Starting Over

Updated on November 8, 2017
Candice Thomas profile image

Candice is a dedicated educator and counselor who has experienced the joy and the disappointments of love and learning to love.

Start Over Stronger

There I was, sitting on the edge of my bed, wondering what's next? Another failed relationship, and years of my life wasted? Not wasted. Although it may not feel like it now, those seven years I spent being happy, being sad, and being angry were not wasted. It was a hard lesson learned. And now, after realizing every mistake that we made, and forgiving myself for letting it go on for so long, it's time to move forward. It's finally time to get up out of this bed and move on with my life.

Ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you (if you do not already know) how hard it is to let go of something that you tried so hard to hold on to. Your heart wants to go one way, but your brain is telling you to go another way. So which one do you follow? Well, I say that you can do both. If your heart says that you still love him, then love him. You can still love someone and move on. Let me repeat that...YOU CAN STILL LOVE SOMEONE AND MOVE ON! In fact, I found that, for me, it is healthier to love him and leave him, than to stay bitter and angry.

Research has shown that happier people tend to be healthier people. You can't be happy when you're sitting at home crying about what you used to have (or didn't have). I cried for months, and then became angry. I just could not understand how I could be so stupid, so ignorant, so loving, and so forgiving. This was hard, because I do still love him, but I had to leave him.I felt like I deserved to be miserable, without love, and without life. But then I finally woke up.

So here I am, sitting on the edge of my bed, thinking about how fortunate I am to have a chance to be loved by someone who is worthy of receiving my love, and to be in this position to have happiness once and for all. I have learned from my mistakes, and I know this is not the end. Everyone deserves happiness, and leaving a bad relationship does NOT show weakness. Starting over isn't easy, but believe me, you will start over stronger.

To Leave, Or Not to Leave!

Would you rather leave the relationship to find happiness elsewhere? Or, would you rather stay unhappy in the relationship you're currently in, knowing it's not going to get better?

See results

Questions & Answers

    © 2017 Candice Thomas


      0 of 8192 characters used
      Post Comment
      • dashingscorpio profile image


        20 months ago

        Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

        If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a "better shopper"!

        Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

        The goal is to find someone who {already is} what you want.

        Truth be told when it comes to love and relationships most of us (fail our way) to success. Very few people hit a homerun their first, second, third, or fourth time up at bat. If this were not the case we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts!

        There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

        "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

        - Oscar Wilde


      This website uses cookies

      As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

      For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

      Show Details
      HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
      LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
      Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
      AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
      HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
      HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
      Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
      CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
      Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
      Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
      Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
      Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
      PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
      MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
      Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
      Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
      Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
      Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
      Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
      ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
      Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
      ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)