Let me tell you a story about a young man who was raised to become just another average working man. But deep down inside he knew that just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire could not produce a great result. So he made his first step towards becoming one of the most successful people in the world. An entrepreneur and innovator as he was, he made a huge breakthrough in the modern technology and sparked a revolution while building one of the world's valuable companies, Apple. You can guess now, he was Steve Jobs.
So how did he light the sparkle within himself? When he was 17 years old, he bought a mirror. You are probably wondering why he did it. That day, he read a quote that inspired him through his lifetime: “If you live each day as if it was your last, one day you’ll probably be right.” It made a huge impact on him and he decided to place the mirror in his room, and every day when he woke up, he would look in the mirror and ask himself: “If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m about to do today?” When there were too many days in a row with the answer “No”, he knew he needed to change something.
Self - motivation is the individual's ability to continue in achieving the goals, despite the inevitable obstacles and problems. Unlike external motivation, which is activated by other people, self-motivation lies within us and it depends on whether we will see the problem as a failure or a challenge. Self - motivation begins in the early childhood, by building first working habits, by delaying current satisfaction for long-term profit, rationally setting your goals and having a strong will to realize them. Sometimes, just by focusing on the role models, you will solve one of the biggest challenges in self - motivation, and get one more step towards success. Here are some of the most important things to consider when we are striving towards our own self – motivation process:
• Habits that we carry from our childhood
• Goals that we’ve set long time ago
• Time which is perishable and irreplaceable
• All the relevant costs that we need to consider when taking certain action.
Self - motivation happens spontaneously. If our goal is very important or very tempting to us, we will react. For example, if we are very hungry, thirsty or cold, we will immediately be motivated to take a certain action to overcome this unpleasant feeling. There is a story about the famous philosopher, Socrates, who was once asked to explain what success is. To demonstrate it, he asked a young man to follow him on the river and ducked him into the water. The young man struggled really hard to get some air, and eventually, Socrates let him go. He explained to this young man that just like his strongest desire was to get some air, he will need to have that kind of desire for success. So the story of self - indulgence is not easy and predictable because all of us won’t react in the same way towards the same stimuli. Generally speaking, we all have great potential for achieving many goals, but the success depends on how important they are to us, or how much we really care about them.
Sometimes it’s easier to take action when we are threatened or losing something important. For example, when we are running out of time to accomplish some task, we feel the pressure that pushes us to act. That pressure is actually our fear that those actions will have negative consequences. Namely, if the deadline is far away, it seems that we have a lot of time ahead of us, and there won’t be enough triggered energy, even though that’s actually a natural endowment within us.
Our self - motivation is strongly influenced by our attitudes and beliefs about ourselves and the world around us. If we think we are capable of achieving a goal or solving the problems, there’s a great chance that we will get involved in such activity. But if we think we are not able to do it, it's almost certain that we won’t even try . That’s why we need to have some kind of trigger, something kept inside ourselves, some secret, unnamed force that is known just to us. And we can activate it only by using the same pattern, our secret pattern.
That secret force was inside Steve Jobs’s mind when he was striving towards success. Some of his employees and friends say that he was a workaholic and very strict when it comes to business. He even gathered a team of people who conducted a research about the feelings of excitement when a customer opens a box and finds his products inside of it. He strongly relied on the emotions and self – motivation. He also had one more important thing on his mind, time. Time is perishable and cannot be saved for later use. So cherish your living days like they were the last ones.
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