How to Take Your Power Back from Others' Domain
Some bow to the spirit of collectivism, while you ascent to the spirit of your own eclectic rhythm.
-- Curtis Tyrone Jones
For a Full Size Mirror
Those whose curiosity prompted them in the past to take a peek at my "Profile" couldn't miss my great passion for personal sovereignty which also translates into some of my favorite writing topics.
What am I calling personal sovereignty?
In its nutshell, it's our birthright to deliberately choose our thoughts, emotions, attitudes and beliefs. Which means our freedom from a parrot-like imitating others' ideas and following some sterile beliefs and ideologies, as well as some senseless traditions.
It may be a sort of hard for some to figure where I am coming from with all this, because we may be using a completely different " technology of processing reality"; thus, what appears logical to me may be downright weird to them. But that's a risk I have to count with, while seemingly turning upside down so much of what has been accepted as commonplace for ages.
And yet, there is a hope--- which basically gives me the main incentive to write about personal sovereignty---as to a soul or two some of these ideas may serve as an eye-opener, if not merely a little challenge to reexamine their place in this world.
Certain realizations may echo with a slight pain, but as long as they turn out to be "growing pains", their cause may be forgivable.
Now, let's start by facing some of those obstacles which may even block our awareness about the possibility of something like personal sovereignty, let alone inspire us towards attaining it.
As for politics, I am an anarchist, I hate governments and rules and fetters. Can't stand caged animals.
-- Charlie Chaplin
Once Upon a Time a True Self
Regardless of the place on earth where we are born, a name is chosen for us, along with a religion and a bunch of survival strategies which are to make us socially acceptable.
Has it ever dawned on you how society shows no respect for our choices right from that very start?
For example, while we may find nothing particularly admirable about our primary caregivers---usually meaning parents---we promptly get brainwashed into respecting them unconditionally.
And then so many carry into adulthood a painful emotional confusion over the discrepancy between that imposed respect and that distinct memory of not really being loved and supported in their most impressionable and vulnerable years.
Furthermore, even though in our entire lifetime we don't see a single political leader that we wholeheartedly recognize as one working for the good of the majority, we'd better wave that flag with pride and patriotism, because it's our homeland, and those are our beloved people who elected all those good-for-nothing creeps parading as our leaders.
Which brings us to any type of religious indoctrination adding to our "identity" with its strong and shiny label. For, it seems that without a deity of a "right-and-only" kind we would all be wandering around like lost sheep with no sense of love and morality.
Ethnical pride may make us blind to some basic truisms. Like, if we are of a Jewish ethnicity, that doesn't mean that we are automatically anything like Albert Einstein, Arthur Rubinstein, or any other famous "...-stein, ...-berg, or...-man".
Indeed, why identify ourselves by referring to someone else's abilities or achievements? I simply don't get it. Isn't that true that every ethnicity has its share of village idiots, arrogant narcissists, or illiterate folks who are signing their name with an "X"? Developed countries like USA, U.K., France, Germany...or any other place with a considerable national pride are no exceptions.
So, let's cut through the crap of all those labels which are supposed to give us something like an identity. Why not see the illusion of any nation as simply a mass of different individuals forced territorially to share a language, customs, and laws of coexistence?
We did not "choose" to be born into that family, into that society, so why cherish it for more than it is? Over the many years it has become our habit, or "natural habitat", which adds to its suggested value for us.
Now that I am retired, sometimes I drive by a company that used to be one of the crappiest jobs that I can remember---and guess what---I can't help but feel a little nostalgic about it, remembering my coworkers and some bright moments spent there. A crazy mind's trick of habituation as it's capable of painting even devil in some rosy colors.
Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.
-- Lao Tzu
Told When It's Funny
Indeed, folks, we are so brainwashed by labels that we never question some obvious discrepancies between someone's acting and their advertised title. I have personally seen (socially) at least three bona fide psychologists of different schools being emotionally unstable, with broken marriages, or dissociated from kids.
Furthermore, I have seen an obese cardiologist; a guru who was much easier to imagine with a sign of a dollar on his forehead than with that red dot on his "third eye"; and also a whole bunch of unprofessional creeps whose sense for satisfying the customer had nothing to do with that impressive diploma on their wall.
Of course, not to forget a whole global community of religious freaks who never brought peace to this planet despite their mouthfuls of "love for all of the human race". And I won't even bother making a long story about domestic and global political leaders fooling people with every effective old trick in their book of deceit.
Individual sovereignty has been routinely insulted by "fathers of cultural paradigm" who see in customers just a brainless crowd. For example, think of the producers of those TV sitcoms placing a laughter soundtrack after every punch line---as if we are so stupid that we otherwise wouldn't know when it's time to laugh.
While I am mentioning culture, as supposedly something that gives a unique character to a nation, at a closer look there is nothing really "typical" and unique about it. We are all individuals with different tastes, and someone living in America may love classical over country music, read novels over sports reports, or meditate over demonstrating.
Again, it's those at the top in whose interests it is to clamp everyone under a label---be it a citizen, a believer, a consumer, a democrat/republican, a family member, a woman, a black, a Hispanic...
How far have we gone alienating ourselves from who we truly are, as individuals with a power to heal ourselves, to make ourselves happy, to choose our own clothes regardless of trends, and call something "music" because there is a harmony of tones in it, not because "it's popular".
Whenever regulations increase, personal freedom decreases.
-- Alan Wilson
Melting Pots in Kitchens of Shot-Callers
These days, that overused concept of "melting pot"---which signifies ignoring the personal sovereignty--- has reached the point of encouraging some to even try for a global new order.
These are the indicators of the oldest mankind's malady of downgrading the individual values--- as it's reaching its crazy stage. More than ever people are involved in politics while completely losing from sight their own inner "politics" of choosing within their mental hierarchy their incorruptible consciousness over those impersonal inner programs composing their social self-image.
Even we writers are encouraged to write what the reading public "want to know about". In other words, don't challenge their views, don't offer a new angle of seeing things---just write what "fits" nicely into their customary ways of perceiving the reality.
That, my friends, labels you, the readers as "closed-minded", as someone incapable of thinking out of the box. While someone may follow that advice and tell you "how to feed your dog"---someone like me may ask you "why you need a dog in the first place?" Does he fill your need for someone in your life who will love you unconditionally? Or obey you without protesting? Or depend on you? Or all of the above?
My questions like these may be altogether incorrect and out of place, but at least I made you think about it, didn't just accept having a dog as something universally desirable. If for only a brief moment you are bound to think what makes your love for your dog different from your friend's loving his dog.
Well, by asking all this I would treat you as an individual, not as "any" dog lover.
You've got to love yourself first. You've got to be O.K. on your own before you can be O.K. with somebody else.
-- Jennifer Lopez
Our fundamental biological individuality could give us a hint about an enormous value of our personal sovereignty.
For, no one else is called upon to breathe, eat, drink, crap, and sleep for us---so what makes them called upon to think for us? The holiest man alive is only another human who is taking his own path and knows nothing about the one that we might choose, if we started in earnest thinking for ourselves.
As we are born we come from one hole alone, and as we die, we go to another hole alone---and in between those two events, we might as well create our own intimate world that we would proudly call our life. Not living as an imitation of a role-model meaning anyone else's mind-style or life-style.
It is this hypnotically induced need to "belong", to be "one of", to "win approvals", which makes us strangers within our own skin.
You don't have to believe me, it's my own psychological speculation---that the most unhappiness in this world is stemming from this running away from our responsibility to be who we are, and seeking the protective wing of someone of higher-than-our authority.
Some of my other articles may have said it better and in more detail, but really, folks---if we are not using our own mind, who is doing it for us? Are we alive at all after giving up our power to others---or we are merely breathing into their lungs, with even god disowning us after we refused to be "in his own image" and create.
Creating, by the way, means producing "out of thin air", not merely plagiarizing something that others have done before. And that includes those best things of life---happiness, health, love, and harmony, which no one can give us, and which we can't buy using anybody else's currency. They are the only true measure of our having a genuine identity.
That's why, live yourself by striving towards your personal sovereignty. Anyone else's image doesn't look good on you. And, like Bing Crosby, a crooner of my young days used to sing: "If you want to be a Somebody---be yourself."
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