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When Dreams are Shattered and Reality Becomes Bitter


I have learned a lot from life. If sharing makes someone's life better, why not?


What is the reality of life? Each of us thinks about it. We all have different ideas about life and have different dreams. Sometimes some realities of life are so bitter that they shake you from within. You feel the pain that you never imagined. In this situation, you think about the world of your dreams in which there was no idea of this reality. You break down and don't want to admit the truth. Life in your dreams is like the melody that you want to hear again and again but in reality, it becomes a tune that you run away from. Now the question arises that how do you acknowledge your reality and what else can you do in such a situation?

When You Face a Bitter Reality

When the truth becomes difficult to accept and life becomes obscure, sometimes you become tired of your self, then you feel the burden of your existence in the universe. Your eyes become dry and desolate. The heart becomes like an old ruin. You feel as if time has brought you into the scorching heat of the desert. Life is not always what we want it to be. Turning away from reality weakens us from within.

When Dreams are Shattered

When something tragic happened in your life that literally shattered all of your hopes and dreams. Your circumstances make you believe that your dreams are no longer a possibility. You even think everything is over now and start running away from the colors of life. You sit alone for hours and ask yourself, your guilt. Your heart is not ready to accept this. Everyone has different dreams that are shattered. I think we all go through that. Sometimes, we lose someone we never want to lose. It may be the separation of our parents when we are very young or you can't get what you love. Or you may not get the job you want. In short, each of us goes through this ordeal. Sometimes the hope of living a good life is dashed. But that's when you examine yourself. You realize how strong you are and how you can cope with the pain. It was all about how you feel, but what to do next?

Life is a reality, you have to face it


No matter how many books you read, the philosophy of life is not understood until you go through these situations and events yourself.

Here are some tips to help you deal with these situations better. You can improve your life if you take care of a few things in such a situation.

Acknowledge the Truth

Not all the pages of the book of life can accord to us. Be patient if a page appears in which there is pain. It is difficult for a person to not accept a reality that contradicts his dreams. It's hard to satisfy yourself and to accept your life and realize that you live. But that doesn't mean you have to give up. Acknowledge your reality, because you can't change it, but you can learn a lot from it. Some facts are very bitter and you need a lot of courage to face them. But when you face them, you become stronger on the inside.

"But Why Me" Stop Saying This

Don't think about why only my situation is like this. You would think there are many more people in the world who go through even greater suffering. If you feel people's pain, you will forget your pain. You realize that you are not the only one in this world who is going through these hardships.

Give Yourself Time

Your existence is important in this world. God created you for a purpose. Strengthen yourself to achieve all of your goals. You can do a lot for yourself, for example, stay close to nature and enjoy the scenery. You will be amazed when you see the world created by God. Let me tell you how I give myself time, I often sit alone by the window of my room and think about how I have to make time for everything. I think about my past moments where I made a mistake and then try to correct this mistake. No human being is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, it is not uncommon to make a mistake, but making a mistake and sticking to it can lead to blunders. Give yourself time and do your accounting.


Life is Beautiful, Appreciate It

Life is beautiful. Everything created by God has many secrets inside it. To know these secrets, we have to look inside them. Disappointment will disappear by itself when you see the beauty of life. There are many beautiful things in life to appreciate, many beautiful moments, many joys that keep you alive. Be grateful for all that makes you happy. You will forget your pain and suffering when you see the beauty and colors of this world.

Don't let go the one you love


Don't be Egoistic

Whatever the case, if you become egoistic you lose a lot of things. I know it's difficult to become egoistic. Isn't it better to be humble and not lose the relationships you have? Bowing down doesn't mean losing, it means you don't want to lose what you have. I'm not saying don't speak up for yourself. When ego comes into the relationship, that relationship becomes weak. And often our dreams and our reality are linked to our relationships and relationships are handled gently.

Don't Give Up and Learn from Your Failure

If you look at someone's successful life, behind this success, is his hard work and many failures, only after that life gave him this position. If you fail, it does not mean that you will always fail. Failure is actually a lesson for us. Fluctuations are part of life. If you give up after failure, you will never succeed in life. One thing I have learned from life is that nothing can defeat a person unless he gives up. The only secret to success is to never give up. In every defeat, there is a victory just find it and don't give up.

Choose route to your own destination


This too Shall Pass

If you think in your difficult time that this time will pass, then a ray of hope will appear which will make you think life is not over yet. I introduced myself to the anxiety of life. Life can change at any minute of the day. God is omnipotent and by His will, everything is in its place. Everything changes people, their attitudes, and even realities. Nothing stays the same. This too shall pass. Just think and beat your failure. You have a special place in life, identify it.

Be Realistic

Often our realities relate to the surrounding people. When we expect too much from them, so we face difficulties. When you stop expecting, you become more realistic. You need to know that no one wants you more than you do. If there is a difficult time, get out of it yourself. Look at things as they really are.

Failure is the First Step to Success

It is said that failure is the first step to success because the stars shine in the dark. One can never be successful if his fear of failure is greater than the desire for success۔ But if he overcomes that fear, then success becomes his goal. It is said that "if the path is beautiful, find out which destination it goes to, but if the destination is beautiful, don't care about the path".This means that no matter how many obstacles you face, no one can stop you from getting there. But if you don't know your destination, you can't get there no matter how easy the route is. Persevere to reach your destination no matter how many difficulties you face, but you will succeed.


The gist of all this is that life is not always the same. Sometimes there are joys and sometimes sorrows in our lives. The time of happiness passes quickly but when you are facing situations in which you lose confidence in life and it becomes difficult for you to stand still at such a difficult time. In this case, only you can take care of yourself. You have to be your shield but if you don't, you'll break.

I hope you have learned something from my article, and we all have situations in our lives that make us think. But you have to decide how to live your life. You all have as much right to live as mine or anyone else's. May you all be happy and satisfied with your life.


EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 09, 2020:

Miebakagh Fiberesima, thanks for making me smile. You are great sir.

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on July 09, 2020:

"Amasoba mingi gboru ju mumu ke. Aru kumbu mingi gboranga dada ke. Furubo mangi tibi piri, berebo fi, akpa buru ke " Translating: Tidal river will not flow in one directim, neither water in a fishing boat tilt to one side. A herbalist may die, but his/her herbal tools and remedies remain intact. I will sent you an email later. Pronounce them as if these were. English words. It is that easy. Thanks.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 08, 2020:

Miebakagh Fiberesima, Aren't you going to sing a song?? I have another article featured.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 08, 2020:

Yes kanwal, I agree with you. Life is what we want it to be, it's all up to us

Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on July 07, 2020:

I wholly agreed.

KANWAL YOUSAFZAI from Pakistan on July 06, 2020:

Absolutely true jadoon.

Life is really something else, but it's not as bad as we understand.

Just don't give up hope!

Continue writing and May God keep everyone safe and sound.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 06, 2020:

Thanks khan, Sometimes life is not what it seems. We have to dig deeper to know it.

KANWAL YOUSAFZAI from Pakistan on July 06, 2020:

A factual article that reflects the reality of every other human being in this materialistic world.

Very well explained Jadoon.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 05, 2020:

Thanks Miebakagh Fiberesima, I fixed the error. When will this button be active so I can email you whenever I want? And did you receive my first email?

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 05, 2020:

Thank you Aymal for this uplifting comment.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 05, 2020:

Robert Sacchi, People like you encourage others, stay blessed.

Robert Sacchi on July 05, 2020:

You're welcome, keep it up.

Aymal from Faisalabad on July 05, 2020:

Wao that,s great.This article makes me fresh.Good piece of writing.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on July 02, 2020:

Robert Sacchi, Thanks so much for reading my article.

Robert Sacchi on June 30, 2020:

This is a good way to look at life. Welcome to HubPages.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on June 30, 2020:

Miebakagh Fiberesima, thank you so much for telling me these important points. I will try to correct these errors. You took your precious time for me, I am very grateful to you. Two things I would like to ask you because I am a new hubber.

1. (Pictures has no capsul heading or title descriptions.) Aren't these optional? Wouldn't an article be featured without doing all this?

2. ( References ) I have no idea obout it. I would be very grateful if you could tell me something about it.

Moon on June 29, 2020:

Written nicely, I really enjoyed.

EK Jadoon (author) from Abbottabad Pakistan on June 28, 2020:

Mame your appreciation means a lot to me thanks for giving me time, I am always pleased.

Nargis on June 28, 2020:

I really enjoyed this article. Very informative and well written.

Thank you.

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