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Suffering Is Optional: Step out of the Darkness and Into the Light

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


When everything is wrong, life’s journey can feel like no matter how hard you try; things will never get better. Life can get so hard that it can feel as if you can’t go on. Things are bad when it feels like you are stepping inside an empty cave at night in complete darkness. Though I have learned more in the dark than I could in the light, no one is immune to terrible things happening.

But on days where life seems to have no point, and the path you walk feels like you are going nowhere, your life has been a cycle of a repeat because nothing will change. I stopped focusing on the worst-case scenario, and that guides me forward to find peace and serenity. A calmness where I can walk toward the glimmer of enlightenment in the cave to discover, suffer is optical, and you can step out of the darkness into the light.

This marathon called life comes with many trials, twists, and turns to outrun the dark to the light. Though, some people will not defeat the darkness to join the light. Whether you lose or win is precisely up to you. Life dishes up hardships, but suffering is optional; you have two choices. You can let the darkness break you, or you can allow the pain to give you strength, to emerge from the dark and walk into the light; the decision is all yours.

If you want to win the race of life as you been through so much hurt that you wondered, are you running late with little time to spare at the beginning of the competition? Well, I experienced so much pain that I questioned if I would come to the finish line. I learned to run life’s marathon; it comes with added challenges, but it is all about patience and endurance — not of the affliction you are enduring.

Life has delivered me so many violent blows that it has knocked me down to the ground. As I laid there, a feeling of hopelessness consumed me. Slowly, over time, I realized that if I used these events as teachable moments, it would be the catalyst for me to amend my life. Now, my life is better, and I am free to do as I love - writing.


Adversity is inevitable. Many disappointments can weigh you down; It will affect many. Some will experience trouble in this life and all. It will be difficult for them to get up, while certain ones will continue day-to-day to stand.

You’ll never be able to avoid the trouble of this world, but what’s so great about suffering; once you learn about it, it helps you understand emotional intelligence and allows you to step out of the darkness and stand in the light.

A quote by Desmond Tutu says, “Hope sees that there is light despite all the darkness.” These words of wisdom share, “Human existence is a range of uncertainty that is created by their own hands.” Life is full of challenges, but we all must go through many difficulties to learn. Often, we forget that through the darkness comes light.

I want to share my experience of how I stepped out of darkness into the light. But before I do, let me say, I encounter days where I felt as if there was no hope for me to be happy, but I learned that darkness has a way of reminding me of the light I’ve enjoyed during the best days.

Throughout the past two years of my life, I have faced the most profound darkness anyone could experience. And the agony was much more than I could endure. Sin is a price to pay. For that reason, I have experienced a terrifying encounter, like the rage of a mighty storm mixed with a tremendous thunderbolt. Although I have consistently had an overactive conscience, and it has kept me from so much. I learn the worst sorrow, develop the most overpowering joy.

I have tried to change all these external things, but during my trials and tribulations, I asked myself who I was, why terrible things were the case with me; I even question where my life was going. My life comprises entanglement, full of sin and wrongdoing. I suffered because of it.

Things got so bad that I hate waking up each morning, and I became so increasingly isolated. Remember, evil practices will alter your future. No one can avoid the pain and sorrow your sin will bring. If I want to find joy, I must repent of my sins, accept God in my life; keep his laws and commandments.

I faced several horrible soul-shaking experiences that led to my life crises. One challenge in particular like; being injured on the job. Not by my fault the loss of income, which led to me losing my home and everything around me. After I gave up my permanent address, my life comprises being in a stage of moving around town, trying to live from one extended stay to the next.

And when the money ran out, I had to leave the extended stay. From there, I was trying to live with the family and not wanted there. I am now at a stage where I’m in total darkness; I can’t see any light or hope.

As the storms of life continued to rage, I found myself tired, wanting to get past my troubles. I truly desired a change of heart. I was tired of waking up and feeling like living is pointless. It’s irrelevant to share the light when you don’t understand the darkness. I want to be set free and turn my weakness into a strength. It was then that I learn what seemed so cruel has taught me to stand on my own two feet.

If I want to perceive that suffering is optical and move beyond the internal pain to turn the darkness into light, I must open my heart to learn and understand everything about myself.

Also, I must be the artist of my own life to find my purpose. It was then that I understood the meaning of a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh, “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You do not require the exception of others. It requires you to accept yourself.”

When a person’s life makes up so much darkness as mine, that one person could not have carried so heavy a burden, they will learn the most important decision of their life is the one who will affect every decision made. They attain it is the commitment to loving and accept yourself.


Light after darkness: ways to keep going during tough times

Connect to God: the beginning stage of turning the darkness into light comprises sustaining a relationship with God. You must repent of your sins. Finding hope is not just knowing God but trusting he will help you through challenging times.

Embrace change: a person whose life comprises the same routines, day in and day out. It’s time for a change. When you don’t realize that your life has been in the practice of repeating, day in and day out is insanity, and when you feel you can’t bear any more; It time to embrace change that will not only bring more light into your life but raise awareness of the problem.

Reframe your goals: some might not know it, but it’s entirely within everyone’s control to restrain stressful moments into affirmative days. Sometimes, you might feel like it has exhausted all your options, and there are no solutions that when to think about what you don’t like about your life and reframe your goals.

Practice gratitude: so often, many focus on the negative over the positive. People place their attention on the negative because the brain has a built-in negativity bias. And what you focus on makes it possible. Gratitude allows you to concentrate on the good in your lives, so practice it.

When you find yourself stranded in the gloom with no hope of breaking through, remember there’s no life inside that prison; remember suffering is optional; you can step out of the darkness and into the light.

Suffering Is Optional: Step Out of the Darkness and Into the Light

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