Unloved Child ≠ Unloved Adult
Did you feel unloved in childhood? Do you blame your parents for everything? You need to forgive them and finally grow up.
We all know someone who has experienced a lack of love and attention in childhood. If you don’t receive love, you will feel very unhappy. Some parents don’t know to express their feelings. The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or chocolate. It is focused attention. You can’t buy love.
Love is understanding, attention, acceptance and caring. Parents need to accept their children as they are. If they try to change them, their children won’t have self-confidence. They will believe they are not good enough.
It’s not unusual that some parents don’t know to express love, but it is not the biggest mistake. Some parents abandon their children or insult and abuse them. It is the worst experience for children which will have a bad influence on their adulthood.
If you carry your childhood with you, you never become older.— Tom Stoppard
Unloved child ≠ unloved adult
If you feel a lack of love in childhood, you will believe that nobody will love you in adulthood. What’s more, you won’t love yourself. Self-love is a base of every other type of love. You won’t have self-esteem and self-confidence. If you don't see your worth, nobody will see it either. We show people how to treat us.
We won’t be capable of finding the real friends and a healthy relationship. When we are young, we are surrounded by our parents who are always close to us. They are the most important people in our development. We will choose people who will hurt us like our parents. Maybe we only want to reveal past again and change everything, but we can't do it.
In addition, your parents maybe didn’t know how to love you. Maybe their parents didn’t teach them how to love. You should understand them and forgive for your inner peace. Maybe they didn’t hurt you on purpose. Learn how to forgive and move on. Maybe you will realize that they loved you but on their way. We all have our ways to express love. Let go of the past because future is waiting for you!
As a conclusion, there is a big chance for an unloved child to become unloved adult, but every rule has an exception. If you want, you can be an exception. You should recognize a bad pattern you are stuck in and break it. It is very difficult but you should find some help. Experts will help you boost self-confidence.
Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward.— Roy Bennett
Learn how to be loved
Love is a never-ending learning process. When we are young, we don’t know a lot of things. We will learn powerful life lessons through our experience. Would you like to be unhappy forever? Do you have the strong will to change yourself? You should begin now! Don’t wait anymore. Don’t waste your time! Life is happening now. You deserve happiness. We accept the love we think we deserve. You deserve to be loved. Do you know that?
What's more, it is not what you are that holds you back. It is what you think you are not. Do you believe that you don’t deserve the love? How many virtues do you have? Do you have a lot? It is the first step in building your self-confidence. When you see your worth, the others will see it, too. They will begin to respect you and love you.
You should know you can change your life. If you are looking for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror. Everything depends on you. You can create a great future.
You are always free to change your mind and choose a different future, or a different past.— Richard Bach