Build Your Own Garden (Not the Stuff of Gardening Though)
You have often heard the adage, "The grass is greener on the other side."
Many times, we envy those people who we think have it better than us. You have a same-age friend who is already building her side business on top of being a full-time worker, while you are stuck to just being contented with living from paycheck to paycheck. Or, you have scrolled through those photos of influencers on Instagram. Or, you have a cousin who got his doctorate degree last year, and is already being sought for by companies to work for them.
Lucky life, you think.
And you feel bitter.
It seems we have been groomed to compete with each other and compare our accomplishments with them.
Come to think of it, is it worth it? How about your accomplishments? Do your own efforts mean a thing?
See, it's not all the time that the grass is greener on the other side. You may have only seen the fruits of the labor of other people, yet you never know of the struggles that they went through. And if you know, you think you might not want to walk in their shoes.
Isn't it time to look at the fruits of your own efforts? Most of the things you have right now are simply the consequences of what you have been through. I say most, since there are things that had happened to you, and you had no control over them.
If you are trying a low-carb diet but you are not seeing results yet, but then you feel healthier, congratulate yourself. You are doing great yourself. You are bored and trying a new hobby? You're amazing. Keep it up, and keep going.
Stop looking at the garden of your own neighbor, and start building your own garden. Make your roses bloom. Live your life as happily as you can, and live your life according to your own terms.
You may not realize it, but someone might have been envious of the path you had walked or are currently walking.
So stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are meant to make your own garden, not make your garden a carbon copy of another person's garden.
You can admire another person's endeavor, but it doesn't mean that you should indulge in self-pity just because your own life is stagnant and boring. Let the person you admire just be a role model to you. Let it not stop you from living your own life and making your own adventures.
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