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Tips for Happiness & Emotional Wellbeing

Retired counselor, 341 short stories published by FSU. I have 4 sons, love sharing photography, writing, love travel, sunshine, sea & Grace.

  • · Love with all your heart.
  • · Enjoy your family
  • · Think before you act: ‘is this in my best interest?”
  • · Stay positive, hopeful & open.
  • · Change negative self talk.
  • · Have a ‘yes i can’ attitude.
  • · Don’t entertain excuses.
  • · Think positively about yourself.
  • · Get passionate about your dreams and don't give up, you are as capable and successful as your passion and effort.
  • · Accept your weaknesses as well as your strengths.
  • · Set reasonable goals.
  • · Encourage your ‘can do’ attitude by trying and by encouraging others.
  • · Praise yourself and take a pride in your achievements.
  • · Be your own biggest fan.
  • · Be honest with yourself and others.
  • · Trust yourself; ask for help when you need it.
  • · Take 20 minutes a day to praise yourself for anything you have achieved in that day ~ (even if it was just getting out of bed).
  • · Respect yourself.
  • · Don’t try to be someone else.
  • · Love the unique person you are; no-one else is exactly like you.
  • · Make your own miracles happen by believing in yourself.
  • · A small step each day toward your goals makes giant strides in the long run. Action makes all things happen.
  • · See the funny side in things and try not to take yourself or stuff too seriously; enjoy a good belly laugh and share humor and joy.
  • · Avoid being reactive and impulsive; take control before you get upset. When you are angry & upset (reactive), it’s like giving someone else the remote control to your feelings and saying "here, change my mood any time you wish!"
  • · Be proactive; think before getting angry; use positive language and positive thinking and your actions will be positive, this puts the control back into your own hands.
  • · You are free to choose whichever behavior you want, no-one else can make you feel, think or behavior unless you let them.
  • · Avoid blaming: people, places, and things. Power comes from accepting things as they are. We can only change ourselves; no-one else.
  • · Remember, life is a gift and we don't know how long we have (to touch, love, live, create and evolve) so, why not make the most of it.
  • · Stay open to love and keep on giving, hoping, learning, reaching, trying, praying, trusting and believing.


Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on September 07, 2011:

Hi Kavita - I hope things begin to improve for you - remember, the power is inside you! Keep positive.. thanks for stopping by and I am so glad my hub inspired you :-) Helen

Kavita Kapoor from London on September 06, 2011:

I am so glad i found this hub. i have been having a very difficult time of late and this sums it all up perfectly

I really liked the way you wrote this

Erin Bower from Georgia on September 03, 2011:

These are great mantras for anyone! My favorite is the last one. I voted this up and beautiful! :)

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on November 25, 2010:

Hi TattoGuy - that's great! I'm really glad to hear you are printing it out... thank you for stopping by and nice to meet you :-) Helen

TattoGuy on November 25, 2010:

I really like this, am printing it out ; )

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on November 25, 2010:

Hi Goodpal, thank you for your comments. I know what you mean, we all adopt a 'persona' that keeps us stuck in the end.. good to hear you have worked to shed that burden.

Good to meet you and thanks for stopping by :-) Helen

Goodpal on November 24, 2010:

"Don't try to be someone else".

This pretty much sums up what most people do practically all the time - knowingly or unknowingly. I was opened to this reality after I started practicing mindfulness meditation.

It was a shocking discovery that I had put on a number of artificial personality traits and started believing them too! Now after years of practice I feel relieved to have shed most of that burden, but still keep stumbling upon "unreal" traits in me off and on.

I am pleased to have stumbled upon this truly nice hub.

Thank you.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Hi lighning john, Gosh, you certainly have had more than your fair share of bad luck.. I am so sorry for all you have been through and for your shortened life-span. My partner has ALS and he is losing all control of his muscles... so I feel deeply for you. I wish you peace and happiness for every day you have left. Many blessings to you and yours; Helen

lightning john from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Oh yes you cannot have all pleasure in life, I know that all so well. Here is a time line of my bad luck, Car crash at age 4 1/2 with massive head concussion, coma 5 days. 1992 all fingers smashed off then sewed back on.

2002 30ft fall breaking most all bones, with spleendechomy and most other organs trauma, pancreatitis, I've been given a very short time to live, but it doesn't keep me from being happy. My friends say I'm dead and that I just wont except it. The list goes on.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Hi Craan, thank you for your kind comments - I look forward to reading your hubs - nice to meet you!

Sheila Craan from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Your words are easy to remember, sensible and very encouraging! I look forward to reading more of your work.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Hi lightning john - thanks for your comments. Yes, life is good, but can be difficult and also painful sometimes... thanks for your comments - I look forward to reading your hubs!

lightning john from Florida on November 16, 2010:

Hi brightforyou, Life is a gift and this earth is amazing. I feel sorry for the people that fail to understand or believe in this simple but very true guide line. Your tips for happines are very appreciated here.

Thanks for writing.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on October 10, 2010:

Hi psychlist, thanks for your comments. I'm currently touring Ireland and England so didn't see your comment until today. I agree, its easier to live in the moment when things are tough.. hope things get better for you soon.

psychlist from East Tennessee on October 05, 2010:

Nice hub, Helen.

What feels difficult to me is when I think, "I have to do this for the rest of my life." When I remember to just pay attention right now, it's easier. Paying attention tomorrow at 6:35 is really difficult. :)

- Tom

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on October 01, 2010:

Hi mailxpress ~ thanks for stopping by and for you comments. I agree, its easy to talk about but difficult to put into practice.

Michelle Cesare from New York on September 30, 2010:

I agree with the tips to being more happy but many people find it difficult to practice what they read. Enjoy the Hub.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on September 08, 2010:

Hi Kim, thanks very much for your comments ~ I think your intro video is neat ~ how did you manage to do that? Good to meet someone within the profession. I look forward to reading your hubs.

Kim Harris on September 08, 2010:

Nice hub bright. These are the kinds of things where I think, "well yeah, I know that" but knowing and doing sometimes are different. I think I'll bookmark this one and and pick one I'll focus on for a few weeks, then another and another. I like how you kept it simple. You could have gone into great philosophical depth, but I think that's kinda your point: you don't need to understand why it works, just do it and see for yourself because it does work! Nice hub. Thanks bright.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on January 24, 2010:

Thanks Shealy!

Shealy Healy from USA on January 23, 2010:

Your thoughts are in the right place. Keep it simple and good-and life works.

Shealy Healy

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on December 31, 2009:

you are welcome petermdhart and thanks again for following my hubs - Happy New Year!

petermdhart from Cornwall, UK on December 31, 2009:

Good points to remember, thanks for the advice.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on December 28, 2009:

Thanks for stopping by and your kind comments "wearing well"

Deborah Waring from Lancashire U.K. on December 28, 2009:

You are bright and thank you for a happy hub.Good advice.

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on December 26, 2009:

Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to read my hubs and comment!

seasoning on December 26, 2009:

some really good points there, thanks for that..... x

Helen Lewis (author) from Florida on December 25, 2009:

Thanks for the input ... going back to edit and include humor!

Neil Sperling from Port Dover Ontario Canada on December 25, 2009:

Love - Light - Laughter!


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