What Prevents Us From Loving?
The #1 Reason We Avoid Loving
Trust is one reason we avoid relationships, however, the biggest reason is fear.
Fear prevents us from both loving and being loved. Some of our biggest fears include:
The fear of:
- Being controlled
- Lack of communication
- Financial Issues
- Loyalty (on both parties)
- Remaining Faithful
- Not being good enough
- Being accepted
- Being changed
- Losing our sense of self
- Being judged unfairly
- Getting hurt
- Being lied to
Author Stephan R. Covey wisely quotes, "Nothing destroys trust faster than making and breaking a promise. Conversely, nothing builds and strengthens trust more than keeping a promise you make."
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.
Learning to Love is an Ongoing Process
Is it possible to learn to love? Only with practice and plenty of it. And along with working consistently on how to master love, it's important to have at least a little knowledge of how human beings operate.
Learning to love is an on-going process. Patience, forgiveness, and kindness are basic to loving. Another thing to remember is action. Walk your talk. Show your love each day, throughout the day, during the good times as well as the bad.
See through the eyes of love. Open your heart and express your love without fear.
Let's take a look at the most important element for learning to accept love, as well as give love.
Love is Kind
Learning to Love Yourself - The Greatest Gift of All
Learning to love ourselves seems to be more difficult than to love others. Many of us justify a limited view of who we are. We may think it's selfish to nurture ourselves. We often hesitate to say no to a request or demand.
In order to love others, we must first love ourselves. If we don't have a healthy respect for who we are. and if we don't learn to accept ourselves, faults and all, we'll never be able to properly love others. We can't give away what we don't have.
But, in order to love, we must support our own happiness. This is how we grow our own hearts and nourish the ability to love.
The root for love is compassion. Kindness and patience for others are also necessary elements.
Cultivate a garden inside by accepting who you are and learn to love and heal yourself. Begin thinking about all the things you do right instead of what you may do wrong. Start feeling good about yourself right now. Make sure you're transmitting good messages about yourself. Remember that what you send out always comes back to you.
Instead of seeking approval from others, remind yourself that you are a miracle. Affirmations spoken aloud are powerful tools to direct you on the right path to self-love:
Balance Your Life
Life is about balance. Be kind but don't let people abuse you. Trust, but don't be deceived. Be content but never stop improving yourself.
Allow the Greatest Love of All to Happen to You
Six Powerful Affirmations for Focusing on a Positive You
The following affirmations will help you in learning to love yourself. They can be done while walking, meditating, resting or even during driving. You may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, because you may feel a lack of sincerity, but repeat these words often, regardless.The result will be a deep acceptance of who you really are.
- I love myself unconditionally.
- I am happy just being me.
- My body is healthy; my mind is brilliant; my soul is tranquil.
- I acknowledge my own self-worth; my confidence is soaring.
- I am a powerhouse; I am indestructible.
- I am love.
Experiment with creating your own affirmations. Every word you think or speak is an affirmation.
A Video For Powerful Affirmations
6 Helpful Tips For Mastering Love
- Mastering love requires complete integrity and honesty. There is no place for lying. It will never bring peace of mind. Be impeccable with your word.
- Develop your listening skills. You cannot be understanding until you see what they see Avoid interruptions and the need to give advice.
- Keep your ego out of your perception to see things clearly. Avoid being too quick to judge.
- Develop an appreciation and love for YOU. Until you truly love yourself it's difficult, if not impossible, to love another. This implies the act of forgiveness, including yourself.
- Think before you speak. This is seasoned advice which still holds true. It's difficult to "take back" a hurtful word. Just take a second or two to evaluate how your words will sound to someone else.
- Express your feelings. People aren't mind-readers. You have a voice, so use it.
I Loved Him In Silence
Slowly… excitement grabs my heart, claiming my desire for him
Captivated by his smile, decorated with Sean Connery dimples
Full beckoning lips
I wonder how they would feel coming home to mine
He speaks, I hear a symphony
More please, more
My imagination speaks,
How would it feel to touch his fingers
The very same fingers that strum his guitar
His eyes call to me
With promises that cannot be
Two hearts unite but never take flight
Hidden words never spoken
He is King Arthur and Sir Lancelot, “with virtue to spare”
His head may be bare where once there was hair
It matters not
It is a most beautiful crown
I am waiting to become Guinevere
Take me away
If Ever I Would Leave You - Musical Camelot
I’m falling…into sleep.
His arms wrapped around me
I am bathed in his warmth
Like a bed of roses basking in the sun
I am complete.
Still, I am alone.
In Conclusion - My Own Thoughts About Love
I believe that love surrounds us. It cradles and soothes us when we need it the most. We can find love as we look up. Gaze at the sky and it's vastness and feel the love pouring down on you.
Life itself is full of love if we are open to it. We find it in nature, the pride of mother earth. We hear it in the laughter of children. Our animal friends are always ready to greet us with unconditional love. The song of a bird reminds us of how valuable we are. A beautiful symphony fills every pore of our being with love.
The greatest love of all is only a heartbeat away. It comes from within. We carry it with us every single minute of every passing day. Nurture and care for this love. Share it freely.
The more we give away to others and to every living thing on the planet, the more love we shall receive.
If fear is the culprit that prevents you from loving, you are allowing fear to rob you from the greatest experience and feeling life has to offer. Begin now to ignite your spark - your inner pilot light.
You deserve to love and be loved. You are love.
Do You Consider Yourself A Master Of Love?
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© 2011 Audrey Hunt