Take a deep breath in...hold for 1,2,3...and let go. Notice how I said "let go" and not breathe out. Close your eyes and try to find which part of your body holds tension, feels tight or stuck. Try breathing into that knot, releasing it and see if you can let go of that tension. Notice how that feels.
Most of the times, many of us don't realize the amount of stress that our body holds onto. Over days, weeks and months, this stress builds up, causing various diseases and illnesses. If you were to ever try and figure out the cause for this, you will realize that all of this build up simply comes from regretting the past or worrying about the future.
The solution? Learning to stay in the present.
It may seem very difficult. But with time, it will get easier. Have you ever tried sitting silently, staring at the clouds as they pass by? No music, no conversations, nothing. Just you and the endless skies. After a while, you will notice how much you enjoy this and will want to do it more often. It offers the kind of peace and tranquility to the mind that very few other things can.
The reason this feels so good is because as you observe the clouds pass by, you are in the most important place in your life: THE PRESENT. In the present moment, there is no regret, there are no worries. Just the perfect moment which is now.
Think about it, at this exact moment, as you read this article, is there anything troubling you? You may say, "Well yes! I'm worried about my interview/meeting today!" or "I just fought with my spouse" but again, neither of these things are happening to you right now. It's either something that has happened or will happen. But in this moment, it's just you and your breathing and whatever it is that you are experiencing in this very moment. Most often than not, if you try and focus on this very second, all you will experience is pure peace.
Don't get me wrong. I do understand that some things can cause significant distress like the loss of a loved one or failure at something very dear to the heart. But staying in that mindset doesn't do any good. If anything, it only makes things worse. So, while it's perfectly healthy to grieve loss to cleanse it out of our system, it could become the most unhealthy thing if we choose to hold on.
Take your time to move on. There's nothing wrong with it. But after that, practicing living in the present moment can significantly improve your life. It will also help you deal with any hurdle that presents itself in your life in the future. Because you will know that no matter what, there is a moment in time where everything is just right, you just have to learn to live in it.
So, try this. When you get time today, find a nice park or even just a window in your house, sit there and just observe the clouds go by with a smile on your face. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out.
Every time a thought crosses your mind, which it most likely will, don't stress it. It's perfectly normal. But try not to focus on it. This only leads to one thought causing another and it will only snowball from there on. Also, don't force yourself to get this right in the first go. Remember, practice makes perfect. I can promise you, it will get easier. You just have to be patient with yourself.
Watching clouds is just one example. But you can pick any thing that makes you feel at peace. You will thank yourself for this later.
Slow and steady, patiently and beautifully, fall in love with yourself and the gift that is the present moment.
Hope you liked this article and it has been of use to you. I'd love to hear from you! Let me know in the comments below what you think and what you do to try and stay in the present.
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