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Let's Talk About Values

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Lanecia enjoys writing in an effort to inspire others. She has a master's degree in Library and Information Science from Kent State.

Photo courtsey of Meiying Ng

Photo courtsey of Meiying Ng

We all know someone with poor values. I've had them before, in fact, we all have.

These are the people always upset or unsatisfied about something.

Everything is always out of their control, so they go to the bar to have 8 drinks every other night of the week. They spend money on things they can or can't afford. They drag others into their problems because misery loves company.

All because they don't take the time to think about values.

Here's what you should realize, values are very important.

If you want to be on the path of living your best life, it's time to consider your values.

Some people value money, cars, food, clothes, Facebook gossip, or even Instagram hotties.

But think about this, how are these things adding greatness into your life?

In which way do you benefit from the values that are meaningful to you? How is it making you more successful? If you've found it great. If not, then it is time to consider your value system.

If you have to think more than 3 minutes on what values mean to you, it's time to re-examine your value system.


What Do You Mean by Values?

Let's talk about examples of poor values and good values.

A poor value is a belief in things that add no significant worth to your life, and may even cause despair. A good value will add worth to your life, and may even add to your success.

For example, Sally gets a good job paying big bucks, let's say $70,000 a year.

According to her values, it is time for a new car and bigger house, though her present house and car is working just fine.

She splurges on the nicest car at the BMW car dealership. Then she spins around and puts a fat down payment on the biggest house in Fairytale Land, not really just an example.

So now she's gained two more monthly payments, but it's alright because she's got the funds, right? Most will agree.

However, in the long run, Sally will not own her house or car, essentially ending up with liabilities, rather than assets.

So she will be failing as she is paying out unnecessary money over the years.

On the other hand, we have Johnny. Johnny has just entered the same work field as Sally and is getting paid the same income of $70,000 a year.

He goes out and invests in some courses that will teach him how to start a business in real estate. He then spins around and buys a gym membership for a year to lose a few pounds and gain muscle for a healthier physique.

Johnny has no new monthly expenses but will be gaining knowledge to make more money, instead of losing.

Here's the difference in these examples.

Sally has based her value system according to material possessions and Johnny chose to invest in his future and his well-being.

These are just examples of really big values that can make a huge difference in a person's life.

Create your value system according to what you feel is more important, just be prepared for the outcome or potential ways it will impact your life.


But, I'm Not Sure Where to Start

Not sure where to start? There are thousands of ways to establish a value system for yourself.

Think about ways you would like to improve your life.What are some ways you can better yourself? What steps are you going to take to get there?

Think about who inspires you most of the time or on a daily basis.

What are their values and how do they fit into your life?

Go out and discover new opportunities and activities. Figure out what you truly like to do and what makes you happy. What is your passion?

Below I've compiled a list of ways to help you out a little further.


Ways to Establish Values

  • Read inspirational books
  • Watch informational documentaries
  • Write down your thoughts
  • Have a conversation with a loved one
  • Write down goals and aspirations
  • Figure out what brings you happiness
  • Explore different career paths
  • Volunteer for organizations in need
  • Brainstorm and organize a list of values
  • Research controversial topics and choose your stance
  • Read banned books
  • Join a meetup group
  • Read books about values
  • Explore different activities
  • Try new things

© 2017 Lanecia Smith