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I Am in Full Control of My Life & Enjoy Every Aspect of it!

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


All too often, some of us move through life feeling like we have no control over our lives. Except, we do not have to accept living our life thinking this way. There are ways to take back control of your life, and it is time we do it now.

Only, being in control is not the same thing as feeling as you’ll in charge. Although, some people are content not having control of their life. Perhaps being content is okay if it makes you comfortable, but in my case, I was miserable living in a fantasy world, and I had to make some changes and quickly.

How I took control of my life, I perceive I needed to remove toxic people from my life. Therefore, when moments in life came that shaped the outcome of my existence, some small and others large, I stop making excuses for my failure and start making better decisions that eliminated the obstacles that were keeping me back.

Also, deep down, I had various things happening in my life; I had to rectify. I did just that, but what it took for me to take control of my life may not be precise for you. Yet, it can still happen. It took me making some significant changes, which were in the process that took me from a stressed and sad mess of a person to a life where I took control, and I never looked back.

I stand on my own two feet, live my life for what’s best for me, not how someone else thought I should live. I stop choosing the decision that made me pay the price, and I am in full control of my life, and I love it.


But before I assumed full responsibility for my life, I wanted to carry out the plan I had for my life and the direction it was going. So, I took out a piece of paper and wrote about how I desire my life to go. When you take action, things get better.

When terrible things happen, it can take some time to get over the pain and feel safe again. I experience a feeling where I did not believe I had control over my life. Only what I didn’t recognize is I need to focus on being happy in the present and stop focusing on the past. But actually, I wasn’t, and it was the beginning of not knowing where I was going, and I was heading in the wrong direction.

When my eyes open, I understand no one can go back and start fresh. I needed a new move forward and to assume full responsibility for my life. If only I knew then what I know now. I was rushing to travel a journey that led me on a path of confusion, trouble, and no clear goals or purpose.

Reminiscing back to my first job and the very first time I fell in love. I was a go-getter, so; I had a good job for a young person who went to college and received a four-year degree, yet I had no clear direction as a young lady who fell in love and blown away with a guy who would break her heart to move on showing NO concern.

Not every person experiences a feeling of satisfaction, yet some individuals do, but I didn’t. Instead of feeling satisfied, I felt trapped. I traveled my life in the wrong direction, which was the start of me losing my way. I based my life on things I thought would make me happy, but they didn’t. The choices I made prevents me from living life to the fullest potential.


Some people can’t control their emotions, and I had some difficulty “keeping myself together”. And for that reason, within five years of losing my way, I’ve been defeated by life’s challenges more times than I can count… and I am very good at math and with numbers, and I can count very high.

At that point in my life, I had gained some life experience, but still, I knew nothing. Later on, I learned the essential thing to do to gain full control of my life is not to have been easily conquered but to have fought well.”

The need to find my life purpose made me very determined to earn my way, but no matter how horrible, dark, or distressed those times were, I wouldn’t exchange those experiences.

Instead, I applied them to my life to learn from them. And believe me when I say living your life is difficult when you’re drowning in the river that runs waist-deep full of troubles. I learn that my problems are blessings in disguise, and that’s how I learn to count my blessing and the beginning of taking full control of my life.


Our itinerary is filled with many crossroads during our time here on this earth. And from my experience, some roads consist of little dirt paths, while other contains significant puzzling intersections.

Still, I learn to maintain the most significant things in life like putting God first in my life, knowing the source of my happiness, eating and drinking healthy, maintaining good health, taking care of financial obligations, and loving and caring for loved ones.

When we fail to get these things done, life becomes a series of things that happen to us. A famous quote by Charles R. Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

The little things are often overlooked because people are searching and waiting for the big stuff. The truth is real life is happening around all of us, while it passes some of us by as many expect and hopes the big thing will take place to give them some sort of joy.

When the reality is it the small things that matter most, most of us can agree with the quote by Kurt Vonnegut., “Enjoy the little things, because one day, you'll look back and realize these were the big things.”

I believe the quote means life consists of many small moments that we can take advantage of but the big dramatic moments are few and long to come if they come, enjoy and live the little moments don't wait on something “big,” it is often the “small” things that bring success.


The world consists of many hard-working citizens, and some are good at what they do, but many are not content with all work and NO play. Some even feel their life is just a persistent set of demands and hard labor, and what’s the source of satisfaction in doing hard work on a daily.

I used to be among the percentage who life has been just a persistent set of demands. Never allow people to offer you a shell of what they think you want - you don’t need anybody dictating your life, and you are the only one who can take full responsibility for whatever is going on in your life. I changed my circumstances and took full control of my life, and so should you.

Five significant ways to take full control of your life

  • Conquer your concerns and eliminated the obstacles that are holding you back.
  • Find a balance between work, and your personal life, never allows yourself to be assumed, balance structured and unstructured your life.
  • Take good care of ‘You’ treat yourself as well as you would an invited visitor.
  • Look at every aspect of your life to do a reality check, start with your finances, your health, your relationship and continue checking until you accept the reality and begin taking full charge of your life.
  • Take personal responsibility for your life and stop blaming others for your downfalls; you cannot take full charge of your life until you are in control of the bad things that happened to you. When you accept 100% responsibility for your life, you are in control and can begin changing the things that you don’t want in your life.

You cannot control the outcome of everything that happens to you, but you can certainly control your response to how an incident end. Something to think about, you can either create the life you want or allow growth occurs to happen to you and give you a miserable life.

Do you know that you can take full charge of your life, or you can decide to let life transpires and get the best of you? Incident plus response equal the outcome, so it essential to take full responsibility for your life. Accountability is one of the primary keys to taking back control of your life and allow you to achieve the existence that you want.

On October 21, 1986, Janet Jackson released the song, "Control" and she put into words what she wants to do, which was declared her independence for every aspect of her life. She wants to take full responsibility for what she said, what she did and do it all her way.

There comes a certain point in everybody’s life where they must separate from their mother, father, and anybody that hold control over them and take full responsibility for their life. Ms. Jackson tells her story how she grew to resume responsibility for her life and not allow others to mold her, which she so masterfully sings in a song. "Control."

Janet Jackson - 'Control' Video

Fans who love Janet Jackson would enjoy and know the answers to this simple quiz about this talented diva!

For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

  1. Which rapper starred in the 1993 film "Poetic Justice" with Janet Jackson?
    • Ja Rule
    • Notorious B.I.G
    • Tupac
    • Jay-Z
  2. Who did Janet marry in the 2000 movie "The Nutty Professor 2"?
    • Buddy Love
    • Sherman Klump
    • Mr. Daddy Daycare
    • Dr. Doolittle
  3. What two TV shows was Janet Jackson on when she was younger?
    • "Martin" and "Fresh Prince"
    • "Good Times" and "The Jeffersons"
    • "Diffrent Strokes" and "Good Times"
    • "Different Strokes" and "What's Happening"
  4. Did Janet keep her 9-year marriage to Rene Elizondo a secret?
    • Yes
    • No
  5. Who was the first rapper Janet worked with in her music career?
    • Kris Kross
    • P Diddy
    • Heavy D
    • Nas
  6. What record producers have worked with Janet throughout her music career, since she was 17?
    • QuincyJones
    • Missy Elliot
    • Babyface
    • Jimmy Jam/Terry Lewis
  7. Janet is related to R n B singer Ashanti.
    • Yes
    • No
  8. What's the name of Janet's album with the single "I Get So Lonely"?
    • All For You
    • Rhythm Nation
    • Janet
    • The Velvet Rope
  9. In 1995 Janet and Michael Jackson were in a video together- what's the name of the song?
    • Control
    • Scream
    • Smooth Criminal
    • Billie Jean

Answer Key

  1. Ja Rule
  2. Buddy Love
  3. "Martin" and "Fresh Prince"
  4. Yes
  5. Kris Kross
  6. QuincyJones
  7. Yes
  8. All For You
  9. Control

Janet Jackson - "Control" - American Music Award (1987)

Janet Jackson - 'Control'


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