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The Biggest Reason We Fear Love

Audrey's desire to help others understand human behavior led her to study psychology. Why do we fear love? Here are answers to this question

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The #1 Reason We Avoid Loving

Trust is one reason we avoid relationships; however, the biggest reason is fear.

Fear prevents us from both loving and being loved. Some of our biggest fears include:

The fear of:

  • Rejection
  • Being controlled
  • Punished
  • Misunderstood
  • Lack of communication
  • Financial Issues
  • Responsibility
  • Loyalty (on both parties)
  • Remaining Faithful
  • Not being good enough
  • Being accepted
  • Being changed
  • Losing our sense of self
  • Being judged unfairly
  • Getting hurt
  • Being lied to
  • Trust

Learning to Love is an Ongoing Process

Love attracts love. As we learn how to love, we combat the fear of love.

Is it possible to learn to love? I believe with practice and a strong desire, we can learn to master love. A little knowledge of how human beings operate helps too.

Learning to love is an ongoing process. Patience, forgiveness, and kindness are essential to love. Another thing to remember is to take action. Walk your talk. Show your love each day, throughout the day, during the good times and the bad.

See-through the eyes of love. Open your heart and express your love without fear.

Let's take a look at the most critical elements for learning to accept love, as well as give love.

Six Helpful Tips to Master Love

  1. Mastering love requires complete integrity and honesty. There is no place for lying. It will never bring peace of mind. Be impeccable with your word.
  2. Develop your listening skills. Avoid interruptions and the need to give advice.
  3. Keep your ego out of your perception. Avoid being too quick to judge.
  4. Develop an appreciation and love for yourself. Until you truly love yourself, it's difficult, if not impossible, to love another.
  5. Think before you speak. It's difficult to "take back" a hurtful word. Just take a second or two to evaluate how your words will sound to someone else.
  6. Express your feelings. People aren't mind-readers. You have a voice, so use it.

Allow the Greatest Love of All to Happen to You

Learning to Love Yourself - The Greatest Gift of All

Learning to love ourselves seems to be more difficult than loving others. Many of us justify a limited view of who we are. We may think it's selfish to nurture ourselves. We often hesitate to say no to a request or demand.

To love others, we must first love ourselves. If we don't have a healthy respect for who we are, we won't learn to accept ourselves. We can't give away what we don't have.

But, to love, we must support our happiness.

The root of love is compassion. Kindness and patience for others are also necessary elements.

Cultivate a garden inside by accepting who you are and learning to love and heal yourself. Begin thinking about all the things you do right instead of what you may do wrong. Start feeling good about yourself right now. Make sure you're transmitting good messages about yourself. Remember that what you send out always comes back to you.

Instead of seeking approval from others, remind yourself that you are a miracle. Affirmations spoken aloud are potent tools to direct you on the right path to self-love.

Balance Your Life

Life is about balance. Be kind but don't let people abuse you. Trust, but don't be deceived. Be content but never stop improving yourself.

Zig Ziglar

Six Powerful Affirmations for Focusing on a Positive You

The following affirmations will help you in learning to love yourself. Repeat them while walking, meditating, resting, or even during driving. You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first because you may lack sincerity, but repeat these words often, regardless. The result will be a deep acceptance of who you are.

  1. I love myself unconditionally.
  2. I am happy just being me.
  3. My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
  4. I acknowledge my self-worth; my confidence is soaring.
  5. I am a powerhouse; I am indestructible.
  6. I am love.

Experiment with creating your affirmations. Every word you think or speak is an affirmation.

A Video For Powerful Affirmations

In Conclusion

The greatest love of all is only a heartbeat away. It comes from within. We carry it with us every single minute of every passing day. Nurture and care for this love.

Share it freely.

Love surrounds us. It cradles and soothes us when we need it the most. We can find love as we lookup. Gaze at the sky and its vastness and feel the love pouring down on you.

Life itself is full of love if we are open to it.

  • We find it in nature, the pride of mother earth.
  • We hear it in the laughter of children.
  • Our animal friends are always ready to greet us with unconditional love.
  • The song of a bird reminds us of how valuable we are.
  • A beautiful symphony fills every pore of our being with love.

The more we give away to others, the more love we shall receive.

If fear is the culprit that prevents you from loving, you are allowing fear to rob you of the most incredible experience, and feeling life has to offer. Begin now to ignite your spark - your inner pilot light.

You deserve to love and be loved. You are love.

References

https://www.brainpickings.org/2015/03/31/how-to-love-thich-nhat-hanh/

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/affirmations_b_3527028.html

© 2011 Audrey Hunt

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