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5 Unusual Ideas to Forget the Unpleasant Past. How to Let It Go?

Chitrangada has keen interest in Alternative therapies. As a parent and teacher she shares her real life experiences for benefit of readers

Let it go!!

Let it go!!

Quotes:

“Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” – Leo Buscaglia

Move on and get away from unpleasant memories.

Move on and get away from unpleasant memories.

Unpleasant Memories can Hurt, and Destroy Our Peace of Mind

  • Consider yourself fortunate, if you do not have an unpleasant past.
  • Consider yourself more fortunate, if you have moved on, from your unpleasant past.

Let’s be honest. We do have some unpleasant memories—

  1. Some very close ones may have treated you roughly, or said some bad things, which you could never have imagined, in your wildest dreams.
  2. Some most trusted ones may have ditched, or discarded you, as if you never belonged to him/her.
  3. You could have been humiliated and cursed, for no fault of yours, and you had no one to support you, in such a situation.
  4. You were falsely framed in a matter, and you had no proof, to establish your truth.
  5. The hurt becomes much more deep, if those people, whom you have trusted all through your life, connive against you, and you are totally unaware of it.

This list can go on---!

These things do happen in our lives. Most of us keep these unpleasant memories alive in our mind. And believe me, it affects our health, our mind, our progress and our happiness. It weighs us down and slows our progress.

To live happily in the present, and to plan for a prosperous future, it is necessary to learn from the past mistakes, and then forget the unpleasant past.


Trees are our ancestors.

Trees are our ancestors.

Hugging an old tree gives relief to our soul. We can recover from our sorrows.

Hugging an old tree gives relief to our soul. We can recover from our sorrows.

These ideas may seem crazy and unusual, but they do help.

1. Hugging the old trees tight:

Have you closely observed some very old trees? The Banyan tree for example--Some of them are so old, may be older than your grandmother.

Trees are living--they grow and spread their massive branches, to give shelter to anyone who passes by.

Just presume and imagine, that they have witnessed any wrong, which was done to you. Go with open arms to it‘s mighty trunk, and hug it tightly.

Release all your tension, agony and some tears as well, if you can. Do it privately.

You will feel the difference.

2. Shoutout your pain, in an isolated place:

You can drive to a highway for this. Imagine a stone to be the person, who has hurt you. You can make a face with chalk on this stone, to make it more effective.

Now shout out loudly to him/ her (the stone), all your grievances, how you have been hurt. Just pour out, your pent up anger.

And also make it clear, how you will care a damn about this person (stone), from now onwards. And do follow, this sincerely.

Throw away every bit of your painful memories from the mountain top. It does help you recover from your unpleasant past.

Throw away every bit of your painful memories from the mountain top. It does help you recover from your unpleasant past.

3. Flush it, erase it from your mind.

Write the whole unpleasant happening on a piece of paper, tear it off into tiny pieces, and then flush it out into your toilet.

You will feel better for sure.

This idea, I had seen in a popular Hindi film.

4. Bury it into the soil, or drown it into a river:

You may write the name of the person on a paper, the whole chain of events, or the unpleasant happenings, or memories.

Go to an isolated place, dig some soil, a little deeper, and bury the paper.

Another way, is to go near a river bank, and drown that paper.

Still another way, is to go to a sea beach. Write the name of the person, who has caused you so much hurt, on the wet sand. Let the sea waves wipe it out, as they come near the shore, and wipe it out, from your memory too.

You will definitely feel better.

5. Go to a hill station and throw away the unpleasant memories in the deep valley:

Just write the whole unpleasant memory on a piece of paper.

Tear it into tiny pieces. Go to the nearby hills, and throw away the tiny pieces into the deep adjoining valley, near the hills.

You will feel relieved.

6. This particular idea is neither unusual, nor crazy.

Share it with The 'GOD'.

If none of this helps, I think this will surely help. And this is not an unusual, or crazy idea. Most of us do it.

Sit in front of 'God'-- whoever you worship. Talk to 'Him', like a friend, and just pour your heart out.

Just share all your sorrows and sufferings, with the belief that 'He' is listening to you, with full attention, and understands you, unlike others, whom you had trusted.

You may spend as much time as you wish, till you feel lighter and relaxed.

Erase painful and unpleasant past memories from your mind!

Erase painful and unpleasant past memories from your mind!

Quotes:

“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”

~~~Alexander Graham Bell

The Conclusion:

  • Life is too short to waste over trivial matters.
  • Do not hate a person who has hurt you, forgive that person for your own well-being. Difficult to follow, but wiser to do.
  • You have control only on your action and behaviour, and not the action and behaviour of others.
  • Expect nothing from others, and try to appreciate everyone, and everything.
  • Again, this is difficult to follow, but here we are discussing about making ourselves happy. Isn’t it?
  • Whatever has happened, is past, and there is no use analysing it.
  • I should have done this, or he/ she should not have done this to me, how could this happen to me---all this does not mean anything.
  • Only thing which matters is, that we can learn from our past mistakes, and work to better our future.
  • Just Remember, that there can be potholes on the road, but does that mean, we should stop moving forward?
  • You can simply change the route. Isn’t it?



Relax with this music, source: You tube

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2014 Chitrangada Sharan

If the past is unpleasant, it must be forgotten. Do you agree? Please share your views in the Comments section.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 26, 2020:

Many thanks for your wonderful comments, Peggy.

Yes, it can be any of the methods, as you have suggested. But, one must come out of the shadows of the unpleasant happenings of the past. Moving on, is the most sensible thing to do.

Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. Much appreciated.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on June 25, 2020:

I enjoyed that meditative music at the end of your article. Prayer, meditation, and concentrating on other things that create pleasure is one way to get over unpleasantness from the past. For some people, it might be gardening or reading. Others might draw comfort from hiking and sightseeing. There is no right or wrong way to approach it. Whatever works best for an individual is the way to go.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on May 27, 2020:

Thank You so much Peg, for reading and appreciating the article.

You are right, that most of us have faced some such unpleasant happenings in our lives. We have to learn to deal with them.

Honestly, I wouldn’t have written this article, if I had not faced such situations in my life. I am happy to share that some of these ideas are worth trying. Yes, sharing with God, is the ultimate.

Thank you for your positive thoughts.

Peg Cole from Northeast of Dallas, Texas on May 26, 2020:

What a keen and optimistic viewpoint you have. Each of us has experienced some difficulty in our lives. And you're right. The best way to get past it is found in your quote from Leo Buscalia - Let go and move on. I like your ideas about trees and finding a secluded place to shout out our frustration. Also sharing our problems with God and letting him provide solace.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on May 08, 2020:

Thank you for reading, Umesh Chandra Ji.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on May 07, 2020:

Very nice article. Motivating.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on March 26, 2019:

Thank You Hacicu Bogdan, for reading and commenting on this article.

Glad that you liked the suggestions and tips.

Yes, it’s really sad that many people have to go through this, that is the unpleasant experiences of the past. We have to deal with this and try to move on, for our own happiness.

Thank you and good day to you!

Hacicu Bogdan from Cluj-Napoca, Romania on March 26, 2019:

Really practical tips that you've given here. Also the results of the poll are interesting. Kind of sad to see how many people didn't get past unpleasant memories.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on April 13, 2018:

Thank You Femi, for reading and commenting! Appreciate your positive feedback!

Thank You!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on April 13, 2018:

Thanks for coming again DREAM ON!

It’s good that you spend your days in the positive mode. Losing parents is always painful, be it any age. We owe so much to our parents, in fact our very life. But this is all part of life and we have to accept it sooner or later. Keep the sweet memories alive in your thoughts, and get inspiration from them.

I am glad if this article helped you. The whole purpose of writing on such subjects, is to provide Peace and hope to fellow humans.

Wish you a good day!

DREAM ON on April 13, 2018:

I try to spend most of my day in the positive mode. Thinking and dreaming of all the things I want to happen and soon practice making them come true. My hardest trouble with my past is I lost both my parents . My father at 66 and my mother at 83 and there are so many things I would of wanted to do and experience with them. I constantly talk to them in spirit today but you have those blue days that bring you down. I know we all have a time to be born and a time to die. When I see mean people live I feel the injustice in the world. There were many relatives that I just started to get to know and they have also passed. I did the best I could busy with life there is only so much time to do so many things. Certain people and things never get seen or done. I cherish all my memories. For they hold lessons to guide me in my future endeavors. Thank you again for writing and giving peace and love.

femi from Nigeria on April 13, 2018:

Deep stuff

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on April 12, 2018:

Thank you DREAM ON, for your kind visit and positive feedback !

I am glad to know that you have liked my work. Such appreciation helps me to work harder and write more. Thank you so much.

This hub was written with some personal bitter experiences of the past. Believe me, I have tried some of these methods and they really work. It took me some time to recover from the unpleasant behaviour of some of my close and most trusted people. Then I realised that I must get over these thoughts, and move on in life. And I did the right thing. It’s best to forgive those who have hurt you, because it’s good for our own mental peace.

Thanks for the follow and have a wonderful day!

DREAM ON on April 12, 2018:

This is a hub I will definitely visit often. I will try many different ways. Some will work for a time and then if an old memory resurfaces I will try a new method. Each time less and less painful. So anything that works is fine by me. I use to pretend that person is a plastic bottle and squeeze it and squeeze it until I get tired. Then off to recycling you go. To be made into something different all over again. Thank you for all your hubs and creativity. Have a stress free day.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on December 27, 2016:

Thanks Emmanuel Kariuki for reading and commenting on this hub!

So pleased to learn that this is helpful to you.

I have myself tried some of these methods and they are really very effective. We all have some unpleasant memories that must be kept off our minds since it is very important to move on in life.

Wish you a Very Happy New Year! Thanks for your positive and wonderful feedback!

Emmanuel Kariuki from Nairobi, Kenya on December 27, 2016:

Very good advice especially now that I am going into a new year. Who wants baggage that can stand in the way of all the blessings of 2017. I saw a photo of Wangare Maathai (the Nobel Laureate environmentalist) hugging a tree a few years ago, and the image was so powerful it lingered in my mind for a long time. Now I know why. I will definitely hug an old tree when I get close to one. Flushing down the loo all those nuisances that trouble the mind is within reach and will be acted upon soon. Have a great new 2017 and be blessed tremendously

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 21, 2016:

Thank you Ann810 for your kind visit and positive comments!

I am glad you agree with the theme of this hub. I love your quote; it provides a reassurance that ' He will take care of everything and there is nothing to worry about'.

Thank you!

Ann810 from Sunny Cali on September 21, 2016:

Agreed. Dwelling on hurt of the past will only affect the person that's thinking about it. Let it go, give that hurtful burden to the Lord, He will handle it. "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." (Romans 12:19)

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 18, 2016:

Thank you Nadine May for reading and commenting on this hub!

Glad that you liked it . Hugging a tree is very effective and I have come to know from many people that they have benefited from it. Yes older the tree , greater the benefits I suppose.

If we sit peacefully under those grand old trees and talk to them it definitely helps to de- stress!

Thanks again and have a good day!

Nadine May from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa on September 18, 2016:

Great post and I'm a tree hugger. We have some very old prehistoric trees in the Cape and I often wondered what stories are hidden in their old trunks.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 10, 2016:

Thanks MarleneB, for reading and commenting!

As we mature with age it becomes easier to forget the unpleasant happenings of life. Time is the best healer, as is usually said.

I am glad to go through the readers responses on this hub.

Hugging a tree may look awkward but it really helps__just try it once!

Thanks for your valuable feedback!

Marlene Bertrand from USA on September 09, 2016:

It use to be difficult for me to let go of the past. But, now I have found that letting go feels so much better - releasing all that bottled up pain. I found that by talking to God helps a lot. Also, writing down my feelings in a note and then burning the note helps. I laughed at the one about hugging the tree, but I am going to try it for sure. What have I got to lose? I have actually seen other people do it. Now I know why. These are all excellent ideas - all worth trying at least once.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 05, 2016:

Thanks Vespawoolf for reading and appreciating the hub!

I agree with your views on this subject. Negative memories must be removed from our thoughts.

Thanks and have a good day!

Vespa Woolf from Peru, South America on September 05, 2016:

Beautifully said! These are unusual ways to forget the past, but they would work. The idea is to purge the mind of the negative memories. Thank you for sharing!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on August 13, 2015:

Thank you Sunil ji, for your inspiring words!

I am glad you liked these suggestions. I have also read Robin Sharma and he is fabulous. The need for such motivation and inspiration is all the more important for various age groups of people in today's scenario. I can see stress and anxiety has become almost a universal problem.

Thanks for voting up and sharing!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on August 13, 2015:

Thank you Audrey, for revisiting this hub and sharing your valuable and insightful comments!

I agree--something which works for one person may not work for others.

Thank you once again!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on August 13, 2015:

Thank you Charito1962, for reading and commenting on this hub.

I am glad you liked this hub. You are a brave woman.

I wouldn't be writing this hub, had I not experienced an unpleasant past myself but I am glad I have moved on. And some of these ways are tried and tested.

Thank you so much for appreciating!

Sunil Kumar Kunnoth from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India) on August 13, 2015:

Wonderful ideas and comforting too. I will give it a try. Keep on writing such helpful and inspirational hubs. I feel very motivated when I read the books of Robin Sharma. In the present world of anxiety and stress, articles like this will really be a welcome one. Voted up and shared.

Audrey Selig from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma on August 13, 2015:

Hi again - Sometimes we have people in our lives that become obsessive in our thoughts. A person on HP is the person who suggested the green hair and other things to make a person funny looking. I believe it was someone who broke off a relationship, and she was heartbroken. I have passed this on to others in similar situations. Whatever works for one person may not work for another. Blessings, Audrey

Charito Maranan-Montecillo from Manila, Philippines on August 13, 2015:

Actually, I don't find your suggestions crazy, Chitrangada.

On the contrary, I think they're very helpful!

Of all of them, I think I'll choose shouting out my pain in an isolated place. (I'm tired of writing down notes...ha, ha, ha!)

Good hub!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 11, 2015:

Thank you Jodah, for reading and commenting!

I am so glad you liked it. Some of these crazy ideas are worth trying. They have benefited many, including me.

Many thanks for your votes and share!

John Hansen from Queensland Australia on June 10, 2015:

This is a wonderul hub with a great message and advice Chitrangada. Everyone needs to read it, voted up and shared.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 09, 2015:

Thank you Mary Hyatt, for your positive comments and votes!

'Forget and forgive' is the best way to deal with unpleasant past. If we don't follow this, we hurt ourselves much more than anyone else.

Talking to the Almighty is indeed a stress reliever and I also follow these two methods.

Thank you so much for sharing your ways of dealing with unpleasant past.

Mary Hyatt from Florida on June 09, 2015:

What great ideas! I try to just forgive the person who has hurt me, and just move on. I refuse to live in the past. I'd rather live in the NOW.

I also talk to God every night; that helps me get through life.

Voted UP, etc.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on May 27, 2015:

Thank you Audrey, for your kind visit and insightful comments!

I am glad you liked the hub and the ideas.

You have provided another wonderful idea to get rid of negative memories and negative people.

Thanks for sharing it in the comments section. Those reading this hub will benefit from it.

Thank you so much!

Audrey Selig from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma on May 26, 2015:

Thanks Sharon for all your ideas. I like the idea to hug a tree. When people hurt me, I pretend they are in tin cans in my yard where I cannot see them or they have green faces. Then I can laugh. I have written bad happenings on paper to make them leave my mind. This hub gives all sorts of good ideas. Sharing. Blessings, Audrey

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on May 26, 2015:

Thank you peachpurple, for stopping by!

Your idea sounds good. Thanks for mentioning it in the comments, so that others can benefit from it.

Thank you!

peachy from Home Sweet Home on May 26, 2015:

clever ideas, I usually talk to my teddy bear when I had unpleasant memories

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on May 26, 2015:

Thank you Audrey Hunt, for agreeing with me!

The Tree therapy has helped me on several occasions, when I was completely broken due to some unpleasant happenings.

Such is life---some happy and some not so happy moments keep coming in. The important thing is to move on and leave the unpleasant baggage behind.

Appreciate your positive feedback, votes and share!

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on May 26, 2015:

I hug a tree almost everyday and have been doing this for many years. I receive energy and peace when I wrap my arms around a big old trunk. I hold on tight and don't let go until all unpleasant thoughts and experiences from the past are gone.

An excellent hub which proves that holding on to the past when it's painful is toxic and serves no purpose. Voted up +++ and sharing.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on January 21, 2015:

Thank you colorfulone, for your kind visit and positive feedback!

Glad to learn that you were able to move on from the painful past. Hugging an old tree has worked for me as well, when I have had a very rough time in my life sometime back.

Thanks again!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on January 21, 2015:

Thank you Thelma Alberts, for your kind visit and positive comments!

I am glad you liked this hub. Hugging a tree and sharing your unpleasant memories with them, to ease off tensions is a tried and tested method. I have myself tried some of these methods.

You are right, life is too short to keep thinking of unpleasant memories. We must try to move on by whatever means possible.

Thanks again!

Susie Lehto from Minnesota on January 20, 2015:

I love all of your suggestions. BTW, I have hugged a big old tree before, and it took and handled that pain very for well, so I didn't have to.

God bless!

Thelma Alberts from Germany and Philippines on January 20, 2015:

I like your ideas of forgetting the unpleasant past. I will try to hug a huge tree if ever I can see one. You are right. Life is so short to deal with our bad, sad and crazy past. We have to move on.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on January 13, 2015:

Thank you Emese Fromm, for reading and appreciating this hub!

This is one of my favorite hub, because most of these methods have been tried and tested by myself and others. I would be very happy if these help someone who is suffering from the baggage of unpleasant past.

Thanks for your support!

Emese Fromm from The Desert on January 12, 2015:

Great article. Thank you for sharing these tips. For me, what usually works is writing it all down then destroying the paper, I've used a few of the methods you described for this. It works in some cases, in some others I'm still trying. Acknowledging the hurt is the very first step though, too often we are in denial about it at least that's the case with me, but once you face it, you can move on. Again thank you for sharing.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 17, 2014:

Thank you teaches12345, for your kind visit and comments!

I am glad you liked this hub and the unusual ideas. Talking to God works well for me too.

Thanks!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on September 17, 2014:

Thank you Paula Atwell, for your visit, share and comments!

Appreciate your idea of going for a long, aggressive walk. Thanks!

Dianna Mendez on September 16, 2014:

All of your suggestions are good ways to help one get rid of pain from the past. I especially love your idea of talking to God, it works for me. Love the bury it in the ground idea - that would be symbolic. Sharing with others.

Paula Atwell from Cleveland, OH on September 16, 2014:

I like the tree hugging idea. I tend to walk it off. Take some time and go for a long aggressive walk. :)

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 29, 2014:

Hi Cherylann Mollan!

Thanks for visiting this hub and your valuable comments!

Moving on is the best possible solution to those nagging, stubborn and painful past.

Glad you liked this hub and thanks for adding more value to this hub.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 29, 2014:

Thank you Dolores Monet, for your kind visit and positive comments!

There can hardly be anyone, who has not undergone those difficult phases of life.

Your ritual sounds interesting to me and I am sure will be effective too. Thanks for adding to the hub.

Many thanks for sharing the hub!

Cherylann Mollan from India on July 29, 2014:

Wonderful hub and very wise thoughts. Moving on is the hardest thing to do because we always wonder whether we're making the right decision, or if we are being too harsh on the person who has wronged us. But moving on is infinitely better than the confusion, hurt and anger you experience when you're fence sitting. Great suggestions here, especially the one's about discarding thoughts on the seashore or in a valley. Voted up!

Dolores Monet from East Coast, United States on July 28, 2014:

Your ideas are not crazy at all! Creating a ritual to say goodbye to that pain is a great idea and I have actually applied several to my own life. I have a little personal ritual where I throw flowers into a river and watch them drift away.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 28, 2014:

Thank you manatita44, for referring this link!

Again my sincere and heartfelt thanks for dedicating such a lovely and beautiful poem to me.

Thanks to a wonderful person and a dear friend!

manatita44 from london on July 26, 2014:

You may wish to look at this: https://hubpages.com/literature/In-The-Presence-of...

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 26, 2014:

Thanks Michelle, for appreciating!

Michelle Liew from Singapore on July 25, 2014:

These little physical actions are so healing. Well said, Chitra.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on July 05, 2014:

Thank you aviannovice, for reading and commenting!

Glad you got the message of this hub. Thanks for your votes!

Deb Hirt from Stillwater, OK on July 04, 2014:

Life isn't a bowl of cherries, but you certainly gave some great ways to get rid of pent up emotions. Awesome and up.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 30, 2014:

Thanks heidithorne, for your kind visit and valuable comments!

I am glad that you like the message in this hub. Pleased to know that you found some of the ideas interesting.

Thanks and have a good day!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 30, 2014:

Thank you Nithya, for reading and commenting!

I agree with your valuable opinion that, life is too short to be worrying for what others think or say about us.

Thank you!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 30, 2014:

Thank you Suzette, for your kind visit and support!

I agree, as we grow older, we become wiser. When I look back, I feel I should not have wasted my time over some such matters, which was quite disturbing emotionally.

I am sure hugging the tree helps as I have done it earlier, to be honest.

Many thanks for voting up and sharing!

Heidi Thorne from Chicago Area on June 30, 2014:

Indeed, getting stuck by and in the past can be crippling. To that I can attest! Some interesting and symbolic suggestions for dealing with it. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and beautiful!

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on June 30, 2014:

Very inspiring and yes life is too short to be spent worrying about what other people say. Great hub and ideas!!

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on June 30, 2014:

You have come up with some unique ideas for getting over pain. I love the tree hugging idea. I may do that! LOL! This is such an inspirational hub for ridding oneself of emotional pain. Thanks for sharing your wise ideas with us. I think you are wise beyond your years. Voted up+ and shared.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 30, 2014:

Thank you manatita44, for your kind visit and valuable comments!

I agree, Music is a healer. I appreciate your spiritual approach to deal with hurts.

Hari Om Tat Sat!

manatita44 from london on June 30, 2014:

Interesting ways of dealing with past hurts and difficulties. I felt that it got better from 'The Last Word.' Music is 'cool.' A bit short. Hari Om Tat Sat!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 28, 2014:

Thank you denise.w.anderson, for your insightful comments!

I always await your valuable comments, whenever I write on a subject related to emotional health. Since you have a deep understanding of this subject.

And I agree with you that by getting rid of negative emotions, we are able to move forward. Even I had such moments in my life, but I have wisely moved on!

Thanks and appreciate your comments and support!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 28, 2014:

Thank you Devika, for sharing your valuable opinion!

I know, memories fade away with lot of difficulty and requires a conscious effort. But to move on is the wise approach to follow.

Appreciate your comments!

Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on June 28, 2014:

Anytime we can visualize ourselves getting rid of the negative emotions that plague us, we are able to move forward. When I had anger issues over past wrongs, I would visualize them as a pile of baseballs in front of me. Using a baseball bat, I would hit them, one by one, as hard as I could, and see them flying over the top of the stadium. They were gone, and I felt a whole lot better!

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 28, 2014:

Memories don't go away forever only for a short period, your ideas are promising.

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 28, 2014:

Hi suzzycue!

Glad to see you on this page! Appreciate your positive comments! Some of these ideas have been tried and tested. The whole idea is to divert the mind.

Thanks and have a good day!

Chitrangada Sharan (author) from New Delhi, India on June 28, 2014:

Thanks billybuc, for stopping by!

Appreciate your comments! Glad you liked the message.

Susan Britton from Ontario, Canada on June 27, 2014:

I love the pothole mantra. I try not to live in the past only for the moment. This way of living has made my life happier. You have very good ideas here to stop dwelling on negative and go for the positive that comes from it.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on June 27, 2014:

I'm not sure how many of these I would try, but your point about ridding ourselves of past pain is right on.