The Greatest Gift: Love

Updated on February 15, 2020
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Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. Her goal is to help people live their best lives every day by sharing her joy and love of life.

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The Greatest Gift

During times of turbulence and fear, the greatest gift you can offer to yourself and to the world is the gift of love.

Love conquers all fear. Love opens hearts. Love heals the wounded. If each one of us offered love to everyone we encounter, we could create a more peaceful existence in our own corner of the world.

This article shows you how to offer love in a variety of challenging circumstances.

It Begins With You


Start By Loving Yourself

It's hard to learn to love other people, until you've learned to love yourself. Loving yourself does not mean you have a huge ego and walk around with a big head, thinking you are the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Loving yourself means you offer yourself compassion, forgiveness and kindness. It means you quiet the inner critic who constantly demeans and belittles you. It means you acknowledge your mistakes and allow yourself to move forward.

When you begin practicing self-compassion, you soften your heart and broaden your perspective on other people's lives.

Loving yourself allows you to be human and mistakes, while still doing the best you can to be a good, kind, loving person.

Some practical things you can do: Write yourself a love letter, telling yourself all the things you like about you; once a week, allow yourself to relax and watch a movie without feeling guilty; take care of your health; set reasonable boundaries with others.

For more great ideas, check out this article, 8 Steps You Need to Take to Love Yourself First

Leave the Past Behind You


Loving is Letting Go

The past is over. You cannot fix it or change it. The only moment you have in which to offer love is this moment right now.

Holding onto past hurts, past mistakes and grievances only creates misery in the present moment. It does not heal what has been damaged, nor does it make you feel better.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Offer yourself love for the hurts you caused, the deeds you've done, and the words you spoke that may have hurt another. Apologize to the person, if that feels appropriate, and then move on. Carrying a burden of guilt through your life is exhausting and unhealthy. Moving forward, practice kindness and offer love. These gifts help heal hurting hearts.

For those who have hurt you, done you wrong, damaged you, or whatever: it is time for you to move on. Yes, that person (or those people) did something that hurt. If they continue hurting you in this present moment, it's time for you to lovingly disengage and free yourself from their damaging energy. If they have moved on from that behavior, offer forgiveness and love and move on.

You do not offer forgiveness to soothe the other person. You offer forgiveness to someone who's hurt you, in order to free yourself from the pain of your past. You are not a victim any longer. The more you carry around your hurt, resentment, grief or whatever burden you drag along, the more damage you do to yourself.

Forgive the past and let it go. You never have to speak a word to the person. In your heart, or out loud, tell the Universe that you forgive that person. Write them a letter, and then tear it up. Then mentally bless them, offer them an abundance of love in their lives, and let that stuff go.

Offer Love to Everyone


Offer Love in All Circumstances

The easiest way to increase the abundance of love in your life is to practice blessing and loving every person you meet. Silently greet each person you see with compassion and lovingkindness.

It doesn't matter who they are, what they look like, or what you think of them. See them. Really look. Notice that they too are a human being, struggling and trying to stay alive, just like you and your friends. No matter if they look better than you, worse than you, smarter, dumber, richer, poorer, prettier, uglier.

Stop. Look past the outward appearance and bless their heart. Send love from your beautiful soul directly to their beautiful soul. You don't have to make eye contact or stop and introduce yourself, unless of course you feel compelled to do so.

Offer love to every person who crosses your path today. In the face of someone's anger, recognize that at it's core, their anger comes from a place of fear. Offer them love.

In light of someone's rude or ungrateful behavior, recognize that they come from a place of insecurity and fear and offer them love. No matter what attitude or circumstance arises in your life today, offer love.

Love is always the correct answer and the best gift you can offer.

Questions & Answers


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      • Deborah Demander profile imageAUTHOR

        Deborah Demander Reno 

        6 weeks ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

        Lorena, thank you so much for your comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.


      • Deborah Demander profile imageAUTHOR

        Deborah Demander Reno 

        6 weeks ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD


        Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I do agree. Love can conquer all things.


      • Deborah Demander profile imageAUTHOR

        Deborah Demander Reno 

        6 weeks ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

        Thanks Peggy!

        I always remind my students that love is never the wrong response, in any situation.


      • Deborah Demander profile imageAUTHOR

        Deborah Demander Reno 

        6 weeks ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

        Ruby, thank you for reading and commenting.

        I appreciate you.


      • Deborah Demander profile imageAUTHOR

        Deborah Demander Reno 

        6 weeks ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

        Eric, thank you for your comments, and thanks for reading the article.

        I think love is the absence of fear.

        Thanks for your time!


      • Lorna Lamon profile image

        Lorna Lamon 

        6 weeks ago

        We all have this gift within us and your article is a reminder of how we should use it. A joyful read full of hope. Thank you for sharing.

      • ChitrangadaSharan profile image

        Chitrangada Sharan 

        6 weeks ago from New Delhi, India

        Beautiful descriptions of love, in your article.

        Love is the answer to all the complexities of the World. Love can conquer all.

        Thanks for sharing this inspiring and uplifting article, an important reminder to everyone.

        Thanks for sharing.

      • Peggy W profile image

        Peggy Woods 

        6 weeks ago from Houston, Texas

        You echo what Bill Holland always says regarding Love is the answer. This world of ours would be much more pleasant and peaceful if we followed your and his advice.

      • always exploring profile image

        Ruby Jean Richert 

        6 weeks ago from Southern Illinois

        I found this to be inspiring and packed full of excellent advice. Thank you.

      • Ericdierker profile image

        Eric Dierker 

        6 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        Excellent piece on true love. When I see a braggart or one in anger it seems to be a lack of acceptance and love of themselves. Fear turned outward is anger. Loving is so easy it is addicting.

        Thanks for these great thoughts.


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