You Are the Anchor to Hold Yourself Through Adversity

Updated on February 20, 2018
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How Advesities Affect Our Psychology of Happiness

Everyone is looking for happiness in life. We consider it as a destination. But, happiness is not a destination, it’s a way of life. It has nothing to do with what you have or what you don’t. As Buddha said:

“Happiness does not depend on what you have or what you are. It solely relies on what you think.”

We are a part of the era of absurdity. Our generation is gaining success but losing empathy. In the name of moving forward, we are becoming more competitive and machine-like. It’s no surprise that there has been a hike in the rates of depression in the present times. Most people are not even able to put a finger on why they are feeling the way they do. Why is that? Because we do not have time to stop and breathe. All of us are making a living, but some of us forget to live.

Adversities can come at any time. They shake the very foundation of our lives. Happiness is something we forget about during those adverse times. What can we do then? Read on to find out.


"Each one has to find his peace from within... And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances"

— Mahatma Gandhi

Things to Keep in Mind When Facing Adversity

In the face of adversity one must remember to hold on. The following points will prove to be helpful.

- It’s not the end:

When facing adversity, we are like a traveler on an uncharted land. It’s normal to feel that way. But, what’s not normal is feeling like it’s the end. It will take time, but you will see that its a new beginning. You can build new civilization on that uncharted land.

I know it’s hard but if not you then who? You are the best support system you can have. No friend or life coach or anyone can help you unless you help yourself.

- I, Me, and Myself:

You must remember that you need to fight for yourself. People might help you, but they cannot drive you out of difficult situations. Do not look for someone to make everything better. Remember, if you give people right to build you up, they also get the right to break you down. You've got to be your own hero.

- Take your time:

You must go at your own pace. Nothing can be changed overnight. Getting back to normal and then to happiness is a process, it takes time. It might take a few days or weeks or a year. You must be patient and let time do its thing. However long it takes, it will pass. You just need to be patient with yourself. One day you will wake up and not feel burdened by anything.

- Do the smart thing:

Everyone has a go-to activity when facing a hard time. Some people sleep it off, some eat it out and so on. We all have our own way of dealing with adversity. What we need to do is make sure it’s the smart thing. When a person is not feeling happy, they turn to destructive ways. Why? It’s mostly to feel something.

Trust me it won’t be a good feeling if you wake up and have made it worse. Push yourself to go for a run or go to support groups. It might seem lame or absurd to some people, but it shouldn’t matter. You are doing it for yourself and not them. Remember, people need something to talk about. It might be you right now, tomorrow they’ll find someone else. Don’t let it define you. Do your thing.

- Find yourself:

However hard it is, it’s the time to find the new you. It’s time to go back and rediscover the things you love. It can be singing or painting or any other activity. Adversity might be able to throw you off for a moment, but do not let it crush your spirit. I won’t lie, it will be hard. But it will be worth it.

In the process of finding yourself, you can take as much help you want. To find that motivation, you can take help from a video or an activity or a friend.

You are your own Hero!


Your happiness lies in your hands. The true meaning of happiness is knowing how to manage in any kind of situation. Life won’t get easier, you need to get stronger. That’s all the psychology of happiness we need. It all comes down to how much you want it. It has been very well put by Lilly Singh:

“Happiness is the hardest thing you’ll ever fight for. But, it’s the only thing worth fighting for.” (From- A Trip to Unicorn Island)


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      • Vishakha Khajuria profile imageAUTHOR


        12 months ago from India

        @navendu bhalse- thank you :)

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        navendu bhalse 

        13 months ago from india

        Good content


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