You Are Good Enough Here and Now
You Are Enough
We live in a social media driven world. It is so easy to get caught up in how we should be or who we wish we were instead of accepting and loving who we are. We have things in our past that we allow to define us. What we fail to realize is that we are good enough.
You are enough! You were born with everything that you need within you. You are smart enough. You are strong enough. You are unique as your own fingerprint. You have inside of you all that is required to complete your journey.
You may feel rejected or lacking because of something in your past such as bad childhood or divorce or another traumatic past experience but it does not have to define you. Just because you were abused or rejected in the past does not mean that you are not good enough. People cannot give you what they do not know or do not have. If someone is emotionally unavailable and incapable of love it does not mean that you are unworthy or not good enough. It does not mean that you are unlovable. It is not a reflection of you in any way. It is a reflection of who they are. You cannot control the behavior of others. You are not responsible for them. You can only control your reaction. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
We look at social media and we see the “perfect” moments and other peoples success. We tend to compare our self to the success and perfection on social media. What we fail to realize is that when we compare our self to others is that we are doing ourselves a huge disservice. Our journey is as unique as our fingerprint. As a result, our needs are different and our life is going to be different to others in some ways. What is right for others may not line up with our journey. Life is a journey and not a race.
In addition to this, we must consider that social media is like a high lights reel and we do not see behind the scenes. It is sort of like a concert you see your favorite musician or singer after they were dressed and made up by their glam squad. You do not see backstage. You do not typically see what is going on in their personal life. You only see them at their best in perfect lighting. You only see them the way they want to be seen by the outside world.
Another way to look at this is something that I recently went through with a long time friend. If you are like me you have this friend and their life seems so perfect to you. They appear to have the life that you dream of and wish that you could have. My good friend met a guy and it seemed like a Disney fairy tale. It was this whirlwind romance. They got married and it seemed like the perfect marriage. Her social media was full of their perfect moments. Their marriage appeared to be full of romance and joy from the pictures. On the outside it looked as if they were living “Happily Ever After.” Little did I know that behind the scenes it was the total opposite. Approximately two years into the marriage it became beyond unbearable and she could not live the lie anymore. My point is that we cannot compare our lives to the perfect moments on social media because they are not an accurate depiction of how anyone's life really is. Again, we are doing ourselves a huge disservice by comparing our journey to others. We have to love and accept our self and know that we are good enough. “It’s important to remember that we all have magic inside of us.”JK Rowling
“We often block our own blessings because we don't feel inherently good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or worthy enough... You're worthy because you are born and because you are here. Your being here, your being alive makes worthiness your birthright. You alone are enough.” -Oprah Winfrey
Adversity is a normal part of life. We are living in an imperfect world and it is very unrealistic to expect perfection in life. Just because we struggle at times does not mean that we are bad people or inferior in any way. It is not the struggle in life but how we handle it. You are strong enough to handle what life sends your way. You are stronger than you realize.“You are Braver than you believe, Stronger than you seem, and Smarter than you think.” -A.A. Milne
Everyone fails in life. Typically we only see peoples successes. We seldom see how many times someone failed before they reached success. We see people win awards on TV but we do not see the struggle or how many times they were rejected or failed before they made it. We need to look at failure as lessons instead of a defining moment of who we are. When we fail we learn how to get closer to success and where we want to be. It is not what happens in life it is how we handle it. “Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.” Oprah Winfrey
Know that you are good enough! You are good enough right here, right now, just as you are! Accept yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself! “What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when you bring what is within out into the world, miracles happen.” Henry David Thoreau