What is the meaning of the word “doubt”? It means uncertainty or lack of conviction. But do you know how vital and effective a role it plays in our lives? You might say yes at first, without any hesitation, but I want you to take a minute to think about it from a different perspective. I want you to really think how you felt at the moment when you heard someone doubt you.
Most people nowadays view doubt as a bad thing. When someone doubts us, our minds tend to go in one of two directions a majority of the time. We either immediately want to prove them wrong and we’re motivated to do so or we just take offense to it and let it bring us down. Take those two ideas out of your head. I want to challenge that by giving you a new perspective to think about as to why doubt is actually a good thing.
Doubt usually comes into my life when I play sports. When I play basketball and someone doubts my ability to play or score, I am immediately motivated to play harder then I normally would. So now think about that when you hear or feel that word. Now think about what is doubt now turning into. Doubt is turning into motivation, something many people in today’s world lack. Doubt not only creates motivation but it creates goals for one to accomplish. The doubt actually creates the goal which then creates the motivation. I’m sure you can follow the pattern. The doubt should motivate to accomplish whatever task is at hand, whether it is a short term goal or a long term goal. Either way, there is no greater feeling than proving doubters wrong.
Always remember that when being doubted by some, you have others by your side who are rooting for you. They will help motivate you as well to defeat doubt. Think of it as a boxer in the ring and the trainer in your corner. They are there to help and guide you through the fight and nothing is more encouraging than that.
But after you prove the doubters wrong, then what? You completed the goal at hand which was to prove doubters wrong and you were motivated to do so. The question is how do we stay motivated? I believe an effective way to do so is for us create doubt ourselves. We should be asking ourselves: “Can I do better than that? Can I top myself? What’s my true limit?” These are the types of questions we can ask ourselves when we think there’s no challenge at the moment. We can choose to challenge ourselves and better ourselves in ways we never would of thought we could.
Doubting yourself in a negative way will kill all forms of confidence. I have done this countless times to myself, even to this day. I’m not even close to where I want to be and I’m struggling to this day with everything. Barely having money, not working in fields related to what I earned my degree in, and not catching a big break yet in the acting or modeling field or if I would ever catch a big break into the industry. I’m constantly having those thoughts run across my heads and I’m sure you have as well about certain situations in your life. I'm always thinking of how I can break out and sometimes I even ask myself if I'm good enough to make it. This is why the quote, "Doubts will kill dreams more than failure would," is such a crucial quote because of how true this quote is. Failure means you attempted but didn't succeed but you can always try again. Doubt can prevent you from even attempting or thinking about accomplishing what you want leaving you feeling worthless or depressed. Self doubt can be more devastating to one rather than someone else doubting us. It may be tougher to overcome but in the end it is still doubt and it something we must fight.
So how do you get that negative thought out of your head? I just think of one word, WHY? I think about why I started and you should too because you're in this position for a reason. I have a vision in my head of where I want to be in life but I have to go through the journey to get there so I will continue to ask myself WHY I started and that will keep motivating me to get back up and try again. That is what keeps me going. But also keep in mind that you have people that can help with deleting doubt. I’ve been fortunate enough to have people by my side helping me to the very best of their ability. I’m not talking about them giving me money, I’m talking about just a phone call where I hear the simple words, “It’s going to be okay. You’re going to make it. Just be patient.” Hearing those words bring comfort and the moment you hear those words, at least for the time being, you are not thinking about doubt. You are thinking about getting back on track and proving them right. You are motivated to do right and then some. You come to realize with support from the right people, doubt doesn't stand a chance of beating you.
What I'm learning now is that I prefer someone to doubt me. I want that challenge because I know it will help me grow into someone better and stronger. The power of doubt can go a long way but with the right mindset, you can overcome it and get better as time goes on.
When, not if, WHEN you get where you want to be in life, you are going to look back where it all started. You may not even remember the moment when you’ve been doubted but you will know that it played a factor in your life. Now that you’re thinking about it, just ask yourself, “Do we need these doubters in our lives?” The answer is yes. The answer may seem simple but may be difficult for others. Some will let doubt affect them in a negative way. Some will let it bring them down. Some will let doubt win. I’m here to tell you don’t let it win. I’m here to tell you to fight it. Don’t let doubt win or take over, keep pushing until people can no longer doubt you and keep pushing then. Only then will you succeed and exceed.
I’ll leave you with one rule. Once someone has doubted you, block them out from that moment on. Your goal has now been created. NOW GO TO WORK!
It's time to prove doubters wrong.