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Starting Over

Candice is a dedicated educator and counselor who has experienced the joy and the disappointments of love and learning to love.

Start Over Stronger

There I was, sitting on the edge of my bed, wondering what's next? Another failed relationship, and years of my life wasted? Wait...no. Not wasted. Although it may not feel like it now, those seven years I spent being happy, being sad, and being angry were not wasted. It was a hard lesson learned. And now, after realizing every mistake that we made, and forgiving myself for letting it go on for so long, it's time to move forward. It's finally time to get up out of this bed and move on with my life.

Ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you (if you do not already know) how hard it is to let go of something that you tried so hard to hold on to. Your heart wants to go one way, but your brain is telling you to go another way. So which one do you follow? Well, I say that you can do both. If your heart says that you still love him, then love him. You can still love someone and move on. Let me repeat that...YOU CAN STILL LOVE SOMEONE AND MOVE ON! In fact, I found that, for me, it is healthier to love him and leave him, than to stay bitter and angry.

Research has shown that happier people tend to be healthier people. You can't be happy when you're sitting at home crying about what you used to have (or didn't have). I cried for months, and then became angry. I just could not understand how I could be so stupid, so ignorant, so loving, and so forgiving. This was hard, because I do still love him, but I had to leave him.I felt like I deserved to be miserable, without love, and without life. But then I finally woke up.

So here I am, sitting on the edge of my bed, thinking about how fortunate I am to have a chance to be loved by someone who is worthy of receiving my love, and to be in this position to have happiness once and for all. I have learned from my mistakes, and I know this is not the end. Everyone deserves happiness, and leaving a bad relationship does NOT show weakness. Starting over isn't easy, but believe me, you will start over stronger.

To Leave, Or Not to Leave!

© 2017 Candice Thomas

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