It's Not Limited to Cruelty and Evil
Pain is constantly associated with evil and cruelty, but it does not necessarily have to be that way. Pain is something necessary, but it is my will to turn that pain into growth instead of turning it into an endless torture; and as the saying goes: "pain is inevitable, suffering is optional". Perhaps, the idea of pain in itself would be a little more acceptable if it were considered not as something positive or negative, but as one and the same thing.
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
— Buddhist Proverb
The Reality of Pain
This feeling could reach an unimaginable level within oneself; so much that it may be able to change the future. When pain is felt, it creates an illusion of being corrected through actions; I leave this idea to say that when pain gets involved, it can create a false reality of what control is. That is, it causes him to try to take control, in order to want to ensure the future of things, or so he thinks. When acting under its effect, it is believed that what is done to counteract it is the right thing to do; but sometimes it could be a quick detour to the reality that we try to avoid. From this idea, part of the feeling of never being sure if what is done is right, creating within oneself uncertainties, insecurities and fears.
"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."
— Khalil Gibran
When People Choose Pain Above Joy
Acting in pain indicates that we may not be doing something that we are interested in or willing to do. For example, a person who is passionate about dancing may say that she is too tired to go to work; however, her friends invite her to dance and she does it without any problem. In this case, you can notice the lack of interest on the part of the individual towards his work, which probably does not thrill him or became monotonous, contrary to when they invite him to go dancing. My personal opinion is that each person feels uncomfortable when they take them out of their comfort, especially when they feel they have an obligation to do so.
"Pain is what the world inflicts upon us. Suffering is our emotional reaction when we fail to make the difficult conscious choice to choose Joy."
— Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Limiting Suffering and Pain
In these type of cases, the way you carry out those responsibilities changes drastically. This is the perspective of pain that I want to reach. The pain itself is bearable, in limited quantities; but when a person reaches a limit, it becomes suffering, which ultimately harms the person. This limit is established by each individual, according to what they consider to be a priority and which is worth sacrificing of themselves to achieve it. Therefore, the level of pain that each person proposes to support on a daily basis is the type of burden they have put on so, with their will, they can achieve what they proposed themselves.
"Without pain, there would be no suffering, without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life."
— Angelina Jolie
In The End, What to Choose?
As I commented before. Pain is relative. Relative to the amount of happiness you want to achieve, and to the things you hold most dearly in your heart. There is no way of achieving happiness and understanding the meaning of what's most valuable without the understanding of pain. Therefore, pain is no more than a tool to achieve joy. But ironically, it's the highway for falling into suffering without even realizing it if people are not careful and focused on their deepest desires. In the end, we should choose pain, with an expiration date. Pain is not forever; if it is, it already turned into suffering without you realizing. Life is full of doors and passages. Pain is just a big door in the corridor. It will eventually lead to happiness if you prepare yourself with a map. A map of goals and standards. Even though, people have to be aware of how to read it correctly, so they don't get lost in it.
"Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever."
— Lance Armstrong
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