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Stop Worrying What People Think!


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Often, most of us have a bit of unfounded worry going on in our lives. Some people’s lives are full of terrible misfortune, and they worry because they think that the worst will happen. In all actuality, what most of us worry about never comes into reality.

Some people have a trait described as a chronic worrier. They harbor false beliefs, instead of having an accurate understanding of the facts. Someone with this quality goes to bed worrying, and awake to worry about the first things to pop into their head. It is a habit to worry about everything, worries they worry too much.

Worry can be an unrecognized thing in your life, you can use mental shortcuts to understand what happens around you, or you can enable it to be one of the most powerful features you have. For it to be a compelling trait, you are to face each moment in life with courage.

There is such a thing as too much worrying unhealthy, yet it is not all bad. It is good to provide you with a sign. Worrying is useful for cautioning you that there is something you need to pay attention to and do something about it.

Although, some say that 85 percent of what most of us worry about is in our head and never happens. Indicating a lot of what you worry over is not much more than a big imagination running away with you. Although, once in a while, some of what people stress over happens over nearly every single time.

The constant worry makes it impossible for you to live a regular life. The consistent concern makes you worry excessively, and you are apprehensive, thinking people might judge you. All kinds of things occur around you, and you stress unreasonably, thinking individuals may observe what you are doing.

I know it is difficult to stop worrying about what others think so, you tend to use quick decision to determine what you should do — and these choices steer you in the wrong direction. But do not worry, there are a few things you can do to make life simpler for you.

To stop harboring false beliefs begins with emotional reasoning, and your ability to rationalize or defend a conclusion that you have drawn based on your emotions. To bring to an end being an excessive worrier, you must understand your beliefs influence the way you live and quit agonizing over what individuals think so you can begin living a more joyful life.

Some may ask, why do we worry about what other people think of us? Perhaps you spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think of you. When you should choose to let go of worry, and decide to get familiar with how well the brain functions.

The question to ask yourself. “Why do I feel paranoid?” Once you have the answer, it will help you learn what causes paranoid thoughts to come to your mind. These thoughts are paranoid ideas, a rare mental health condition where you believe others are watching and judging you, lying to you, upset with you without a cause, or actively trying to harm you.

Once you have paranoid thoughts, you hold on to it, even when it is treacherous, but learning what causes distrustful thoughts should give you a pause. It will assist you to give up endorsing things that are untrue because falsehoods can be harmful.

As humans, we are social naturally, and most of us feel we need to fit in. The need for acceptance is an essential human instinct and how some identify themselves. Familiarity is the social glue that binds people together, but that does not mean it is healthy.

In an extensive judgmental world, it is easy to get caught up feeling worried about what people think of you or how you may look to others. Most of us worry and do not even realize we are worrying excessively. Let’s put the signs together for you so it can assist you with halting agonizing over what others think.


Signs you are worrying too much. Here are some of those signs:

  • You’re afraid to express yourself when you are out in public and scared to say what you think to others.
  • You’re talking to others and something in their tone sounds off to you.
  • After you stop talking to others, you believe that you did something wrong.
  • You regularly think it upsets the surrounding people with you without a cause, and they are not.
  • You do things that you usually don’t do and then feel bad afterward.
  • You consume things that untrue and don’t realize it’s not accurate.
  • You don’t fit into a group as it’s hard to do something that seems different. That’s normal for everybody else.
  • You have a problem with deciding and do what others say you are going to do.
  • People avoid you because; your awkward behavior is frightening to them.
  • Does this sound familiar and does any of the sentences below sound like something you would worry over?
  • You arrive at a get-together, everybody is socializing, you walk into the room and your mind works overtime. You do not talk to the first person who begins a conversation with you; you think you sound uninterested, tired during the discussion, so you shy away and end the conversation. Even after you stop talking to them, all you can consider being what did I wrong and why is the person mad at me?

Now you should accurately understand the facts that none of us is a perfect conductor of the truth. Despite our best intentions, it is easy to believe false things. As flawed human beings, when you find yourself trusting false concepts or worrying too much, you should eliminate mental shortcuts and consider having an accurate understanding of the facts. And to avoid excessive worrying, you should make sure you know the signs and accept the uncertainty.


If you think you’re different from everybody else in the world, this is why you worry too much. You develop a fear of many things like being watched, being judged by others, and what others think of you.

But when you take the time to think and understand why you care what others think, you can empathize better. It is easier to appreciate and accept yourself for who you are, and then you can stop worrying about what others think of you.

You may have heard the saying, ‘Better to be loved by a few people you care about than liked by everyone’. This proverb holds the truth in this case. Once you understand that everybody will never love you, except the love of a few people and learn you can’t please everyone, you are on your way to not worry so much, and stop worrying what people think of you.

If you want to stop worrying about what people think, you will need to get acquainted with yourself. You will have to set goals to understand who you are and distinguish what you want in life.

Once you sincerely practice self-love for yourself, set goals, and develop self-confidence, you can stop worrying so much as you won’t need anyone else’s approval.

Stop worrying what people think!

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© 2019 Pam Morris


Heather Kirstin Kain from Wichita, KS on July 17, 2019:

So true! Thank you. Just went through this and wrote an article on it. Definitely need to practice this.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on July 02, 2019:

Marlene, Thank you for reading my hub and, sharing how you used to be overly afraid of what people think, Most important, I am happy to read you discovered that people weren't thinking about you it was all in your head; I am sure you are able now to live a better and carefree life. Thank you for sharing.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on July 02, 2019:

Lorna, Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by and response to my hub. it is appreciated and I hope to hear from you on other articles.

Robert Walker from Atlanta, GA. on June 28, 2019:

Amen! I Receive It!! ;-)

Marlene Bertrand from USA on June 27, 2019:

I definitely use to be overly afraid of what people think. This fear paralyzed me and caused me to be non-social. Somehow, somewhere in my adult life I discovered, much like in the Olin Miller quote, people aren't thinking about me as much as I think they are. In fact, there are other things in the world that are much more important. They don't have time to be sitting around thinking about little ol' me. The message you share here is quite valuable.

Lorna Lamon on June 27, 2019:

Great article Pam full of sound advice. I love your quotes which are so true. Thank you for sharing.