Ron is the founding pastor of a church in Harrisburg, PA. He is a graduate of Denver Seminary in Colorado.
A little while ago I really messed up. There was something I was supposed to do that I didn’t get done, and I felt really bad about my neglect. In fact, my mistake started weighing on me. I felt ashamed, because I disappointed the expectations of other people, and guilty because I disappointed not only God, but also my expectations of myself.
That episode brought me face to face with an issue every Christian must deal with sooner or later: how do you handle it when you’ve badly messed up? You sinned in some way, or you neglected a responsibility, or you got angry and said some things you shouldn’t have said. Whatever it was, you messed up. And now you really feel bad about it.
Feeling Bad About Messing Up? Good!
Here’s the first thing you need to know: You are supposed to feel bad about your mess-up! James 4:9 says that sinners should “Lament and mourn and weep! Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom.” Psalm 38:18b says, “I will be in anguish over my sin.” So, don’t feel bad about feeling bad! In fact, if you can sin and not feel bad about it, you are in a dangerous spiritual condition.
The Holy Spirit uses those feelings of guilt and shame to convict us of our sin and motivate us to do something about it.
That’s why when you feel bad about something you’ve done, you cannot afford to ignore that feeling. The guilt or shame you feel is like the fuel gauge in your car. It’s telling you something you need to know and that would be dangerous for you to ignore. With gas well north of $2 a gallon, I really don’t want to hear my car telling me that the tank needs to be filled again. But it’s something I need to know so I can properly respond to the situation.
That’s what feelings of guilt do for us when we’ve messed up. They let us know we need to do something to correct our transgression.
So, what do you do? Just keep on feeling bad? Or do you simply blow it off and go on about your business as if it never happened?
Of course, neither of those alternatives is the right one. We need to get God’s prescription for how you get up when you mess up. Let’s start with what I think is a very encouraging word about our mess-ups:
You Can Be Blessed in Spite of Your Mess!
Psalm 32:1-2 (NKVJ) Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered. 2 Blessed is the man to whom the LORD does not impute iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no deceit.
This passage talks about what happens when we mess up, but the first thing it says is “blessed is the man” who has messed up but been forgiven. To me that’s a very encouraging message: you can be blessed in spite of your mess!
When we handle our mess-ups the way God commands, we can actually end up being blessed rather than condemned. So, how can we deal with our mess-ups in a way that brings blessing?
1. Acknowledge Your Transgression
Psalm 32:5 I acknowledged my sin to You, And my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, "I will confess my transgressions to the LORD," And You forgave the iniquity of my sin.
When I mess up, the first step to getting back up is to acknowledge my mess-up, first to myself, then to the Lord.
I must acknowledge that what I did was wrong. I can’t afford to excuse it or minimize it or overlook it, or say it wasn’t as bad as what somebody else did. Those are all ways of avoiding having to deal with the fact that I messed up and need to change.
If you ever catch yourself saying something like, “I know it was wrong, BUT…” watch out! That comforting excuse will keep you trapped in your sin. If it was wrong, it was wrong, and there’s no “but” to it.
I need to actively confess my sin to God in prayer. Then, if there is another person I have wronged or hurt or offended, I need to go to that person and confess my fault and ask for their forgiveness.
2 Corinthians 7:10a For godly sorrow produces repentance…
Once I have acknowledged and confessed my mess-up, the next step is repentance. To repent simply means to turn from the wrong way to the right way. Real sorrow about my sin always involves repentance.
Suppose I write to the manager of a store in the mall and say, “I learned in church that I’m supposed to acknowledge my sins. So, I want to confess to you that last week I shoplifted from your store. And by the way, in order to save on postage, let me go ahead and confess the shoplifting I plan to do this week as well.”
Obviously, that doesn’t work! Sincere confession always includes the desire and intention to turn away from my sinful actions, and not continue engaging in them. It’s not enough to just admit my sin. I must also determine, with God’s help, to quit doing it.
3. Set Things Right
Exodus 22:6 If fire breaks out and catches in thorns, so that stacked grain, standing grain, or the field is consumed, he who kindled the fire shall surely make restitution.
When my mess-up does damage to someone else, my repentance is not complete until I have done all I can to make restitution.
For example, if I had shoplifted goods from a store, just confessing and repenting are not enough. I need to restore to that store owner the value of what I stole.
In the same way, if I said something nasty about someone, so that their reputation was affected, I need to do all I can to undo that damage. That might mean going not only to that person, but also to others who heard my slanderous comments, and publicly apologizing for what I said.
Whatever it takes, if I’m going to have a clean slate after repenting for my mess-up, I must do all I can to make appropriate restitution for the damage I’ve caused.
4. Forget It
Philippians 3:13a Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind…
When God forgives, He forgives completely! 1 John 1:9 says that “if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” That means once we sincerely confess our mess-up to the Lord, it’s gone! It’s no longer on the books. God has forgotten it, and so should we.
Don’t let the weight of old sins hold you in bondage. When the guilt and shame of sins you have confessed and repented of come back to your mind, remember that on the basis of 1 John 1:9, you are forgiven and you are clean.
Here’s a truth that has often helped me when I’ve felt guilty about past sins: The Holy Spirit convicts us of our sins to bring us to repentance. The devil condemns us for our sins to keep us in bondage.
Whenever you experience feelings of guilt or shame about sins you have already confessed and repented of, that is condemnation and it is from the devil, not from God. The only reason to remember past sins is to learn how to avoid them in the future.
5. Move On
Philippians 3:13b-14 … one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Once you have confessed your mess-up, received God’s forgiveness, and done your best to make appropriate restitution, put it behind you and move on. Fix your gaze resolutely on the positive things ahead of you, and press toward them.
And don’t let other people hold you in condemnation. No matter what people say, refuse to dwell on past mistakes, reach forward toward your future, and don’t look back!
Since God has forgiven and forgotten your mess-up, there’s nothing back there anyway.
Questions & Answers
Question: Can God forgive me if I have said bad things about Him, complained about His ways and blamed Him for being unjust?
Answer: The short answer to your question is, yes! No matter what we've done, not matter how bad it might be, and even if we rebelled against God, the blood of Jesus can wash it all away.
1 John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
That's such a great promise because it covers every sin we've committed, even when we were figuratively slapping God in the face. So, take hold of this promise, and believe it. Confess your sin to God, repent of what you did, and rest in His assurance that it is now covered and cleansed by the blood of Jesus.
Question: My husband is under stress both at his job and with our family. Coming home from church, he can blow his stack and use bad words even when I am agreeable. What else can I do?
Answer: What a painful situation. I'm sure both you and your husband are hurting. My recommendation is that you get your pastor involved as soon as possible. Or perhaps your church has a counseling ministry. Since it appears that you are both in the church, hopefully your husband will be willing to receive biblical guidance about how to improve your marriage. May the Lord give you His wisdom and His peace as you seek His way in this most difficult situation.
© 2013 Ronald E Franklin
thoughtsprocess from Navsari (India) on August 15, 2020:
Thank you so much for sharing these beautiful words of wisdom.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on May 19, 2019:
Nakita, no matter how badly we've messed up, God can forgive us and restore us to fellowship with Him. If you've been born again by believing in Christ as your Lord and Savior (Romans 10:9-11), God promises that you need never be put to shame. Remember 1 John 1:9:
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
So, start by confessing your sin to the Lord, and repenting of (turning away from) it. Believe His promise of forgiveness and cleansing, and don't let the devil hold you in bondage by tricking you into continuing to beat yourself up because of your failings.
Next, get back into your Bible on a daily basis, whether you feel like it or not. Romans 12:2 says,
"And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God."
You need to renew your mind by saturating it with the word of God on a daily basis. The way you think will determine the way you live.
Finally, get help! God never intended us to try to live godly lives all on our own. That's why He created the church. A good church will provide the biblical instruction, encouragement, and accountability all of us need.
I strongly urge that you go to your pastor (or perhaps another godly church leader in whom you have confidence) and ask for help. You need someone who will walk beside you, provide biblical instruction and encouragement, and hold you accountable.
Please don't let shame keep you from doing this. And don't let pride cause you to rebel when you are corrected. That's all part how God set things up for our spiritual growth (2 Timothy 3:16-17).
Don't allow the devil to keep you in discouragement. Your anguish over your sin is a good thing if it leads you to repentance. As Romans 12:1-2 makes clear, if you sincerely submit yourself to Christ and allow His word to renew your mind on a daily basis, your life will be transformed.
And remember, that transformation is a process that occurs over time. We all stumble in our walk sometimes. But that's why 1 John 1:9 is such a powerful promise. Psalms 37:24 puts it this way:
"Though he stumble, he will not fall, for the LORD upholds him with his hand."
Isn't that a great promise? Take hold of these verses. Memorize them, and confess them every day. And remember, God always keeps His word.
Nakita Anderson on May 18, 2019:
I've messed up so so bad sometimes I think that God don't even lives me at one point I was so close to God reading studying my word biw that I've made so many mitsatkes I don't no how God sees me am addicted to pain pills I've been abusing them to cope with some inner pain and a lotta unforgiveness towards myself I don't wanna keep living hbis way cause it's making me so angery until I lash out at those that really wanna love me am afaud if being loved cause I think that they will betray me soon am so list with Jesus I miss my only friend Jesus I wanna come back home please take me back and forgive me for my will fully sinning agaist you draw me closer to you walk with me blow fresh sir in me and heal me my emoitnal state I miss you Jesus I miss you Lied
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on March 16, 2019:
Mario, when we as believers fall into sin, it does put a barrier between us and Jesus, and we can feel we've lost touch with Him. But He never loses touch with us!
This is what 1 John 1:9 is all about - if we sincerely confess (and repent of) our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive our sin and cleanse us totally from all unrighteousness.
When we do that, and simply believe God's word that because Jesus took our sin upon Himself on the cross, He forgives our trespass, no matter how bad it might be, our fellowship with Jesus is restored. Remember, God is not a man that He should lie. When He promises to forgive and cleanse us, He means it!
So, confess your sin to Him, sincerely repent, and claim the forgiveness He has promised you.
Marlo Detorres on March 16, 2019:
Good afternoon Pastor Franklin. I needed this message very much so. At the beginning of 2019 I did give my life to the Lord. But just today, I committed a horrible sin that I won't mention here, but I feel terrible. Like this weight is on me now. I'm still young in being a believer. I feel as if I have lost tuch with Jesus. Like I've lost all right to testify about him or to speak about him. I feel like a hypocrite. What do I do? Can I still be saved?
CJ on February 27, 2019:
Thank you so much for your insight and Biblical perspectives on forgiveness and blessings. I have until now felt that Jesus Christ has forgiven me for my misuse of money, but I am not worthy of His restoration of my finances.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on February 19, 2019:
Peter, you are not alone in your predicament. The Bible is clear that we've all sinned, every one of us, and fall far short of God's standards. Even the apostle Paul, one of the greatest of Christian teachers and leaders, wrote of how difficult it was for him avoid sin. He said, "For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find" (Romans 7:18).
But it was exactly for sinners like you and me and Paul that Christ died on the cross. As Paul writes earlier in Romans, when a person gives his or her life to Christ, they don't become perfect or sinless, but they are no longer slaves to their sin. As they grow in their spiritual walk, they become more and more free from its grip.
Understand - it's not a matter of applying will power to overcome some bad practices in your life. Rather, it's a lifelong process of "the renewing of the mind" through the teachings of Scripture, and putting them into practice every day. We often fail at that. But the key is being totally committed to living a life that honors Christ. When we live out that commitment, confessing and repenting of our sins when we stumble, our lives begin to change.
It's very difficult to do this entirely on your own. That's why Christ instituted the church, to "equip the saints" for honoring God with their lives. I strongly urge you to seek out a church that focuses on faithfully teaching the Bible as God's word and guide for life, and speak to the pastor. Such a church will be able to walk with you step by step to help you overcome your sinful past and go on into the hope-filled future God has designed for you.
And please, don't let your pride hold you back. As I said in the beginning, we've all sinned, and you're no worse than anyone else.
God bless you!
peter on February 19, 2019:
I have committed sin my entire life, I always confess but repeat the sin again and again. I always live in great shame and depression. Sometime ago I confessed to the person I hurt most, but I didn't stop doing that thing again. Now I gave up! It seems my future is dark. I had life threatening accident when I was a kid before doing all this mess; I feel, that accident time was a perfect time for me to die. I always ask myself why I survived that? Why God let me live all this years, for he knew that I such a person. Is there any hope left? EMMM...
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on January 08, 2019:
Elijah, please choose another pastor in your area that you respect, and with whom you can speak in confidence. Confessing your sin and receiving that pastor's counsel won't be easy - pride will try to stop you. But, as you know, the Bible says that we must be willing to put aside our pride and confess our trespasses to one another. Getting back on track will require a great deal of humility, but remember, "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble."
If you will humble yourself and ask God to show you another pastor you can share with, and then be willing to receive and act on godly counsel, God's grace will be with you.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on January 08, 2019:
Phillip, suicide is not the answer. You need to talk to someone who can walk with you and help you get your feet on solid ground again. I strongly suggest that you immediately call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.
And remember, God sent Christ to die and take upon Himself the messups of people just like you. You can't undo the past, but with His help you can make a new future, one in which your family and friends can be proud of the person you have become. Jesus died to make that possible for you.
Now, please call the lifeline number.
Phillip on January 08, 2019:
I have messed up really bad. I have a gambling problem and have done things I would have never done. I don’t know how to face the person who has been there for me and tell him what I have done. I know I will probably go to jail but that is not the issue because I deserve it but I can’t face my family and the disappointment they will have if I tell them. I feel the only way out is to kill myself and that scares me. I can’t eat sleep and the stress is overwhelming. Please help.
Elijah on December 24, 2018:
I committed sin of formication and adultery, one with my spiritual daughter and second with my Pastor's wife. though I never had sex with them but other act was performed but no penetration. I am a Pastor, and I cannot face my congregation, I lied to cover up for my wife. I felt weak, my father must not know I had an affair with his wife, my wife must not know, my congregation must not know. I am sorrowful for my sin, but who do I confess to. I can't stand to preach anymore for the guilt of my sin. pls, advice me on what to do
KD on December 18, 2018:
You really help
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on December 07, 2018:
David, if you confess your sin to Him and repent, God will certainly forgive you (1 John 1:9). But I strongly recommend that you also go to your pastor. A good pastor can not only give you the biblical guidance you need, but also hold you accountable for your future actions. Without that accountability, the chances of you repeating this sin are much greater.
David on December 07, 2018:
If I confess my sin of fornication in prayer by myself, will God forgive me or I have to go and see my pastor in order to confess my sins?
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on November 15, 2018:
Thanks, PoetikalyAnointed. You're certainly right that we all mess up at times, and I'm glad you found the article helpful.
PoetikalyAnointed on November 14, 2018:
Hello Pastor Ron,
Thank you so much for this Hub! We all mess up from time to time and your instructions here are very inspirational. The hardest thing sometime is to forgive ourselves from sinning or allowing others to hurt us in some way.
Marian on August 26, 2018:
Dear Pastor Ron,
Your words of wisdom come just when I need them. I cannot let things go even though I know God has forgiven me. The devil keeps on telling me that I have messed up so much that it cannot be fixed.
Thank you Sir.
Bless you in your ministry.
I will pray for you to touch so many more in need.
Eddie on August 05, 2018:
That word bless my soul I need that I know I sin I repented but the devil keep bringing what I did wrong up I turn my situation around I turned my life around keep me in prayer
srri ramm on August 04, 2018:
awesome thank u so much i needed this god has spoke to me through u
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on July 31, 2018:
Jeff Reed from Alabama on July 31, 2018:
You have given some very good advice. Thanks for the article.
Someone on July 29, 2018:
Gob less you eithir way I watched somthing disgusting and horrible and all I felt and knew that god was mad at me and I prayed and prayed I love everybody god bless you this really helped me I was never wi my family now I'm gonna get a responsibility and start embracing my life may god bless you
Heli on June 13, 2018:
Thank you, this was truly inspiring.God bless you.
Patrick on May 27, 2018:
Very much encouraging, I have learnt alot,.
Nivo on April 23, 2018:
God bless you and thank you for sharing this! I have done many wrong and have been weight down by my sins. Through your sharing I now have found strength to confess my sins. I am prepared to to do whatever it takes to set things straight and eventhough i am afraid that i will not be forgiven easily i will trust in Gods words and follow your advice. Please pray for me
Daughter of God on April 11, 2018:
I love it. Thanks and God Bless.
E. on March 27, 2018:
Dear Pastor Franklin,
I want to thank you for posting this, honestly I do not usually comment on articles... but i had to say i really needed this.... I have been raised in church all of my life with a great Christian family. My parents have just become Pastors and I am proud of them, but I have really struggled the last few years with confidence, love, and true forgiveness... forgiving my self and others has been a struggle and trusting people and opening up is... Thank you for posting this and showing us all what a reminder of what true forgiveness is. Thank you
Kathy Burton from Florida on February 17, 2018:
Funny I should come across this hub today. As I called someone I had not frequently called and knew she was having some problems It was a pleasant call but it reminded me the important of reaching out to family members on a regular basis. I will try not to let them feel neglected again,
Elyssa Marie on December 11, 2017:
Today I am taking my Pre-Calc Final Exam to wrap up my first semester of college. Last school year, my Senior year, I did exceptionally well in my classes and my grades were pretty high. Last year was the highlight of my life and I knew it’s was because I finally allowed God to work in me. I was very excited about this because my sophomore and junior year, I was going through a rough time with sin, family, and self esteem issues, nearing depression. So of course, my grades were very bad.
Back to this semester, things are still going well, except for my Pre-Calculas class. Grades from my other classes are great, family is great, things are great, but for the past 2 months, this math class has become a real burden. It’s mostly due to procrastination and avoiding studying or completely assignments because this class brings so much anxiety. So when my grade gets lower, my anxiety gets higher, and I’m in this awful cycle. I’ve been so ashamed and disappointed at myself for letting it get this bad and letting things get out of control. I see it as me going back to my old ways, and knowing how far God has brought me, I hated what I had done. I have also been fearing the final grade I will get in the class because my heart is set on this certain school I want to go to, and knowing that if I got a low grade it could ruin my chances.
All of this has been playing in my head for the past 2 months and sometimes I’ll come to my senses and know God’s in control, but then I’ll ignore my homework or avoid seeking help from the teacher. In church the pastor said something about how we can’t violate our faith by not using wisdom. That really hit my because I ignore my responsibilities as a student and then pray for God to fix things when I’m still not making the effort and putting in the work.
In 3 hours I will take my exam that I’ve been dreading for the past 5 days. I’m still a little nervous but what grade I get, I have been reassured that I will be ok. I called my mom and she said that my future and my life does not rely on a math grade, and that was the lie I was believing. This was a very hard lesson for me to learn, but I am so ready to take this test, go home for christmas, and come back next semester with a new mindset and new approach to school and life in general. God really is comforting me and now I can breathe. I might get an F or a C or even an A, but I am confident that God is going to use this for my good and His glory. Because of your article I know that my darkest hours are God’s finest hours. Thank you.
Steph on August 13, 2017:
I want to change but perhaps I don't try hard enough... I know that God is forgiving but I know for I have unfortunately messed up more than 'sometimes'. I really might be the worst Christian but I hope to repent by being more disciplined in my thought life especially. Hopefully God will see how sorry I am
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on February 23, 2017:
Brian, the great thing about the gospel is that it is for sinners! We all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. He doesn't ask sinlessness of us, but repentance and, with His help, obedience. When you commit yourself to Christ, you become a new creation, but not a sinless one. We all still mess up at times. That's why God gave 1 John 1:9, which says that if we confess our sins (and that includes the idea of repentance), He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. So, if you've asked Jesus to be your Saviour and Lord, the fact that you mess up sometimes cannot change that. Confess, repent, and move ahead in the confidence that Christ took your sin upon Himself on the cross, and in God's sight the blood of Jesus has cleansed you from all unrighteousness.
Brian on August 10, 2016:
I struggle with cursing when I am overwhelmed. I always curse under my breath but sometimes I even say gods name in vein. It is a sin that I have always struggled with.
I believe with all my heart god forgives me. I have tears of joy coming down my face as I type and confess this. I can feel it in my heart. It must be the holy spirit. At this moment I am sure I am saved.
But I know the struggle will continue. There will be times where I mess up. There will be times where I feel insecure about being saved.
god in heaven please save me! Please save me. Love Brian
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on October 18, 2015:
Anon, I'm glad you've decided to confess what you've done. That's really the only answer. Even if there's a price to pay, in the long run making a free confession, making restitution if possible, and turning away from whatever behavior led you into that mess is the only way to get a new start. May God bless you as you do what you need to do.
Anon on October 18, 2015:
I messed up really really bad. What i did involves trouble with the law and I'm only sixteen and i know what i did was wrong, but i am really scared to confess to my parents what i did. I keep praying that there was another way out of this but it looks like i have to confess. This has kept me up at night and will not get off my brain. This article helped me and has convinced me that i need to come clean and confess even though i'm very scared of whats going to happen. I haven't confessed yet but i plan to next Monday. Thank you for this article and i pray that coming clean and confessing will work out for me.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on February 27, 2015:
Thank you, Hannah. I'm glad the article helped.
Hannah David Cini from Nottingham on February 27, 2015:
I liked the focus on the use of guilt and how it actually has a purpose; there is often a lot of focus on forgiveness and not much on the process of repentance. This was a really refreshing article that changed my perspective on the matter. Thank you.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on January 19, 2015:
Donovan, I'm really glad this has helped. Thanks for sharing.
Donovan on January 19, 2015:
This was a blessing. This helped to put me on the right path. It was extremely encouraging.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on January 09, 2015:
Bongani Zwane from Pretoria, South Africa on January 09, 2015:
This is a great article indeed.
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on April 12, 2014:
Lakeshia, dealing with ungrateful and inconsiderate family members is one of the most difficult things we have to do. But, as Scripture says, it's a trial that's "common to man." Many have had to deal with this type of situation, and through God's strength and the wisdom of His word have overcome. It's not easy, but it will teach you to rely on God rather than on your own ability and righteousness. So, don't give up! Ask God for strength to "bless those who curse you" and you will receive it. I'm praying for you.
Lakeshia Harris on April 12, 2014:
What if ur Family the very ones u love nd helped to the bitter end(wen i a lot of times neglected myself nd then my children nd they treat u like Ur absolutely nothing!!! But i got the answer the ppl that actually saw Jesus still didn't believe if he can do it nd still believe in us then I'm gonna try!!! It's so hard to do good. BUT very easy to sin!!! I don't kno why it seem like some sins is like satisfying!!!! But wen God first spoke to me i was scared nd the devil try to make it like i was crazy, but God would overpower nd It was sooo Amazing!!! God Blesses all BUT he Really sticks to me for some reason! !!! I ask All those who Can get a prayer thru pray my strength in the Lord!!!! My name is Lakeshia Harris!!!! God luvs u nd so do I!!!!! Be Blessed
Ronald E Franklin (author) from Mechanicsburg, PA on February 08, 2014:
I can only tell you that God is real, and He is involved in all of life. Many people who have messed up in their lives in the most deep and serious ways imaginable have found their way to a productive life through God's forgiveness and guidance. The Bible teaches that God so loves us, even when we hated (or disbelieved in) Him, that He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die so that we might have a Father-child relationship with Him. I sincerely hope and pray that you will experience that love for yourself.
Thanks for reading and commenting.
* Unknown * on February 08, 2014:
Well, this is good but ! I hate the fact that " God " is involved in this.
I am a Atheist so this is displeasing