards me when I talk about myself. Quite mentally disturbing attitudes from them, quite creepy too. What the hell is wrong with people these days?! What a weird bunch they are....... it's happening here on Facebook too to me too. Me, my life, survival, existence, health, wellbeing, welfare, etc..., DOES matter and is extremely important, extremely significant, extremely relevant, etc...,. I am extremely important, extremely significant, extremely relevant, priceless, I have healthy level of healthy self-worth, self-esteem, self-love, self-respect, etc..., I am priceless and extremely valuable. MY BRIGHT SHINING LIGHT I SHINE MY BRIGHT SHINING LIGHT SO BRIGHTLY UP TO 200% AND EVERYONE ELSE HAS TO PUT ON THEIR SUPER STRONG SHADES. I'M NEVER EVER GOING TO DIM MY LIGHT FOR ANYONE OR EVERYONE AT ALL!! I WILL ALWAYS BE SHINING MY LIGHT AT THE MAXIMUM. WHEN I WALK INTO A ROOM I BRIGHTEN UP THE ROOM AND ALL EYES ARE ON ME. I'm not narcissistic, sociopathic or psychopathic, I don't have any type or kind of antisocial personality disorder, I'm not egocentric, egotistical, egomaniacal, I'm not proud, I don't have pride, I'm not being haughty, conceited, vain, ego, proud, cocky, arrogant, etc..., I'm not self-obsessed, self-absorbed, self-interested, etc...,. Instead, I am humble, lowly, modest, etc..., the light that's inside of me is very, very strong and very, very powerful. That's why people mock, ridicule, belittle, marginalize, etc..., me and everything about me, this is how it's been all throughout my life so Facebook is my platform where I can vent and rant and rave on here and to also shine my light on here too!!!. I WILL BE SEEN AND I WILL BE HEARD AND LISTENED TO!!! I BROKE THE MOULD WHEN I WAS BORN AND I HAVE BEEN SET APART FROM EVERYONE ELSE, I'M ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE EVERYONE ELSE AND EVERYONE ELSE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ME.

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        12 months ago

        thanks so much god bless you

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        Pam Morris 

        3 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

        Thank you for you reply and interesting intakes, I agree with you entirely.

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        Venkatachari M 

        3 years ago from Hyderabad, India

        Very intellectual topic. It is true that almost most of us try to fit in and nobody dares to stand out. Because standing out requires much patience, much courage, and perseverance. It is very risky and takes out all your life in succeeding your efforts. But, I consider such people as the real heroes of our lives.


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