How to Love Yourself In Seven Natural Powerful Steps

Updated on March 1, 2018
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Audrey's burning desire to help others to respect and understand themselves led her to the study of psychology at UCLA.

Loving Yourself Teaches You How To Love Others
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Change Your Thinking to Change Your Life

Only when you truly and completely learn how to love yourself are you able to love others unconditionally. And when you find that people have a hard time loving you it just might be because they haven't learned how to love themselves.

Now, this may be a lot to process all at once so take as long as you need to mull this over in your mind.

You create your own life. You alone have the power to create either a positive or a negative attitude. The way you feel about yourself is the result of the way you think. Once you change your thinking you change your life. As your life changes for the better, your health will begin to improve.

You'll wake up happier with more energy and ready to take on the day. You'll honor your body by feeding it nutritious food and moving around more to exercise your heart. You'll begin to change your thinking which will change your life.

When love pours out of you, you are happy. When you unlearn all the criticism, negativity and beliefs that you have stored in your mind's library, you'll begin a wonderful transformation - one that will give you a deeper meaning about your life and a joy which you will want to share with everyone you meet.

Keep reading and you will discover exactly what changes you need to make in order to learn to love yourself.

Replace all doubts and any negative feelings about yourself. Stop listening to "old critical" messages.
Replace all doubts and any negative feelings about yourself. Stop listening to "old critical" messages. | Source

How to Begin to Love Yourself in 7 Natural Steps

  1. Awareness

    This first step is to make you aware of the benefits of sincerely loving yourself. You will actually start to feel more relaxed physically, while your overall health, both physical and mental, improves. You'll become a happier person.

    As you learn to love and appreciate yourself, you are learning how to love and appreciate others. This is the pathway to forgiveness, peace, and fulfillment.

2. Change Your Thinking
You are now on a path of self-discovery. Learn the truth about who you really are. Much of what we learn about ourselves stems from childhood. Being criticized, punished, neglected and scolded, send a strong message to us. Our perception of self-becomes:

"I am not perfect, I'm not okay, I'm not the way I should be" This is when we stop loving ourselves and begin pretending to be something we are not.

It's time to stop listening to all the old negative or hurtful messages, played over and over in our mind, regardless of our age. These messages are negative, crippling, and label us, as long as we accept them.

They are very powerful and can affect our behavior and our thinking unless we erase them and replace this limiting thinking with empowering thoughts.

This is one of the most important steps for learning how to love ourselves.

Empower Yourself With Positive Thinking

3. Become as a little child. Children are completely authentic and live their true nature. They forgive quickly, hold no grudges, and are not judgmental. Children have no problem with loving themselves.

4. Stop judging and rejecting yourself. Make a list of all of your good qualities. This is not bragging - this is necessary for recognizing your self-worth. Do not allow your mind to bring up any negative points. Concentrate only on the good qualities.
You may presently have a distorted image of yourself. As you learn the art and truth of self-love, your self-image will change.

5. Forgive yourself. If and when you feel the need to forgive yourself for present or past mistakes, do it immediately. Then - forget it. Don't live in the past, dwelling on
every wrong-doing.

Let the past remain in the past. Direct your thoughts to the present and refrain from bringing them up again.

6. Believe in yourself. You have the power to believe whatever you choose.

When you believe love, happiness, peace, and harmony you have consciously decided to love yourself.

You no longer choose drama. You no longer choose self-abuse. You have a choice in what you think - it's a habit.

If you don't believe in yourself, nobody will. Your success begins with your own self-confidence. Begin now to see yourself as the person you want to become. Don't look back - look ahead.

Affirmations For Building Self-Esteem

The following self-esteem affirmations will help to build your self-worth. Feed these positive affirmations into your mind each and every day:

  • The greatest gift I can give myself is unconditional love.
  • Other people do not determine my potential.
  • I am victorious, not a victim.
  • I am a unique gift to the world.
  • I am worthy of every good thing.
  • I no longer give power to rejection and criticism.
  • I am gentle and kind to myself.
  • I hold only good and positive thoughts about myself.

Teach Someone Something Each Day to Boost Confidence

Teaching a student how to memorize lyrics to a song is fulfilling to me.
Teaching a student how to memorize lyrics to a song is fulfilling to me. | Source

7. Always Be True To Yourself

Pay attention to the still small voice within you. Don't be too quick to dismiss it. Give yourself permission to rest when you're weary. Take a break without feeling guilty. If you slip and make a mistake, avoid beating yourself up. Let it go. You'll do better next time.

Be at least as kind to yourself as you are to others. Direct your inner dialogue in such a way that your messages are positive and uplifting. Be thankful for what and who you are. You are no accident, my friend. You have a purpose and a mission which just might be to discover the magnificent you.

Accept Who You Are. You are Magnificent.

7. Acceptance

This is perhaps the most difficult step to conquer. You may live with the feeling that you are not good enough, whether it's for someone else or for yourself.

Take some time to examine your self-expectations. They may be too high or unrealistic.

Get in touch with the child within to help you to be more accepting of yourself. The inner child needs to be nourished, loved and appreciated. And remember to laugh often.

Part of learning to accept yourself is to live in the moment. Don't be concerned with tomorrow. Avoid dwelling on the past.

You will find that the best moments in your life are when you are being true to yourself and when you are being authentic.

How to Love Yourself Using These 7 Natural Steps will only work if you practice applying these tips consistently.

Practice Smile Therapy. Go From Negative to Positive.

Smiling, even though you are experiencing minor stress, can actually improve the way you feel.
Smiling, even though you are experiencing minor stress, can actually improve the way you feel. | Source

Conclusion And Final Thought

It's your time, regardless of where you are in life, to live every moment to the fullest and to begin by giving yourself the love and attention you deserve. Yes, it's now time to:

  • Change your thinking to change your life.
  • Be more aware of your good points and release all negativity and self-doubt.
  • Empower yourself with positive thinking.
  • Become a child again, happy, forgiving and free.
  • Stop all judging and rejecting of yourself.
  • Be forgiving of others and of yourself.
  • Believe in yourself.
  • Always be true to yourself...always.
  • Accept who you are.
  • Live in the moment. Not what happened years ago, last week or even 5 minutes ago. Live for now.

It has taken years to develop who you presently perceive yourself to be which now pools your entire belief system. You will be amazed to discover how loving and lovable you truly are.

Remember that you are a unique diamond with unlimited abilities.

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      • vocalcoach profile imageAUTHOR

        Audrey Hunt 

        3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear Perspycacious - It took me a while to learn how to love myself. My childhood was difficult. Still, I had something inside me that caused me to have a great love for people. You've read me well dear friend. I thank you kindly for being here and leaving your wonderful comments.

        May you live in peace, love and harmony.

        Audrey

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        Demas W Jasper 

        3 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

        I just knew you had these thoughts running around in your head and headed to paper. You also believe in lists as well as meditation and intuitive thinking, while approaching play and life like a child alone in a room full of new toys. You're a gutsy gal with a gift for living. More power to you!

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        Audrey Hunt 

        3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Ibrummer

        Living in the moment is tough to do at times. But until we learn to do this, we miss so much! Thanks for being here. Appreciate it. Audrey

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        Loraine Brummer 

        3 years ago from Hartington, Nebraska

        Very nice article with so many great tips. Living in the moment is a timely suggestion.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        3 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        hlwar

        Thank you for your honest comments. Others can find comfort in knowing they are not alone. Sharing your behavior takes courage and indicates a desire to help others.

        Learning to control our inner-dialogue is a marvelous exercise. And, it works wonders!

        Using the "stop" word interrupts our 'state', clearing our mind for more positive thinking.

        Keep in touch and let me know how you're doing. Thank you so much, my friend. Audrey

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        hlwar 

        4 years ago

        Definitely! ( ⌒o⌒)人(⌒-⌒ )v Thank you for the compliments! And I also enjoy your hubs; your writing is very emotional and I enjoy the varied topics, from thought-provoking and inspirational, to fun and helpful.

        That's exactly it. I tend to be passive-aggressive, self-conscious, and guilt-ridden, so I'm constantly re-playing situations in my head, all the "what ifs" of my life. It's hard sometimes, but after many trials and tribulations I realize letting it go is for the best.

        That is excellent advice! Because I get so nervous I tend to babble in the offline, so I'd thought about getting a tattoo on my hand to remind myself to "Shut up". Now I think I need "Stop it" on the other hand as a remember to silence my thoughts! (°◇°)

        Thank you again! Hope you're enjoying the last of your weekend! ♡

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        Audrey Hunt 

        4 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear hlwar - I can see that you and I are going to be hub friends. I like your hubs very much and I appreciate your reading mine and leaving excellent comments.

        I, too find my thoughts vibrating to the past (dumb mistakes and choices.) Then I do what I suggested in my latest hub - I say "stop it!"

        I had to sever negative ties with my own sister who I love dearly. Too much negativity. Have a beautiful weekend and remember to use the 'stop' word :) Audrey

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        hlwar 

        4 years ago

        Lovely article! As someone who spends too much time stuck in the past and only notices her flaws (thanks to a world that forever pointed out the negatives for me), I know how difficult it can be to love yourself for everything. The hardest part is accepting and moving forward, especially if you have to sever negative ties in order to do that...

        I will definitely take your advice to heart. Thank you for sharing your kind words! ♡^▽^♡

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        Audrey Hunt 

        4 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        abbaelijah - How nice to see you here. It pleases me to find that you have learned from my hub. Thank you so much for your kind comments. Your friend - Audrey

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        Abba Elijah aka elijagod 

        4 years ago from Abuja - Nigeria

        Thanks for the hub.

        it is helpful and worth reading for everyone who struggle with loving his/herself.

        I have learn a lot from this hub.

        Thanks for sharing !

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        Audrey Hunt 

        5 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Jane - Thank you for finding my article inspiring. Every single day write down 1 or 2 things you like about yourself. It may take some deep thinking at first if you're not used to it, but eventually you will discover more and more wonderful, beautiful qualities you possess. Be sure to check out my hub about being a beautiful, unique diamond. This article will help you realize how magnificent you truly are!

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        Jane 

        5 years ago

        Very inspiring. I still have issues appreciating and loving myself. I intend sticking to this, even thoough i have tried some of it. I especially like the part about being like a little child.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        5 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        KDubarry03 - I appreciate your comments. Sage advice!

        tillsontitan - I just love to be a kid again. Glad you agree about the importance of being like a child. In our hearts, that is what we are! Thanks, my friend.

        Injured lamb - Hello my little, sweet lamb:) So glad to see you here and it's so great to know that my hub helped in some way. Here's a hug for you to wear today!

        Thank you pavan - nice to see you here!

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        Audrey Hunt 

        5 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear Denise - Thank you my sweet friend for your lovely comments. I believe we can always use a little more inspiration. You have certainly given me the same and just when I seem to need it. Appreciate your votes!

        rasta 1 - I'm glad to hear that you will become a child again. There's nothing like it. Yesterday a friend and I had our "child day." We shopped, had ice-cream, walked, skipped and giggled!

        Jools - Hello, my friend. Thanks for liking my hub, love hearing that from YOU. We just must make time for loving ourselves. Nothing takes priority over this! And...I love you!

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        pavan 

        5 years ago

        Good Article

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        Injured lamb 

        6 years ago

        Another great hub of yours Audrey, thanks for this thought provoking hub...love it and well, this helps me a lot...

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        Audrey Hunt 

        6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear Carly - You've added wonderful advice to my hub. I like "if everyone else would only change this pattern in their life then my life will be so much better."

        How often some of us repeat these words to ourselves. It helps us avoid responsibilty doesn't it? So glad to see you Carley.

        Oh Martie! Look at you...right back here again. How happy I am. Thank you again and again. You're so awesome. Love the vote up!

        Carol7777 - You're right - change can be more difficult as we grow older. It can also be more rewarding (as I'm learning now.) You make a good point and I'm glad for your wisdom and comments!

        billybuc - I must print your opening line from your comments here: "Acceptance and self-love....and for God's sake have fun!!!! "

        How important this is and I'm so glad you added this marvelous advice. And I too would love to sit down with you and talk and laugh and talk some more. I'm so proud to be your friend as well!

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        Mary Craig 

        6 years ago from New York

        Be as little children....the best advice we can have. No burdens, no baggage, no guilt! You couldn't have picked a better video...every time I see it I cry!

        Great hub voted up, awesome, and interesting.

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        KDuBarry03 

        6 years ago

        learn from your self-induced rejections, judgments, and neglect to make your mind and heart stronger for the rejections, judgments, and neglect of others :) No matter what you do in a days time in a negative fashion. Wake up the next morning and ask "What did I learn from it all?" That question accepts all answers except "Nothing". :)

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        Jools Hogg 

        6 years ago from North-East UK

        Audrey - excellent read! Something I should print off and hang up somewhere in my house...my mirror perhaps :o)

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        Audrey Hunt 

        6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        sunshine625 - It's easy to see that you appreciate and love your beautiful self - which is why you have such a huge capacity for loving others. And yes, grandchildren remind us that our love is like an ocean. Plenty of it and it never runs dry. Thank you my friend:)

        Janine Huldie - I remember being a new, young parent and being so amazed at my own capacity to love each new child. I didn't realize how endless love is until then. Thank you for your vote up and for sharing!

        mrslagibb - I like how you mentioned that it is love which brings out the best in us. Marvelous! I will hop over to your hub on Michael Jackson right now and thanks for telling me about it. Take care!

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        Marvin Parke 

        6 years ago from Jamaica

        Nice reminder. I shall become enthusiastic once more as a little child.

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        Denise Handlon 

        6 years ago from North Carolina

        Audrey-I'm glad you 'revised' this hub and posted it. I never read it before and it is marvelous-and so full of the love you show everyone here. Thanks so much for sharing this. You are an inspiration to all of us. :) Rated up and A/U/B/I

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        Bill Holland 

        6 years ago from Olympia, WA

        Acceptance and self-love....and for God's sake have fun!!!! You are such a great writer but you know what? You are a better person! You are one of those I would love to sit down with and just enjoy for a few hours....I am proud to be a follower and to call you a friend.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Rusticliving - You, my sweet Angel have given all the love you could possibly give to family, friends and your students. In order to do that you also carried love for yourself, but one that remained hidden and un-noticed. Working hard to "feel" that love, you have brought it to the surface. How glorious is that! I know of no one who deserves to be loved and cherished more than you. After all, love is also spelled "Lisa."

        Thank you so much and hugs back.

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        carol stanley 

        6 years ago from Arizona

        Hi Vocal Coach: Loved this hub. Of course it is not always easy to make changes, especially as we age. I think it is so valuable to learn acceptance and that does not mean we cannot change. You are never too old to make changes. Our self esteem can be challenged often and building it up again is not alays easy. Great Hub Voted UP.

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        Martie Coetser 

        6 years ago from South Africa

        Still awesome, as it was for me when I read this hub of yours 23 months ago, Vocalcoach. Voted up again :)

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        Carly Sullens 

        6 years ago from St. Louis, Missouri

        Wonderful! So true we do need to start with ourselves when we are unhappy. It is so easy to say, if everyone else would only change this pattern in their life then my life will be so much better. We can not wait on other's wellness to dictate our own.

        Stepping out and doing the hard work of self love is what it is all about!

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        Mrs L A Gibb 

        6 years ago

        A truly inspirational hub, many people of this world can be cruel, cold and heartless with no love that can be judgemental. It is love and caring for others that brings the best out in us. Perhaps you would like to read my tribute to Michael Jackson. I have mentioned this because M.J. was a loving caring person who tried to make the world a better place, but people judged him with egotistical thoughts.

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        Janine Huldie 

        6 years ago from New York, New York

        I also am good on many if not all the steps on many days. My kids entered my world each opened up my heart and love just a bit more. Loved this article and am voting it up and sharing it too.

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        Linda Bilyeu 

        6 years ago from Orlando, FL

        I am good with all the steps. On most days:) I'm still learning how to love with each grandchild that enters my life. Grandchildren remind us how much love we have to offer to ourselves and to others. Beautiful article Audrey. You have a way of making us all feel the love!:)

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        Elizabeth Rayen 

        6 years ago from California

        You know first hand how I have always been so hard and critical of myself. Far more than I deserved. It's taken a lifetime to learn to love myself and more importantly forgive myself of things I thought needed forgiving. Thank you for reminding me and others just how much we are worth and how important we are. Love you! (((Hub Hugs))) Thumbs up!

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        Audrey Hunt 

        6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Tams - Good for you! One day at a time will bring you lasting results. You are a unique diamond so let your light shine forth. Thanks so much and stay close!

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        Tams R 

        6 years ago from Missouri

        I am guilty of being too hard on myself. I've been told I bring new meaning to being my own worst enemy.

        Great tips and advice. I'm learning to implement some of these steps. One day at a time.

        Great hub!

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Support Med. - I think most of us are too hard on ourselves. I know I am. One thing that I now practice is "laughing at myself" when I do something stupid. The older I get, the more laughing I do. :) Thanks Support Med.

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        Support Med. 

        7 years ago from Michigan

        These are great steps for self-approval and acceptance and getting rid of those negative thoughts, especially about ourselves. Thank goodness, it's never too late! Voted and rated.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        How true, Bel. We need to be taught as children the reasons for self-approval and love to fortify us through the teen years which are tough ones. Thanks Bel for your comments.

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        Bel Marshall 

        7 years ago from Michigan

        This is full of amazing information. I believe the most important thing we can do in this life is learn to love ourself and yet it is also the one thing that is often the most elusive.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        toknowinfo - So nice to read your comment - it made my day. So many feel uncomfortable when it comes to loving yourself, yet it is the pathway to all that is good. Thank you, my friend.

        sentimental - I look forward to reading your poem about loving yourself. It is a topic that we never hear enough about. I am looking forward to knowing you through your hubs and comments. God bless Hubpages!

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        toknowinfo 

        7 years ago

        Thanks for great ways to remind us to love ourselves. Well written and beautifully put together. Rated up and beautiful. Keep writing

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        Capt Semant 

        7 years ago from India

        Like a spring in desert....motivating,the first line itself makes to dive in to the depths of the article...

        "...Not until we truly and completely love ourselves, are we able to love others unconditionally." May I pick up the gist for my poem

        Great Voted you UP

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        carrie450 - I thank you for the kind comments. Very pleased that you found my hub helful. May all good things come your way carrie!

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        carrie450 

        7 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

        A fantastic hub! One of the best that I have read. I will bookmark it , Thanks for all of these invaluable tips vocalcoach .

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        beth811 - Wonderful to see you here beth! Let me know how these 7 steps work for you. Conctact me if you need to. I am here for you. Hugs and blessings ...

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        beth811 

        7 years ago from Pearl of the Orient Seas

        It's time to reexamine myself with these 7-key steps.

        Thanks for this wonderful hub.

        Rated up!

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        beth811 

        7 years ago from Pearl of the Orient Seas

        It's time to reexamine myself with these 7-key steps.

        Thanks for this wonderful hub.

        Rated up!

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        Audrey Hunt 

        7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        msorensson - I needed your hug - how did you know? Hugs right back. Thank you.

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        msorensson 

        7 years ago

        Indeed, vocalcoach. Then and only then can we love another. I enjoyed the hub. Hugs.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        eiddwen - Your comments mean so much to me. I am eager to read your hubs and learn from them. You are a compassionate and beautiful person. So pleased to meet you here on hubpages. Thank you

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Masmasika - You are such a wise woman. Your hubs are some of my favorites and I love reading them. I love to "take time out" every now and then and be a child again. It reminds me that I must not take life too seriously. But to enjoy each moment, because that is all we have. Thank you for your comments.

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        Eiddwen 

        8 years ago from Wales

        I loved this hub vocalcoach and definitly written from your heart. This is a subject very close to my heart and if you have a few minutes to spare maybe you would like to read my hub 'FROM THIS MOMENT ON'which is closely related to this hub, and also 'My Beautiful Little Girl' What you express in this hub is so right and it is important that we do love ourselves and we have a right to be happy from within and no one has the right to take this away fromus!! A beautifully witten hub! I will be happy to follow you and will vote this hub up for you .I am now going to read more of your work . Take care and God bless!

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        Miranda Fox 

        8 years ago

        A very inspiring hub. Sometimes loving oneself is a difficult concept. But a necessity, after all, we are with ourselves 24/7/365, and what miserable days will follow if we don't even like ourselves. Thanks for reminding us all!

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        masmasika 

        8 years ago

        Hey these are again great tips to live a healthy life. Yes, children have no problems at all. sometimes I wish as was a child again living my carefree youth, but life changes and the way we live our life is what matters. Thanks.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Lgall - You are so very welcome. I am eager to start reading your hubs.

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        Lgali 

        8 years ago

        thnaks for nice tips

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear LadyWriter - Yes, what you say is true. It is not easy at all. Childhood messages are imprinted on our minds forever. Keep working on these exercises and affirmations. I will be contacting you. Remember - you are beautiful!

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        LadyWriter 

        8 years ago from UK

        This is a very good hub. I still struggle with this; it's very hard to reprogram your mind if it was filled with rubbish by a parent, you have to keep working at it every day.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Dear katiem2 - Your comments are a continuation of my hub - you added: "So many were never taught love and need to learn, it's never to late as we are instinctively loving creatures". Absolutely beautiful. Wish I would have written this. Thank you so much!

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        katiem2 

        8 years ago from I'm outta here

        I love Love LOVE it and adhere to all these steps. I like myself, I love myself, I really really do! How to love yourself with 7 key steps is a brillant blueprint to guide us all to love ourselves and then have the ability to love all around us. So many were never taught love and need to learn, it's never to late as we are instinctively loving creatures. Peace :)

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        MartieCoester - Hi. I am so pleased that you are keeping my hub. I worked very hard on it. HP may delete it so its good that you are saving it. I will save it too :-)

        If the quicksand gets too deep and you need someone to help pull you out, just contact me. You are a beautiful person and I am so glad we met on HP. Thank you

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        Martie Coetser 

        8 years ago from South Africa

        This is a great hub. Going to bookmark it and read it every time life becomes quicksand under my feet.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        dallas93444 - I appreciate your taking time out to comment. Have a wonderful day, my friend.

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        Dallas W Thompson 

        8 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

        Thought provoking. Thanks! Lots to "chew on."

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        LillyGrillzit - Yes it is. My sister is one of those unfortunate souls who has not learned to love herself. It is very sad. Thank you for your great comments.

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        Lori J Latimer 

        8 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

        Thank you so much! Isn't it sad how many never learned to love? These are wonderful methods for gaining a solid and loving relationship with oneself...Peace

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Hello Hello, I always appreciate the time you take to comment positively on my hubs. Thank you.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Bob - It is easy to see that you are a positive and loving person. I appreciate your thoughts and comments so very much. I promise to write more hubs on this subject. Thank you so much.

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        Bob Mc 

        8 years ago

        Right on VC I'm with your thinking all the way. The best of the best seller authors on the subject couldn't have stated it better. Stay positive and loving and please let's see some more hubs on your thoughts on positive living.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        Green Lotus - Thank you so much. This is a "revised" hub. I will contact you today with a question about it.

        Have a wonderful day.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        equealla - I love your comments. I like the chinese proverb. Thanks for your contribution.

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        Hillary 

        8 years ago from Atlanta, GA

        Well presented VC and so true! Thanks.

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        Hello, hello, 

        8 years ago from London, UK

        Thank you for these lovely tips.

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        equealla 

        8 years ago from Pretoria, South Africa

        There is an old chinese proverb: Live today and know this is the best day for you to die!

        I have found it at first intriguing and weird, until the real meaning sank in.

        When we add your keys to the day, and enjoy living for that day, it is a mission accomplished. We can only live in the now, no use to ponder the miseries of yesterday or the troubles of the future. This is my life's motto: Carpe Diem!

        This is a lovely hub, Audrey. Rated up and awesome.

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        Audrey Hunt 

        8 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

        I've seen pictures of those adorable sons of yours and yes, they sure would make anyone feel good about themselves. You are a wonderful man! Loved your comment.

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        Cristopher Chasse 

        8 years ago from Boston

        I would add an eighth step. The smile on my sons faces make me love myself even more!!! Thank you for the warm column.

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