Life Is Not Something That Happens to You. You Create It!

Updated on June 16, 2018
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Sean is a teacher who is writing about his spiritual adventures to help other people find balance and self-respect.

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To learn to live with love means to learn to defeat your selfishness, so you learn to experience every moment in all its grandeur.

— Sean Dragon

Type A

He looked at his watch one more time, for the umpteenth time. He breathed out annoyed and began to walk back and forth, nervously, in front of the bench, behind the bus stop. Another bus arrived. He looked in it. He did not see her. He cursed and thought about the number of times he had lived this situation. Every time the same. They scheduled a rendezvous for a specific time, and she was always half an hour, or more, belated. The same now, they had said at seven, and it was already half-past seven, and she was not there. He felt angry. He felt like a sucker.

"Why am I always on time and she always lags? Why does she always take so long to get ready? Does not she really care about the way I feel when I am waiting like an idiot all this time?" He thought, shouting within.

Everything bothered him now. The hasty passers-by, he had to avoid as he paced up and down, the city's hustle, a beggar on the corner, few meters away, who was asking for help from the passing people, everything. He had decided that if she did not appear in ten minutes, he would leave and let her wait in vain. Maybe it was the only way for her to understand how irresponsible and cruel her attitude is.

He heard the sound of another bus that stopped at the bus stop and turned to see.

"At last!" He yelled spontaneously as soon as he saw her get off.

He moved angrily toward her. He did not notice how beautiful she was, nor did he hear her saying:

"Sorry, my love, but you won't believe what a wonderful thing happened..."

He didn't hear because he had already begun to yell at her how irresponsible she is, that this was the last time he would tolerate this behaviour, and some more things, not so... polite.

She, being ashamed of his yelling, had lost the entire good mood she had because of the beautiful incident which was the cause of her delay. An exceptional event which she was about to share with him. Then his "attack" changed her mind and her mood.

She passed him and walked fast in the direction they were supposed to go. He followed, nearly running behind her, shouting even more. He had just destroyed one more promising evening!

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Offering Love to a world that battles it daily is one of the toughest missions and the most wonderful adventure!

— Sean Dragon

Type B

He looked his watch casually. He smiled. Thirty minutes had already slipped by. They had said at seven, it was already half-past seven, and she was not there. But he did not mind. It was enough for him that she would be soon in his arms. He imagined her, coming beautiful and smiling. He imagined embracing and kissing her, and the time he waited for that did not matter.

He sat more comfortably on the bench, behind the bus stop. Another bus arrived. He looked in it. He did not see her. He smiled again and thought about the number of times he had lived this situation. Every time the same. They scheduled a rendezvous for a specific time, and she was always half an hour, or more, belated.

"It does not matter. I know what I'm going to see is worth every wait. And besides, she is getting ready for me; she wants to be beautiful for me. Such a gift wants its time," he thought, smiling internally to himself.

He looked around, observing the world around him. Everything seemed beautiful under the light of the sunset. The hasty passers-by, each one had its own story, the city's music, even a beggar on the corner, few meters away, who was asking for help from the passing people, everything. He stood up and went to the beggar's place. He took out a coin and left it in the hat that was in front of him. The beggar smiled and gave him a blessing for joy and health.

He heard the sound of another bus that stopped at the bus stop and turned to see.

"Wow!" He said spontaneously as soon as he saw her get off. He walked cheerfully towards her.

"Sorry, my love...” he did not let her finish her sentence because he said emphatically:

"Do not say anything. You are dazzling! It was worth waiting... "

He did not make to complete his phrase, too, because she embraced him tightly and closed his mouth with a kiss. He had just blessed one more night!

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What type are you?

What do you think? Which type are you? Which of the two types lives happier, and who are trying to impose his misery on others? I believe we can choose what kind of a person we want to be. In fact, we do it every single moment. We choose who we are, and by this choice, we create our lives! We create our lives! Nobody else!

Sometimes, a hug and a kiss full of love are enough to restore the memories of Paradise...

— Sean Dragon
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The Hug

One day while I was about to leave home for my job, the youngest of my four sons (he was about five years old at that time) told me:

"Daddy, may I give you a hug?"

I replied unconsciously, asking the usual foolish question:

"Of course, my boy, but why?"

The answer was a great lesson from a five-year-old "teacher":

"Why?! Because I love you, dad?"

I kneeled down with my arms wide open. He ran, joyfully, towards me, and he wrapped his little arms around my neck tightly. I hugged him too, and I held him tightly for several seconds. There was nothing else in the world at those moments, for me, just the love of my little Angel, filling my soul and my body. He kissed me on the cheek, he turned and left, and I watched him walking proudly, returning to his game.

This hug was a blessing to me because it made me feel the Love, offered with joy and without reason, to cleanse me from all negativity and to fill me with strength and optimism. It reminded me how easy is to make someone's day, just by giving a little Love! The miracle is that this is a safe way to make your day too! By giving Love, for no reason, you create your life in the best way you can.

Whenever I bring this moment and the hug to my mind, I am sure of a picture I did not see, but I felt it. While my little boy tightened me in his arms, God was standing behind me, and He was smiling!

A hug full of love! Do we need any further evidence of the Divine presence?

— Sean Dragon

Become Happiness!

We do not find happiness in the world, we find it within us and then we offer it to the world. We offer it to our work, our family, our friends, everywhere. By offering our happiness to our work, we make it a blessing. By offering our happiness to our family, we create happy people. By offering our happiness to our friends, we make them family. By offering our happiness to our world, we create Paradise, and we live in it.

Let's not expect to find happiness in the outer world. Let's look for it within us and let's use it to fill our world with joy. Then it could not disappoint us since we will not expect the world to supply us with happiness, we will fill it with ours.

This is the return to Paradise, to our Happy Home.

Each one of us is a conduit that fills this world with Light or darkness. The choice is ours.

— Sean Dragon

Questions & Answers

    © 2018 Ioannis Arvanitis

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      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        2 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        I am so happy knowing all you, my brother, Tim! It's a blessing to share my work and to read yours. Your golden heart and your comment about angels helped me to complete in my mind an idea for a story I had in mind for some time now! I am starting to work on it, and when it's done you'll understand your part...

        Thank you, brother, for feeling you by my side.

        Sincerely,

        Sean

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        Tim Truzy 

        3 months ago from U.S.A.

        It is mutual, Sean. I smiled when you wrote about your hug from your son, I also cheered with peace and happiness.

        Although we are not like the angels on high, we can act as they do, carrying His message when He beckons us to do so.

        Social media brings us many disturbing unhappy events and sorrows, but it can also bring us "angels," humans acting in accordance with His Will.

        Thank you brother, because it is written, we never know when we "entertain angels" when we meet "strangers." There are a few here on this site. Thank you for sharing your well written piece with us.

        Much respect,

        May your day be blessed,

        Sincerely,

        Tim

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        My beloved Brother, Tim, is the choice of Love that fills our lives with unspeakable wonders, like the connection I feel we have! I can feel your Love through your comments, and I hope you can feel mine. We have never met, but it's like I've known you forever! I care for you; I send you my prayers, daily; and that is a choice that makes me happier, more complete, to care for a "stranger," to give Love without "logical reason."

        What I receive now is that you are a channel of His Love, so what you were is just the path which led you here, and is your choice! I am proud of you and blessed to know you!

        Your Brother in Love, by choice,

        Sean

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        Tim Truzy 

        3 months ago from U.S.A.

        "To learn to live with love means to learn to defeat your selfishness, so you learn to experience every moment in all its grandeur."

        Wonderful, brother.

        I recall something I learned many years ago, everyone's emergency isn't your emergency. I also learned to smell the roses before I would not be able to at some point. I was like that Type A until my health told me you may be a classification of deceased if you don't learn to let go and grab on to what really matters.

        I agree with your article three thousand percent and more.

        Every moment is an instance to love or not. Every moment we can write the next - He gave us that choice.

        Every human on the Earth has the capacity for love, so location of birth is a minor thing.

        Brilliant examples and incredible insight into the nature of humanity.

        Much respect,

        Your brother,

        Tim

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Yes, my dear Sister, Dora, one of my goals in life is to try my best to become happiness for as many beings as I can. I know that if I do my best, then it will be enough.

        Thank you for your encouragement you always offer!

        I wish you happiness!

        Sean

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        Dora Weithers 

        3 months ago from The Caribbean

        A great reminder to live for the moment counting our blessings instead of fussing unnecessarily. "Become Happiness" is a great adage to live by.

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        "Together we stand, divided we fall."

        Of course, I agree with your addition, my friend, Frank!

        I thank you because is a significant choice.

        God Bless you!

        Sean

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        Frank Atanacio 

        3 months ago from Shelton

        I really agree with Brian.. but one thing I'd like to add.. is that life is a struggle and no matter what type we are we have to just keep it together and that's a wonderful challenge in itself.. perhaps you agree?

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        C'est moi qui vous remercie, Mon'Amie, Eric!

        Is me who thank you, my friend, Eric!

        Seize the day!

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Thank you, my dear friend, Lana! I am so glad you liked the hug of my Angel (Angel is his name and is a real angel!).

        I owe you a story about angels, I haven't forgotten, I am working on it!

        Much Love and Respect!

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        My dear brother, Brian, thank you so much for your wise comment! Your words have enriched my Hub and thank you for this choice to contribute!

        I am much obliged and honored!

        Sean

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        Eric Dierker 

        3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        Sometimes things just get stuck in my boot like a bad pebble. They gnaw at me.

        I am declaring it illegal to say such stuff as it makes me look silly.

        "Let's not expect to find happiness in the outer world. Let's look for it within us and let's use it to fill our world with joy. Then it could not disappoint us since we will not expect the world to supply us with happiness, we will fill it with ours."

        Forever now in my heart. No, friend even deeper. Merci Beau coup.

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        Lana Adler 

        3 months ago from California

        Beautiful message Sean! I especially loved the story about your son’s hug, it was so heartwarming. Blessings!

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        Brian Leekley 

        3 months ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

        Certainly our attitudes and whether we set before ourselves ideals and strive to live up to them are major factors in shaping our lives. We don't, though, get to choose whether our bodies are subject to gravity; or whether an object at a given temperature and pressure is solid, liquid, or gas; or our parents; or the history of the culture into which we are born; or the weather, and so on and on. A sculptor works differently with marble, pliable clay, soft wood, hard wood, or paper. Playing a flute is quite different from playing a piano which is quite different from playing a cello. It makes no sense for a sculptor to resent marble for not being pliable, and it makes no sense for anyone to feel miffed that this moment is not a different moment. A sensible person takes each new moment as it comes and responds to it as it is. One's response to a moment makes a huge difference in shaping what is to come. Much of what constitutes a moment, though, is given, not chosen. The young woman in your parable, for instance, could travel at the speed of the bus and could not travel the distance to her date instantly with a magic wish. Creating with the material at hand; playing the cards you are dealt; taking it as it comes can be done with patience or with impatience. The with patience way is the more pleasant and effective.

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Ha! Eric, you are a pure delight! Thank you, bro, for the support!

        God Bless your Golden Heart!

        Sean

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        Eric Dierker 

        3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        I am just really enjoying following this. Well done.

        I sometimes wonder is a boy born in an American ghetto is a child from a less developed country. Off to Thailand soon.

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        My brother Kevin, please, don't misunderstand my brother Eric, he is a Golden Heart! I understand the cause of your interference, and I can see that your motivation is the Love for all these people. Thank you for your participation. I agree that those people were different from us, but I believe that we are the exceptions, not them! If they can choose and live against the stream, then I believe all we can do it somehow! That is the point of my Hub. Surely I can't put aside all the damage that "civilized world" made and is making to all these people of the third world and not only! But I believe you can see that there is another choice that people in the wealthy parts of this world have to take. To stop stealing and give back! So it is always a choice. If you see the videos of Donald Walsch, I think you'll understand the meaning of the word "you" I used.

        Thank you again, my brother! You are caring, and this is a significant choice!

        Greetings from the part of the "third world" in Europe, Greece.

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Thank you, my brother, Venkatachari. Thank you for your inspiring comment and the wishes. Your opinion is always significant to me.

        Greetings from the family!

        Sean

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        dashingscorpio 

        3 months ago

        Eric Dierker,

        I don't see how your comment relates to mine regarding people born in {third world countries}. In the U.S. it's possible to go from rags to riches. However there are other parts of the world where that simply is not the case. This was what I was pointing out.

        A little bit of luck regarding what country you're born in can make a major difference in one's life. That's a simple fact.

        Loannis, I'm sure you'd agree Gandhi and Mother Teresa are the "exceptions" and not the rule for (third world) citizens.

        Cheers!

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        Venkatachari M 

        3 months ago from Hyderabad, India

        Beautiful, Loannis! A beautiful, inspiring message presented in a wonderful manner with two examples of the personality. Most people belong to the A-type mentality and thereby lose their happiness in life.

        The videos and images are also very nice.

        Thanks for sharing this inspiring article. My blessings to you and your family.

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Thank you, my beloved, Brother, Manatita. Yes, Donald Walsch is a beloved author! His books have helped me a lot to know my Self and my Origin. Thank you for your consideration. I believe Love is the right answer to all challenges and questions, besides, you have taught me so, too.

        Thank you for your feedback.

        I admire your choices!

        Salaam, bro!

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        Yes! Finally, I have a daughter! Even a long distance one, though, in Malaysia! After four sons and a lot of prayers, my wish came true! Best Father's Day ever! And the best proof of my Hub! Ha!

        Thank you so much, my beloved long-distance daughter, Li-Jen! Thank you for your kind Heart and your lovely comment!

        My best wishes and Much Love!

        Semoga hari anda baik sahaja.

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        My brother Kevin (aka dashingscorpio), thank you for passing by and for your comment. I think I can see your perception, but I do not agree.

        Gandhi was born in a third world country with no fresh water and very little food to eat, but he chose to live a happy life changing the world. Sri Chinmoy did the same!

        Mother Teresa chose to live in a third world country with no fresh water and very little food to eat, but she was happy because she chose to be.

        My brother Manatita chose to offer some months of his life to the people of Kenya leaving behind his comfort because he chooses Love instead of comfort.

        I live in a country with a profoundly moral and economic crisis, teaching 10-12 hours a day - the most of them without pay, because I chose to do so for helping those of my students who they can't afford the lessons - for a salary under 700 euros. I have four kids and no bank account, but I have a happy family because my wife and I have chosen to create Love deposits in the Inner Bank.

        I could write many more examples, but I think you've got my point.

        If you choose Love, you choose a fair life!

        God bless your helping work!

        Gratitude!

        Sean

      • Sean Dragon profile imageAUTHOR

        Ioannis Arvanitis 

        3 months ago from Greece, Almyros

        My brother, Eric, you are always an inspiration to me! You are the living Human-Smile because that is your choice, sometimes a choice against all the odds! Thank you for both your wonderful comments, each one is significant to me.

        Keep on being a conduit of Light!

        Sean

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        manatita44 

        3 months ago from london

        I presume you saw the Donald Walsh video, right? I was thinking how you could apply this with our friend.

        Not easy though. My recommendation is not him but to listen to your Heart.

        An extremely sublime reflective piece! Sometimes I wait two and a half hours for things in Kenya. Last week I spent 9 hours in the dental dept.

        Anyway, my friend came one day and waited an hour because the first message never got to me. He was very angry. This was the same man who constantly made me wait at least one and a half hours for each appt.

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        Li-Jen Hew 

        3 months ago

        Hey Sean! I love motivational and positive articles! You're right, our happiness depends on ourselves. Your article reminds me of the international motivational speaker and author, Andrew Matthews. And, one more thing, Happy Father's Day! from your long distance daughter and friend and sister.

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        Eric Dierker 

        3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        Dashing I find this a bit confusing " It’s very easy to get caught up in a "blame game" when we feel someone has done us wrong." That is off your page.

        You know very well life is a choice. I have been in 50 square miles of dump and the Ganges. People choose. Ghetto Boys can be Presidents.

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        dashingscorpio 

        3 months ago

        "Life Is Not Something That Happens to You. You Create It!"

        I'm sure it all depends on where one is born to subscribe to that philosophy. It's one thing to be born in a rich prosperous free thinking country and another to be born in a third world country with no fresh water and very little food to eat.

        How many of us would (choose) to be born in the latter?

        As much as we hate to admit it; sometimes: Life is not fair!

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        Eric Dierker 

        3 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

        I am doing my Spanish lesson through Shakira. The boy has ice pack on knee and mine is forehead. Soccer goalie is not for babies. Our life does not do anything easy. Maybe tommorrow or tonight we get back at it. We must embrace.

        Each one of us is a conduit that fills this world with Light or darkness. The choice is ours.

        — Sean Dragon

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