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If You Want Life to Smile at You, Then You Have to Smile at Her First!

Sean is a teacher who is writing about his spiritual adventures to help other people find balance and self-respect.

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Don't lose your humour, no matter what it happens. This is a sign of wisdom.

— Sean Dragon

Laughing With Life

One of the things that have always made me happy is to see someone laugh spontaneously and heartily, especially if this one is a child. I think that the sound of a happy child's laugh is the best music someone can hear!

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What makes me even happier, is to be me the one who has caused this laugh. So, I've always been trying, and I still do, to create a cheerful mood around me as I interact with the world.

All these years that I am teaching, I have based a significant part of my effort to help my students to progress and develop —first as personalities and then as students— into humour. When you have fun, you learn better!

If you want to teach something to someone, make him laugh first. It will open many ways to reach him.

— Sean Dragon

I think that being able to make someone laugh is an expression of Love, because in this way you help him to understand or remember that every difficult situation is never so "black" or catastrophic as it appears at first, and consequently you give him the power to fight it better. That's why I admire all the great comedians.

Have you ever noticed that the words "laugh" and "life" sound similar?

— Sean Dragon

I was fortunate to grow up in the country where the comedy was born and to be able to read Aristophanes' comedies from an early age. This gave me a completely different view of life and helped me to improve as a person. It helped me make humour a "weapon" against the misery and negativity that people tried to project to my soul. Humour and Love helped me overcome tough situations and made me a happy person. To tell the truth, I can no longer distinguish humour from Love. I do not think there can be the one without the other.

Self-sarcasm

When I was in University, I came across the subversive humour of Monty Python! I believe that this was one of the reasons which led me to a great awareness that changed radically the way I deal with situations in life. I realized that there is only one way to live. You will live your life with humour, or you will not live it at all! And so I found the great ally who helped me finally get rid of the tyranny of selfishness --after the necessary and fundamental preparation that Love had done for it. Self-sarcasm!

I think self-sarcasm is the highest form of humour. When you can laugh with your weaknesses and mistakes, then you are not afraid to deal with them and correct them. At the same time, you can make others feel that you are one of them, they feel you are one of their kind, and so they can give you space to offer them your Love and your help.

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Self-sarcasm has given me humility. Humour has offered me an optimistic view of life and a desire to fight so that there is more laughter on this planet and fewer tears. They made me a better person who wants to offer and love without "but" and limitations. They helped me grow into a more complete personality, a spouse, a father and a teacher who can enjoy every moment of his life, even the most difficult one, and he will never give up the effort for the best possible result, always with a smile.

No matter how serious a situation is, make a joke about it. It will help you to see more clearly the gift that comes with this difficulty. By adding humour into your life, you will experience the most beautiful sunshine even in the cloudiest days.

— Sean Dragon

Hence if you want to change your life, to make it blessed and joyful, start off with the self-sarcasm, no matter how hard it may seem at first. Laugh with yourself, with your mistakes and your imperfections, and you will see a brighter world to open in front of you. Because you will understand that this world is deliberately made with flaws and difficulties by The Great Humorist who created it with Love! Because, as the great teacher of Love says, the incomparable poet Rumi, God teaches us joy and grief because we have two wings to train for learning to fly, not one!

God turns you from one feeling to another and teaches by means of opposites so that you will have two wings to fly, not one.

— Rumi

Therefore, laugh and make others laugh, but always with respect. Learn to laugh with others, not at the expense of others. At the same time, give your struggle, every day, to increase the reasons that the creatures of this world have for laughing and to decrease the reasons they have for crying. Always see the bright side of life. Learn to recognize the Creator's humour and show it to others. By putting humour into your life, you will experience the most beautiful sunshine, even in the cloudiest days.

God has an unbelievable humour, and that is why He makes us only jokes that we can understand.

— Sean Dragon

Happy New year to everybody! God Bless us all!

© 2018 Ioannis Arvanitis

Comments

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on February 17, 2019:

My dear Charity, I am so happy seeing that we have the same perception about laughter. As I read your Hubs, I can see that you have a smiling Heart, which means that it is a Heart full of God! Thank you for your lovely comment!

I wish you days full of laughter!

Sean

charity mtisi from Johannesburg on February 17, 2019:

I loved reading your article. I have always held the same view in the face of challenges and life. From an early age , i would laugh at myself often, then at situations,Seems i was always laughing. I couldn't agree more. I like to see children laughing and often i join, and bringing joy to others is the ultimate thing above all. It warms my heart to see someone happy, especially if I had a little something to do with it.

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on January 20, 2019:

Thank you, my dear brother, Chris! Your words are always significant for me. Making people laugh is a daily work of a Warrior of the Light, and I know you are one!

Laugh at the face of your fears!

Sean

Chris Mills from Traverse City, MI on January 19, 2019:

Brilliant, encouraging, and three Monty Python sketches. What more could one ask for in a hub about humor and spirituality? One of my goals every day is to make people laugh. If it's at me, so be it. Thanks for such a bright and encouraging hub.

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on January 05, 2019:

My dear friend, Brian, thank you so much for reminding us, Patch Adams! He was an excellent example of what a life lived in humour can be. A real gift to the world! I am grateful!

I wish you a blessed new year!

Sean

Brian Leekley from Bainbridge Island, Washington, USA on January 03, 2019:

Good advice, Loannis. In his book ANATOMY OF AN ILLNESS, Norman Cousins wrote about the healing power of laughter. Patch Adams—portrayed by Robin Williams in the film biography—started the practice of clown care or hospital clowning. Smiles, laughter, and good humor have lots of benefits.

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on January 01, 2019:

Happy New Year, my brother, Jason! I wish you Love and joy to fill each of your days! Thank you for your beautiful comment!

Laugh and make others laugh because it is what God wants for us!

Sean

Jason Behm from Cebu, Philippines on January 01, 2019:

Happy new year brother.

I agree when there is fun, we learn better. Like you, it also makes me feel happy to make someone laugh in a good way. And if this is my gift from God, then I will be glad to share and spread laughter.

Have a blissful 2019.

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

Oh! My dear Brother Eric, you are an Aristophanes of modern days! I Love you, my Brother, you and your lovely family. I wish all to have an Eric-Dierker New Year!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

My dear Brother Venkatachari, thank you for your beautiful comment! Yes indeed, we need to keep smiling for being happy and healthy. I am always looking for your words, which are so wise and full of Love! Grateful because I can call you Brother and friend.

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

My dear Sister Dora, thank you for the smile you bring to our Souls with your thoughtful articles! Grateful to know you!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

"The power of a smile--it's such a simple act; it takes virtually no effort, but what it can give is immeasurable. It's just one more way of showing love from within that God wants us to share with one another."

Thank you, my dear Linda, for this thoughtful and full of Love comment! Your comments are always little treasures for me! I am so grateful to 2018 for letting me know you!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

The way you smile, my dear Audrey, says everything about your golden Heart! I treasure your friendship! Thank you for your beautiful comment!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

The way you smile, my dear Audrey, says everything about your golden Heart! I treasure your friendship! Thank you for your beautiful comment!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 31, 2018:

My dear Brother, Manatita, I am glad that you learnt about Aristophanes from me! He was a great man, wise as Socrates, I believe.

I know how you appreciate smile and laughter, and you have an elegant sense of humour! One of the many things I love to you!

A New Year for us to fill with Love and laughter!

Sean

Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on December 31, 2018:

I just love this and kept it on follow so I can come back and read it and the comments again.

Yes some of this shall be stolen into a "boy teacher" hub. We will just incorporate it into our lives.

Just yesterday we played the "close your eyes what am I feeling?" game. You close your eyes and the other makes a serious/happy/mad or bored face and you have to guess which one -- the result is laughing your butts off. (I can tell when my boy cheats because he laughs too hard)

Keep on spreading the love friend.

Venkatachari M from Hyderabad, India on December 31, 2018:

A beautiful message. "Laugh is Life". We need to keep smiling for being happy and healthy. A positive mental set combined with a humorous attitude provides the real strength to us in dealing with all problems successfully. You explained it all very nicely.

Wish you a Happy Newyear.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on December 30, 2018:

Thanks for sharing the perspective that laugh is life. You've offered us many reasons to have laughter as a priority in our daily lives.

Linda Lum from Washington State, USA on December 30, 2018:

The laughter of children is one of the most beautiful sounds in all of Creation. I cannot be sad when I hear a little one enjoying life so fully.

Do you think that what sets the "great comedians" apart from the others is that they make fun of themselves instead of poking at others? Perhaps if all of us strove to lower ourselves a bit the world would be a happier place.

The power of a smile--it's such a simple act; it takes virtually no effort, but what it can give is immeasurable. It's just one more way of showing love from within that God wants us to share with one another.

Thank you for such a lovely and loving article. What a wonderful way to begin the new year. Thank you for this.

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on December 30, 2018:

I have been lucky enough to have grown up in poverty without knowing we were poor folks. My parents laughed at our circumstances and were never without a smile and positive outlook. I'm grateful for this and have emulated this throughout my own life.

Thank you, dear friend, for this beautiful, valuable message.

manatita44 from london on December 30, 2018:

The children got the idea all right and are remarkably cute as well as happy.

Great advice for the gloomy ones at Christmas. Life can be taken a lot less serious.

A fountain of goodness here as humour is great for the soul. I laugh a lot and sing in public too. Be careful about that last bit though.

Your Greek comedian must have had a social conscience. Never heard of him though. Until now. A Charles Chaplin, perhaps? Much Love.

manatita44 from london on December 30, 2018:

The poet in me says that:

"A smile is the Love that sets the curves straight." Or "A smile is the Grace that sets the curves straight."

Nice image though. Going to meditation. I will be back here soon

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 30, 2018:

My dearest brothers, Tim and Bill, I want to thank you for the higher gift of Love and friendship you gave me this year. You helped me in so many more ways than you can imagine! Your golden Hearts are a blessing to me and is an unparallel honor for me to call you brothers! I wish to you and your families the best year ever!

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 30, 2018:

I wish you the blessing of the laugh, my dear Mary! Thank you for your Love all year long!

A smile is a curve that sets everything straight!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 30, 2018:

Thank you, my dear Ellison! Happy to see you here. I wish you a New Year full of miracles and Health!

I wish Love to rule over our Hearts!

Sean

Ioannis Arvanitis (author) from Greece, Almyros on December 30, 2018:

Yes, my dear Li-Jen! First, I learn to Love and respect my self, and then I can laugh with my imperfections. After that, I can Love others without minding their imperfections.

I wish Love to rule over our Hearts!

Sean

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on December 30, 2018:

Sending a smile your way, and wishing you the Happiest of New Years. Peace and love to you always, my friend.

Tim Truzy from U.S.A. on December 30, 2018:

One of the things I've learned from working with adults and children with disabilities, Sean, is that many of them develop a wonderful sense of humor. They can see the ironies of life and enjoy them, usually making others smile along the way. (This is people who have adjusted to their disability and its limitations.)

You are right: I've discovered my children love it when the teacher is being silly and they know it's to help them understand.

I love this quote:

"If you want to teach something to someone, make him laugh first. It will open many ways to reach him."

Excellent advice, brother.

Wonderful read as we go into the New Year.

We will try to keep laughing, loving, and living. It's good for the soul.

Much respect and admiration,

Tim

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on December 30, 2018:

I wish I have more humour in me. I hardly laught at things people find funny or maybe my family just has too much of it. Anyway, am trying. It also is a gift.

Ellison Hartley from Maryland, USA on December 30, 2018:

Great article!

Li-Jen Hew on December 30, 2018:

Hey Sean, thank you for this almost year end gift. Your self-sarcasm section made me think a little. We can laugh at ourselves with a hint of kindness like how people laugh at the clumsiness and innocence of a little child...that's how I see it. And not at the expense of ourselves too! I rarely come across someone making others laugh with the intention of making them happier and I think that should be made more often instead of doing it for attention. Once again, thanks for the reminder!