Being a teenager can be scary! Your life is changing so fast, you have so much to do and so much ahead of you. You may be feeling strange, feeling depressed or helpless as everything in your world begins to take a new meaning.
Grab a soda, and sit for a while. I have some things you need to hear.
You may not feel like it all the time, but know that you are loved. Your family loved you when you were born, they loved you as you grew up, and even now as you grow and change from the child they raised into an adult they will continue to love you.
You have to understand that by this point in your life your parents have gone through years of hard work to provide you with things you may be taking for granted. You have food, warmth, and all the love you could ever ask for. Times may get rough now and again, but you are important, and you are loved.
Peer pressure is the worst, isn't it? You just have to have and do everything your friends want. It's like, necessary! Well when it comes to your friends, there are some things you really, seriously, totally don't have to do.
To fit in, you don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You're a strong person with free will, do precisely what is best for you. If you ever feel like you can't make the right choice, escape the situation and get the help of a responsible adult.
You don't want to tattle on your friends, but if the people you associate with and love the most are hurting themselves by doing things they're not ready for or that could put them in life-threatening situations, help them! You are a better friend to those you hold dear for trying to keep them safe and well.
Drug addiction and sex are more harmful to young folks, simply by virtue of the fact that you're still growing up and forming habits which you'll carry your whole life. Please keep yourself safe, and try to help your friends stay safe too!
Is your hair too frizzy? Butt a little too small? Are you flat chested? Guys, are you lanky? Let me see a raise of hands for teens who hate pimples!
Ok, hands down.
You're all beautiful. In your own ways, in many ways, each and every one of you has qualities that are admirable. Beauty doesn't just come from the outside. Yeah, I know, you've heard it before, but it's the truth. I'll tell you what's even better than being the "hawtest gurl in skool."
Intelligence. A kind heart. Passion for life and helping your fellow man (err, teen!)
Sure, outward appearances are emphasized in the media and in social situations. Everyone's outer beauty fades in time, my dears. If you focus instead on treating everyone with courtesy and respect, kindness and decency, the rest of it just fades away. People will love you regardless. I do!
The most important message -
You are not alone.
You always have someone to talk to, somewhere to go. Even if you're lost and afraid, there is always someone willing to help you. You don't have to go through any of the trials of teenager-dom alone. Reach out to your family, your friends, heck you can even reach out to me.
You are worth it, and there is no shame in asking for help when you feel you need it the most.
I love you!
Haunty from Hungary on November 14, 2011:
Thanks for this gamergirl. This is such a positive message for teens. Every parent who is afraid of the teenage years should absolutely read this and feel safe that she will know the right thing to do when the kids come to this age.
c1234rystal on November 13, 2011:
This is a wonderful hub and will certainly help out some teens who might be feeling sad and alone.
Fiddleman on November 13, 2011:
Great hub and advice, you seem to understand teens.
Kiz Robinson (author) from New Orleans, Louisiana on September 27, 2011:
Frances, you are absolutely welcome!
Frances on September 27, 2011:
I'm a teenager, and this seriously made me tear up. All teens should hear this..you are inspiring! Thank you so much!
M. Trejo on November 19, 2010:
Thanks for all, sometimes we can express that spiritual and moral messages. Good bless u always, for the Positive Messages for Teenagers.
Dottie1 from MA, USA on November 13, 2008:
Gamergirl...I spotted this hub on Dayzeebee's new hub "Love Bursts from Hub Angels - 1" https://hubpages.com/community/Love-Bursts-from-Hu... honoring you as an angel. You deserve it, congratulations. I am forwarding this wonderfully written hub to my teen daughter in college. Thank you for writing it. ~Dottie~
Kiz Robinson (author) from New Orleans, Louisiana on April 21, 2008:
My mom and I used to lay out on her king size bed and talk forever, about all kinds of stuff. When I moved back home after getting out of the military, she and I used to go shopping together, go out to eat, and before and after we'd just chat on her bed, more often than not both of us falling asleep, or waking my dad up with our laughter. Those were great times.
Now that I'm a little older, a little more stable as far as being out on my own and all that, I think I'm going to have to invite my mom to come visit so she and I can chill out on MY bed and chatter. LOL
TiffanyDow on April 21, 2008:
I feel so sorry for teenagers because at the time, everything is SO important, serious, life-altering. But they don't realize that being an adult is so very different. If they can just hang on. Then they can go whre they want, be who they want, associate with who they want. Every night, my kids tuck ME in. We pile up on my king-sized bed and just talk. I can't count the number of times my teenaged son has confided in me and parents need to do more to foster these kinds of moments.
Stephanie Marshall from Bend, Oregon on March 14, 2008:
GG, isn't it sad? I sure wish I had someone to say these things to me. You are a brave, strong, wonderful woman. I am a different mom than the one that I had, but bless her heart. We all do what we can with what we have. Best- Steph
Kiz Robinson (author) from New Orleans, Louisiana on March 14, 2008:
Rainbow, I did have to pause once or twice during the writing of this Hub. There are so many things I wished I had heard some of the things I've expressed here. Lots of love, and sincere compliments. Don't sugarcoat them, just speak it like it is. Don't be afraid to say "You know what, kiddo, that doesn't work for you, but let's find something that does."
Chantel, hang in there. You'll find that using your own experiences in a generic sense to identify with your daughter will help. Make friends with your daughter's friends' parents, it will help also.
chantelg4 from Northern Ontario on March 14, 2008:
Thanks for this article, my daughter has recently jumped ship into a whole new world. i must admit, that i am taking it quite hard, I didn't know it would be this difficult. Thanks for the perspetive, I guess I had forgotten that I was there once....hard to let go.
RainbowRecognizer from Midwest on March 04, 2008:
This is so heartfelt. Tears are actually welling up for the teen in me who needed to hear this (I'm 31). And I'd like to save it for my daughter when she gets there. I'll print it (with your photo) and slip it in her pillow at an opportune time. Thank you.
Kiz Robinson (author) from New Orleans, Louisiana on February 28, 2008:
*blush* Nope, but I've been contemplating changing my major. :P
MarloByDesign from United States on February 28, 2008:
Wow, you really know this topic - are you a Psychologist? :)