Life Is Full of Disappointment, Failures, and Setbacks – It’s How You Handle Them That Count!

Updated on July 5, 2020
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Throughout life, you’ll experience a series of disappointments, failures, and setbacks, but, that matter is how you handle them on the journey along the way.
Throughout life, you’ll experience a series of disappointments, failures, and setbacks, but, that matter is how you handle them on the journey along the way.

Life is Full of Many Challenges, But Don't Allow it to Stop You.

Throughout this life, you will experience a series of disappointments. You must learn to bear it with patience, though you cannot do so without regret. Unpleasant as a disappointment, maybe, you can continuously learn something from it. The best way to administer disappointment is to acknowledge and work through it. Accept that you will encounter disappointment from time to time. No one gets through life without it. It’s healthy to learn from it and move on.

Besides, we will encounter disappointments like the death of a loved one, troubled relationships, loss of a job, health challenges, but you must not allow these obstacles to stop you.

Your sole purpose in life should be to make sure you overcome anything that life throws at you. Every adversity, troubles, and obstacles in life have a way of strengthening you.

When you mess up, surround yourself with people who will support you in how you can regroup and tackle what’s next. You have GREATNESS within you, and although failure can take a massive emotional toll on your life, you are gaining the perspective that is so needed to handle the inevitable that will arise.

Moving on from disappointment: focusing on the bigger picture of life

Disappointment, failure, and setbacks – everyone experiences these emotional obstacles from time to time, but you cannot lose sight of you and your values. If you allow these barriers to hinder you, then it means you don’t have the perception needed to handle setbacks or disappointments.

Also, when you bury your head in the sand and refuse to deal with an unpleasant situation, hoping that it will improve or go away, that causes your ‘setback.’ There will be many setbacks along the way, but the accurate test of a great contestant is how you overcome and push past them.

And you must be strong enough to stand tall to handle whatever life throws at you, even during the most challenging time when rejection and loss feel like a slap in the face. You still must be ready to take in the fullness of life and anything it throws at you.

I have faced such phases of life wherein I got hurt by people and life overall. But that never lead me to withdraw myself from the world. I have encountered and accepted the many challenges of life. I have gone through emotional distress and recovered. And those hurts and unfortunate events have converted me into a more self-confident and self-sufficient woman; I am today.

Only with confidence, you able to get past all the heartache that holding you back. Problems commonly linked to emotional distress, but once you overcome them, nothing can scare you or rule your life. You learn to pamper yourself and let the positive energy flow into your life, which helps to transform you into a more trusting and reliance human being.

Learning to Not Feel like a Failure Because of a Setback

But before I became the confident and self-sufficient woman that I am today, there was a phase where I experience much different disappointment, and it became the solid foundation, on which I had to restructure my life.

After suffering many setbacks, I learned to face each of life’s challenges sportingly. Life’s challenges have taught me to let my strengths overshadow my weaknesses to overcome and rebuild my life after failures.

Sinking to my lowest self was the first eye-opener. Sadness overcame me, and the tears rolled down my cheeks. It forced me to recall my past years, and I felt compelled to focus on the fact I needed to restart my life. Falling into my most economical self helped me to let go of the feelings that were bothering me.

After letting go of the disappointments and hurts, that were affecting me; I finally could acknowledge my situation and practiced the ways of self-realization. This made it so much easier for me to figure out what I was looking for from life. It felt as if I placed my life to pause for a moment.

I received that one lucky break I needed to replenish my life, and I grab hold, took advantage of that opportunity, and became the boss again. I transformed from a “victim mentality” to a “creator.” I am now connected to my inner self. I can now figure out things which I usually could not earlier, and I can also perform well. From now onward, I have control over everything in my life, even the things on which I had no control once.

A New Perspective Seeing the Bigger Picture: Life is Better Than You Think

In this life, we all will encounter problems at some point, and too often. We see these difficulties as a negative experience. These challenges are an invitation to be reminded to rise and understand these problems, so you can grow just before you move to another level.

Also, assist you to enhance the process, and to show that you can accomplish the thing that may seem difficult or even impossible. It is how you respond to your troubles that can vary significantly.

Take the illustration of two employees, each of whom gets a warning that they can’t continue to be late for work; it will be grounds for termination. Each awake to a dead battery and the car won’t start.

One worker’s entire day is ruined. He panics that he might not get the vehicle started in ample time to be present his scheduled shift. He searches for his jumper cable for thirty minutes before he finds them; he let it interfere with what he capable of doing. Barely makes it on time, off focus, and achieving very little strategically.

While the other driver, however, sees waking to a dead battery as a minor setback, gets her jumper cable from the trunk of her car, get the assistant to start the car quickly and moves on, proceed on to work at the scheduled time, progressing to have an enjoyable, productive day.

Although both employees experience the same setback and disappointment, what distinguishes them is their perspective on their hindrance.

Sometimes, people in the world rant and rave about minor setbacks blowing things way out of proportion, they have given way to a permanent loss of control over their happiness — and dedicating valuable time to situations which are not “life or death” circumstance.

Almost all of us will experience life difficulties occasionally. Despite that, outlook incorporates more than just steering clear of insignificant upsets. It proposes how a person views their position in this world and whence he/she take the time to understand and appreciate “the big picture.”

It is essential to learn, from life’s experience, and disappointment as a setback can be one of the worst feelings, but it can also lead to the beauties of life; it is all in how you handle it.

You will find both difficulties prevailing in life, and your sad moments will always be a painful memory of yours. For that reason, you need to put effort and time to let the wounds get cured. It is entirely possible, and things will go well once you find your way.

Be responsible enough towards yourself: Once you start becoming a person in charge, you will automatically begin to take the responsibilities of your deeds, and this will convert your life in a positive direction. Spend more time with positive-minded and confident people: Those who think positive gains more in life, live longer, and are happier than negative minded people.

Now it is your choice to be a depressed, negative minded person or an inspirational, positive willing individual. Your attitude determines your mindset on which your behavior and life depend ultimately.

Overcoming the Many Disappointment

If you are wondering why confidence is so important, it means you believe in yourself, and knowing your worth. Learning how to be confident is significant in every part of your life. You know to surround yourself with people you love and whose presence makes you more positive. When you have supportive and loving people around you, your confidence level will automatically get boosted.

Self-realization: Never feel you can not do something you desire to fulfill. For that proper self-realization is a prerequisite. Know yourself well and gain the confidence you can do what you want in life.

Visualize what exactly you seek in life: gain a clear vision of what you want to achieve in life and know how to fulfill the promises, which you made to yourself. But don’t stress yourself by thinking of ways to gain something you desire.

Life has it Ups & Down

As we all know – life has its ups and downs. Have you ever taken the time to think about how a unique perspective can shape your life and how you view what is right or wrong?

Did you know, sometimes seeing a different perspective will help you see things in a more balanced and realistic way to make sense of this world? As we learn to challenge our unhelpful thoughts, our minds are continually trying to get from one day to the next.

The advantage of perspective-taking is an individual that makes the most of what he or she already knows about another person’s viewpoint. Exercising his or her belief about another person’s perspective and learning information that they might have mistakenly overlooked - will assist in discovering situations that can be different from how he or she usually interprets things.

Once you experience failure, or you are disappointed, it might get tough for you to overcome that state. It may seem apparent that things are not in your control. But they are.

You need to begin by picturing yourself confronting these things, and this thought is a beginning to a change. Unfortunately, long as you are living in a world you will experience failure and be disappointed now and then. So what we are supposed to do is not to cling our pains of life. On the contrary, don't permit the past life to haunt your present from today.

In this life, we will encounter disappointments at the hands that force setbacks beyond our control. But we must take it as a form of feedback. Also, take it as a way of different experiences for future goals. Something unexpected can spoil all and every intention.

Nonetheless, when you run into a setback it should cause pause, and think there will always be obstacles in your professional or personal life. But, with determination, you can bypass all negativity and eliminate the barrier that crosses your path one by one.

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    • Tim Truzy info4u profile image

      Tim Truzy 

      10 months ago from U.S.A.

      Thanks, Pam. This is very inspirational. My dad always told me to surround yourself with people yiou want to be like to find success and understand a peace of mind. That was a great piece of advice. Positive people and having methods to recover from failure is important in life. Well written. You always have enjoyable work to read. Respect and admiration.

    • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

      Pam Morris 

      3 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you, Shyron

    • Shyron E Shenko profile image

      Shyron E Shenko 

      3 years ago from Texas

      Pam, what an inspirational hub. Thank you for the encouragement. I love Hillary's quote.

      Blessings always

    • Jeremy Mcgilvrey profile image

      Jeremy Mcgilvrey 

      3 years ago from Sant Antonio Texas

      Self-confidence is self-assurance in your own ability

      I think people who lack self-confidence depend too much on others to make them feel good about themselves. Listen to me closely here: You do not need people to validate you.

      Here’s 12 suggestions to boost your confidence:

      1. Remember the good times

      2. Dress for success

      3. Stand tall

      4. Look others in the eyes

      5. Let other people do the talking

      6. Smile

      7. Be okay with failure

      8. Get around positive/uplifting people

      9. Become a lifelong student

      10. Exercise

      11. Reward yourself

      12. Give thanks


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