She is one of Eber and Wein Publishing's best poets of 2018 and lives in Arkansas, USA. She is a youtuber and a blessed woman.
Dealing with shame
As humans, we tend to do so many things in life that might at times bring shame or guilt. There are so many little and big "mistakes" that can be made in this wonderful life that can cause so much pain and inner destruction. When we are children we are suppose to be taught what is right and what is wrong, but at times as adults we ignore our own intuition, conscience, or spiritual person we all have within us. I have noticed that this simple yet dangerous act can cause chaos, suffering, and even death. The wonderful news is that with one simple act all this can be avoided as well as erased as something holding us back in our own life. Prayer is the key to all of man's burdens that are put on by our own shame.
My perspective on sin
All About Embarrassment
Embarrassment is a painful but important emotional state. Most researchers believe that its purpose is to make us feel bad about our social or personal mistakes so that we don't repeat them (thus benefiting the larger society), and its physiological side effects—like blushing, sweating, or stammering—may signal to others that we recognize our error and are not cold-hearted or oblivious. In fact, studies have shown that people who act embarrassed after committing a “bad act”—like knocking over a store display—are perceived as more likable than those who don't, regardless of whether or not anything is done to make amends for the mistake.
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In this wonderful life we can experience so many different types of emotions and not all the ones we want. What never ceases to amaze me is God's grace and love towards his children. I could never and will never understand the immense love of God and his ability to love his creation. The closest thing that I can compare this to is motherhood and still am in awe in how much I am loved by whose I am. I didn't always know this though. It wasn't until daily living and just life as well as God's holy spirit speaking to me I came to know and take a glimpse as to what I now know.
I use to walk around yearning and searching for some time of love, acceptance, and freedom that I had seen in so many people but felt unworthy to experience it. This feeling of joy that has no end and can truly turn your entire life around. I remember thinking, "Is this it?" "Am I always going to feel this way?"
There comes a moment in life where you have stop the unending cycle of self shame and self doubt that just leads to suicide, Weather it be spiritual death were you just feel empty and just rooming around with no purpose or actual death of which I read so many devastating stories on how teens and adults decide to give into the lies the enemy tells them.
I have some great news for you though, you can be free from this. I have and love sharing hope to people who may not have it. My hope and inspiration always comes from the one who created me but most of all I have found that Jesus is at the center of it all for me. If i would have never realized or recognized the importance of the act on the cross, I would have been fine with just being a child of God but not be free. I believe there is a difference. When you know Jesus and just accept him, like I have, there is this unexplained perspective in life that you can't capture without him. So many people talk and practice their religion, which I respect, but for me personally: Jesus is the answer. He is the one who can take your shame, pain, burdens, mistakes, and just junk we all have. God uses this to shape and mold us into a more perfect person.
Even though there are so many Christians who have known about Jesus and hear about him in church, I am still amazed by the number that has not actually walked with him. As a church going believer, the conversations I have every Sunday and even during the week I encounter so many people who rely on their own mind or someone else. They first seek help from their spouse, brother, sister, mother, father, family member or friend. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this but it is limited to what they can tell you instead of what God can tell you personally. I mean don't get me wrong, God can you anyone around to help guide you or encourage you but you also have to think just like God can you that person, so can the enemy. Humans are just prone to be of this world and can very easily just fall and fail, it's in our DNA. I have come to realize and accept that the one I need to go first is God. Seek his answer before anyone else and then listen to what they have to say.
Accepting God's will instead of my own or someone else's version of what your life can be like is a dangerous and unstable walk. If you can just accept that Jesus died for you and wants to help you in this chaotic life, everything will change.
Talking with Him
There are so many different ways that you can pray. Even by not saying a word out loud God knows your need and is working on your behalf when you truly seek him. I am so blessed to know and serve such a powerful and mighty God that I have heard his voice, even when I didn't expect it or thought I needed it. I am still amazed at the amount of patience He has with me.
I love learning about God and his precious word but at times I just want to forget it all and just talk to him like I would with my husband. Forget all the bible verses I know are prayers and have brought me so much peace, and just sit with him and hear what HE has to say to me. I think this is the hardest thing for me. I guess because I'm a women and tend to speak more than I should at times but listening to what God has to say to me is always refreshing. I encourage you to find your to connect with our Father and just see what he has to say to you. It is never bad but is there to lead you to a more wonderful and fulfilling life with HIM.
Aysleth Zeledon (author) from Russellville, Arkansas on July 30, 2018:
Well as an educated women, I am a very open minded person and dont reject knowledge. I am a strong believer in education and if you want to learn about a topic more in depth to better help people I applaud that. So many people use there psycology to help and i have experienced so much help from these people. The bible says to retain all the good in what we read or learn. Yes the holy spirt and tell you everything that psycology teaches but not every Christian is sensitive to the Holy spirit. That comes with time, in my experiences as a Christian.
charlie from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans on July 29, 2018:
that is not true. Psychology is the understanding and making provision for the flesh, scripture says those that belong to Christ have crucified their flesh, not that they have learned to understand it or make excuses for it.
why is psychology only less than 200 years old if it is a scriptural thing. why was it never mentioned or taught by Jesus. He taught the truth, a real disciple of His has no need for such unscriptural trash, they are filled with and follow the Holy Spirit of God and all they need is found in the Holy Spirit. Psychology is the work of apostate man and all such works are from satan not God. If it were of God it would have been taught in the new testament by Jesus and the original disciples which never heard of it. It was made up by unGodly men not men of God, was not allowed in churches until the last century and not accepted by any disciples of Christ ever, only accepted by apostate men. It has never healed anyone but the Holy Spirit and those following it heal thousands.
sorry but you are deceived. You have let the seeker friendly church system of apostate man lead you astray.
You can try to justify all you want but there is not one scripture that supports it if one is a disciple of Christ according to HIS words.
You also said that Jesus came to pay for our sins, that is not true either, Jesus can to bring us LIFE, the opportunity to regain the eternal life that Adam foolishly forfeited by his disobedience.
Both of these thing are teachings of the apostate churchmen are are not backed up by the scriptures.
24 And those who are Christ's have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
The only way our sins are forgiven is by personal repentance. Then those that belong to Christ have the record of their sin removed making them pure before God. He DID NOT COME to forgive our sins,
7 Then Jesus said to them again, "Most assuredly, I say to you, I am the door of the sheep. 8 All who ever came before Me are thieves and robbers, but the sheep did not hear them. 9 I am the door. If anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. 10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.
Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on July 29, 2018:
I used to think that in order to be Psychologist, a person had to deny God. Now that I have studied Psychology as a practicing Christian, I have come to the conclusion that it goes hand in hand with the gospel. The gospel is the good news that the Savior came to this earth, lived a sinless life, then died on the cross to pay for our sins. Psychology points us to how we can tap into the wealth of information within ourselves, and that includes our connection with God. The Bible is full of the principles that we now know as Psychology. For example, Proverbs 3:7 says, "As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." This principle has been scientifically proven. Our thoughts make up the some total of who and what we are. When we change our thoughts, we change our lives. Repentance and forgiveness are nothing more than changing the direction of our thoughts to focus on the Savior rather than on the things we have done wrong. Prayer is the act of focusing our thoughts on the divine. Prayer changes lives. This is Psychology in its purest form.
charlie from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans on July 29, 2018:
you cannot serve GOD or Jesus by using psychology. It is a tool of satan to justify your flesh which is contrary to scripture. Scripture is clear no man can serve 2 masters and psych is an anti Christ. What pastors do has nothing to do with following Christ, what Christ says to do is all that matters. In this age there is ONLY ONE PASTOR and His name is Christ. All others that claim His position are listed in scripture as false christs. There is NO clergy in this age. Psycholoy is a new thing introduced by evil men in 1879 the word of God has been, is and will be forever. Any man claiming something that scripture declares as evil and useful is evil himself and does not serve God but man.
Aysleth Zeledon (author) from Russellville, Arkansas on July 29, 2018:
Psycology is the study of the mind. I’ve met and know plenty of educated people that go into this field to better understand the human brain. I know of Pastors that have degrees in psycology and can better council their sheep because of it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and respect yours. Have a blessed day!
charlie from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans on July 28, 2018:
You talk about christians and then you quote evil men. Not one scripture quote. You clearly are not of Christ and this article is not of God
why would a christian read anything written by a psych dr.? Scripture says we are to kill our flesh (psych ) yet they say we are to make provision. Psych Drs. are agents of satan and are not of God in any way shape or form. They have done much damage to the kingdom of God yet the false churches of men accept them and some even have them on staff. I would love to see Jesus enter one of the "churches " that do. It would make what He did to the money changers look like child play.