A Drop in the Ocean
No matter how trivial you feel or how seemingly small or minor your actions may feel, just remember that everything eventually comes back to you one way or another. Kids especially retain a lot more than people give them credit for, something inconsequential to you may later have irreparable damages to them. I can vouch for this personally because of things I've gone through in my life have had a huge impact on my adult life. Things I wouldn't wish on anyone and things I've also not told anyone about because I prefer to be a private person. This aside, I like to give some sort of personal insight into things that I've noticed or learned (often the hard way) over the years.
All I can ever hope, is that people feel good about themselves because no one deserves to feel badly about themselves constantly. It's something I struggled with ad infinitum and still occasionally have my moments with. It's a dance I'm all too familiar with. So when I see someone else going through the motions, I can't help but want to stop and help them not have to deal with it. Something I will repeat until the day I die is that no one can truly help you get through your personal hurdles until YOU want you to. If you don't want the changes, then the person helping you will be helping in vain. At some point everyone needs to realize their worth, which I know is much easier said than done. It can be made as an easier pill to swallow with encouragement from others. There's so much diversity and beauty in the world. It's so much easier to accept and go with the flow rather than create unnecessary conflict or friction.
Acceptance starts within and slowly emits itself outward, but once you accept that you're okay to be different then it becomes a beautiful harmony in your life. I personally struggled with accepting myself and all of my odd little quirks. Then one day I just said "enough is enough, if they don't pay my bills I shouldn't care what anyone thinks!!!" From that point on, things just began to click for me. Things made more sense and it was like a weight was lifted from my burdened shoulders. I felt like Atlas with the weight of my world on my shoulders, like my legs were going to cave at any minute before I accepted myself. It has been a tough road, but I'm far happier with myself now than I ever was then. You can be too! In fact, I hope to help you become the person you want to be. More accepting of yourself and understanding of the fact that not everyone needs to accept you. Nor should they. It's okay if they don't!
Bring out your best you
What are your strengths? What are your weaknesses? What do you want to work on the most? What's important to you? What hobbies do you enjoy? These are all questions you should be asking yourself on your journey to healing. Even if it's literally making a checklist for you to complete, you know how you work so it's best to make something that you can follow through on. Nothing in life worth having is ever easy. There will always be good days and bad, try to focus on your personal progress and seek proper help if you need it.
With as amazing as the internet is and as technologically driven as society is, it's very easy to look up the answers you need and use your own judgement as to find the best answer. There are tons of places and support blogs that you can talk to other like-minded people on as well. It just takes you looking for them to get started. Comparing methods, notes and experiences can be an important way to improve your stride in your journey. Just remember, what works for you may not work for someone else and vice versa.
Perhaps an outlet of some kind, as long as it's positive, can help bring you to a better point in your life. You cannot drink, smoke, have tons of unsafe sex or do other illegal acts to get rid of the negative in your life, that's the opposite of what we're going for here. Keep it clean and positive. I am a very "arts and crafts" kind of person so anything hands on keeps me very level-headed when I'm facing difficult times. Be it painting, writing, drawing, taking photos, playing piano, crocheting or just screwing around with mixed medias...it's all enjoyable to me. I truly enjoy doing it alone because I'm able to focus solely on what I'm doing and nothing else. But perhaps being alone isn't your cup of tea or maybe you're not that into those hobbies. There are a multitude of apps and sites that you can chat or eventually safely meet other people to become friends and do hobbies with.
Find your niche and stick to it! You can absolutely do this!
I'd like to give some good example to you. Here are some things I try to live by:
- Life is short, so live it while you can so you can appreciate what you've come from.
- Remain humble and courteous to others even when they're rude to you because in the end you'll remember your own selflessness rather than their misjudgement.
- Smile often, because you could be the one person to brighten another person's day. That thought alone should make yours better too.
- Breathe and relax because your personal health is important and stressing over silly things doesn't make them go away. It just makes them worse.
- Care about yourself, because you ARE important. Always.
- Take joy in the beauty of the world around you. Enjoy how unbothered nature is and how despite some people's best efforts, it still goes on.
- Take everything said to you with a grain of salt, they don't know your whole story so they're ignorant as to their affect on it.
- Everything happens for a reason. Good and bad. Maybe the change was necessary, it will eventually make sense.
These are simple things to remember, but often hard to follow. In the grand scheme of things, someone not liking you or looking at you funny isn't all that important so it should have little to no effect on your life. What matters is that you continue to remain a good and just person throughout your life despite it all. It's important to keep your head up and know that you're doing okay as long as you put your best foot forward. Opportunity is knocking so don't hesitate to answer the door, it doesn't wait forever.
I thank you for your time and welcome any messages, requests or feedback.
You are loved....
© 2018 Jessica