How to Recover From Poor Life Decisions
I've made a lot of bad decisions in my life. Some have only had minor effects on the way that my life has played out and some have had dramatic effects that have caused my life to unravel completely. What I've learned during these difficult times, however, is that there is always a way to get out of any rut that you may be in. If you've managed to make some poor life decisions that have resulted in the decimation of your previous life, here is how you can recover from these choices.
1. Figure Out What It Is That You Need to Fix at the Moment
Some things in your life can't be fixed immediately. Things take time. However, there are definitely some things that you will need to do right now in order to get yourself on your feet again. Maybe your mental health has managed to reach rock bottom and you aren't able to get out of bed on most days. In this example, the best course of action to take is to create a plan for how you can tackle your mental health at home and where you can receive counseling in the meantime. Maybe you have become homeless and you are currently living on the streets. In this example, you'll need to find support services and seek out basic necessities while you try to get a job. Whatever rut you have created for yourself, immediate and decisive action is always the first step to take.
2. Discover What It Is That You Truly Want Out of Your Life
I personally believe that we lose our ways because we lose ourselves. We forget what we truly want out of life and because of this, we end up making major mistakes in search of these desires. Once you've gotten yourself back on your feet, the next step to take is to figure out what it is that you want out of life. Where was your life going before this? Did you want to become a doctor? Did you want to move to Spain and live in a nice apartment? Did you want to play your guitar for a famous band? Here's the thing: it doesn't matter what people think about your dreams. Find out what those dreams are and make those the driving motivation behind creating your new life.
3. Develop a Life Map
A life map is essentially a to-do list that contains everything you need to do in order to keep your life on track and reach your main goals. Although you won't have everything figured out at the moment and there are roadblocks that are bound to appear, a life map is still helpful to have so that you always know where you are going. Your life map should be as realistic as possible and should follow a definitive timeline so that you don't shy away from things that you absolutely have to get done. There are plenty of examples online. If you're unsure of what to do, look at some examples created by other people and make something that best meets your needs.
4. Stay Motivated
The hardest part of changing your life is staying motivated. Even if you know for a fact that you want a better life for yourself, energy levels can't always be at their highest. For times like these, have motivating objects on hand. For example, let's imagine that your mother has passed away and she gave you an impressive heirloom before she moved on. She most likely would be proud of your efforts and you can wear or carry that heirloom with you to give you added motivation and purpose when you don't feel at your best. You might not have something as meaningful as this but anything that gives you motivation and helps you to carry on at your lowest points will work.
The most important thing to remember is that you should not give up. This, like many things in life, will be hard but it will also be very rewarding. There is nothing more satisfying than watching your hard work pay off. Do your best, plan as much as you can, and I know that you can get your life back together!