Lanecia enjoys inspiring others through self-help articles. She has a master's degree in Library and Information Science from Kent State.
Remember that time when you failed miserably? Like, the very first time you came to realize that failure was real.
How did you react? Did you start over, or did you give up altogether and call it quits? You can always look back at these moments and recall what it was like to be at that point in life.
It’s probably safe to say that many of us have gone through some tough times such adversity. We’ll try something, fail at it, and decide whether or not to let it define us in the long run.
The truth is, we'll continue to fail multiple times during our lives. No one, I mean no one, is free from this part about life. We'll come to realize this very idea at a young age.
Before growing into the adults we become, we’ll struggle and fail over a thousand times. As children we have tried to talk, walk, and run all at the same time.
What’s so fascinating, is how as children we are able to maintain a level of enthusiasm for these failures. We keep going at it almost never giving up, ultimately becoming the adults we are today.
Some people tend to avoid failure and some people keep trying despite the threat of losing success.
Happiness and comfort are what feels good, so it's only natural to want to avoid failure.
My 3rd Grade Story
I got my first F in 3rd grade.
When my teacher handed me my graded paper, I couldn't believe my eyes. I thought for sure I had every answer correct, yet I did not study. Nope, not one bit. I was confident in nothing but my ability to write numbers down in the blanks.
But I kept telling myself that I could get a good grade if I just tried and pretended as if I was busy.
When the class left for our gym period, I confronted my teacher. I asked, "Why did you give me an F?". She replied, "You earned an F, just try a little harder next time. You have time to make up your test". To my surprise, I learned there were others who also didn't do so well.
She provided us with study guides and materials I could use to improve my test. Instead of taking me to my gym period, she escorted me to the library where I could study and check out math books for home use.
That day I took two math books home and studied all night.
My mom thought I was possessed and finally forced me to bed at 10:00 p.m.
I got a chance to retake the exam and got an A. I never got an F in the class again.
Though this happened at a young age, my failure taught me to keep going despite my bad grades. If I had given up and accepted the grade, there would be no room to grow. My teacher proved I had greater potential and pushed me to be more prepared.
By confronting the issue, and never giving up I also became a better student.
There are Lessons in Adveristy
Believe it or not, there are so many great lessons when facing adversity. Many of the successful people you know in the world have fought through the tough road of adversity. This is definite proof that no one can become who they are without it.
To get better at something, we have to work on it over time. Meaning we need to put in the work. If we happen to fail at it, the only way to keep getting better is to keep trying again no matter what.
Eventually, we'll become experts at whatever we are trying to accomplish.
It may feel awful to be reprimanded by your boss. Yes, it may feel terrible that you totaled your brand new car. It may feel horrible that after paying for your expenses you have zero dollars left in your bank account.
All these things seem like a failure, but we can learn from them. We learn to study for the class, spend wisely, be better employees, and drive more carefully.
You see, we become better people because of adversity.
Here's Your Gift to Take Away
Failure is rough and struggling is discouraging, but when you fight for a better tomorrow, you become bigger and better person. Let no one stop you.
Success is based upon all of the fights we fought to get to where we are today.
Please don't go out and seek adversity because you think it will make you successful. But rather, take steps to success and don't expect an easy route.
Live life to grow and get better at whatever it is you wish to accomplish, and don't expect not to struggle. You will have to face adversity at some point.
Embrace it, learn from it, and try again.
Help others to do the same, even if it's not your duty to do so.
Share your story of overcoming adversity, and inspire other people who can't see failure as a great thing.
Believe me, it is a process, just keep going.
© 2017 Lanecia Smith