I am a mom of two awesome children who teach me more than I ever thought possible. I love writing, exercise, movies, and LGBT advocacy.
You Just Never Know
Some Days, You've Got To Leap
Have you ever noticed, as a kid, if we want to try something that seems crazy, we generally have no qualms about doing it?
I've known kids who have put glue on their hands and tried to climb the walls like Spider-Man. Kids who tried to jump off increasingly higher obstacles with a towel or blanket around their neck like a cape or holding it in their hands because they thought they could either fly or it would work like a parachute.
Even as a teenager, I took certain risks. Nothing wild like jumping from high points - a fear of heights (or rather, of falling) kind of prevents you from taking a risk like that - but I wrote a script for Star Trek: The Next Generation and sent it off when I was just 19. I couldn't see any reason why I couldn't at least try to get the story I wrote out there and perhaps on air.
Sure, my story didn't go on air, but that didn't stop me from continuing to write and dream about what it would be like to just go for it and try and be a television writer.
Then adulthood comes along, and with that comes an expectation you're going to "settle down."
You kind of have to settle down at some point, right? You can't keep living the life you had as a kid when you start hitting your mid-20s...your 30s...your 40s. There's things like jobs, and kids, and responsibilities.
However, sometimes we forget that getting older does not mean we have to abandon all sense of adventure. Certainly, going off to learn how to be an MMA fighter when we're in our 40s might not be the best move we can make, given the physical risks, but should that necessarily stop us from pursuing a goal?
Especially if we have kids, sometimes it's harder to make the choice to take a leap and go for our dreams. We have to consider things like the possibility that we may just not accomplish our goals and what that could ultimately mean for our families in the long run. It's scary stuff, this adulting thing, especially when you have other people who count on you.
However, there's so much good that can come from just taking that leap towards our goals, even when the outcome's unknown. Never mind the fact that you'll be happier, because you're doing something you've wanted to do for however long; your friends and family members will see you having enough faith in yourself and what could happen that they might feel inspired to take a similar chance. You may actually find greater success in simply trying, too; there's a different energy that comes from trying new things that you're actually excited about, and people might be drawn right in along with you.
It's a scary thing, taking a risk towards something greater or even for something you believe in when you're an adult. When you're a kid, there's almost this blind faith that everything's going to be fine and it's all good. Then again, when you're a kid, you know that more often than not, your loved ones are always going to be there supporting you and the chance you're taking will generally not come at any financial cost to yourself.
It's not the same when you're an adult, and we've all heard those stories of people who have sunk their retirement incomes into whatever passion project they might be pursuing only to realize that things just aren't working out. I find that in the days and weeks leading up to the decision to take that chance of a lifetime, we sit there playing the "what if" game almost constantly because fear of failure, particularly as adults (and probably because the stakes are higher as adults), grips us and wants to hold us in place.
But what if we decided to take that chance and go for it?
What if we became stronger for that decision?
It's easy for me to say "what if great things happened?" from this side of the blog, but I'm also taking a risk in putting myself out there.
Taking chances is what life's about, right?