I Am in Full Control of My Life & Enjoy Every Aspect of it!

Updated on April 19, 2020
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stressed; I write.

All too often, some of us pass through life feeling like we have NO control over our lives. Except, we don’t have to accept and live our life feeling this way. There are ways to take back full control of your life and shape your existence.

Being in control is not the same thing as feeling as you’ll in control, although some people are content not having control of their life. Perhaps being content is fine, if it makes you comfortable, but in my case, I was miserable living in a fantasy world, and I had to make some changes and quickly.

How I took full control of my life, I realize my life is filled with the wrong stuff that I must stop doing. Therefore, when I was represented with moments in life that shaped the outcome of my existence, some small and other large, I stop making excuses for my failures and start making better decisions which eliminated the obstacles that were holding me back.

Also, deep down, I had various things going on in my life, I had to correct. I did just that, but what it took for me to take full control of my life may not work for you. Yet it can still happen. It took me making some significant changes, which were the process that took me from a stressed and sad mess of a person to live a life where I took full control, and I never looked back.

Most importantly, I begin standing on my own two feet, live my life for what’s best for me, not how someone else thought I should live. I stop choosing the decision that made me pay the price, and currently, I am in full control of my life, and I love it.

But before I took full control of my life, I thought I was working out what I wanted to do with my life and the direction my life was headed. So, I took the time to take out a piece of paper and write down the direction I want my life to go.

I somewhat understood when traumatic things happen to me, I experience a feeling that I have no power or control over their own lives, and it’s what controls the mind, but what I didn't recognize is I had to focus on being happy right now, in the present moment and I believe that was what I was doing. But actually, I wasn't, and it was the beginning of not knowing where I was going, and I was heading in the wrong direction.

When my eyes were open, and I receive knowledge, I realize nobody can go back and start a new beginning, I had to start fresh and move forward to take full control of my life. If only I knew then what I know now, because little did, I know that I was rushing to travel a journey that was leading me on a path of confusion, trouble and without knowing where I was going no clear goals or purpose.

Reminiscing back to my first job and the very first time I fell in love. I was a go-getter so; I had a pretty good job for a young person who went to college and received a four-year degree, but I had no clear direction as a young lady who fell in love and blown away with a guy who would just break her heart to move on showing NO concern.

It is headed in the wrong direction, which was the beginning of me losing my way. At that time, it was just a small dip of trouble, and I didn’t know it at that time, but we invent the feeling – we think it will make us happy in life, it doesn't, we lose our way, and it prevents us from living life to the fullest potential.

Some people can't control their emotions, and I had some difficulty "keeping myself together" at times as well. And for that reason, within five years of losing my way, I’ve been defeated by life’s challenges more times than I can count… and I am very good at math as well as with numbers, and I can score very high.

At that point in my life, I had gained some life experience, but still, I knew nothing. Later on, I learned the essential thing to do to gain full control of my life is not to have been easily conquered but to have fought well.”

So, after that, it made me very determined to find my way, but no matter how horrible, dark, or distressed those times were, I wouldn’t exchange those experiences whatsoever.

Instead, I chose to apply them to my life to learn from them. And believe me when I say living your life is not easy when you’re drowning in the river that runs waist deep full of troubles. Nonetheless, I learn that my problems are blessings in disguise, and that’s how I learn to count my blessing and the beginning of taking full control of my life.

Our itinerary is filled with many crossroads during our time here on this earth. And from my experience, some roads consist of little dirt paths, while other contains significant puzzling intersections.

Still, I learn to maintain the most significant things in life like putting God first in my life, knowing the source of my happiness, eating and drinking healthy, maintaining good health, taking care of financial obligations, and loving and caring for loved ones.

When we fail to get these things done, life becomes a series of things that happen to us. A famous quote by Charles R. Swindoll says, “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

The little things are often overlooked because people are searching and waiting for the big stuff. The truth is real life is happening around all of us, while it passes some of us by as many expect and hopes the big thing will take place to give them some sort of joy.

When the reality is it the small things that matter most, most of us can agree with the quote by Kurt Vonnegut., “Enjoy the little things, because one day, you'll look back and realize these were the big things.”

I believe the quote means life consists of many small moments that we can take advantage of but the big dramatic moments are few and long to come if they come, enjoy and live the little moments don't wait on something “big,” it is often the “small” things that bring success.

You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions your take.” Jack Canfield

The world consists of many hard-working citizens, and some are good at what they do, but many are not content with all work and NO play. Some even feel their life is just a persistent set of demands and hard labor, and what’s the source of satisfaction in doing hard work on a daily.

I used to be among the percentage who life has been just a persistent set of demands. Never allow people to offer you a shell of what they think you want - you don’t need anybody dictating your life, and you are the only one who can take full responsibility for whatever is going on in your life. I changed my circumstances and took full control of my life, and so should you.

Five significant ways to take full control of your life

  • Conquer your concerns and eliminated the obstacles that are holding you back.
  • Find a balance between work, and your personal life, never allows yourself to be assumed, balance structured and unstructured your life.
  • Take good care of ‘You’ treat yourself as well as you would an invited visitor.

“Control your thoughts. Decide about that which you will think and concentrate upon. You are in charge of your life to the degree you take charge of your thoughts.” Earl Nightingale

  • Look at every aspect of your life to do a reality check, start with your finances, your health, your relationship and continue checking until you accept the reality and begin taking full charge of your life.
  • Take personal responsibility for your life and stop blaming others for your downfalls; you cannot take full charge of your life until you are in control of the bad things that happened to you. When you accept 100% responsibility for your life, you are in control and can begin changing the things that you don’t want in your life.

You cannot control the outcome of everything that happens to you, but you can certainly control your response to how an incident end. Something to think about, you can either create the life you want or allow growth occurs to happen to you and give you a miserable life.

Do you know that you can take full charge of your life, or you can decide to let life transpires and get the best of you? Incident plus response equal the outcome, so it essential to take full responsibility for your life. Accountability is one of the primary keys to taking back control of your life and allow you to achieve the existence that you want.

On October 21, 1986, Janet Jackson released the song, "Control" and she put into words what she wants to do, which was declared her independence for every aspect of her life. She wants to take full responsibility for what she said, what she did and do it all her way.

There comes a certain point in everybody’s life where they must separate from their mother, father, and anybody that hold control over them and take full responsibility for their life. Ms. Jackson tells her story how she grew to resume responsibility for her life and not allow others to mold her, which she so masterfully sings in a song. "Control."

"Control" means taking full responsibility for your life, after reading this article what are your thoughts, and do you believe you are in control of your life?

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      Pam Morris 

      2 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much Fabia, for loving my article

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      Fabia Tonazzi 

      2 years ago

      I love all these kind of articles !


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