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How to Talk to a Ghost in Your House: Keep Your Spirits Up

Communication With A Ghost

Disclaimer: If at any time you are reading this and believe that I am describing a ghost that you know personally, rest in peace I am not. All ghost references are purely fictitious.

So you have a ghost in your house and you have found this hub to explain how to talk to it. There are many reasons you may want to communicate with a ghost that lives in your house.

Maybe you are tired of being the SOUL provider of the household. Maybe you want it to stop wasting electricity when it turns on lights and leaves the room. Maybe it’s getting a little old to still be living at home with you. For whatever reason, you need tips to communicate with your cohabiting ghost. Here are some pointers to keep in mind:


Ghosts can be really tough to talk to because of scheduling issues. Most ghosts have to work the graveyard shift. You may only see each other real late at night when you’re both too tired to talk. The scene usually plays out like this: You get up in the middle of the night to pee and look in the mirror as you wash your hands. You see each other, but you are both stunned speechless. This is not a good time to talk. If you are both tired you will not get anywhere. In this case choose a better time to approach your ghost.

And don’t do it right when you’ve caught your ghost doing something that makes you angry. You may say things you don’t really mean and your ghost may reciprocate with more escalation.

Stay Assertive:

Some ghosts, such as Casper, may be friendly and easy to talk to. Your ghost may be different. In this case you will need to exorcise assertive communication. Whether your ghost is aggressive, passive-aggressive, passive, or just passed away, assertiveness will help you keep the interaction active, cooperative, and goal oriented.

Is this a ghost or just a glare?

Is this a ghost or just a glare?

Long before cell phone use, ghosts frequently used these.  Some are still holding their breath for a better technology.

Long before cell phone use, ghosts frequently used these. Some are still holding their breath for a better technology.

Tips for Commmunicating with a Ghost:

  • Communicate confidence with your body language.
  • Don’t let your ghost spook you. Most ghosts aren't trying to be monsters.
  • Hold your head up.
  • Point your shoulders toward your ghost.
  • Keep good eye contact.
  • Remember to actively listen.
  • Use “I” statements in order to avoid arguments. For example, “I want to conserve electricity and would appreciate if you turn the lights off when you leave a room.” This works much better than, “you pale son of a witch, you’re always leaving the lights on when no BODY is even in the room.”
  • Use a formula that starts with empathy and asks for a response. For example, "I am concerned and need to talk to you, I realize you have a busy schedule and work the graveyard shift, when is a good time to talk?"
Ghosts prefer to use whitening mouthwash. Nothing's more embarrassing than yellow teeth for a ghost.

Ghosts prefer to use whitening mouthwash. Nothing's more embarrassing than yellow teeth for a ghost.

You can't make the ghost do anything:

In order to keep your sanity, keep in mind that most ghosts are free spirits. If you attempt assertive communication with your ghost and all he keeps saying is “boo,” remember that you cannot change him. He must be willing to change. Your ghost may not even be willing to take form, which makes communication especially difficult. If your ghost won’t talk, you can’t make him.

Finally, if your ghost is abusive set boundaries and get help from a FIEND you trust. No one should put up with a ghost that HOVERS over everything you do or attempts to control you by threatening you or scaring you. No one is a fan of a ghost that says boo too often, so just say boo to booers.

Hopefully the tips I have provided will help you communicate with the ghost that lives in your house.

Real Ghost Stories in the Comments

Many people left their own real ghost story experiences in the comment section of this hub and another hub of mine. You can read the real ghost stories compiled and unedited.


Alexis M on March 20, 2019:

I love to talk to ghosts, I actually have captured a ghost answering my questions on a regular recorder recently in my house. The ghost in my home are very friendly. I have also captured stick figures in my home on my SLS camera that I bought recently. I consider the ghost that live with me to be part of my family, and do take offence to people saying that ghost are dangerous and/or want to cause harm. I even believe that Jesus is the son of God. I know that the spirit/spirits that live with me are not demonic.

Alexis on April 24, 2015:

Does anyone like to talk to ghosts because I am scared of the ghosts

Kendra on June 09, 2014:

My house has at least three spirits in it. I've made contact with candles and a flashlight before. One is named Alex and he is 9. The other is just scary and Alex doesn't like him. The third is the old lady who died in this house. One night she slept beside me and breathed in my ear. I also make contact in cars with notebooks. As stupid as it sounds, I talked to a spirit named Leroy. He guessed the name of my stepbrother's crush perfectly without me having any past knowledge. Keep up the search, but never be disrespectful!

todd on April 27, 2014:

hi my name is todd in my backyard there are ghosts

ROCKer on October 26, 2013:

My ghost does the cutest things like moving rubber duckies and likes to arrange things perfectly!

shanaya mallik on October 13, 2013:

i think my house is haunted because many times i have seen shadow across me n once while sleeping i felt that someone has caught my legs n hands very tightly n when i opened my eyes there was no one.

Baha on September 08, 2013:

I live in a house whose owner died. The temperature in the house changes when you least expect it and secondly, my bed swings even when I am just sitting. These are real things.

OMGirdle from United States on March 13, 2012:

I really didn't think I'd find an article on, "How to talk to Ghosts." It would take a "ghost writer" to provide an explanation. However, I do have a ghost that visits me in the early morning. It announces it's presence by sitting or standing on my bed. It will sometimes play with the mattress to make me feel like I'm sleeping on a mattress full of mice. But, I'm not afraid of the spiritual world. I welcome it every morning and continuously ask it questions. I couldn't get an image on camera or on video. But I have evidence through audio recording.

Godzangel from Syracuse, NY on December 23, 2011:

Hahaha! I usually put on the movie Ghostbusters 2 and they usually get pretty offended. Great Hub I love it!!

Fluffy77 from Enterprise, OR on April 16, 2011:

My ghost likes to, mess up my bedroom with piles of clothes. Then bring foods around to tempt me that are not on the healthy eating plan! Also, brings in negative feelings about working out for fitness. Can you believe the nerve of this one! LOL!! Loved this HUB too.

Blake Flannery (author) from United States on June 03, 2010:


Right on! You might like to read my How to Get Rid of a Ghost in your House hub.

Shinkicker from Scotland on June 03, 2010:

Great wee Hub Blake

I think ghosts should pay rent as well as contributing towards the electricity that they use :-)

em on October 28, 2009:

also, my friends swears she always sees a shadow go across my closet, and i saw it once myself.

em on October 28, 2009:

i think my house is haunted but im not sure. late at night i hear knocking on my wall. or a bag that's on the floor will move and all the fans are off. my dog stares down the downstairs hallway at night and wont walk down the stairs if the lights are off or if no one is with her. the wierdest thing happened when i was watching a scary movie, the tv channel changed by itself and the remote was in the middle of my bed, not near anybody. even weirder, it changed to channel 6. is there a ghost or can all or this be explained?

Matt on June 14, 2009:

lmao "If you are both tired you will not get anywhere"

Cindy Lawson from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on March 20, 2009:

LOL, I loved this article, really funny, even though I do believe in, and have experienced living with a ghost myself. Couldn't help but giggle over the idea of telling the ghost off for leaving the lights on :) Great Hub

Lifebydesign from Australia on March 20, 2009:

LOL I almost want a ghost in my house so I can practise all these great tips, thanks Blake *still laughing*

Julianna from SomeWhere Out There on March 14, 2009:

Blake, We honestly did have a ghost in our house and I dealt with one when I was young and I never want to deal with them again, however this article is funny and I really enjoyed it1!!:)

Gillsie from Oregon on February 23, 2009:

Very funny...thanks!

My ghost just likes to hide my car-keys and drink the last of the orange juice without washing out the I never know we are out.

And then there are all those missing socks.....

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