The Law of Attraction Is a Scam. How to Improve Your Life Without Sacrificing Your Sanity.

Updated on April 17, 2018
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Amber is an empath and introvert from Ontario, Canada. She knows the struggle, and the struggle is real. One love. Always.

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The Law of Attraction. The big 'ol "Secret" that so many have used to bring in heaps of cash over the last few years.

Ever heard of it? If not, I am not entirely certain as to where you hail from, because this crazyness is everywhere.

I am going to write this from the stance that you are familiar with this "age old Philosophy" that is the Universal Law of Attraction (LOA for short). That being said, I will go ahead and touch on the basics.

The LOA is a "belief" or practice that basically means this:

What you think and feel is what will manifest into your reality.

The mantra goes something like this:

thoughts = outcomes or "think, believe, achieve."

Sounds miraculous, doesn't it? Who would have thought that becoming the next Oprah or Jeff Bezos all boiled down to just "thinking it and believing it?"

There you have it folks. I accept Paypal, just sayin'

The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life.

— Jack Canfield

Oh please, Jack. The things that people will say to sell you something these days, huh?

Now whoa. Wait a second. I am not saying that believing in yourself and working hard to achieve your dreams and goals is a bad thing. In fact, it's very obviously not.

My problem with the LOA is how it is marketed and how it targets vulnerable people who are literally desperate for life to get better.

These are the people who have tried everything to see their lives improve only to fall flat. Over and over again. As you can imagine, this takes one Hell of a toll on a person's emotional and mental health.

How do I know, you ask? Because I am one of those people.

When you are grasping at straws just to keep the lights on, believe me, you are at a point of desperate.

Fear not though, fellow Losers! There is hope for us all yet. I mean, of course there is always going to be some rich dude who will swoop on in to blow fluff up your ass and take full advantage of your pain and suffering.

I mean, that's just business of course.

Coincidentally, Law of Attraction pushers and profiteers also tend to have an extensive background in Psychology, Sales, and Marketing. They know exactly what to say and how to say it to convince even the brightest bulb in the box that their methods are based on factual evidence rather than theory. This in and of itself, should raise a red flag. So how is it that so many otherwise intelligent and rational people continue to fall for it over and over again?

The Profiteers Of Woo

What is "Woo"? The way that I use that term is when describing some type of crap that has no real basis in reality. As far as I am concerned, there is no Law of Attraction. At least not in accordance with how it is being jammed down our throats.

I often find myself wondering, how do these Con Artists manage to actually sell this junk, and how did I even fall for it at first myself?

Let's take a look at how the LOA is being marketed:

  • You are reminded of how terrible your life is currently.
  • You are reminded of the fact that you have literally tried everything but "can't seem to catch a break."
  • You are then asked "but what if it's not your fault? What if you just don't know The Secret?
  • Then you are told their personal sob story, their rags to riches, and how they overcame it "simply by changing their beliefs."
  • In comes the basic LOA concepts, "think-believe-achieve."
  • They now conjure up some type of "Scientific Facts" about Quantum Physics and other big words that regular folk don't understand. But, it sounds legit and and Science, right?.
  • Here comes the "name dropping." Oprah uses the LOA! Will Smith uses the LOA! Hell, even Jesus Himself was all about the freakin' LOA! All of these people have one thing in common...
  • Knowing all of this, you would have to be stark raving mad to not buy this program or book or magic wand. Don't you want to be like Oprah?
  • "Options": this "flavor of the week" Guru won't force you here, but, YOU have the power to choose "The Good Life", or stay a miserable jerk until the day you die. It's really up to you.
  • Toss in a few more "testimonials" (that were bought on Fiverr most likely) and get a few celebrities on board to push the Woo onto the masses.

BOOM. You are sittin' pretty after that. An endorsement by Oprah is the literal Pot of Gold at the end of the Woo Rainbow. And Oprah is all about fluff and rainbows.

As you read that, did you feel as if you were reading the Memoirs of a Snake Oil Salesman? Because if so, you would be correct.

The thing about the whole "LOA" nonsense that really leaves me almost completely cross-eyed is the fact that you are not even actually paying for a physical product. You are buying an idea that has been so over-inflated that even a Hot Air Balloon would feel shy (if it had like, feelings and stuff.)

Isn't that something?

What's worse is that it is super easy to sell this pile of Woo. When you are beaten down and running very low on options, you will believe anything.

These guys know it. In fact, they really do have "The Secret." Want in on it? Here it is: People who are at their wits end will buy anything if it even has a remote chance of changing their circumstances.

Human Psychology really is a wretched thing, isn't it?

"Want to know 'The Secret', Loser?"
"Want to know 'The Secret', Loser?"

The Law Of Attraction Will Make You Insane

In all fairness, maybe not insane in the sense that you actually wind up in some sort of Asylum, but there is no question in my mind that this Law Of Attraction narrative will likely take a significant toll on your emotional and mental health.

The pushers of the LOA (the dudes who are actually making that fortune that the Universe continues to deny you, by the way) have made some pretty hefty promises to their customers that are almost impossible to ultimately keep, and impossible to bring a lawsuit about when it dawns on you that it's all freakin' Woo.

When you go full-hog into the "teachings" of the LOA, and days, months, years, pass with no glorious "manifestations" to speak of (in fact, things might have actually gotten worse) imagine how big of a failure that this makes one feel.

Chances are fairly good that you bought into the LOA because it was a last resort. When the last resort is yet another failure, what does that leave one with? Is there a bonus last resort? Beats me.

There are a good amount of people who have gotten so involved in the LOA that they actually lost their lives.

Sad, but painfully true. The LOA teaches (according to Rhonda Byrne and Oprah of course) that a person can literally overcome anything simply by believing themselves to be that thing. Or, in some cases, if they have something bad, such as cancer, believing themselves to be cancer-free will ultimately take care of that pesky actual cancer (that doesn't exist, my bad. Sorry LOAers).

When you are die-hard (no pun intended) about the LOA, you do the things that create the things. Even when you are actually not in the greatest position to be doing said things.

A good example: taking out an unreasonably high Mortgage that you are unable to comfortably afford, because in order to have this life, you must live it as if it actually were. Screw you, responsible spending! No wonder you aren't a real millionaire if you haven't been pretending to be a real millionaire (I need that cat picture again I am thinking).

Here is the best part of it all: when you (inevitably) lose your home, lose your job, or even lose your damn life, guess what happens?

You are written off as someone who clearly wasn't following the LOA properly.

The LOA is a Universal Law, my friend. Obviously you only believed mostly. The Universe ain't got time for you. It demands 100% belief and it takes only one negative thought (that is totally beyond your control in fact) to piss that Motha' right off.

One strike, you're out.

That is actually beyond my comprehension. To actually believe that someone in poverty is only poor because they "manifested" their employer packing ship and heading to Mexico, that Holocaust Victims "manifested" Auschwitz, or that children starving to death in Africa "manifested" their hunger is completely obscene at absolute best. Despicable at worst.

Is it any wonder that we live in a Culture of Narcissism?

There is nothing more "blame the victim" than this Woo-ass Law of Attraction rubbish, you guys.

I don't know that I have to really dig much deeper into how the LOA will send your mental health into a nosedive straight on into the proverbial toilet here.

The only people "manifesting" their "dream lives" strictly by using the LOA, are those who stand to profit. And you can take that one straight to the bank.

This wouldn't be you, if you acted more "Law of Attraction-y."
This wouldn't be you, if you acted more "Law of Attraction-y."

Is There Any Truth Here?

There sure is! There really is something to this whole "Law of Attraction" thing, but I promise you, there is no book, course, or conference necessary.

Are you ready to know "The Secret"?

If you wish to improve your life, achieve goals, bring in more money, find your soulmate, or in general just feel better?

Effort.

There ya go. You work towards it. You accept that error is inevitable as you trudge along on your journey. What you don't do is give up completely. Unless what you are giving up is faith in the LOA. Then yes, go ahead and give that crazy up right now.

Accept that it may ultimately not work out. You can only beat a dead horse for so long. The same goes for a sinking ship. That doesn't mean "give up", it means try something else instead. And for Godsakes, make sure that you are taking a lesson from each and every "screw up" along the way.

Focus on your talents, passions, interests and expand on those. Take the time to listen to others, swap ideas, collaborate, learn systems, whatever is required to further you along and get you closer to your end goal. "Belief" is not enough here. You already have enough belief if you are actively pursuing something. Who goes out and does something, believing it will fail? That doesn't even make sense. Humans don't do much unless there is at least a perceived and possible reward at the end of the day. We call those our "motivators."

If you are spending your day in a panic over the LOA, guess what you are not doing? Actually working towards achieving something. See how that works?

There is no Secret. The "secret" is, get up, work hard, be clever, study, help others, be nice. That is the Secret.

— Kevin M. Folta

Look, I know that there are benefits to positive thinking and believing in yourself. Those are two ingredients that one must have in order to keep at 'er and push through the times where the storm tosses your ship around a bit. But this alone does nothing for you. "The Law of Attraction" and "manifesting" has nothing to do with the "Universe" and more to do with your own skills and talents that you work on developing each and every day. You win some, you lose some.

If you lose? Let that junk go.

Have a cry, a pout, a drunken weekend in Disneyland for all it matters. Self-sooth, curse God, and get back to business. If that "thing" that you are beating your brains out over has become a case of "failure to launch" after endless attempts and expense? Drop it like it's hot my friend.

When you are feeling at your worst, your lowest point, and when life feels like an endless ball of torture, the last thing that you need to be doing in inviting more garbage to the dinner table. It is during these times that we have to be at our most cautious, because these predators are waiting for you to get on Google and type in something miserable. They are excited for your misery because where you see misery, they see dollar signs.

Don't buy it.

You are already thinking "negatively" during the worst of times anyways, might as well think negatively about those who deserve all of that "negative energy" as far as I am concerned. If your life sucks? These Con Artists suck even more. Let's stop making these jerks rich as a collective, ok? I have fallen for it at one point as many others have. Am I a dumb person at the end of the day? No. I was a vulnerable person who was desperate for something and as a result, this vulnerability was exploited. I am responsible for not focusing on logic rather than emotion, but that certainly doesn't justify being taken advantage of. And this applies to anyone.

If you "fail" at the LOA, it is because it was designed to fail. If you are an "LOA" success story? Take a look around: did you get lucky? Did you know the right people? Did you take real action towards your goals and invest the blood, sweat, and tears? Yes? Awesome! Now how about you go ahead and give yourself some credit rather than some galaxies and stardust? Do you seriously believe that this is where the credit is due? If so, we probably have no real business talking in the first place.

Coincidences happen, and yes, I do have a few core beliefs in regards to the whole "Spiritual" side of things. But the "Law of Attraction" as per Oprah and the other like-minded vultures is just not one of them.

My experience of hopping on the LOA bandwagon caused a serious decline in my emotional state. That is the truth. I found it impossible to think positive when I felt horrible. How do I convince myself that the fridge is full when a tumbleweed blows across the middle rack? Pro tip: you don't. It's redundant. Thinking to the contrary prevents me from figuring out a solution. It's as simple as that.

As I tried my hardest though, despite the hokey nonsense, as things continued to get worse, I fully blamed myself. Even in circumstances that were completely beyond my own control. Does anyone see how this is a healthy way to function? Me either.

To even consider now that I would believe that my "subconscious beliefs" caused such incredible pain and misery is truly a sore spot here. Some things I did wrong yes. Other things were the result of actions and intentions by others of a more sinister nature that caused some incredible harm.

And so it was, right? It had nothing to do with "beliefs". It had everything to do with circumstances and choices.

In summary: The LOA and the whole "Secret" Cult is just no good for you if you hope to say sane as you go through the storms in life. The LOA teaches a concept that bad things happen to people because they somehow brought it on themselves by "thinking negatively." This is complete and total nonsense. There are events that occur in this world by the Powers That Be who have created a system that is designed for the accumulation of power while keeping the rest of us in a state of fear and slavery. This is in regards to things such as those poor people that are in Syria if you are paying attention. To even consider that so much atrocity and violations of basic Human Rights is somehow the fault of the ones harmed by it the most is sheer lunacy, and wholly, seriously, ignorant. Thankfully I didn't get to this level of jackass with the LOA. The same can't be said for a lot of other Cult Members though.

"The Secret" came from a Scam Artist who figured out how Psychology works and exploited the absolute marbles out of it. She then managed to get her "Magic Bullet" under the nose of an even bigger Scam Artist named Oprah. Once Oprah sinks her teeth into something that she knows damn well will bring out the "cha-ching" that she literally exists for? It's pretty much a sealed deal.

We were all duped, continue to be duped, and failure is only your fault if you don't even try in the first place. Otherwise there is no such thing as failure, only lessons and experiences. Take responsibility for your errors yes, but also acknowledge what is not within your control. Be fair to yourself, let it go and try again.

THAT is the damn "Secret." Period.

There you have it. Have you been fooled by this one? What are your thoughts on the whole "LOA" bandwagon? Have some solid and helpful insight into what actually does work that I might have missed? Share it in the comments! Let's hash this one out and have fun while we are at it. Cool? Cool.

Remember: if you love something? Keep going. If it is just not feasible and ends up dulling your shine? Nix it and move on. No Woo required.

© 2018 Amber Slater

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      Amber Slater 4 weeks ago from Ontario, Canada

      Hello again, long-lost Mom lol!! Love your comments, so much detail and I couldn't agree more! That is exactly it: absolutely everything regarding the LOA boils down to "well, d'uh" y'know? Like, if you take action on something, learn, develop, work at it, etc? Wouldn't one do all of that with the expectation of a positive outcome? Why go to University if you didn't believe that you would become whatever you studied? If I learn how to build a table, and start to follow the instructions with the intention of building a table, would I expect to create a refrigerator? LOL sorry, I can't help but laugh a bit here.

      This is what I mean though when I say "vulnerable people." Anyone who is in the right state of mind will look at it all objectively and be like "hey....wait a second...." whereas a person who is experiencing grief (which comes in all sorts of varieties) will be more susceptible to the scam.

      I believe fully that what one puts out, they can expect to see it come back in. Or, "manifest" *snort*. But I certainly do not believe that variables and outside factors don't also play a role in how things turn out. Yes, you may get your degree, but if there are no available jobs in your field, is this because at some point you thought "negatively", or is it more honest to say that there simply are no jobs and you need to take alternative measures?

      Stupid Oprah, I swear lol!!

      Thanks for your comment! Always a pleasure to hear from you!

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      Paula 4 weeks ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Hello....The concept of all the hub-bub on this "Law of Attraction" theory, has always translated to me as a simple notion of positive thinking & action, taken far beyond it's actual meaning and power.

      Apparently someone somewhere, just couldn't accept the simplicity & common sense of this idea, so they took it to fantastic levels.

      Certainly we can all accept that to be realistic and proactive in our every day lives may be beneficial and lead to reasonable success. However, taking this concept to the far-out realm of "thinking things into literal existence," requires a dose of OFF-the-wall-behavior.

      We can hope to attract people, comfort and happiness by being positive, loving and attentive but believing in magical, auto-miraculous events without human effort simply means it's time for a serious psyche evaluation! Good article for all sane individuals!.............Peace, Paula

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      Amber Slater 4 weeks ago from Ontario, Canada

      Hey Duane,

      Thank you for also being aware of how important this one is. I agree, it really does need to be said, as so many people are being taken advantage of and abused by this "theory". I am not above some trickery once in awhile myself. I felt terrible when I was trying to "learn" the LOA, especially when realizing that I was really just learning Common Sense at the end of the day lol.

      Thanks for being another voice in this discussion, I appreciate it!

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      Duane Townsend 4 weeks ago from Detroit

      This is an important Hub. Amber you've mirrored how I felt about the LOA since I encountered it.

      Hell, I tried it. It induces one to ignore real world facts and conditions and just -believe- ... not psychologically healthy, at all.

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