Be Undeniably You
Who Am I
You are bold, you are beautiful, you are strong and you are fearless. As women, we tend to define ourselves by how other people see us. We don’t allow them to get to know the real us out of fear of being judged. Some women limit exposing their true selves to other women. It’s a habit that is natural because we are protectors of our emotions just as we are of our children or possessions. You are who you say you are regardless of others opinions of you. Know your worth. Don’t alter your greatness due to someone else‘s lack of acceptance. When you respect yourself and be true to who are are, you can display that in any environment.
I Have the Power
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt. As a woman, the power lies within you to allow anyone to down play how you feel, look or even what you think of yourself. You have to believe in yourself regardless of what anyone's opinion may be. Their opinion is optional not mandatory in your life. If it doesn’t lift you up, return to sender to prevent from providing them with the power to pull you back. By blocking it, you keep the power to be strong and be you.
Owner or Renter
You as a woman have the power to dictate your own biography written by you and no one else. Know your worth! When you walk into a room, you own it. Each space you occupy, believe you are the owner and not a renter. You deserve to be in that space so own it as you do. You are designated to be there in that specific time so make it count. Be bold and be proud even if you have never thought you would ever have that experience.
Trio Self Esteem Boosters:
- Mirror check (look at beauty inside and out)
- Smile (at yourself and be proud of you)
- Speak (to yourself to encourage you, or the mountain hindering you)
You complete those each time to help you to encourage yourself and speak to the mountain of fear in front of you. You declare that it isn’t larger than you and move past it. You walk in with your head held high and smile your way through. Owners are proud of their accomplishments so you be proud that you own every space that you occupy.
Don‘t look at other women and be intimidated by bold personalities or high self esteem. Those women are there to help encourage and empower you to feel like you also have the authority to be that strong and bold. Its ok for you to encourage, compliment and even have a conversation with those women. You don’t know what that woman’s struggle was before she walked into that room or what she will battle when she leaves out. Some women do very well at keeping it together to get the job done, but they also have a life behind the smile. That’s why it’s crucial to keep encouraging each other no matter what you see. So no need to feel any less in the presence of another confident woman. There is enough space for all the owners to occupy and encourage one another.
You can only write the biography for your own life so be bold and make it a good one. As a nurse, I‘ve gone into my patients rooms with boldness, excitement, and ready to take care of them; however I had a patient shut down on me because she was intimidated by how I carried myself. She judged me and thought because I had this bright personality that I would not be someone who understood her or is able to connect with her. I continued to communicate with her and made her smile each time I entered her room. She eventually opened up to me and I was able to help her physically and emotionally. I encouraged her so much that by the time she was discharged, she had her family to bring her a mirror and she was utilizing the trio: mirror check, smile and speak. She began to change the script of her biography because she wanted it to have one less negative attribute which was judgement.
I as a nurse was only doing my job and being me, but who I am displays ownership of the space I occupy. When you have low self esteem, you can look at a woman with that personality and prejudge them. However, women you must not dim the light of other women to bring them into your darkness. It takes your darkness to willingly occupy the space of that woman for them to brighten up your darkness.