Stop Worrying What People Think!

Updated on July 2, 2019
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stressed; I write.

Often, most of us have a bit of unfounded worry going on from time to time. The truth is, most people fear because they recognize the danger and that can be quite normal and plain to us.

Although, at times it's been said that 85 percent of what most of us worry about is in our head and never happens. This means that a lot of what you worry over is not much more than a big imagination running away with you.

Do you find yourself feeling self-conscious, constantly worrying and thinking others are watching you and concerned about what they think? If the answer is “Yes” to the question, you are worrying too much about what people think about you, it's time for you to stop worrying about what people think.

The constant worry makes it impossible for you to live a normal life. You worry excessively and are apprehensive thinking that people might be judging you and evaluating what you are doing.

I know it's hard to stop worrying about what others think so you can be more carefree. But don’t continue to worry, there are some things you can do to start making living life easier for you.

It starts with you knowing the signs of worrying too much and then you learn how to stop worrying what people think so you can start living a more happy-go-lucky life.

Some might be wondering why do we worry about what other people think of us? Perhaps you spend too much time and energy on worrying what other people think of you. When you should make the choice to let go of worry, take a decision to get familiar with how well the brain functions.

The question to ask yourself is, "Why do I feel paranoid?" This will help you to learn what might be causing paranoid thoughts to come to your mind. These thoughts are paranoid ideas, a rare mental health condition where you believe others are watching and judging you, lying to you, upset with you without a cause or actively trying to harm you.

By asking the question, it will assist you to stop wondering about things that are false because a part of you knows they’re not untrue.

As humans, we are social by nature and the need to fit in and how we are seen by others is a part of human creation and how some identify themselves. Feeling the need to fit in and considering how we are seen by others may seem natural but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

In a big judgmental world, it’s easy to get caught up in feeling worried about what people think of you or how you may look to others. Most of us worry and do not even realize we are worrying too much. Nonetheless, let’s put the signs together for you to take a look at and see so they can help you to stop worrying about what other people think.

You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!

– Olin Miller


There are signs that can tell you that you are worrying too much. Here are some of those signs:

  • You’re afraid to express yourself when you are out in public and scared to say what you think to others.
  • You’re talking to others and something in their tone sounds off to you.
  • After you stop talking to others, you think you did something wrong.
  • You regularly think that the people around you are upset with you without a cause and they are not.
  • You do things that you normally don't do and then feel bad afterward.
  • You consume things that not true and don't realize it's not accurate.
  • You don't fit into a group as it's hard to do something that seems different, that’s normal to everybody else.
  • You have a problem with making decisions and do what others tell you to do.
  • People tend to avoid you due to the fact; your awkward behavior is frightening to them.

Does this sound familiar and do any of the sentences below sound like something you would worry about?

You arrive at a get-together, everybody is socializing, you walk into the room and your mind starts working overtime. You stop talking to the first person who begins a conversation with you, you think you sound uninterested, tired and bored during the discussion so you shy away and end the conversation. Even after you stop talking to them, all you can think is what did I do wrong and why is the person mad at me?

Now that you have learned the signs and read a description of how you're worrying too much, how about knowing the way to cut the negative energy cord to stop worrying about what other people think.

If you want to start living your life the best that you can, you need to read and learn the ways to stop worrying about what other people think about you. Here are some ways to stop worrying about what other people think.

First, let's begin with you, examine yourself to figure out why you worry what people think. As you take the time to examine yourself, more than likely you will learn the reason you worry so much is that upon birth, learning many things in life we learn to worry so much through our social norms.

It all starts with you being told how you should act, the way you should dress and so on. Most find it traditional to think that if you stray away from the ‘norm’ you're different.

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu


If you think you're different from everybody else in the world this is where you start to worry too much. You develop a fear of many things like being watched, being judged by others and what others think of you.

But when you take the time to think and figure out why you care what others think, you can start to understand better and it’s easier to understand and accept yourself for who you are and then you can stop worrying about what others think of you.

You may have heard the saying, ‘Better to be loved by a few people you care about than liked by everyone’. This proverb holds the truth in this case. Once you understand that you will never be loved by everybody, except the love of a few people and learn you can't please everyone, you are on your way to not worry so much, and stop worrying what people think of you.

If you want to stop worrying about what people think, you will need to know yourself. Most importantly, you will have to set goals and know who you are and distinguish what you want in life.

Once you sincerely practice self-love for yourself, set goals and develop self-confidence, you can stop worrying so much as you won’t need anyone else’s approval.

Stop worrying what people think!

Do you agree, "A lot of what most people worry over is not much more than a big imagination running away with them!

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      • Heather Payne Allard profile image

        Heather Kirstin Kain 

        4 months ago from Wichita, KS

        So true! Thank you. Just went through this and wrote an article on it. Definitely need to practice this.

      • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

        Pam Morris 

        5 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

        Marlene, Thank you for reading my hub and, sharing how you used to be overly afraid of what people think, Most important, I am happy to read you discovered that people weren't thinking about you it was all in your head; I am sure you are able now to live a better and carefree life. Thank you for sharing.

      • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

        Pam Morris 

        5 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

        Lorna, Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by and response to my hub. it is appreciated and I hope to hear from you on other articles.

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        Robert Walker 

        5 months ago from Atlanta, GA.

        Amen! I Receive It!! ;-)

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        Marlene Bertrand 

        5 months ago from USA

        I definitely use to be overly afraid of what people think. This fear paralyzed me and caused me to be non-social. Somehow, somewhere in my adult life I discovered, much like in the Olin Miller quote, people aren't thinking about me as much as I think they are. In fact, there are other things in the world that are much more important. They don't have time to be sitting around thinking about little ol' me. The message you share here is quite valuable.

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        Lorna Lamon 

        5 months ago

        Great article Pam full of sound advice. I love your quotes which are so true. Thank you for sharing.


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